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Topic: Aspects/Placements to Avoid in Men...
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vertiver
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From: Firey Jupiter
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 01, 2011 09:06 PM
  
Okay, this post might become a big generalization, but speaking from my own experience avoid men with harsh aspects to Moon and Venus, especially so if they also have Taurus or Libra in their chart.They are constantly looking for something better than what they have partner wise. They also tend to be very self-indulgent and it does not help if these men also have any strong Jupiter placements, which heightens the self-indulgence and being excessive in general. Any others, that you can think of, please share... Specifically with men? IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 01, 2011 09:12 PM
Ruler of the 7th house IN the 1st house. They want the partner to be a show piece  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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blugrey
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From: Nowhere
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posted June 01, 2011 09:16 PM
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starcrossedleo
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posted June 01, 2011 09:25 PM
Sun conjunct NeptuneProne to addictions to drugs and alcohol, overly sensitive (in my experience to a detrimental level) issues with father in childhood of course this has positive qualities but i am only pointing out the negative ones I have experienced in a r/s with a man who is sun conj Neptune IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 01, 2011 09:29 PM
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Originally posted by blugrey:
Square between Pluto-Saturn-Mars.
Square between Neptune and anything.
Why this blugray? ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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Ami Anne
Moderator Posts: 53200
From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
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posted June 01, 2011 09:29 PM
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Originally posted by starcrossedleo:
Sun conjunct NeptuneProne to addictions to drugs and alcohol, overly sensitive (in my experience to a detrimental level) issues with father in childhood of course this has positive qualities but i am only pointing out the negative ones I have experienced in a r/s with a man who is sun conj Neptune
Can you elaborate on this? I know you did but can you share more.
Thanks a lot. ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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JohnFKennedy
Knowflake Posts: 580
From: US
Registered: Aug 2009
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posted June 01, 2011 09:37 PM
I have such a love/hate relationship with Mars in Libra in a man. On the plus side, there is a noble grace given to them that isn't contrived at all. They have a beautiful, princely manner to them, they're attentive to detail, they appreciate it when you go all out to look good for them, they enjoy the arts, etc. The cons? Narcissistic/egomanical as hell at its worst, indecisive to a fault, nit picky, always looking for something better, etc. Sometimes too light hearted when a situation doesn't call for it. Sigh. I keep falling in and out of love with this placement. IP: Logged |
starcrossedleo
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posted June 01, 2011 09:44 PM
I had a chart reading with an astrologer and she pointed out that this sun conjunct neptune guy could easily drop in on my neptune and because we are only two yrs apart and neptune is slow moving his sun is conjunct my neptune-along with his addictive personality he is extremely oversensitive and that combined with his Scorpio sun leads to him lashing out and holding grudges for years. He lashes out at the slightest hurt or perceived slight. Also his father left the home when he was young and he quickly became the man of the house and sent money home when he joined the service-to this day he still only sees his father once a year and he lives 5 miles away. He carries a lot of resentment concerning his father and his lost childhood. I am sure there are other aspects which contribute but this is one aspect I honed in on and describes him to a T.
On the positive side he loves music and photography but he often loses himself in this world
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starcrossedleo
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posted June 01, 2011 09:44 PM
I had a chart reading with an astrologer and she pointed out that this sun conjunct neptune guy could easily drop in on my neptune and because we are only two yrs apart and neptune is slow moving his sun is conjunct my neptune-along with his addictive personality he is extremely oversensitive and that combined with his Scorpio sun leads to him lashing out and holding grudges for years. He lashes out at the slightest hurt or perceived slight. Also his father left the home when he was young and he quickly became the man of the house and sent money home when he joined the service-to this day he still only sees his father once a year and he lives 5 miles away. He carries a lot of resentment concerning his father and his lost childhood. I am sure there are other aspects which contribute but this is one aspect I honed in on and describes him to a T.
On the positive side he loves music and photography but he often loses himself in this world
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blugrey
Knowflake Posts: 1006
From: Nowhere
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posted June 01, 2011 10:08 PM
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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Why this blugray?
I don't do well with Pisces energy especially negative Pisces energy. I guess I should put oppositions up there too.
Also - I just don't like the whole anger-control issues that involve those Mars-Pluto-Saturn. I have Mars opposition Saturn myself. Dislike the bottling up/explosion thing. I just really need someone who has a very healthy way of showing anger naturally. IP: Logged |
blugrey
Knowflake Posts: 1006
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posted June 01, 2011 10:10 PM
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Originally posted by JohnFKennedy:
I have such a love/hate relationship with Mars in Libra in a man. On the plus side, there is a noble grace given to them that isn't contrived at all. They have a beautiful, princely manner to them, they're attentive to detail, they appreciate it when you go all out to look good for them, they enjoy the arts, etc. The cons? Narcissistic/egomanical as hell at its worst, indecisive to a fault, nit picky, always looking for something better, etc. Sometimes too light hearted when a situation doesn't call for it. Sigh. I keep falling in and out of love with this placement.
Ah... I forgot good ole Libra Mars. Though for different reasons - I hated the neediness, clinginess, constant "let's work at it", inability to let go, but wish washy as soon as I need someone reliable to count on. Gah. In general, despite my Gemini stellium, I have difficulties with Libra. Probably because it falls in my 6th. IP: Logged |
vertiver
Knowflake Posts: 1995
From: Firey Jupiter
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 01, 2011 10:18 PM
I dunno the guy I was just dating that suddenly broke up with me had Taurus Sun, and Moon in Libra opposite Venus in Aries, he was hot-headed, yet gullible at the same time, and he had these grand expectations of what he wanted yet never communicated them and he wasn't even good-looking or anything, from now on I'm not dating losers with issues between what they want and what they actually need... IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted June 01, 2011 10:28 PM
The one's with a penis.. lol I had to put that in there! Seriously... The guys with heavy Uranus Aspects. Or a packed 12th house... OO NEVER AGAIN! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 01, 2011 10:31 PM
Hmmm This is all very interesting
I would not date--Venus in Virgo--too picky
Venus in Aries--wants me to chase HIM.Forget about it  ------------------
Enlightenment doesn't result from sitting around visualizing images of light, but from integrating the darker aspects of the self into the conscious personality
Jung
You must lose your life for My sake in order to find it .
Jesus
He who controls his Spirit is greater than he who controls a city
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starcrossedleo
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posted June 01, 2011 10:42 PM
Lioness I agree with your first aspect LOL!! Ami anne I had one last thought on the Sun conj Neptune-Neptune is the keeper of dreams and rules the subconcious and boy does this Sun conj Neptune invade my dreams and gets into my subconscious IP: Logged |
lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 3651
From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 01, 2011 11:10 PM
Venus in hard aspect to Uranus
(unless you have this aspect in the Natal)this is a hard one to overcome because deep down you are not sexually compatible for the long run. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 01, 2011 11:16 PM
Mars opposite Pluto: Blatantly cruel.. pure cruelty! No reason whatsoever.
(if it's close!)Mars in Taurus: Too romantically laid back (or lazy) and non-eventful.. Not to mention standing on their pride for 15 yrs once you have a problem. Venus in Aries: Very immature. Depth is lacking. My Venus is an area where I need emotional intensity.. It is in Taurus opp my Pluto. So I can't deal with the superficiality of these men. Venus retrograde in Aries - The only placement I found more difficult than Venus in Aries lol
Venus in Aries direct - wants you to conform to his image of the perfect woman. On the bright side he is living in the "here and now" so this image is at least - a current one.
Venus in Aries retrograde - wants you to conform to an image of the perfect woman in 18th century England. I'm serious! lol Venus retrograde in general... They are looking for love in order to have a certain "normal" social appearance.. but would actually prefer to be alone. Venus square Mars: They hate women. They hate men. There isn't much left. Animals?
hmmm what else?
Too much mutable stuff -- virgo/pisces/sag/gemini...
Because they are not sure what they want and tend to be very changeable.
Too much transpersonal stuff -- capricorn/sag/aquarius/pisces
Because even when they know what they want -- it is NOT you.. It is something like working on - "world peace" or "war world 3" - depending on their "inclination". IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
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posted June 01, 2011 11:17 PM
.. I would not literally avoid any person ^ because of these aspects. But they are ones I've had negative experiences with in the past. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
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posted June 01, 2011 11:19 PM
I read through the thread -- and I'm not surprised Venus in Aries came up again... because several women have had problems there. IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted June 01, 2011 11:40 PM
I like venus in Aries... these men give me lots of attention 
Goes well with my Leo planets...
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CosmicKarma360
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posted June 01, 2011 11:54 PM
Yeah, what's up with the whole Venus in Aries thing? What's the good, and what's the bad exactly? I've never encountered it personally myself. I'm curious what others have run into with it. Thanks!IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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posted June 02, 2011 12:02 AM
When their Venus is conj my Sun – they do give me a bit too much attention. That’s how I got to know them and have experiences with them, in the first place lol
The problem is – They think that because I am assertive in certain areas of my life… this means that I would also be sexually aggressive – and when they find out that I’m actually very submissive and feminine/passive – in that regard…. It puts them off (though not as much as it puts me off that they are not dominant enough!)
Like Ami said – They would prefer the woman to be the aggressor.But quite apart from this issue… they seem childish to a point where.. while it can be cute – it is so shallow. They miss out on an entire area of life… as though they see the surface of a lake, but have never swum in the lake.. They don’t get the depth of love or sexuality. And thirdly, they are a bit too rude for me. Love/Dating for them is like kids playing games in high school...... It’s all silly things like throwing little offenses your way to get your attention and bugging you and so forth. It’s just too immature. I have too much Capricorn to deal with this kind of childish stuff. I know some women would find it cute… but ya – it’s not my thing. It always depends on the rest of the chart – and obviously I am interpreting this from my own subjective perspective. I definitely have a preference for Venus in Aries when it is conjunct Mars in Aries. Both my best friend and bf have this – and it is a much smoother relationship – in contrast to – Venus in Aries, on its own. It’s almost like it’s an entirely different placement. They are more genuine. IP: Logged |
Betty Boop
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From: Betty Boop Land
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted June 02, 2011 12:13 AM
Also – I do feel as though the man I am with should treat me nicely and do nice things for me sometimes (as I would also do for him! It is not a one way street)… I don’t like people who seem to think “it’s all about them”.
Venus in Aries expects a lot – but it never crosses their mind to do something nice for you, to send you a nice email for your birthday even! - let alone buy you something pretty. They just don’t think. On those rare occasions they do something - it is always in poor taste… like a guy I knew some time ago got me a little fluffy 'whatever it was' - it looked like a cross between an elephant and a chihuahua lol.. and a card that said “I was going to get you a nice dress for your birthday… (and inside the card) But I realized you'd look better without it” Like HA! HA! – so flipping funny! 
Who the hell wants that !!!!
I would’ve preferred the dress – thanks. IP: Logged |
Nine
Moderator Posts: 1751
From: The Cusp of Love
Registered: May 2009
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posted June 02, 2011 12:51 AM
A guy sending his girl lingerie for her birthday is in poor taste!?!?! quote:
I have too much Capricorn to deal ...
^This. IP: Logged |
Yrone
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posted June 02, 2011 12:56 AM
From what I understood, he send her some weirdo stuffed animal and a "funny" remark on a birthday card. No dress, no lingerieI have Cap Venus, I prefer underhanded innuendo to flat out "omg boobs lolz" jokes. IP: Logged |
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