posted July 16, 2014 04:23 AM            

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Originally posted by sugarflapjacks:

Good. Make him work for what he wants -- what you have is too special to you to just give away, right? Either he stops all together or steps up his game. Either way, he will respect that you have self-respect. That alone, is worth it to you.

Follow your instincts, past experience with him, and what you really want out of that special 1-on-1 relationship with a man. If you two don't vibe, no harm no fail. You are better prepared for new experiences.

I disagree with those who say don't follow advice given here. Isn't this a forum where people can come to get advice or guidance or counsel for challenges they face or encouragement and high-fives for the victories they achieve? Whether any of us follow the advice given, I'm hoping that the thoughts expressed here are sincere and non-judgmental for those of us seeking a sense of community and goodwill.

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If a person needs advices for each and every step they take, what’s the difference between that person and a puppet ?

Relationships are very personal. The person who offers advices must know the story of both sides before offering advices, he/she needs to be capable of looking at the relationship from both sides. Advices should not be based on past experiences or whatever pops up in his/her head.

posted July 16, 2014 12:10 PM            

If the woman has to do all the chasing, then it just means he's just not that into you. You need to get a serious grip.

posted July 16, 2014 01:12 PM            

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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
I would like to see him again and see what happens to start with

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You may be repeating the same pattern again, I’m just warning you.

posted July 16, 2014 03:30 PM            

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Advices should not be based on past experiences.....

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Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
Advices should not be based on ... whatever pops up in his/her head.

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If you are weary with this woman's queries or it irritates you to give her any More advice, then you stop giving it. Don't discredit others or undermine this woman for seeking help. People are at different stages in their lives and you don't know why. Maybe she wants a step-by-step guide because her paradigm is not working. There is Nothing wrong with that.

Maybe this guy/relationship is a project for her. He may be a life lesson for her. Whatever it is, there is something drawing this woman to this man, if only for a season.

posted July 16, 2014 03:51 PM            

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Originally posted by AmelieRose81:
Ive been hesitant too to get involved as ive not been in a good place for a long time.

but im all sorted out now and calmer and stable now.

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May I offer you some advice given to me from Aries23Degrees here? It's helping me. It is regarding my online dating queries, but it is wise and I believe one can use it for anything.

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: Begin excerpt:
Point is,you are not alone in your thoughts- everyone is terrified of it. But you have got to take the plunge and see what you find.

But before venturing into it, I'd suggest raising your vibration: This entails that you sit and meditate for a time that feels adequate for you-hours before going online.

Raising your vibration/meditating will make it clearer in your head whom you are looking for .......

It'll also help in raising your inner "awareness" to look out for that special guy. ....

Good luck!

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posted July 16, 2014 08:53 PM            

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Why not ?

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Why yes ? Chances of dating the same person here are pretty slim, then why let OUR past experience interfere in SOMEBODY ELSE’s life.

Relationships are delicate. Following one simple advice can ruin the whole thing, of course it can do the opposite too. How can one offer a step-by-step guidance to her ?

posted August 14, 2014 01:05 PM            

It has to be clear in your mind that there may never be strong or deep feelings, here.

posted August 15, 2014 03:47 AM            

If we act a certain way to push someones astro-buttons, we may get their attention, but are we gonna be pushing buttons the rest of our lives?
At some point we will want to be our whole, true self.

And then what will they think?

"Oh, you changed"

"I used to like you in the beginning"

etc.

The most efficient way to attract a compatible person is to be your real self.

As an add-on, my Pisces ex seemed attracted to me only due to my vulnerability at the time.
As soon as I got strong and willful and knowledgable about myself, he fought me, he fought my independence - my compulsory growth - and so I left him.