posted October 13, 2012 08:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
Mars in Cancer men love being "hurt". Bite them on the neck while intimate, it'll go a long way.
But honestly, they are very fiercely protective of their FAMILY, friends and mate. Hell, they may as well be all one in the same to Cancer Mars. Well, of course the mate is the most special.
They may need some reassurance that you are interested and you like them, but yeah don't overdo it. They looooove curves let me tell ya. Almost all the Cancer Mars men I met love a big booty.

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Interesting LS
I am a female with Mars in Cancer. I hate it. I can feel that it is in the Fall. It feels heavy and cumbersome. I have Moon in Cancer, which I love as it is in the Domicile.

I am a crazy nut protecting people I love, though

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posted January 26, 2013 12:20 PM            

Almost ALL my relationships (with one or two exceptions) were with Mars in Cancer men so I think I have quite an experience in this regard. Not that I had many relationships but they were all long. The longest of them is with my Aries Sun-Venus-Mercury Aries hubby, we've been together for almost 10 years. It's interesting that all the other relationships were with Libra Sun guys so this one is in manny regards very different from the past relationships.

I also have MANY male friends with Mars in Cancer and actually I'd say that maybe 30% of all the astrological charts I have in my database have this placement (!!!). It used to drive me CRAZY to see that I attract the same pattern: I have Mars in Leo square Uranus so you guess my frustration and anger at the indecisiveness and reluctance to act of Mars in Cancer.

I used to loathe this placement; unconsciously I always felt attracted to this kind of guys, they were (still are) like magnets to me but the moment I got involved in relationships with them the crazy parts started - those parts where I needed action, impulse, inspiration and decisiveness from my partner and he offered instead stability, acceptance, wisdom, understanding and nurturing - thigs that I knew I needed as well but as a plus to the maleness I was in search for (and didn't get).

But what I always loved about them was their capacity to feel emotions, to be sensitive to my needs, to be completely different from that stupid stereotype of "men don't cry and they shouldn't"; I can even say I find infinitely more courage in a man that can cry and show deep emotions than in an arrid guy that has to cling to his image of an Alfa male and who thinks that showing emotions is a sign of weakness. Bleahh!

If you want someone that will always be there for you and for your family, please choose a Mars in Cancer guy. If you want someone that can relate to your emotional side and with whom you can discuss your deepest fears, dreams, feelings without being judged and from whom you can always receive support and understanding, choose a Mars in Cancer. If you want your sexual needs to be well taken care of by a romantic and giving partner, the same Mars should be the choice.

* One point here though: my long time partner, having an Aries stellium (Venus included) is a bit on the selfish side and more centered on the impulse, on instincts, on the "click" but lately he started to discover his giving side and so far it works pretty well. It was quite hard for him to give away the self imposed image of the very-active-sexually male and to start discovering who he really was and what were his actual needs. His former partners expected something different from him and even though our relationship is the longest in his personal history too, his past seemed to have been imprinted very deeply into his psyche. *

I never ever found them emotionally manipulative and not even passive agressive but this might be due to the fact that I was always giving the tone of my relationships (except the last one - where we share); they were always the ones to react to the impulses generated by me and the ones to really fight for our relationship and for making me happy. But in those times I was too young and stupid and too centered on myself (SN in Aries) to see what I was being given and to deeply appreciate that (which I am finally able to).

Even after years and years of study of astrology, I was still being subjective and very reluctant to Mars in Cancer. What finally helped my eyes open (except the intense work my own partner had with me - he is also into astrology and has a very profound understanding of it even though not too much actual knowledge) was to see again a movie that I loved when I was a teenager, "Rob Roy" (with Liam Neeson in the leading role). THAT was the perfect example of Mars in Cancer in action. And you know what? It was not me who realized that, but my partner! He also said that he finally understood why I loved that character and why I was always attracted to that pattern - which I also found in him.

Up to a point, it was exacly what my father never was; he had that domestic talent and interest (great cook, awesome handyman - we never had anyone to repair anything in our house, he knew how to do anything - etc) but actually he never fought for his family and gave up everything for his biggest passion, alcohol.

All the guys with Mars in Cancer I met had at least one special talent regarding the house, from cooking to carpentry... I have to admit I just cannot respect a guy if he's helpless in regards to domestic stuff and if he doesn't know at least how to keep a hammer in his hands. I am quite knowledgeable myself, my parents were both the same, my brother as well and I found Mars in Cancer to have the same inclination towards repairing/constructing/cooking/building/etc. When it comes to survival and survival instincts, I find these men the most relaible one can have around. The guy with power and money that relies on his "specialists" to solve his little technical issues is quite pittiful in my eyes - I hope I'm not offending anyone, it's just my honest personal opinion.

I am pregnant now and we are expecting our first baby in July. I *feel* he is a boy (somehow confirmed by the echo - but it's not 100% sure at this stage, too early) and looking at the possible moment of birth I have to admit I secretly hope for him to be born with Mars in Cancer (after 14th of July) and not in Gemini - even though I know that two parents with Mars in the 3rd House (like us) would more likely have a child with Mars in Gemeni, right? :-). My husband and I would definitely know how to raise a child with Mars in Cancer as we are both very deeply aware of the depest needs such a placement has and I am sure we'd know how to encourage him to be self standing and active... Mars in Gemini sounds a bit more troublesome right now, it is already a great deal of fiery mental communication in this family .

posted January 26, 2013 12:20 PM            

Almost ALL my relationships (with one or two exceptions) were with Mars in Cancer men so I think I have quite an experience in this regard. Not that I had many relationships but they were all long. The longest of them is with my Aries Sun-Venus-Mercury Aries hubby, we've been together for almost 10 years. It's interesting that all the other relationships were with Libra Sun guys so this one is in manny regards very different from the past relationships.

I also have MANY male friends with Mars in Cancer and actually I'd say that maybe 30% of all the astrological charts I have in my database have this placement (!!!). It used to drive me CRAZY to see that I attract the same pattern: I have Mars in Leo square Uranus so you guess my frustration and anger at the indecisiveness and reluctance to act of Mars in Cancer.

I used to loathe this placement; unconsciously I always felt attracted to this kind of guys, they were (still are) like magnets to me but the moment I got involved in relationships with them the crazy parts started - those parts where I needed action, impulse, inspiration and decisiveness from my partner and he offered instead stability, acceptance, wisdom, understanding and nurturing - thigs that I knew I needed as well but as a plus to the maleness I was in search for (and didn't get).

But what I always loved about them was their capacity to feel emotions, to be sensitive to my needs, to be completely different from that stupid stereotype of "men don't cry and they shouldn't"; I can even say I find infinitely more courage in a man that can cry and show deep emotions than in an arrid guy that has to cling to his image of an Alfa male and who thinks that showing emotions is a sign of weakness. Bleahh!

If you want someone that will always be there for you and for your family, please choose a Mars in Cancer guy. If you want someone that can relate to your emotional side and with whom you can discuss your deepest fears, dreams, feelings without being judged and from whom you can always receive support and understanding, choose a Mars in Cancer. If you want your sexual needs to be well taken care of by a romantic and giving partner, the same Mars should be the choice.

* One point here though: my long time partner, having an Aries stellium (Venus included) is a bit on the selfish side and more centered on the impulse, on instincts, on the "click" but lately he started to discover his giving side and so far it works pretty well. It was quite hard for him to give away the self imposed image of the very-active-sexually male and to start discovering who he really was and what were his actual needs. His former partners expected something different from him and even though our relationship is the longest in his personal history too, his past seemed to have been imprinted very deeply into his psyche. *

I never ever found them emotionally manipulative and not even passive agressive but this might be due to the fact that I was always giving the tone of my relationships (except the last one - where we share); they were always the ones to react to the impulses generated by me and the ones to really fight for our relationship and for making me happy. But in those times I was too young and stupid and too centered on myself (SN in Aries) to see what I was being given and to deeply appreciate that (which I am finally able to).

Even after years and years of study of astrology, I was still being subjective and very reluctant to Mars in Cancer. What finally helped my eyes open (except the intense work my own partner had with me - he is also into astrology and has a very profound understanding of it even though not too much actual knowledge) was to see again a movie that I loved when I was a teenager, "Rob Roy" (with Liam Neeson in the leading role). THAT was the perfect example of Mars in Cancer in action. And you know what? It was not me who realized that, but my partner! He also said that he finally understood why I loved that character and why I was always attracted to that pattern - which I also found in him.

Up to a point, it was exacly what my father never was; he had that domestic talent and interest (great cook, awesome handyman - we never had anyone to repair anything in our house, he knew how to do anything - etc) but actually he never fought for his family and gave up everything for his biggest passion, alcohol.

All the guys with Mars in Cancer I met had at least one special talent regarding the house, from cooking to carpentry... I have to admit I just cannot respect a guy if he's helpless in regards to domestic stuff and if he doesn't know at least how to keep a hammer in his hands. I am quite knowledgeable myself, my parents were both the same, my brother as well and I found Mars in Cancer to have the same inclination towards repairing/constructing/cooking/building/etc. When it comes to survival and survival instincts, I find these men the most relaible one can have around. The guy with power and money that relies on his "specialists" to solve his little technical issues is quite pittiful in my eyes - I hope I'm not offending anyone, it's just my honest personal opinion.

I am pregnant now and we are expecting our first baby in July. I *feel* he is a boy (somehow confirmed by the echo - but it's not 100% sure at this stage, too early) and looking at the possible moment of birth I have to admit I secretly hope for him to be born with Mars in Cancer (after 14th of July) and not in Gemini - even though I know that two parents with Mars in the 3rd House (like us) would more likely have a child with Mars in Gemeni, right? :-). My husband and I would definitely know how to raise a child with Mars in Cancer as we are both very deeply aware of the depest needs such a placement has and I am sure we'd know how to encourage him to be self standing and active... Mars in Gemini sounds a bit more troublesome right now, it is already a great deal of fiery mental communication in this family .

posted January 26, 2013 12:33 PM            

Almost ALL my relationships (with one or two exceptions) were with Mars in Cancer men so I think I have quite an experience in this regard. Not that I had many relationships but they were all long. The longest of them is with my Aries Sun-Venus-Mercury Aries hubby, we've been together for almost 10 years. It's interesting that all the other relationships were with Libra Sun guys so this one is in manny regards very different from the past relationships.

I also have MANY male friends with Mars in Cancer and actually I'd say that maybe 30% of all the astrological charts I have in my database have this placement (!!!). It used to drive me CRAZY to see that I attract the same pattern: I have Mars in Leo square Uranus so you guess my frustration and anger at the indecisiveness and reluctance to act of Mars in Cancer.

I used to loathe this placement; unconsciously I always felt attracted to this kind of guys, they were (still are) like magnets to me but the moment I got involved in relationships with them the crazy parts started - those parts where I needed action, impulse, inspiration and decisiveness from my partner and he offered instead stability, acceptance, wisdom, understanding and nurturing - thigs that I knew I needed as well but as a plus to the maleness I was in search for (and didn't get).

But what I always loved about them was their capacity to feel emotions, to be sensitive to my needs, to be completely different from that stupid stereotype of "men don't cry and they shouldn't"; I can even say I find infinitely more courage in a man that can cry and show deep emotions than in an arrid guy that has to cling to his image of an Alfa male and who thinks that showing emotions is a sign of weakness. Bleahh!

If you want someone that will always be there for you and for your family, please choose a Mars in Cancer guy. If you want someone that can relate to your emotional side and with whom you can discuss your deepest fears, dreams, feelings without being judged and from whom you can always receive support and understanding, choose a Mars in Cancer. If you want your sexual needs to be well taken care of by a romantic and giving partner, the same Mars should be the choice.

* One point here though: my long time partner, having an Aries stellium (Venus included) is a bit on the selfish side and more centered on the impulse, on instincts, on the "click" but lately he started to discover his giving side and so far it works pretty well. It was quite hard for him to give away the self imposed image of the very-active-sexually male and to start discovering who he really was and what were his actual needs. His former partners expected something different from him and even though our relationship is the longest in his personal history too, his past seemed to have been imprinted very deeply into his psyche. *

I never ever found them emotionally manipulative and not even passive agressive but this might be due to the fact that I was always giving the tone of my relationships (except the last one - where we share); they were always the ones to react to the impulses generated by me and the ones to really fight for our relationship and for making me happy. But in those times I was too young and stupid and too centered on myself (SN in Aries) to see what I was being given and to deeply appreciate that (which I am finally able to).

Even after years and years of study of astrology, I was still being subjective and very reluctant to Mars in Cancer. What finally helped my eyes open (except the intense work my own partner had with me - he is also into astrology and has a very profound understanding of it even though not too much actual knowledge) was to see again a movie that I loved when I was a teenager, "Rob Roy" (with Liam Neeson in the leading role). THAT was the perfect example of Mars in Cancer in action. And you know what? It was not me who realized that, but my partner! He also said that he finally understood why I loved that character and why I was always attracted to that pattern - which I also found in him.

Up to a point, it was exacly what my father never was; he had that domestic talent and interest (great cook, awesome handyman - we never had anyone to repair anything in our house, he knew how to do anything - etc) but actually he never fought for his family and gave up everything for his biggest passion, alcohol.

All the guys with Mars in Cancer I met had at least one special talent regarding the house, from cooking to carpentry... I have to admit I just cannot respect a guy if he's helpless in regards to domestic stuff and if he doesn't know at least how to keep a hammer in his hands. I am quite knowledgeable myself, my parents were both the same, my brother as well and I found Mars in Cancer to have the same inclination towards repairing/constructing/cooking/building/etc. When it comes to survival and survival instincts, I find these men the most relaible one can have around. The guy with power and money that relies on his "specialists" to solve his little technical issues is quite pittiful in my eyes - I hope I'm not offending anyone, it's just my honest personal opinion.

I am pregnant now and we are expecting our first baby in July. I *feel* he is a boy (somehow confirmed by the echo - but it's not 100% sure at this stage, too early) and looking at the possible moment of birth I have to admit I secretly hope for him to be born with Mars in Cancer (after 14th of July) and not in Gemini - even though I know that two parents with Mars in the 3rd House (like us) would more likely have a child with Mars in Gemeni, right? :-). My husband and I would definitely know how to raise a child with Mars in Cancer as we are both very deeply aware of the depest needs such a placement has and I am sure we'd know how to encourage him to be self standing and active... Mars in Gemini sounds a bit more troublesome right now, it is already a great deal of fiery mental communication in this family .

posted October 10, 2015 10:21 AM              

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Originally posted by Dreaming111:
Initially that's how it was. He had beautiful eyes, and I felt like he loved me with such warmth and care, like a mother. I felt healed and happy. But isn't that the case for most neptunian loves?

But yeah I can see this aspect in him as well. Unfortunately it didnt last long.

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Can identify with this so much. Sorry that it didn't work out. Why was that, if I may ask..?

Yes, they do make you feel so protected and taken care of. Fussing over what you eat, helping out every which way. Making sure everything is just the way you like it..they don't just say it, they really do care about your happiness. It's so cute when they get jealous. It's a shade different from Scorpio jealousy - in that you will easily know when they are - they resort to pretty obvious antics & maneuverings to get you as 'theirs'. People trying to hit on their mate - beware! The claws come out when they feel threatened. Or when they think you're in any way harming their loved ones, the normally 'passive', quiet guy will have no problem going into attack mode.

I've noticed though, that if they offer to do something for you, and you refuse - it really hurts them. They take the (however minor) refusal to let them protect you / do you a favour (for whatever reason) - as an outright rejection.

posted October 10, 2015 05:06 PM            

--lazy. Absolutely lazy. Disgustingly lazy.

--Had the worst diet of any man I've known. Ate heavily processed foods and nothing else because he found that comforting. Had really gross flatulence problems as result.

--Was extremely repressed sexually. Terrible, lazy in bed. Absolutely fearful of doing anything "different". Having sex with him basically made me hate sex for good long while. And I'm a Sun cj Eros woman. THAT is how had it was.

--Turned out he was a closeted cross-dresser, liked to wear his mother's panties and hose to help him relieve stress, kept a stack of women's lingerie catalogs under his bed for dreaming about what things eh wanted to try wearing, refused to see a therapist about the very deep shame he had about it

--Such a liar. Such a filthy, rotten, gutter-crawling, passive-aggressive, cowardly liar. He swore up and down when we started dating that he respected my opposition to any idea of converting to his (or rather more precisely his mother's) religion. What did he end up doing? Pressuring me to hang out to people from his mother's church who in turn pressured me to convert. Then after ward, when I was thoroughly enraged and insulted, he would apologize profusely for how these religion nuts acted as if he had no idea that's what they'd do.

--The final straw: I caught him tampering with the condoms we were using and he confessed, suicidally I guess, that he thought if he got me pregnant I would "have to" marry him. I'm an Aqua Mars. On a scale of 1 to 1 gazillion, care to guess how nuclear I went after discovering that egregious insult to my free will, body and personhood???

posted October 10, 2015 06:09 PM            

The mars in cancer that have Mars trine pluto act differently than a Mars in cancer that doesn't aspect pluto.

The Mars in Cancer trine pluto people i know are much more assertive and sexual. I never met a Mars square pluto (libra generation) though.

posted October 11, 2015 01:12 AM              

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Originally posted by Lunar Pisces:
I was involved once with a Cancer Sun man with Cancer Mars. If I ever fall for that combo again I will run. Here's what he was like:

--lazy. Absolutely lazy. Disgustingly lazy.

--Had the worst diet of any man I've known. Ate heavily processed foods and nothing else because he found that comforting. Had really gross flatulence problems as result.

--Was extremely repressed sexually. Terrible, lazy in bed. Absolutely fearful of doing anything "different". Having sex with him basically made me hate sex for good long while. And I'm a Sun cj Eros woman. THAT is how had it was.

--Turned out he was a closeted cross-dresser, liked to wear his mother's panties and hose to help him relieve stress, kept a stack of women's lingerie catalogs under his bed for dreaming about what things eh wanted to try wearing, refused to see a therapist about the very deep shame he had about it

--Such a liar. Such a filthy, rotten, gutter-crawling, passive-aggressive, cowardly liar. He swore up and down when we started dating that he respected my opposition to any idea of converting to his (or rather more precisely his mother's) religion. What did he end up doing? Pressuring me to hang out to people from his mother's church who in turn pressured me to convert. Then after ward, when I was thoroughly enraged and insulted, he would apologize profusely for how these religion nuts acted as if he had no idea that's what they'd do.

--The final straw: I caught him tampering with the condoms we were using and he confessed, suicidally I guess, that he thought if he got me pregnant I would "have to" marry him. I'm an Aqua Mars. On a scale of 1 to 1 gazillion, care to guess how nuclear I went after discovering that egregious insult to my free will, body and personhood???

**** men with Cancer Mars. Nope. Nada. Aw **** NO.

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posted October 11, 2015 03:15 AM            

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Originally posted by Lunar Pisces:
I was involved once with a Cancer Sun man with Cancer Mars. If I ever fall for that combo again I will run. Here's what he was like:

--lazy. Absolutely lazy. Disgustingly lazy.

--Had the worst diet of any man I've known. Ate heavily processed foods and nothing else because he found that comforting. Had really gross flatulence problems as result.

--Was extremely repressed sexually. Terrible, lazy in bed. Absolutely fearful of doing anything "different". Having sex with him basically made me hate sex for good long while. And I'm a Sun cj Eros woman. THAT is how had it was.

--Turned out he was a closeted cross-dresser, liked to wear his mother's panties and hose to help him relieve stress, kept a stack of women's lingerie catalogs under his bed for dreaming about what things eh wanted to try wearing, refused to see a therapist about the very deep shame he had about it

--Such a liar. Such a filthy, rotten, gutter-crawling, passive-aggressive, cowardly liar. He swore up and down when we started dating that he respected my opposition to any idea of converting to his (or rather more precisely his mother's) religion. What did he end up doing? Pressuring me to hang out to people from his mother's church who in turn pressured me to convert. Then after ward, when I was thoroughly enraged and insulted, he would apologize profusely for how these religion nuts acted as if he had no idea that's what they'd do.

--The final straw: I caught him tampering with the condoms we were using and he confessed, suicidally I guess, that he thought if he got me pregnant I would "have to" marry him. I'm an Aqua Mars. On a scale of 1 to 1 gazillion, care to guess how nuclear I went after discovering that egregious insult to my free will, body and personhood???

**** men with Cancer Mars. Nope. Nada. Aw **** NO.

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The mind boggles. Come on, how did you meet this guy and get in that deep with him that you were meeting his family, having sex, and all that? And why did you stay as long as you did? That suggests there was something good about him (he sounds too idiotic to have played you), so what was it?

posted October 11, 2015 05:10 AM              

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Btw, that stunt with the condoms is nasty enough, I might have gone to his church one last time to have them pray about his crossdressing.

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posted October 24, 2015 01:02 PM              

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Originally posted by Soltze:
This made me laugh so so hard LOOOL
I have Mars in Cancer, but in love I cannot stand Cancer men at all.
Yeah people with this placement love kissing...I know I do.

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Do you also like calling people you like 'baby'? I know normal people do it too, but Mars in Cancer do it a LOT. They're not satisfied with just babying you, they have to call you that like a dozen times a day.. (not complaining though.. I kinda like it. *blush*)

posted October 24, 2015 01:04 PM            

I don't care if you are ugly as a toad, if you call me baby, I am yours

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posted October 24, 2015 02:19 PM            

You are so lucky to have a Mars in Scorpio guy. He hit gold

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posted October 24, 2015 02:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Moon and Mars in Cancer

I don't care if you are ugly as a toad, if you call me baby, I am yours

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posted October 24, 2015 02:40 PM              

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Moon and Mars in Cancer

I don't care if you are ugly as a toad, if you call me baby, I am yours

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