posted December 30, 2011 09:15 PM            

I am trying to train myself to be happy being single, to be fine with it. I won't lie, having someone to hold is soooo cool and beautiful sounding. But if I have to trudge through so much sh!t (AND I HAVE!), including the aforementioned stuff which just seems sooo frequent, just to find the nice, it seems like mission impossible. I have seen humans inabilitly to stick by those closest to them, such as moms and dads and sons and daughters time and again, FIRST HAND. The capacity for betrayal, defeat, giving up is too powerful for me to ever feel secure. I just do not think humans are capable of it. I have lost too many people to believe it. Failure to adhere to promises, betrayal, etc.

posted December 30, 2011 09:26 PM            

Do you want to be a lone wolf, or do you feel that this is your ultimate fate since you've been so disappointed in love? Doesn't matter either way, just curious.

Also, I would say that once you stop looking, you suddenly find what you've been looking for, etc... but that would be monotonous.

Happiness in life is a choice, when it comes down to it. That's been my life lesson. So if you want to be a lone wolf, simply... become the lone wolf.

posted December 30, 2011 09:47 PM            

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Originally posted by ElizabethO:
Hmm...

Do you want to be a lone wolf, or do you feel that this is your ultimate fate since you've been so disappointed in love? Doesn't matter either way, just curious.

Also, I would say that once you stop looking, you suddenly find what you've been looking for, etc... but that would be monotonous.

Happiness in life is a choice, when it comes down to it. That's been my life lesson. So if you want to be a lone wolf, simply... become the lone wolf.

Now for astrology. I would look at an active 1st house, Saturn, and perhaps an afflicted 7th house. Not sure about asteroids.

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This.

You aren't "fated" to be alone. I don't think anyone is. In the end you need to find what will bring YOU happiness. Not what you think you are 'supposed' to do.

posted December 30, 2011 09:59 PM            

i just feel it's not a decision, you just have to focus on the now, being the truest version of yourself...and the rest will eventually fall in it's right place

posted December 30, 2011 10:15 PM            

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Originally posted by carl:
Part of me wants to be because I feel it might be my fate. Like, these epic failures, sometimes coming from nowhere, are just indications that lone wolf life style might be what I need to do. They are just the reasons for it.

I have nothing in libra or 7th house what so ever.

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posted December 30, 2011 10:17 PM            

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be single. Once upon a time, I was that way too after incessant disappointments.

posted December 30, 2011 10:44 PM            

A lone wolf aspect put emphasis on the nodes which offer a look at what you are comfortable with (s. node) and where you should head to (n. node) in life. On the 1st and 7th axis in whole sign, like me.

A strong emphasis on Mars aspects to your ascendant can show someone who is, or not comfortable, with solitude.

posted December 30, 2011 11:03 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

I know three Chinese women who are ultra sweet, single, not materialistic, easy going, not brand conscious and have no ego, very educated and are very much looking for a sweet, gentle, loving Chinese bachelor, and in your age group as well.[/B]

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

I know three Chinese women who are ultra sweet, single, not materialistic, easy going, not brand conscious and have no ego, very educated and are very much looking for a sweet, gentle, loving Chinese bachelor, and in your age group as well.

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Originally posted by ElizabethO:
Plus, if you want, I have a lovely friend in NY who just turned single that you can meet.

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Originally posted by defeat:

the only lone wolf things i can think of would be saggitarius, aquarius, uranus (esp if in 7th house), venus in any of those signs, venus in 11th house, you get the idea.

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Originally posted by defeat:
maybe if you post your chart someone can comment on what they feel is the reason for your patterns. maybe it is your purpose, maybe something else?

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I am debating with myself, an internal struggle, as to weather lone wolf/hermit is a good idea. Externally, I am very sociable and can talk to people easily. I can even say for myself, I am socially skilled a lot of the time, but it does not always mirror my inner feelings at all, and how I just wanna run away from a social situation and be alone...I guess even I am an actor, what I sometimes despise.

posted December 30, 2011 11:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
Women can chase status, be fickle and play games because they are very insecure. They want something external to themselves to make them feel better, instead of looking within. They play games because they need an external reason as to why the guy they date is worthy and really likes them, as the female brain is a little dodgy to say the least. They are wired differently to men. That is a fact. They are made insecure by all these celebrities and society which tells them that they should be a certain thing and go a certain way in life. This will never change.

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The only game-playing I've experienced, has been from insecure men.

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A lone wolf aspect put emphasis on the nodes which offer a look at what you are comfortable with (s. node) and where you should head to (n. node) in life. On the 1st and 7th axis in whole sign, like me.

A strong emphasis on Mars aspects to your ascendant can show someone who is, or not comfortable, with solitude.

A third way is looking at transits involving house rulers 1 and 7. Bad aspects can show that this life is not about relationships.

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posted December 30, 2011 11:24 PM            

Best times for you to meet someone is the new moon in MAY and the full moon in November. Full moon in Taurus.

posted December 30, 2011 11:25 PM            

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Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal

posted December 30, 2011 11:27 PM            

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I posted my own thread like this the other night, carl. I have Saturn opposing Jupiter from the end of my 12th house to the beginning of my 7th house, and Uranus sextile Moon/Venus/South Node right now.

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Yep, men can be insecure. It's probably because they only wanted sex, yet couldn't communicate to you, so had to play games to make you not interested. If not your experience, maybe that could explain why we do that. Inability to communicate

posted December 30, 2011 11:58 PM            

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Put up a chart with your asteroids, Sweetie. I am feeling there is something with Neptune. You have it conjunct Venus, but not that close.
I will link the thread that shows the asteroids. I am feeling the thing is about betrayal, somehow. There may be an asteroid I am not familiar with in this, too. I have that sense, but we could start with the ones on the list.

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Thanks!

posted December 31, 2011 03:06 AM            

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My mom has been happily...SINGLE since, like, the mid 90s. 15+ years I would venture. She even has had oppurtunities, but I guess she is just far happier being single. Perhaps I need to learn a lesson (from her - after all, karmic lessons are often learned from family members and maybe we had past life connections, etc.)? I mean, I have had some unfair breakups, rough ones and even a devasting one. I have dealt with so many fickle women, especially as of late. I find character flaws in most women I date that I just can not stand - obsession with money and status, fickle behavior due to immaturity or desire to play games, lack of modesty, ego, judgemental. It seems no one is free of them but at least I try to be!

I am trying to train myself to be happy being single, to be fine with it. I won't lie, having someone to hold is soooo cool and beautiful sounding. But if I have to trudge through so much sh!t (AND I HAVE!), including the aforementioned stuff which just seems sooo frequent, just to find the nice, it seems like mission impossible. I have seen humans inabilitly to stick by those closest to them, such as moms and dads and sons and daughters time and again, FIRST HAND. The capacity for betrayal, defeat, giving up is too powerful for me to ever feel secure. I just do not think humans are capable of it. I have lost too many people to believe it. Failure to adhere to promises, betrayal, etc.

What are some lone wolf aspects? I want to go towards this.

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Yes Carl. You can choose your own path. Just because stars may say different, you must take decisions for your own. I did and I am fine also

posted December 31, 2011 03:19 AM            

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Part of me wants to be because I feel it might be my fate. Like, these epic failures, sometimes coming from nowhere, are just indications that lone wolf life style might be what I need to do. They are just the reasons for it.

I have nothing in libra or 7th house what so ever.

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I don't think you are destined to be a lone wolf. I think relationships are hard and I feel you. I do. I have told myself that if it doesn't work out with my husband which I think it will bc as hard as it is at times it seems we always get through it but if it doesn't a huge part of me wants to just be alone and not get involve in a relationship again and just keep it on friendship/lovers arrangement from there on.

Based on the description of women you are attracting it seems that perhaps moving to a new state might help. There are cities with more intellectual types and there you have a better shot of finding a deep artist intellectual type or something around those lines. I would be pickier and move to a location were I have better odds of bumping into the kind of chick/guy your soul seeks.

Also I would stop looking and this is were you desiring been a lone wolf is a good thing bc when you are looking in a non-detached manner you attract what your soul doesn't need. Energy/thoughts and detachment is the key to manifestation.

posted December 31, 2011 03:40 AM            

Hang in, there, Carl, I truly don't think there is anything wrong with you. **** happens. But you can change your circumstances if that's important for you. You can bring about your own happiness.

hugs,
Anongrl10

PS: You have a SN in late degree Scorpio. Have you read up on that? Check out this from http://north-node.com/astrology-tutorials/nodes:

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North Node in Taurus, South Node in Scorpio:
North Node in Taurus represents a need to get in touch with your own self-worth, your values & awareness of comfort zones, what feels good, what doesn’t, relying on your own talents and resourcefulness (Taurus). The South Node in Scorpio represents a longing for close bonding and mutual empowerment with another person. The old pattern is to attempt to do this by buying into another person’s system of values and priorities (Scorpio). Your longing for a fulfilling intimate relationship will only be satisfied when you focus on your own strength, your own values, your own priorities. When you do so, the right people will appear to support your goals.

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posted December 31, 2011 05:11 AM            

The main idea is that all the actions you've taken in your life, leads up to that one relationship that you were put on this planet for. Everything you do before then is preparation time for the main event.

posted December 31, 2011 06:07 AM            

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Personally, I don't think that being single means that you are a failure or anything. I don't believe in past lives, but if I did, I would NEVER say that being single = punishment.

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I've tried to say the same thing to others ( i dont believe in past lives or karma anymore either) , and they wanted none of it.