posted January 30, 2009 02:24 PM         

and that calling you for policy update....comeon he was just calling to talk with you

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asc/sun/moon: Capricon/leo/libra

posted January 31, 2009 04:45 PM         

in any case yr water sun makes you read too much in stuff, with his virgo infleunec i dont think he will be playing scorpio like games with u (control, manipulation, saying something meanging other....sorry scorpio folks)

i think earth makes u be very practical about things...no wasting around with words and time

posted February 03, 2009 01:51 AM         

-Touch him physically. Just come up and put a "friendly" arm around him, or hold hands. This might clue him in to the fact that you are flirting, not just doing friendly banter.

-Nix all the self-protective talk about other guys. As a Leo with Cancer Moon-Venus-Saturn, Cap Rising, I do this too, to a) protect my dignity by not showing my possibly unrequited feelings and b) alert the mixed-signal guy to the fact that I am alluring to other guys. It's a BAD idea as you know. Replace that banter with a different kind of banter. Let slip, subtly, that you see him as a very attractive guy.

posted February 03, 2009 02:28 AM           

we (sag risings) do flirt, or play in a way which is often perceived as flirting. that doesn't mean he isn't into you, of course.. BUT with his taurus moon he's gonna take his emotional responses to you VERY slowly and over time he will decide if it feels right to him or not. so it seems like he flirts, maybe, to get a reaction and then withdraws to process it. which figures in virgo as well.

i also suggest touching him, but i suggest only doing it once, and making it poignant. when the moment is right and you both are feeling good, look into his eyes instead of responding verbally, and gently touch his arm, making a joke or something like that. his response will tell you a lot. and if you can make it subtle enough that it could come across as a friendly thing, you will protect your cancerian vulnerability. if he laughs or plays but does not respond in any way that makes you quite sure he has feelings for you too, then you probably have your answer. although the virgo/taurus stuff may make him stoic and unresponsive for a time. but pay attention to subtle signs, such as him relaxing as opposed to tensing up. and quick eye contact as you're touching him as opposed to looking away.

posted February 03, 2009 12:40 PM         

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hmm, sorry, but i see nothing frustrating about the situation, he likes you that's for sure but he is trying to know you better before jumping into a relationship with you, what's wrong with that?

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I have to strongly disagree here. I'm so sorry and I hope it isn't true, but he really might not be interested. There's nothing in his behavior that clears it up, either way. His actions might indicate that he has a vague, semi-flirtatious interest in a number of girls, and doesn't intend to act on it. There is a VAST spectrum between letting someone know that you're interested and "jumping into a relationship." For example, "Hey, let's get a coffee right now." Or, "Can I give you a call this weekend? Maybe we could go to that movie you were talking about." Or, "Want to come to this party with me?"

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I understand that deep inside you probably want to make him a little jealous to make the move so to say but you might get the opposite result ... i dont think he is playing games with you, he is just not sure whether he can trust you

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Again, this to me is the guy being very, very frustrating, and it might mean he will never make a move/isn't all that interested. A mature person has to extend some openness and trust before they have proof that the other person is trustworthy (and that's why you, Ms. Double Cancer, will have to be the mature one here and cut out your own self-protective mixed messages.) There are a zillion ways for a mature guy who actually wants a relationship to make a safe, tentative move, and this guy hasn't made any moves.

Also, it's not clear the extent to which he does (or doesn't) have this type of relationship with other female friends. But you don't have to leap into a relationship to ask a girl out in a friendly way and hang out and get to know each other. The fact that he hasn't done that yet means that either a) he's not interested,he's just doing friendly flirting b) he's very, VERY interested, cautious, shy, and looking for a clearer signal from you, or c) he is an annoying, conflicted weenie who is vaguely, inchoately interested in lots of people and drifts through his life unconsciously, not really making clear decisions for himself or being straight with others. (A Virgo/Sag/Taurus could fall into any of these categories.)

You have to clear up your signals in case it's B (which, I hope it is!) But, I think a big part of why I see this as frustrating is cultural--I have noticed among my friends and acquaintences the growth of sort of half-assed non-relationships, where a guy IMs with a woman flirtatiously and sees her occasionally, but never asks her out or kisses or touches her or gets to know her one-on-one.

posted February 07, 2009 10:51 PM         

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I actually agree with Lucia23 about him not having any interest.

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Just to clarify, I don't think he doesn't have any interest. I mean, with the way he's acting, he could be madly in love with you--OR he could be really not interested--OR (likeliest) somewhere vaguely, frustratingly in between. To me, that kind of thing is so frustrating. But I didn't mean to discourage you. I hope he's interested and will get the balls to spend more time together.

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But I really just want to hang out and go from there.

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