posted May 23, 2009 03:12 AM            

Zala, the focal bead is blue chalcedony. I bought a trio set of them on Etsy a while ago. They're soooo pretty. Chalcedoy is great since it comes available in so many colors, and the colors are so rich and vibrant.

posted May 30, 2009 04:22 AM            

I move in two weeks...finally. I've been waiting to do this for a long time and it's as though everything is coming together at once. And I am excited, but I am also a little wigged out. Usually I move places and I'm not this wigged out. This time, I am.

There's all this pressure to stay in a place forever. I put it on myself, I guess. But then I panic and have to move, because asides from career planning, thinking ahead that far scares the hell out of me.

posted June 02, 2009 06:48 PM            

my mom used to do similar things. i think learning to treat your kids as an equal is a lifelong process! as the mother of a grown kid i am now getting firsthand experience of what my own mother went through...

what can i say but we're here for you and vent all you like...you've mentioned you do spiritual counselling, is that your work? or a sideline?

posted June 03, 2009 05:57 AM            

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Ever since I was a kid I was responsible for my mother, and I refuse to play by her rules anymore.

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Yeah, I know how that one feels MVM. Phoning in sick for her when she couldn't be arsed to go in, cleaning the house, making her meals, going down the chip shop for her when she got home at 11pm (when she'd just driven past it). Started from age 9 and I'd had a titful by 18. I know she had it hard and was depressed but I was neglected and it hurts. The only interest she ever showed in my education was the day I got my high school A level results (she said "You had better have done well" with a scowl on her face). Of course I did well, it was my only ticket out of that dump. And of course she always shows up at graduation, she's super proud then so she can show her sisters the photos for the kick it gives her to be the main contender. I phone her, I text her, I tell her how proud I am when she does these little things to improve her life. What do I get back? Nada. Hardly ever there for me. Very critical. So I know, and I sympathise, and it seems you were a mother to her and her kids too. That's why I love my big sis, because she was a mother to me when she was around. Your siblings are the ones that count here. And you know it.
We love you MVM.

PS Your rant turned into my rant. Hum. hey! Why don't I just burden MVM with some more emotional sh!t! D'oh!

I post something nice and uplifiting in a sec!

posted June 03, 2009 04:39 PM            

i never played child to my daughter's "inner adult" but i swear since she's grown she thinks she's MY mom. and i take perfectly good care of myself! (when i couldn't find my glasses she would help me with her superior eyesight! but otherwise i never "leaned" on her. quite the opposite)

posted June 04, 2009 10:27 AM            

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Ah, no Wheels, I am happy to relate and have a full-on b!tching session

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Freakin A babe, cuz you're gonna get some more! I just had a text from her saying

"I am very disappointed that you are not coming home for my birthday. Have a great weekend"

Jesus. She's a card. I can't even afford a mattress let alone the £50 for a meal out with her plus birthday present. Heard she just bunged my middle sister £800 though, and the elder one gets to go to Greece for 2 weeks with her, all expenses paid. I think I'll pass on the guilt trip thanks, I'm at the end of my rope this week. Not that she would know as she never phones me. She heard my friend had died and I had a bust up with Pisces and have had such a full-on couple of weeks (which she knows about), including running about all over the place looking after various people's animals, visiting my best friend who I haven't seen for 4 months whose mother has terminal cancer. I could use a lie in. I just bought her an amazing Tiffany lamp and feel like smashing it to smithereens. That was half the cost of a mattress!

I hear you on the passive-aggressive. "Have a nice weekend". Spare me.

Yeah, I know I've got to let it go. But she doesn't. Age 35 she still expects the fanfare without the effort and you know, I ain't playing ball. I suspect the woman dislikes me because I can see through her sh!t and call her on it. She should get a job for starters, I think she forgets what it's like.

Good effort at the husband picking! Not bad insight for a wee one eh?

posted June 06, 2009 01:58 AM            

Wheels: Our mothers sound frighteningly similar

posted June 07, 2009 12:42 PM            

at the same time i feel the beauty of getting older...is to realize what a fabulous life i have had, even though i spent more time than i might have looking forward to "better" something!!