posted December 21, 2009 04:28 PM            

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Venus in Sign - How she expresses herself? Venus in House - Where she looks for and finds love? Venus aspected - those likely to pursue her?

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I can see that. My Venus is in the 11th, conjunct NN. I'm often friends first and then drift into something else. Venus is trine Mars/Neptune - I do like some Neptunian influence in my men. It is also opposite Pluto - do I get psychopathic stalkers? It has been known to happen, but usually it's just control-freaks lol

AG - I agree with a couple of other people who mentioned this.. Venus conjunct Neptune can alter Venus drastically. Although, I don't remember you being attracted to any Pisces-influenced women. I find this intriguing because my Mars is conjunct Neptune & I've often had Pisceans in my life (sometimes romantically).

Yin -

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I don't seem to attract the outgoing sporty type that puts a positive spin on life.

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What about the philosopher type who never stops talking long enough to take a breath?

MVM -

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most of the men I have dated have pursued me in very unmistakable ways

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posted December 21, 2009 04:32 PM            

I've had some similar experiences to you. The only difference is that my reaction to these things is usually more detached than yours.. but similar.

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i so far only attract virgo, libra, scorpio. so those sun signs with combinations of major planets in those 3 signs.

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I very often attract libra/scorpio/leo mixes (with a touch of virgo).

Ex 1 - Libra/Virgo Mars/Scorpio Mercury, Saturn, Pluto.

Obssessive-compulsive guy, who I am now just-friends with - Libra/Leo Moon/Scorpio Mercury-Venus and Libra Mars

Ex2 - Leo Ascendant, Scorpio Venus. Uranus & Libra Jupiter, Saturn.

Current Guy - Leo Sun/Scorpio Mars & Asc, Virgo Venus/Pluto/Uranus.

It's very interesting that we both attract this combination. There is a possibility that my Asc would be Cancer, exactly conjunct your Sun (very early Cancer).. It could also be at 29'59 Gem. I wonder if this is relevant and maybe I do have a Cancer Ascendant.

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in my mind i'm thinking, he's just doing this to punish me for always saying hi to him first. like he's trying to taunt me by being so close to me and testing me to see if i can control myself and not say hi this time. now you can understand my confusion with scorpio men.

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It happens with Pisces men also. It's pretty ridiculous really. I had this guy (pisces) sit next to me on several occasions after an argument we had, to see whether I would initiate conversation. Anyway - I didn't because I find it silly. If he had something to say he could say it himself. He has a Mars/Pluto opposition and often tried to start weird power-plays with me. That sort of thing makes me very uncomfortable and my reaction is cold.

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if i sense that you don't want anything to do with me, i'll back away and disappear. but, i don't know any other way to jump start these things except to try to be your friend first. if you decline the first time, i'll just be like well he hates me so i better move on now.

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I'm similar.. I can completely disappear if I feel slighted and have had this reaction before. That does sound suspiciously like a Cancer Asc, doesn't it?

I definitely want to be friends first, but I always attribute this to my Venus in the 11th. I usually start something with friendship. However I would not have the immediate reaction that someone "hates me" unless they acted in a stand-offish manner on several occasions. Once or twice, I'd think - anyone can have a bad day!

posted December 21, 2009 04:34 PM            

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I was thinking, with your first post on this thread, that if a man I was dating told me he'd had to go "take care of himself" when we were initially spending time together (esp. if we weren't lovers yet, but even if we were), I would be grossed out...

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I have to ask this (don't e-slap me!).. Even if it was the Scorpio man? I remember you talking about a particular Scorpio you were smitten by.. Would you still be put off?

posted December 21, 2009 08:04 PM            

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I'm thinking your Venus in Cancer would work like this - men would pursue you by being receptive to you mothering them. They'd open up to you emotionally and seek out your care.

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I have Venus in Cancer. While men open up to me and tell me their secrets (I attribute this more to my 8th house stellium and gift for getting people to confess...helpful with journalism), I am not very maternal. So I dismissed this at first but...

Lots of the men who've pursued me have gotten very maternal/nurturing with ME--driving me around, buying me things, baking me pies, giving me warm sweaters and flannel things to wear, reading me to sleep. So you might be onto something.

This is challenging for me because what attracts me to men is a lot of edgy, rejecting masculinity...and then the more involved we get, the more they start to act like my mom. It's SO WEIRD when an aloof, leather-clad, chiseled Libra rockstar starts doing your laundry, making hot cocoa and trying to read aloud from Harry Potter. Weird, weird, weird.

I think this more happens just after the first pursuit stage is over--after we have slept together, usually, although it has happened with a couple of male friends when I was involved in another relationship.

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I have a Venus in Cancer (Sun in Taurus) and I think you are both spot on. My biggest issue is when I meet cancer men, they really get into the whole confession and mothering thing.

Current guy I am seeing has a Cancer Sun and Taurus Venus. His Venus and my Sun are less than one degree off. His sun and my Venus are 2 degrees off. Just too much going on there.