posted March 18, 2009 02:50 PM         

We have never been together. We never dated so l feel he doesn't owe me anything!

True love is true love. It's not about judging or criticizing - it's about accepting a person and appreciating the time you have together.

posted March 18, 2009 03:10 PM         

Kamots and Write, it really isn't like that. He is just testing me to see my reaction. His Aqua moon wants to know how deep in the water l am!

I am very capable and ready for true love but l cannot look at a guy and say "ok he's perfect, squeaky clean and right for me l think i'll fall in love with him!"

posted March 18, 2009 03:19 PM         

In one of my previous relationships with one of my Scorps, I felt the same way you did. It seemed I could never stay away from him, even after we broke up. He loved me but could "never fall in love" with me because I was spiritual and he was an atheist. Basically, we had different values and he wasn't so keen on mine.

We had an insanely deep connection but after a certain amount of time it began to sink in that our connection did not necessarily mean we had a great love. I think we had the potential, in terms of the shared energy, for a great love. I loved him, certainly, and I think he loved me.

Anyhow, I realized that I believed that I could be loved for who I am, not in spite of who I am, so I broke off all ties with him. And I felt so much better...eventually.

Now I am with 'the' man, as far as I can tell. I am loved for my spirituality and for my love of astrology, not in spite of those things.

I can imagine that it's hard to break that type of connection, and I also imagine that you'll do it if/when it doesn't work for you anymore. When the pain becomes greater than the pleasure, then you'll be more able to let it go.

posted March 18, 2009 03:22 PM         

In fact the same thing happned to my mother when she was dating a man (whom she was with for over 5 years) when I was a child. He told her if she didn't have a young child (I was like 3) then he would have married her (regardless of the fact that she's obsessed with freedom and bristes at marriage). And she kicked him to the curb.

To be a little blunt I'm gussing your not in your early 20's as you have children. But it seems your mindset on this man is eerily childish. I'm sorry and I don't want to seem rude but you have children why on earth are you focusing on this man who said what he did. To me that is putting your children down.

posted March 18, 2009 03:24 PM         

I am only venting and asking for any astrological guidance with this guy.
He's a GOOD guy and l don't want to be on my own... i've been on my own now for nearly a year! and then it was only a relationship overseas so i've been alone for over FOUR years.

Again l repeat that he was only ever my sex buddy. We both agreed from the start cos we had such amazing chemistry! My fault for not realizing that it's impossible to have a non-emotional relationship with someone you feel so deeply for.

posted March 18, 2009 03:29 PM           

STOP looking at astrology.
It will only make you crazy. I dont care what astrology has to say about you guys. You can be the most intense soulmates in the world, but that doesnt mean sh-t! I hope you could see this man for who he is and NOT what you think hes suppose to be .

Hes not a good guy. I dont believe that. MY opinion.

posted March 18, 2009 03:34 PM         

Having said that, you posted about your situation and although the charts will show the energy between the two of you, how it plays out is based on free will - both his as well as your own. You two obviously have a very potent connection. That all-consuming feeling can be seen in the synastry but not how it will be handled.

posted March 18, 2009 03:36 PM         

Plus your situation is more dire as you have children and can't only think of a situation in terms of yourself.

I do notice you are making excuses and to be honest if you don't want input from people who don't want to see you hurt and who are only being honest to prevent you from heartache then why are you posting here. I highly doubt people here are going to tell you only what you want to hear just because that's what you want.

posted March 18, 2009 03:41 PM         

Again I've been there. It took me a year and a half to let go of the guy I felt this way about. Every day I thought of him. I compared every man I met to him. It will drive you mad for a while and then slowly you will be able to let him go. But again, not until you've reached a certain point. When you can't take it anymore, you'll be able to begin the process of moving on.

posted March 18, 2009 03:47 PM         

I'm seeing him on Friday

posted March 18, 2009 03:50 PM         

"Sorry Write... it's just that l am unable to walk away lol
It's completely not an option (impossible) and yes l do put my kids first but l also have a life, separate to my kids. I need this freedom."

I'm very very much so taken aback by this. This just doesn't seem to be a healthy attraction.

I really don't want to be rude but I guess I view parents in a different way. To me kids should never be separate to your life (in terms of dating long term). Plus what do you want? Do you see this as short term or long term because if its short term then there is no need to integrate him with your kids. But if you view him as long term at some point he is going to have to integrate into life with your kids and if he thinks the way he does he'll view them as a burden. And if you can't "walk away" how on earth is that healthy to your children. It's not.

I do agree to wait until after the venus retrograde is over and maybe try to not be with another man. Work on yourself. Yeah, 4 years is a long time but when someone says they can't walk away that doesn't sound like someone who is ready to date.

posted March 18, 2009 03:52 PM           

Lara,