posted June 02, 2011 01:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Also – I do feel as though the man I am with should treat me nicely and do nice things for me sometimes (as I would also do for him! It is not a one way street)… I don’t like people who seem to think “it’s all about them”.
Venus in Aries expects a lot – but it never crosses their mind to do something nice for you, to send you a nice email for your birthday even! - let alone buy you something pretty. They just don’t think.

On those rare occasions they do something - it is always in poor taste… like a guy I knew some time ago got me a little fluffy 'whatever it was' - it looked like a cross between an elephant and a chihuahua lol.. and a card that said “I was going to get you a nice dress for your birthday… (and inside the card) But I realized you'd look better without it”

Like HA! HA! – so flipping funny!
Who the hell wants that !!!!
I would’ve preferred the dress – thanks.

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posted June 02, 2011 01:51 AM            

The way I see it, it just is a light-hearted approach to relationships, where they're able to see the humour of love, sex, and relationships. I don't know, it's probably my sag mars but that kind of ridiculous teasing makes me laugh and laughter's a huge aphrodisiac in my opinion.

posted June 02, 2011 02:03 AM            

I got NOTHING!

I got a stuffed toy.

It did make me giggle.. but it's so far under what I expect and what I give. It's just not at all - my style. They are out of sync with me.

free -

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I am light-hearted in the sense that I don't feel the need to have a serious set-out relationship with a ring on my finger. I like my freedom. And making me laugh feels like an aphrodisiac to me also... but petty insults that sound like he just stepped out of the principal's office and he is 15 yrs old -- are not my kind of humour.
I like sarcasm and more complex humour.

Yrone,

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I have Cap Venus, I prefer underhanded innuendo to flat out "omg boobs lolz" jokes.

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posted June 02, 2011 02:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
What lingerie guys?

I got NOTHING!

I got a stuffed toy.

It did make me giggle.. but it's so far under what I expect and what I give. It's just not at all - my style. They are out of sync with me.

free -

I am light-hearted in the sense that I don't feel the need to have a serious set-out relationship with a ring on my finger. I like my freedom. And making me laugh feels like an aphrodisiac to me also... but petty insults that sound like he just stepped out of the principal's office and he is 15 yrs old -- are not my kind of humour.
I like sarcasm and more complex humour.

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Ohhhhhhhhhh okay. I thought you got lingerie because of the card and I thought you meant the lingerie was ugly and LOOKED like a poodle. Uhhhhhhhhhh my brain is not functioning!

I totally second you on the insults. At some point the guy has to leave elementary school and stop pulling pigtails. I like the suggestive, saying it in other words kind of thing! I can't really explain it but just the way certain things are phrased when it comes to sweet talking, but not really - it makes my Gem venus flutter.

posted June 02, 2011 02:34 AM            

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Ohhhhhhhhhh okay. I thought you got lingerie because of the card and I thought you meant the lingerie was ugly and LOOKED like a poodle. Uhhhhhhhhhh my brain is not functioning!

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posted June 02, 2011 03:56 AM            

i think too many first house placements or too many seventh house placements are a bummer too. 1st house because it's all a big me-fest, 7th house feels like an energy vampire.

posted June 02, 2011 05:05 AM            

Let me make sure I'm understanding you correctly.
You both have Venus conjunct Uranus in your Natals? yes?

You didn't agree with which part?
That it (the relationship) didn't work?
If this were any other combo I would say maybe it ran its course but with Uranus it's very off and on and yes, unpredictable.
Never say never

I have found that with a challenging aspect in the Natal, you tend to attract people with that similar aspect.

Depending on personal inner-aspects, this aspect is kind of a focal point, something (an aspect) you both have in common.

I don't have an aspect with Venus and Uranus but I do have a nasty square with my Moon and Uranus. I totally understand upheaval and also how quickly things can change.
It is kind of disheartening

posted June 02, 2011 05:57 AM            

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Originally posted by vertiver:

They are constantly looking for something better than what they have partner wise. They also tend to be very self-indulgent and it does not help if these men also have any strong Jupiter placements, which heightens the self-indulgence and being excessive in general.

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I have similar problems with what you said there. Moon square Venus in mutable signs always causes me to look better than my partner can offer. I have strong Jupiter especially moon quincunx Jupiter and Venus trine Jupiter which increases self-indulgence and excessiveness in me. But especially strong Jupiter in leo is causing it. Even it is a generational aspect Jupiter square Pluto can cause what you said too. Many people including me have it, it is very obvious and seeable on their actions. But if there is an excessiveness there, it has to be related to Jupiter. Even all well-aspected Jupiter can cause excessiveness. My Jupiter gets gets two quincunx from moon and neptune and square from Pluto. It trines Venus, widely Sun and Mercury. It biquintiles Uranus. This god damn excessive planet is making a lot of aspect which causes me to excess anything in my life. THEY are aspects of UNMEASUREDNESS

So try to avoid..

posted June 02, 2011 07:50 AM            

Libra stellium esp. involving Sun and Moon
Chiron in 7th
Venus square Neptune
Venus in Virgo
Majority of planets in left hemisphere
Too much Uranian action in the chart

posted June 02, 2011 08:10 AM            

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i have mars square neptune and thank you for telling me i must be avoided in matter of love, i am human and i need love too...

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I'm not sure how others feel about this, but I said above:

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I would not literally avoid any person ^ because of these aspects. But they are ones I've had negative experiences with in the past.

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Which means -- If I meet a man tomorrow who has every single aspect I described, I wouldn't care. I wouldn't feel wary or be cautious. I'd see how it goes. I'd observe etc... If he happens to be different - and we're perfect for each other - I'm not going anywhere.
But if he is not ..... and he does fit certain negative patterns that I've had to deal with in the past.... then I'm out! Sorry lol

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it's like you ask a perfect chart,

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posted June 02, 2011 08:12 AM            

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Originally posted by visions:
i have mars square neptune and thank you for telling me i must be avoided in matter of love, i am human and i need love too...

others things when i read all your comments it's like you ask a perfect chart, almost every people have hard aspect to their moon or venus or mars etc...

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I have personally many of them. Of course you can not change bad aspects in natal chart. And if you have many of them, you can have traits which topic starter complains about. many people are complaining bad habits of their lovers so they have enough it and they sure want and need a "trustful, reliable and nonexcessive man" as you need love. So if they are tired of being so called bad aspects of their man's natal chart, then they should try to avoid what i say. It may be perfectionist list but if you had many bad relationships as they have then you either become perfectionist or appropiater whatever you find in a man. Probably i have more bad aspects then you have, so i try to avoid long-term relationships not to hurt to lover. It is self-sacrifice but i am doing it. İf you are such a nice guy, then ignore my comment and prove that you are loveable and a person who does not have to be avoided to your newcomers. I have 5 bad aspects to my moon, 3 bad aspects to my jupiter. I have enough power not to be loved but you don't have. So do whatever you want. Nobody who is interested in you just will keep you away for what i said in the lists. It is your life and just ignore me. But let me tell you something. I always consider people who admits that they need love as not strong personalities. Solitude is a virtue. Still many people won't let me be alone but one way or another i will need noone in my life. I suggest this to you too..

Mars square Neptune is a possible cheater aspect especially in woman's chart by the way.
Moon square Venus is another possible cheater aspect in man's chart

posted June 02, 2011 08:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
visions -

Nobody is perfect. However you must have standards. If you have ZERO standards - you get walked all over and harmed badly. You're basically dead meat.
Everyone has things they love, things they like, things they are neutral about, things they dislike but can put up with, things they can't stand or hate.. and cannot put up with -- and so forth.
If you put up with absolutely everything -- you will simply end up with an abusive alcoholic chauvinist who fuks a new girl every night and gives you stds. No person who has all their mental faculties intact would lower their standards to ZERO.

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posted June 02, 2011 08:21 AM            

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Probably i have more bad aspects then you have, so i try to avoid long-term relationships not to hurt to lover. It is self-sacrifice but i am doing it.

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I don't think that's the best solution... I mean, I'm sure it doesn't apply to everyone. There are women out there with the same aspects you have! lol

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I always consider people who admits that they need love as not strong personalities. Solitude is a virtue.

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Actually, it's funny because - I wanted to say above... that the men in my life who had the aspects I mentioned.. are all types who would NEVER say this. If they saw this thread - they'd be PROUD that they got this reaction.

I don't actually respect this and I don't find it "strong" ^
I'd rather someone be open about their feelings.

posted June 02, 2011 08:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Betty Boop:
Hallo Mertzy! Have I ever told you how much I love your nickname?
I love it because I can make it even shorter & cuter.. Mertzy! It's catchy hey? lol

Actually, it's funny because - I wanted to say above... that the men in my life who had the aspects I mentioned.. are all types who would NEVER say this. If they saw this thread - they'd be PROUD that they got this reaction.

I don't actually respect this and I don't find it "strong" ^
I'd rather someone be open about their feelings.

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Haha you can say "Mert" shortly as well. It is my real name. Anyway you can say whatever you want =)).

posted June 02, 2011 08:35 AM            

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Originally posted by Deux*Antares:
I would avoid someone with at least 3 of the following:

Libra stellium esp. involving Sun and Moon
Chiron in 7th
Venus square Neptune
Venus in Virgo
Majority of planets in left hemisphere
Too much Uranian action in the chart

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Wow
Could you please elaborate on some of these,if you would.
Have you had experience with Chiron in the 7th and Venus square Neptune.
If you would not mind, I would love to hear some of it so I could understand them better.
Also, the Libra stellium.
I understand Venus in Virgo well enough,myself
Thank you!

posted June 02, 2011 11:04 AM            

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Originally posted by visions:
i have mars square neptune and thank you for telling me i must be avoided in matter of love, i am human and i need love too...

others things when i read all your comments it's like you ask a perfect chart, almost every people have hard aspect to their moon or venus or mars etc...

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I remember I took an astrology class as an elective and there was this guy who had it out for venus is Gemini. He marred them the ***** of the ***** and should be burned like in a witch hunt.=X

I told him he was effing coco puffs with a crapload of emotional baggage and overall he sounded batshat crazy..

posted June 02, 2011 11:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Maka:
I remember I took an astrology class as an elective and there was this guy who had it out for venus is Gemini. He marred them the ***** of the ***** and should be burned like in a witch hunt.=X

I told him he was effing coco puffs with a crapload of emotional baggage and overall he sounded batshat crazy..

After that class I just can't see astrology in a serious light..not with people like that.

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Seriously? For me, the ones who has enough guts to face their dark side and bad aspects in their natal chart deserves a good relationship... If you are curious about astrology, then you have to be enough strong to face what might be said to you from your chart . If you are not enough strong, then don't ask .

By the way this is me Moon/Pluto person talking. Also Pluto in 8th house.

posted June 02, 2011 11:35 AM            

I have venus in Leo, it's just I can't deal with that kind of batshat crazy. There's constructive critism then there's boderlinde nutso..thats boderline nutso =X