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Topic: in 2 deep 2 get out
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Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 12:18 AM
 
ok l have a problem and l don't know what to do.It's my sex buddy... l have dumped him 8/9/10 times and then l go back to him. I just can't walk and in truth l don't want to. Please allow me to put up our synastry etc again because there has to be a reason for this. Am i in love? Maybe.... IQ once said about our synastry "I think this man MUST marry you". I am so confused l don't know what to think. All l know is that l can't be with another man without thinking of him! I literally pine for him. Ache for him. I'm seeing him this weekend cos he's like the best drug ever to me!!! omg lol NATALS
my sun sq his moon/venus/kaali/psyche
my sun trine his mercury/AC
my moon/venus trine his juno/eros/union
my moon/venus conjunct his isis
my moon/venus sextile his mars/osiris
my venus opp his siva
my mars sq his mars/juno/osiris/eros
my saturn trine his juno/eros
my saturn sextile his mars
my saturn conjunct his chiron/isis
my pluto quincunx his mars/isis
my pluto sq his amor/union
my NN sextile his mars/NN/osiris
my NN trine his juno/eros/union
my juno sq his moon/venus/kaali/psyche
my juno sextile his AC
my osiris trine his sun/eros/union
my osiris conjunct his chiron
my isis sq his mars/juno/osiris/eros
my siva trine his sun/venus/psyche/valentine
my kaali conjunct his karma
my eros trine his moon/saturn
my eros sextile his venus/psyche
my eros sq his AC
my psyche sq his sun/mars/NN/juno/osiris/eros
my amor conjunct his isis
my amor trine his karma/juno
my karma sq his moon/kaali
my karma sextile his AC
my valentine trine his jupiter
my valentine sq his isis/siva
my union sq his juno/osiris
my AC conjunct his mars/osiris
my AC trine his siva/amor
my AC sextile his isis
my AC opposes his juno DRACO/DRACO
his sun opposes my moon/venus/saturn/NN/osiris
his sun sq my valentine
his sun trine my AC
his moon trine my siva
his moon opp my eros
his venus opp my osiris and sextile his siva
his mars conjunct my moon/venus/saturn/NN/amor
his mars sq my valentine
his valentine sextile my AC
his saturn sq my sun/juno/karma
his saturn trine my siva
his pluto trine my chiron and sextile my eros
his NN conjunct my moon/venus/saturn/NN/osiris
his NN square my valentine
his juno opp my venus/amor
his juno sq my valentine
his juno trine my AC
his eros opp my moon/venus/saturn/NN/amor
his eros trine my AC
his psyche opp my osiris
his amor conjunct my kaali
his amor trine my amor
his karma opp my sun
his karma conjunct my juno/karma
his valentine sq his vertex
his valentine conjunct my IC
his union sextile my moon/venus/saturn/NN/amor
his union conjunct my AC
his union sq my mars/isis/psyche/union
his AC trine my juno/karma
DRACO/NATAL
His dr sun conjunct my n NN/moon/saturn/venus
His dr moon opp my n Pluto
His dr moon trine my n psyche
His dr venus conjunct my n Pluto (2)
My dr venus opp his n Pluto (2)
His dr venus trines my n mars/isis/union (2)
His dr mars opp my n eros (0)
His dr Saturn conjunct my n valentine (1)
His dr juno conjunct eros (1)
His dr eros opp my n chiron
His dr psyche conjunct my n Pluto
His dr valentine conjunct my n mars/isis/union
His dr union trine my n eros
His dr AC conjunct my n AC (1) my dr juno trine his n mars
my dr juno trine his n NN
my dr amor conjunct his n valentine
my dr amor trine his n venus
my dr amor trine his n psyche
my dr karma trine his n mars
my dr karma opp his n isis
my dr valentine opp his n AC
my dr union sq his n moon
my dr union trine his n AC
my dr AC conjunct his n moon (0)
my dr AC trine his n karma (4) His pr sun trine my pr AC (1)
His pr mars trine my pr venus (0)
His pr mars conjunct my pr sun (3)
His pr AC trine my pr moon (2) His sun/moon midpoint = opp my sun and conjunct my karma/juno
My venus/mars square his venus/psyche
I see straight off a venus/pluto conj/opp.
HELP. Is this worth fighting for and putting myself on the line and confronting him? IP: Logged |
MyVirgoMask
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posted March 18, 2009 12:54 AM
What the heck happened to Mr. Guns, Lara? I was betting on you two!!! IP: Logged |
Peri
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From: 49N35 34E34
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 03:18 AM
I think these Draco-natal aspects explain a lot why you are obsessing over himHis dr sun opp my n NN (his Draco Sun conj your SN)
His dr moon opp my n Pluto
His dr venus conjunct my n Pluto
My dr venus opp his n Pluto
His dr AC conjunct my n AC I had similar tropical synastry aspects with someone and I can tell you Pluto/Venus, Moon and luminaries/south node aspects is no joke. quote:
HELP. Is this worth fighting for and putting myself on the line and confronting him?
No, imo; but you cannot control it, can you? do whatever hurts you less...
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monmonitaa
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posted March 18, 2009 07:05 AM
So if this is the case, why arent you with him? Or whats the reason to begin with that made him ur "sex buddy" rather than someone ur seeingIP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 08:01 AM
MVM, l like Mr Guns don't get me wrong... but he just isn't Andy. It's just not the same and l find myself running back to Andy. I haven't done anything with Mr Guns yet  Peri - hmm yes that would explain a lot!
I made a mistake
It's his dr sun CONJUNCT my n NN not opposing it. His dr sun is 17' aries. My n NN is 18' aries. So it's better than the SN! I can't control it, no. It hurts me less to see him but the problem is we started as sex buddies and so it's hard to change the roundabout scenery ! Monmonitaa - I wasn't seeing anyone when l met him in August last year, and we just kinda were happy to be that. I didn't even really find him sexy or that hot at first but he grew and grew on me and now l can't imagine life without him. He could have anyone. Why does he stay with a mother of 3 when he can pull any girl! He obviously feels something too. I think this synastry looks pretty intense and fated too. ! IP: Logged |
GemGemGem
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posted March 18, 2009 09:34 AM
Lara, is this the same guy who said you would be the perfect woman for him, if you didn't have kids. I hope it's not, cause that guy deserves to be on your sh*tlist! I was rooting for Mr. Guns too!  IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 09:57 AM
same guy!At least he was honest.. Leo sun, Aqua moon. Mr Gun Guy is sweet but he's boring. He's just not confident enough for me and l think he feels out of his depth. IP: Logged |
writesomething
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posted March 18, 2009 10:08 AM
A lot of men have difficulty being with a woman with children. But you know what? There are a lot of men who will be with you no matter what. If this jerk loved you, he would be with you despite the fact you have children. It takes a strong man to be with a woman in your situation, and hes obviously not up to it. If I were you, and a man say that to me, I'd never want to speak to him again. I dont have kids but If I did, NO WAY would I allow a man to make me feel bad about having them.(Im not saying you feel bad but you know what I mean). Move on. All the asteroids, aspects, etc in the world doesnt mean sh-t. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 10:13 AM
Write,It's easy to say and hard to do. He is a very strong man to be fair... l just never discussed it with him. I need to now. Seriously talk to him. If you are in love with someone it's not so easy to just say "well, he's this and that" cos in love you are unable to judge or damn! IP: Logged |
writesomething
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posted March 18, 2009 10:18 AM
I understand but I feel my children would always come first and if someone said those things to me about having children, I would want nothing to do with him. Even if somehow you got together, he would always see your children as a BURDEN, and not a blessing. Its sad. I would want a man to love my children as his own, and see beyond superficiality of it all. I dont like him for what he said to you. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 10:20 AM
I hear you but l don't want a father for my kids. They have a dad. I see the honesty in him to be able to say that to me and it doesn't change how l feel. I am UNABLE to walk away. I don't have any choice because l can't stay away from him! It's just impossible and now l resign myself to this fact. He must feel similar because he once told me that even if he got married he would wish to still see me :S IP: Logged |
writesomething
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posted March 18, 2009 10:24 AM
you have to ask yourself what do you want from him? a relationship? marriage?
and why on earth would you be OKAY with a man saying he'd want to see you even if he got married????????? WTF? Lara, I expect better out of you with all that Aries energy in you. Hes basicially telling you "im a cheating piece of sh-t". Stay away from this man. Hes an unhealthy obsession. I know where youre coming from. Trust me, its hard but I believe youre stronger than this. IP: Logged |
Lara
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From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 10:27 AM
I don't agree Write - or maybe i see a different side. Maybe he feels the same way l do... right now, if l was married i'd still see him!!!and i'm the most loyal person on the planet lol I can't STOP it. I'm not explaining myself very well here am i. IP: Logged |
writesomething
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posted March 18, 2009 10:29 AM
No, I know how it feels to be blinded by intense emotions. I think you need to really think things out. Sometimes the only way to get over someone is to get involved and get burned from the experience. Im trying to save you from that.IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 10:32 AM
yes l think you have a point there.I have tried to date other men. I have tried to turn my back. I don't even care if he's seeing other women (l don't think he is though) cos he keeps texting me to ask me if i'm with anyone lol I just need to tell him "you wanna be my boyfriend cos l wanna be your g/f" and see what happens.
Either the Leo sun/venus will come out to play or the Aqua moon/mars will deep freeze me. Think is, if i'm constantly telling him go away - if he keeps coming back there's a reason and it isn't just cos i'm easy! IP: Logged |
Peri
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posted March 18, 2009 10:33 AM
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Diandra23
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posted March 18, 2009 10:53 AM
im so sorryI dont know what to say cause really...I dont have much experience. But i was happy to see you with the Mr Gun,wasnt he the one who say wanted to have kids with you?He seems so sweet and a great man. this one...only you will know.i cant judge or want to. But...it depends on what you want for your Life Lara this one seems only that: sex buddy. Are you IN LOVE with one of them? I think that is the most important question hat you need to know in order to walk your Path. IP: Logged |
cheshirekat
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posted March 18, 2009 11:23 AM
Wow, this must be really intense for you Lara. Im not sure what to say but to talk to him about this. I mean sit him down and really get to the bottom of where you guys stand because the way he seems to be detached about the idea of you having children, seems uncaring for a guy who would feel deeply for you. If he felt that strongly, he would love you and respect the fact that your a strong mother to bring and raise three children in this world.Once again, Im not sure I've never experienced anything like this but these feelings seem familiar, where you just want to be with that person so much it hurts and people tell you that person probably not good for you but you feel like people are not seeing him the way you see him. It's hard to deal with when your feelings are stirring in the mix but I know you can figure this out and all the LL ladies gave some good points too X3. I also saw the Guns Guy, I thought he was cool looking lol, even though you said he was boring, maybe you can spice him up a bit, get him to be laid back. IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 12:35 PM
it's a nightmare. I'm seeing him on Friday and l will suss him out and talk to him.Am i in love with him? probably! Am i in love with gun man - probably not! When i'm with him l think of my buddy. IP: Logged |
katatonic
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posted March 18, 2009 12:43 PM
lara, i agree with chesirekat, and more so. you need to say to him what YOU want. with aries NN (conjunct MINE, by the way), you cannot continue to do the LIBRA thing!!you are certainly brave enough. i'm sure with three kids you have been through enough fire even if it weren't in your nature. but your SN is holding you back here...TELL HIM how you feel and WHAT YOU WANT and let him pick up the ball - or not. those things he said, bout your kids, and being married, may just be his way of hinting that he wants to know where YOU stand. and of asking you to stop being a doormat...trying to provoke you into showing your hand, so to speak. but at least if YOU are h onest with him, you will know what you are truly up against...courage, darling, step into that north node, have to do it some time!!XX IP: Logged |
Lara
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From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 12:46 PM
Katatonic,I actually agree with you. I think the kids comment was a test and my reply was "shall l help you find your future wife?" I do have to go NN with this.. l lose it every time i'm around him and l mustn't. you are right IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 02:00 PM
He MUST like me... he's introduced me to his father!!!!! IP: Logged |
writesomething
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posted March 18, 2009 02:06 PM
That doesnt mean anything Lara. I know men who introduce girls theyve slept with to their parents, family members, etc and the girls mean nothing to them. Thats like saying if he bought you a diamond necklace, he must be in love. Im not trying to be mean spirited but I wish you could see what most of us are seeing. Aquarius moon tells me this guy has women issues, esp with his mother. I dont get the best feeling about this man.IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1100
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted March 18, 2009 02:14 PM
nooooooooo he's a Kiwi.. they never introduce a girl to a parent. They are such family-orientated people. He gets on really well with his mother and father.Do you think you might be tarnishing a little unfairly? what if he is genuinely scared of the fact l have kids? I mean l would be... so much responsibility. IP: Logged |
writesomething
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posted March 18, 2009 02:21 PM
Lara, get serious now...how do you know hes never introduced a girl to his parents? He told you this? I wouldnt believe everything he tells you. That sounds like a line. Maybe I am being harsh, but I cant believe anyone would deal with a jerk who made me like I wasnt good enough to be with because I had children. Im more angry for you Lara than you are. You arent seeing this person clearly. But what DO I know? Im just a stranger on the internet reading your story wondering why youre putting yourself thru this. Children should always come first. I take the idea of motherhood very seriously. It hurts me to read he doesnt want to be with you because of the children, and yet youre still pining for him. Im also sad to see youre willing to be with a man who admits he wants to cheat with you when hes married.IP: Logged |
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