posted February 21, 2009 12:12 AM         

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Dulce, can you tell us the story of the ex-Scorpio?

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Well I don't want to turn this into novel but I'll make a long story short: I met the guy in 2004 while during the highschool days and things seemed to be progressing from friendss to 'talking' until we had a fall-out. Being in the fall out was not the difficult part, it was who was gonna wave the white flag first and call the truce. At the risk of turning this into a biography, once again, lets just say even after he called the truce...a dancearound like this one continued for like almost a year. Why? In my mind, I wanted something more formal, I wanted him to call me and tell me he was sorry, I didn't want to hear it through my friend. So while I did appreciate it, I didn't really feel he was that interested anymore if he couldn't phone me himself.

And even during the year up to us FINALLY getting together, I would hear him asking about me, how he felt, etc. through a mutual third party but how he acted towards me totally contradicted that. Action-wise, he was VERY passive...alot like GG's virgo. Looking back on it, he seemed to think attracting me would be enough for me to come to him (and I blame the fact that his venus opposed my mars). Only at the time, I didn't see that...all I heard in my head at the time is that 'he isn't into me' and since I don't like to chase, I was pretty passive myself. I don't know what happened in December of '05 but I think maybe his brother knocked some sense into him (God bless those Taureans ) and he asked me out. We went out for two years and while we had our great times, insecurities/jealousy was an issue. It didn't end too well in 2007, but it was for the better.

I've gone through like 3 guys since then (A Gemini, a Leo, and an ??? sign (??? one couldn't really happen for certain reasons which sucked because I'm the most attached to him ). None of these love interest-thingys lasted, but through them I realized through them "Ah, this is how its suppose to go!". Courtship should not be so damn complicated in my 20's now and neither should relating. It seems these days, I've attracted guys who have no problem being nice to me or openly showing me affection. And because of that, I haven't had much problem showing it in return. I like it.

posted February 21, 2009 06:21 AM           

So far I had been absolutely certain that you were partly to blame for his aloofness because he just mirrored YOUR aloofness. However, reading the phone conversation, i'm sorry to say, but I think I was wrong in my judgment. I completly agree with Lucia's take on the situation. My gut feeling was instantly that this guy isn't interested in you. I'm sure we can toss and turn this or that comment, blame it on you not accurately recalling the conversation or blaming his non-response on his stress level. But I have seen playing games behaviour, I have also seen shy behaviour or lazy/passive behaviour, in the context of being interest. And to me the overhwelming impression was that isn't what's going on here. He just seems completly indifferent....even in a friendship. The 'I'm glad you called' is just a social politenss and I have to agree with Lucia in her prediction that this guy will string you along till never never land without sending you clear 'I'm not interested' signals. I also think that contrary to my intial assumption that you just didnt show you are interested, I think your interest comes through in subtle ways, but must be quite clear for him to see. So for him to not take you up on any of your suggestions and even tell you to 'date the guy' (in the context of this conversation) is quite clear that he isnt playing the shy maiden, but it's his indirect, upside down way of hinting he isnt interested. I really hope I'm wrong here and I hope you remember how strongly I was trying for you to make a more direct move with him. I'd now seriously suggest to cut your losses and not invest another minute in this guy, it's a wast of your time and energy.

posted February 21, 2009 04:59 PM         

just write him off
move on
and when he calls just tell him u dont have time for him....u hv better things to do....who cares for a guy like that....u r young and the world awaits YOU.....

posted February 21, 2009 09:17 PM         

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and when he calls just tell him u dont have time for him....u hv better things to do.

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I have to disagree with this. I think it's very unlikely that he'll call...if he does call, especially to ask you somewhere, it means he IS interested. If I were you, I would graciously say "Yes!" in that situation...it might mean that he was just a little slow-on-the-uptake when you called (Taurus Moon), but figured out that you were interested. I wouldn't reject him for that.

posted February 21, 2009 09:44 PM         

At the same time, you can't call him to tell him you want to take some other guy out, I mean even if he liked you, that will just blow it and he'll lose interest.

Then you say I dont want a BF and we should hang out in the same sentence, I mean wtf, can it get more confusing than that?

I dont agree with LL, I dont think he is into you, one thing he said proves it too: As a Virgo, the last thing I'd tell a female I am into is: "You should date this guy" and If I was into her and she dared say something like I am taking some loser out I'd literally hang up the phone in her face and she can go scram with her homo.

But that's just me

posted February 21, 2009 09:44 PM         

And I think he won't ever call. Hope I'm wrong.

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hey life is short, youth is even shorter and we shld not waste it on mixed signal and take them graciously...hell with mixed signal guys who cares

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I wish I agreed, but sometimes a mixed-signal guy is who we're most attracted to...not BECAUSE his signals are mixed, but sometimes he's the most beautiful, talented, brilliant, exciting guy you know, and he has gorgeous manly hands, and out of all the guys you've ever seen, he's the one you most wanna touch.

posted February 21, 2009 11:07 PM         

If he's not interested, how could a girl intrigue him or change his mind?

Your tone sounds a little like you're HAPPY the guy seems not-interested, which isn't very nice.

posted February 21, 2009 11:52 PM         

You can't intrigue or seduce a Virgo period, we are too in love with our own image to even notice it, rest assured If he had made his mind about her then there is nothing she can do, it is so easy to discard people in Virgo's case specially if she isn't his type.

She needs to up her game, show him that she is not interested yet constantly make herself visible, she needs to stop being all over him when they talk, she must not show any sign of clinginess, you dont understand what a turn off that is, she should be confident not all hesitant and worried what if he doesn't like her or what if he isn't interested it is his loss anyway cause obviously she likes him a lot, she needs to change her way of thinking, Virgo men are extremely particular when they fish for females, unlike other men, we dont just go for whatever is available out there that's why we can stay single for years waiting on that one perfect female and once we find her we go all out after her, if we dont get her it becomes a catastrophe.

Bottomline, there is no challenge here, I bet you anything Virgo dude already figured that out, that's why he is asking her to go date that other guy.

I also noticed she said he has his Venus in Libra (I have my venus in libra too) which translates to a Virgo male who is into classy intelligent women but not too formal, sophisticated, HARD TO PLEASE, which means CHALLENGE but not in a violent or rude way, we love harmony but it gets too boring therefore we always try to stir things up and passively instigate conflict, again, CHALLENGE.

Do you see a pattern?

posted February 21, 2009 11:59 PM         

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hey date some nice leo man ...leo ares great

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Heh, Emma! Leos are hard to get, but we're not IMPOSSIBLE to get. And Leo men will pursue a girl they're interested in.

posted February 22, 2009 12:32 AM         

I've shifted my attention towards a very hot Virgo female and she plays my game better than me lol.