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Topic: Maybe my Karmic lesson is to live a life of happiness as a single man
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posted December 31, 2011 06:07 AM
  
Wish I had better advice for you Carl, but I don't.Best of luck. IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted December 31, 2011 08:38 AM
Any amount of distance and time is worth being with the One you love.  From looking at your chart, you do have a lot of 4th quadrant action going on.
http://www.drstandley.com/astrologycharts_quadrants.shtml#quadrant4
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The 4th Quadrant encompasses the 10th, 11th and 12th House.The 1st Quadrant is all about developing the "self." The 2nd Quadrant is about expanding your awareness toward others and moving outside of yourself. In the 3rd Quadrant your awareness expands even more toward more worldly issues and committed relationships and partnerships. And in this 4th Quadrant it refers to your personal efforts which contribute to humanity. This quadrant outlines the need to be focused on the goal of public service. You strive to make your mark on the world. This may be very beneficial although it could become disruptive if you become too caught up in an ideal. This quadrant is strong in those who ardently pursue their mission, purpose and gifts to influence the world.
So perhaps, in this lifetime, you are meant to focus you efforts more on how you can contribute to humanity rather than a personal relationship. I still think you'll find the One someday. Some men don't find their soulmate until they're in their 40s! Just hang in there, or not. Whatever makes you happy. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 08:55 AM
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If they live in the DC area, sign me up for, at the very least, friends!
Unfortunately, everyone I know is NYC based. It'll be a little too taxing for an Amtrak relationship. Driving regularly is just brutal. Dude, are you from New Haven? Perhaps lilithpluto can run some Ba Zi for you! Check out your peach blossom stars. IP: Logged |
carl
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posted December 31, 2011 12:00 PM
I was born in New Haven. Lived 30 minutes outside that city.NYC appeals to me. I mean, the hustle and bustle seem too much for me. But I am an insomniac and we all know what NYC is dubbed. It seems to have a wider, more diverse range and type of people than DC...more down to earth, less "stick up the @ss" than DC, more down to earth, generally speaking. I appreciate NYC because it has character (something I feel DC and the surrounding areas) lack. It is not just DC, but even some of the counties surrounding it. I do feel I might very well be in the wrong place and feel a tug from NYC as is. When I went to visit it during thanksgiving, I liked it so much more than in the past. Maybe it took a subpar city like DC to make me realize NYC isn't so bad, and realize its strengths. Now if I can overcome its high cost of rent.. IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 12:16 PM
I live in Fairfield County myself but work in NYC. It's true that NYC is more diverse and cosmopolitan, with all types. DC is more cerebral and likely attracts more of the power-hungry type. Not to say that NYC is not the center of materialism. Living cost is outrageous either way. IP: Logged |
enchantress299
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posted December 31, 2011 12:34 PM
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I have dealt with so many fickle women, especially as of late. I find character flaws in most women I date that I just can not stand - obsession with money and status, fickle behavior due to immaturity or desire to play games, lack of modesty, ego, judgemental. It seems no one is free of them but at least I try to be!
Carl- I don't have a lot to add to this conversation, as I feel everyone else has already done a great job, but I wanted to say- I feel ya. I attract the male version of what you just described. It seems so hard to find people with CHARACTER these days (such a little used word especially for people in our age group). Honesty, integrity, caring, etc are not bad traits. So, I can't help you much, because I have yet to figure out why I attract these characters as well. I think maybe I am supposed to be learning something from it (like learning how to spot d-bags a mile away- which I can almost reliably do at this point), but I'm not entirely sure what. As far as the astrology of it goes- I can't even see it in my own chart really. I always assumed it was because I have Jupiter/Uranus (aggrandized ego) square Venus/MC/Sun and Pluto/Saturn (power and control) sextile Venus/MC/Sun. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted December 31, 2011 12:47 PM
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Coffee:
Women can chase status, be fickle and play games because they are very insecure. They want something external to themselves to make them feel better, instead of looking within. They play games because they need an external reason as to why the guy they date is worthy and really likes them, as the female brain is a little dodgy to say the least. They are wired differently to men. That is a fact. They are made insecure by all these celebrities and society which tells them that they should be a certain thing and go a certain way in life. This will never change.[/QUOTE Pls don't generalize women.....I dont generalize men! Thank you. IP: Logged |
lechien
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posted December 31, 2011 12:49 PM
i'm not answering you in astrological terms, but i don't think it is necessary to decide your fate. i think that if you feel that it might be one path, i think it is good to follow it. and your being happy and comfortable with your single man-hood, a true love will come to you. or that more genuine women will start to appear in your life, without you seeking for it. IP: Logged |
amelia28
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posted December 31, 2011 12:51 PM
Oh and saying that female brain is dodgy is beyond generalization and is actually straight up insulting coffee to all women. Dodgy definition 1. dishonest, criminal, or not reliable 2. not operating correctly 3. dangerous or not certain 4. of bad quality or not very fashionable IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
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posted December 31, 2011 03:08 PM
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Originally posted by carl:
I was born in New Haven. Lived 30 minutes outside that city.NYC appeals to me. I mean, the hustle and bustle seem too much for me. But I am an insomniac and we all know what NYC is dubbed. It seems to have a wider, more diverse range and type of people than DC...more down to earth, less "stick up the @ss" than DC, more down to earth, generally speaking. I appreciate NYC because it has character (something I feel DC and the surrounding areas) lack. It is not just DC, but even some of the counties surrounding it. I do feel I might very well be in the wrong place and feel a tug from NYC as is. When I went to visit it during thanksgiving, I liked it so much more than in the past. Maybe it took a subpar city like DC to make me realize NYC isn't so bad, and realize its strengths. Now if I can overcome its high cost of rent..
I completely understand where you're coming from. I, too, wish I could overcome the high cost of living in NY. It appealed to me because I finally felt proud of where I was living. I grew up in a brain dead, "Middle American" suburban town, surrounded by suburbs that are just the same, just outside of Chicago. I'm back there right now for the holidays. Literally nothing changes except which roads are under construction and which classmate is pregnant again. Not that there's anything wrong with choosing that lifestyle if it suits you, it's just the people who choose it... The girls I knew in high school that bragged about becoming a model/actress, artist, doctor, lawyer, teacher, etc... they never went after their dreams. They just got married early and will end up living in our same ol' town like their parents did and their parents' parents did, etc. People don't travel very far from the town, which is funny since we're literally just 25 miles from the epicenter of Chicago. More often than not, you start to become ignorant towards what life is like in a bustling city. Sure, you can visit Chicago, but you're not living it. Plenty of my friends judge me for leaving, too, like I went off to live in the bad, bad world - that I'm just another one of those people who judge them because I think I'm better than them. They have it half right: I am judging them. Not because I think I'm better than them, but that they could have done a lot better for themselves then living a sedentary lifestyle in our humdrum hometown. IP: Logged |
defeat
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posted December 31, 2011 03:18 PM
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Originally posted by Coffee:
Women can chase status, be fickle and play games because they are very insecure. They want something external to themselves to make them feel better, instead of looking within. They play games because they need an external reason as to why the guy they date is worthy and really likes them, as the female brain is a little dodgy to say the least. They are wired differently to men. That is a fact. They are made insecure by all these celebrities and society which tells them that they should be a certain thing and go a certain way in life. This will never change.
lol. it's so funny how little you know about women, but what's even funnier is the confidence you say all this with. Just stick to astrology, seeing how women obviously aren't your speciallty IP: Logged |
mockingbird
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posted December 31, 2011 03:22 PM
As you and a few others have said, DC just may not be the place for you. There are decent people (not that I'm biased *at all*...I was born in and, after a good deal of traveling, am back in Fairfax), but we do have more than our fair share of prats. The cut-throat nature of much of the industry in the area and the by-in-large crazy cost of living combine to attract those types and drive away many of those with which you may connect. Have you played around wth relocation charts at all? ------------------
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teasel
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posted December 31, 2011 04:37 PM
I was thinking about this again, and have no doubt that being in a good partnership can only help (for the most part - a good partnership being one that doesn't keep you stagnant, unless that's what you want), but it feels so good to not be overwrought over someone else, or be putting up with someone else's crap, having them mess with your head, etc (other than the odd person on the internet, that is  ). IP: Logged |
carl
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posted December 31, 2011 09:36 PM
Thanks for all the input guys and girls.I went on a date earlier today, the girl seemed to be pretty cool. Figure I will relax at home to close out the new year however, rather than venture out into downtown DC. What I do not get is, on many of the dates I have been on, the girls always either a. complain about how hard it is to make friends in DC or b. Agree when I say it myself. But then, poof, they disappear after one date! IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 10:26 PM
Carl, I'm going to say this in the fullest of respect and the best of intentions. I know this is just a forum to vent and I don't really know your real persona and character. However, you've got to project expansiveness, optimism and general hope and the promise of happiness. I know it sounds kind of fake when you feel down, but you've really got to try. When a girl says its tough to meet good people and it's hard to find good dates, your answer has got to be "you're on a date with me, I'm a great guy and I'll show you the happiness you deserve.". It cannot be "yeah I know. All these substandard ladies I've gone out with suck. I feel really down.". These girls would take to you so much more if you project joy and hope. And please don't go on a rant about anything negative at all on a date. You wouldn't do that on a job interview, so never smack talk anybody from your past. Just show immense affection and pride yourself in being able to tune into the emotions of your date. "yeah, she was nice, but nowhere as sweet as you are. I'm just so happy to be out with you today and I'm having such a fun time." Girls are regular people. They get upset and depressed too. They just want to be around upbeat, confident guys. A tiny bit of ego is enough to show that you are self assured and can hold your own ground. I really didn't mean to lecture, but you seem depressed and perhaps my mind is wrong, but I get the vibe of sadness. That is exactly what girls don't want, even for good guys. They go on dates to be happy. Not talk about how sucky life is. I remember how sucky it was with my girlfriend in college cos I was so broke. We would buy a slice of pizza for dinner because that was all the money we had. Even then, we would go somewhere romantic, cut the slice of pizza up and feed each other, laughing like we were having a blast. That's all that most good girls are asking for. Love. Warmth. Care. Understanding. Happy times. IP: Logged |
Coffee
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posted December 31, 2011 10:35 PM
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Oh and saying that female brain is dodgy is beyond generalization and is actually straight up insulting coffee to all women. Dodgy definition 1. dishonest, criminal, or not reliable 2. not operating correctly 3. dangerous or not certain 4. of bad quality or not very fashionable
Guess I'm going for number 2 there with the say something and do the exact opposite , as you lot like to do sometimes. No, not the best choice of word from me. Even my very slim sister asks me 'Do I look fat?' shocking but cute what you people come up with. IP: Logged |
Coffee
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posted December 31, 2011 10:43 PM
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Originally posted by defeat:
lol. it's so funny how little you know about women, but what's even funnier is the confidence you say all this with. Just stick to astrology, seeing how women obviously aren't your speciallty
Well, I don't eat them, so no Carl, If you're having women problems, despite the few good ones, it's probably not advisable to get advice from women. From an astrology point of view, the stars are saying that it's not the best time to find that right someone, so you naturally have bad luck in that area. I could sugar coat it and tell you something you want to know, but I won't. Sure there are many insecure women on here. Just like in your dating field. Hope YOU CHOOSE better ones. Learn to spot an insecure woman. It's usually the ones who play games. Many women on here will play games, so don't get your advice from insecure women on here, as they are the women you don't want to date. Plenty of good ones here though, you just got to find them! IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted December 31, 2011 11:06 PM
Lucifer conj NN Lucifer is not what people think. It is a pride in doing thing one's own way and not humbling oneself to God.------------------
Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal
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Ami Anne
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posted December 31, 2011 11:07 PM
Your struggle, in life, with be with the Lucifer path i.e the path of surrender.------------------
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 11:15 PM
Ami,There really is an asteroid named Lucifer?!? This is shocking! IP: Logged |
YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 11:18 PM
Coffee,You really dislike women, don't you? You slamming them like that doesn't exactly give rise to feelings of endearment. Life is already tough for us regular chaps. Let's please try to be be civil and just respect them as humans. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted December 31, 2011 11:20 PM
Yep Ian but it is NOT evil. It is Hubris. It is wanting to do things your own way and not bow your knee to God, just as in the Bible.------------------
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 31, 2011 11:27 PM
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Yep Ian but it is NOT evil. It is Hubris. It is wanting to do things your own way and not bow your knee to God, just as in the Bible.
But Ami, half of this fourm, with many being expert astrologers, do not even believe in the existence of God, never mind bowing at the knee in subservience to God. That is my number one issue with astrology. If you can firmly tell me that astrology serves the Glory of God, and all those who don't subscribe to the presence of God ar charlatans, it goes a long way to consoling me on that front. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted December 31, 2011 11:32 PM
Well, to me, Astrology serves God. Astrology is as wonderful as God is. God gives us everything to have an abundant life.He is pure Love. Why not the charts, which show our path but everything in the chart is subservient to Him.------------------
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posted December 31, 2011 11:34 PM
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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Coffee,You really dislike women, don't you? You slamming them like that doesn't exactly give rise to feelings of endearment. Life is already tough for us regular chaps. Let's please try to be be civil and just respect them as humans.
No, I love women, as human beings. I love men too, but not in that way. Is it that we're not allowed to criticise or give opinions about either sex? Seriously, you got a chip on your shoulder! Are we not allowed to criticise the things women can do? Carl is talking about the bad female traits that he encounters. I'm sure many men encounter the same, as well as the other qualities. Women will encounter problems too. Are we not allowed to say anything bad about women?
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