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Topic: Aquarius man, there must be SOMETHING good to say?
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1scorp
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posted March 14, 2006 10:30 AM
 
I dated an Aqua once. Granted it was only for a few months. I think I was more detached than him.  I really had no major problems with him at all. He was sort of vague. I can be also... so there really were no issues with that. He was just the right influence I needed at that time. Light and breezy.  I was 24 he was 39.  Handsome too. I guess the only thing that bothered me at times was I felt all decisions were his. It was up to him when we saw each other, etc. At 24 I didn't want any thing serious really... so it worked. But I like my freedom. I began to feel a little trapped. He would get angry if I had made other plans. Ahhh... he was Aqua sun/Aries moon/Pisces venus. Good guy and meant no harm. Could be due to my uranus influence? sun conjunct uranus
mercury conjunct uranus
venus conjunct uranus
uranus trine midheaven
saturn sextile uranus Do you have uranus influence in your chart? I don't really know if it helps? I've had a relationship with a Cappie (and am currently friends with another one). I can see how they would get to a Cappie. However, I would think that they would help bring the Cappies out of their heavy moods?? I have an Aqua daughter. Her and the Capricorn always seem to get along fine. Yet I have noticed that my Aqua has a detached way about her that confuses the Capricorn at times. Sorry. I didn't mean to clutter your thread. _________________________________________
Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury, and uranus
Libra moon, pluto, and asc.
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1scorp
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posted March 14, 2006 10:39 AM
I also wanted to add that when I decided that we should be "just friends" is when he verbally expressed his affection toward me. It was nice. I didn't really need to hear it... I could read between the lines. Then a Capricorn strolled in my life. I never really had met a Cappie before... so the "deep" connection threw me into a spiral. Darn them Capricorns. _________________________________________
Scorpio sun, venus, mars, mercury, and uranus
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 334
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted March 14, 2006 10:43 AM
1Scorp
I am highly Aquarian, Pisces sun, venus with mars, merc and jup close conj in aqua 3rd house closely opposing uranus in leo. scorp asc. He is highly Piscean. But it really does not matter anymore anyway.Thanks for your reply IP: Logged |
sue g
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From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted March 14, 2006 11:29 AM
Hippichick"But it really does not matter anymore anyway" Are you okay.......? I feel for you girl.......  xx IP: Logged |
hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 334
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted March 14, 2006 11:50 AM
Sue,
I am ok now. Just have to let it go. He is not available emotionally, sprirtually, physically or anything else. This is a time of my life for me to take care of me and only me, something that is hard for me to do since Pisces needs to take care of everybody! But if I don't take care of me, there will be no me to take care of everybody else!!! Thanks for caring
Terri
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sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5042
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted March 14, 2006 12:00 PM
Sending you love and lots of warm Irish vibes Terri.....Look after you.....  Here if you need to talk...... When was that Aqua mans birthday, if you dont mind me asking....and his placements.....? x
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 334
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted March 14, 2006 12:33 PM
Suesun aqua
moon gemini ??
merc aqua
venus pisces
mars pisces
jup pisces
sat virgo
uranus cancer
pluto leo
neptune libra
Me
sun pisces
venus pisces/aries cusp
merc aqua
mars aqua
jup aqua
sat aqua
uranus leo
neptune scorp
pluto virgo
moon taurus
love, terri
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Nihilive
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Dearborn Heights, MI, USA
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted March 14, 2006 12:36 PM
I find that many aquarians are masters of trickery and deception. Not to mention straight out liars and procrastinators. You should never expect anything of them, as everything they accomplish is usually force of will from someone within their sphere of influence. In all, I find that aquarians like to find individuality in the sense that they take many different individual qualities from other people to make them up as a whole.The liars and the deceptors. The plague of mankind. IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5042
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted March 14, 2006 12:43 PM
Oh God NihiliveI do HOPE not...... Are you referring to ones you have known, or may it just be a case of one or two hurting you.....if you dont mind me asking.... I am really trying to gain an understanding to this sign.....as I am drawn to it... Do you find this applies to males more? Thanks xx Terri A pity indeed......aaaarggghhhh.....maybe he will realise in time how foolish he was to let you go !!! xxx IP: Logged |
Nihilive
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Dearborn Heights, MI, USA
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted March 14, 2006 03:37 PM
Grandfather who left his wife with 4 kids to raise them on her own, womanizing bafoon. One I considered a "best friend" for 13 years, master of deceit and trickery, and yet again, another unfaithful.Girlfriend's uncle, did things to her, cheated on his wife, generally a weird freak. Yeah, I'd say pretty much any and every aquarius I've come into contact with is a big mess. IP: Logged |
Nihilive
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Dearborn Heights, MI, USA
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posted March 14, 2006 03:38 PM
Not to mention my grandfather was also a big trickster and used pseudonyms to conceal his affairs.IP: Logged |
spirited dawn
Knowflake Posts: 19
From: Somewhere over the rainbow, USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted March 14, 2006 04:44 PM
Hippichick (or in other words, Terri)Hang in there girl. I know that there will be life after jumping off the rainbow....and what we all hope to gain is a different perspective about things from these highly complicated people. If they were so simple to figure out, they wouldn't be considered crazy, right? Mine's birthday is also February 15th but in 1957. Stay your course, lean on your friends and take charge of your own happiness. Let all your snowflake friends listen and offer their support if that is what you need. Thank you 1Scorp for giving us an insight about needing yo read between the lines with these guys. I for one , and for a Cappie this is not my strong suit, think you need to be able to do a whole lot of that with the males of this sign. Others, what do you think? IP: Logged |
LILYGIRL
Knowflake Posts: 606
From: MD
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted March 14, 2006 05:08 PM
I dated an Aqua Man from age 18 to 26. It was difficult and ultimately painful, taxing and illuminating only in the worst sense of the word. I learned how not to give my love vibrantly and effusively (something I am sort of learning at 40 to undo...)He was bright but very secretive, occasionally cold and distant. When he showed great emotion it was usually raw frustration or anger. When he was happy he was brilliant and entertaining but he was extraordinarily moody. He could turn on a dime in a minute. Once he knew he was loved he became more detached and would play head games. If he was chasing (ever so subtlely because an Aqua man does not chase really...he mentally watches, telegraphs, stalks and then feigns a degree of disinterest) once he put you under his critical Aqua spotlight, it's often downhill from there. In my case, jealousy was revealed bizarrely not in honest conversation but in moodiness--silent treatment. In the end, I was sort of driven into my current husband's arms. And when he heard I had married, Mr. Aqua went into a deep depression. To this day he has not married. Not because of me but per se but because of his inability to be truly loved by another human being. He also never came to grips with the fact that despite my years of hope and effusiveness, when pushed, I decide you're dead and it's over. This means no, we are not "friends" (Aqua's trite,ubiquitous favorite word in the dictionary), and no I don't remember your birthday, sleep with you and live for periodic contact. Most Aquas are entirely uncomfortable with the butterscotch warmth of true love. Passionate intense love is too suffocating and it just won't go away. Once it starts oozing, they hate that and all the emotinonal machinations involved in deep intimacy. They don't have the emotional fortitude to deal with it. As long as it is fairly cerebral, detached and without pressure it works. This can work for some, it did not work for me. Loving arms length coarsened me; it made my happy go lucky heart weary and paranoid. The notion that you can learn so much from these kinds of encounters never held much water for me. If I have to withhold my love for a man to feel happy, secure and relaxed then clearly he is not the lover or even the friend for me. PS Did I say he was messy, a horrible procrastinator and cheated on me? IP: Logged |
Nihilive
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Dearborn Heights, MI, USA
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted March 14, 2006 05:33 PM
Lily, sounds like you described someone I know.Almost perfectly. IP: Logged |
Lialei
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posted March 15, 2006 09:45 AM
I wonder about Aquarian men who would come along and read this thread. The Aquarian trying his best to wade through this earthly existance, somewhere inbetween the lecherous unevolved kind you described and the encompassing All-Loving Utopian Being he strives to be.What does it feel like? To forever be chased and adored for the same qualities that end up despised and expected to change in the end? Is that a hopeless feeling,
to realize how little the chance is that someone would possibly one day love them just as they are and not how they wish they would be? Do they open their heart in fragile hope, only to have it criticized for not being enough of something more? Maybe that's why a lot give up trying. IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 4077
From: ~out looking for Schrodinger's cat~
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 15, 2006 10:33 AM
Oh Lia! 
How so very very clearly and well you put that about Aquarian men!Seems we both I feel understand them.
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Lialei
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posted March 15, 2006 11:27 AM
With your Aqua Moon and Mars, Faye, your understanding likely comes from intimate experiences of your own. I wish I could say that I didn't come to understanding the hard way, without having once been critical myself.
Yet, he was infinitely patient with my tyrades and somehow believed in me. That my compassion for him would eventually win out to help me see.
For that I'm very grateful.  IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 4077
From: ~out looking for Schrodinger's cat~
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posted March 15, 2006 11:36 AM
Lia
Oh I am not saying it is always easy.
No way!
But they are not all bad guys....no more than any guy of any sign are.
Or women of any sign too.
I just relate to guys better usually.
Even the often challenging Aqua ones! 
Maybe it is because I chose to be buddies rather than a intimate "couple" type relationship.
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 334
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted March 15, 2006 09:41 PM
Lia:
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BlueTopaz124
Knowflake Posts: 787
From: Portland, OR
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted March 15, 2006 10:06 PM
The Aqua man I was very much in love with (and will never forget him for what he taught me) was very wise with one thing he said: "It is our expectations that cause the pain, because we're hoping for a specific outcome". Laura
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spirited dawn
Knowflake Posts: 19
From: Somewhere over the rainbow, USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted March 15, 2006 10:46 PM
Laura,"It is our expectations that cause the pain, because we're hoping for a specific outcome". When you refer to the expectactations, is he refering to the Aquarians expectations or ours? IP: Logged |
BlueTopaz124
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posted March 15, 2006 11:40 PM
spirited dawn, our expectations.IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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From: ~out looking for Schrodinger's cat~
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posted March 15, 2006 11:53 PM
Laura
"It is our expectations that cause the pain, because we're hoping for a specific outcome". That says much about the Aquarian outlook on life and relationships I believe.
But I also think they may be speaking of themselves also.
They yearn for the two diametrically opposed ideals...
Ultimate security/love with Ultimate freedom/love.
They yearn for the virtually impossible and this can lead to being a hopeless romantic never finding love and security or a lonely bitter person trapped (or resigned but accepting to being in)..in a relationship they hoped would be the one they dreamt of. IP: Logged |
hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 334
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted March 16, 2006 10:29 PM
Fatye I agree, what a paradox! When I began the end with mine yesterday his reply was "what can I do, I will do anything that you want." But how can I make demands on such a free spirit, I CANNOT! "If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you........................" Terri IP: Logged |
Heart--Shaped Cross
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From: 11/6/78 11:38am Boston, MA
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted March 17, 2006 12:01 AM
Cursing screwdrivers
because they make crappy hammers.Dont blame the screwdrivers.
Stop trying to hammer with them. IP: Logged |
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