posted December 31, 2011 11:44 PM            

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posted January 01, 2012 12:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
And knows what he's talking about. About women too

These types of women that Carl talks about are insecure - that's why they play games. Anyone care to disagree with me?

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Perhaps you were referring to some women but you expressed it in a way that sounded like you felt all women were like this and don't get me wrong I completely agree that there a lot of women like what you described but I think there are a lot who are not like that too.

just a misunderstanding and communication breakdown which is bound to happen often in cyber space as it happens often in person as well.

posted January 01, 2012 12:23 AM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
No, I love women, as human beings. I love men too, but not in that way. Is it that we're not allowed to criticise or give opinions about either sex? Seriously, you got a chip on your shoulder! Are we not allowed to criticise the things women can do?

Carl is talking about the bad female traits that he encounters. I'm sure many men encounter the same, as well as the other qualities. Women will encounter problems too.

Are we not allowed to say anything bad about women?

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NOT ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME....I have defects and the defects I have other women don't have and defects that other women have I don't have..........defects vary from person to person.

posted January 01, 2012 12:25 AM            

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Originally posted by carl:
Thanks for all the input guys and girls.

I went on a date earlier today, the girl seemed to be pretty cool. Figure I will relax at home to close out the new year however, rather than venture out into downtown DC.

What I do not get is, on many of the dates I have been on, the girls always either a. complain about how hard it is to make friends in DC or b. Agree when I say it myself. But then, poof, they disappear after one date!

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posted January 01, 2012 12:29 AM            

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Perhaps you were referring to some women but you expressed it in a way that sounded like you felt all women were like this and don't get me wrong I completely agree that there a lot of women like what you described but I think there are a lot who are not like that too.

just a misunderstanding and communication breakdown which is bound to happen often in cyber space as it happens often in person as well.

Happy New year!

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Definitely not talking about all women. But there you have it in a nutshell - women and men don't always communicate with each other well enough.

posted January 01, 2012 12:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Ami Anne:
Your struggle, in life, with be with the Lucifer path i.e the path of surrender.

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posted January 01, 2012 12:57 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
Carl,

I'm going to say this in the fullest of respect and the best of intentions. I know this is just a forum to vent and I don't really know your real persona and character. However, you've got to project expansiveness, optimism and general hope and the promise of happiness. I know it sounds kind of fake when you feel down, but you've really got to try.

When a girl says its tough to meet good people and it's hard to find good dates, your answer has got to be "you're on a date with me, I'm a great guy and I'll show you the happiness you deserve.". It cannot be "yeah I know. All these substandard ladies I've gone out with suck. I feel really down.". These girls would take to you so much more if you project joy and hope.

And please don't go on a rant about anything negative at all on a date. You wouldn't do that on a job interview, so never smack talk anybody from your past. Just show immense affection and pride yourself in being able to tune into the emotions of your date. "yeah, she was nice, but nowhere as sweet as you are. I'm just so happy to be out with you today and I'm having such a fun time."

Girls are regular people. They get upset and depressed too. They just want to be around upbeat, confident guys. A tiny bit of ego is enough to show that you are self assured and can hold your own ground.

I really didn't mean to lecture, but you seem depressed and perhaps my mind is wrong, but I get the vibe of sadness. That is exactly what girls don't want, even for good guys. They go on dates to be happy. Not talk about how sucky life is.

I remember how sucky it was with my girlfriend in college cos I was so broke. We would buy a slice of pizza for dinner because that was all the money we had. Even then, we would go somewhere romantic, cut the slice of pizza up and feed each other, laughing like we were having a blast. That's all that most good girls are asking for. Love. Warmth. Care. Understanding. Happy times.

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Now I know how you got your wife to marry you! .

Thanks for understanding women!

posted January 01, 2012 01:03 AM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
Definitely not talking about all women. But there you have it in a nutshell - women and men don't always communicate with each other well enough.

I like the idea of 3rd house being the male brain, while the 9th house is the female brain. Both are opposite each other, so have their differences, but when used together, you get completion. Sure there is some real time psychology about that to research. Very similar brains, but also different enough.

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I Like your theory and how you put! our communication is already improving!

posted January 01, 2012 01:03 AM            

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Perhaps you were referring to some women but you expressed it in a way that sounded like you felt all women were like this and don't get me wrong I completely agree that there a lot of women like what you described but I think there are a lot who are not like that too.

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Yep.

I thought I was your bud, too, Ami. I wasn't picking on Coffee, I was just kidding; my feathers got ruffled before. He did pick on someone the other night, though.

posted January 01, 2012 01:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Coffee:
And knows what he's talking about. About women too

These types of women that Carl talks about are insecure - that's why they play games. Anyone care to disagree with me?

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Some women. And the same goes for men, when they're so insecure that they need to mess women around (or they have no soul - take your pick).

posted January 01, 2012 02:09 AM            

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Originally posted by ElizabethO:
Any amount of distance and time is worth being with the One you love.

From looking at your chart, you do have a lot of 4th quadrant action going on.
http://www.drstandley.com/astrologycharts_quadrants.shtml#quadrant4
So perhaps, in this lifetime, you are meant to focus you efforts more on how you can contribute to humanity rather than a personal relationship. I still think you'll find the One someday. Some men don't find their soulmate until they're in their 40s! Just hang in there, or not. Whatever makes you happy.

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@Carl: I do have a lot of 4th quadrant action going on with me also. I experienced what you are describing. Betrayals from family, friends, and the opposite sex. Although I do have a male who adores me, I'm single as I'm trying to figure out myself, my wants, and getting clarity about what I need and desire. I'm not sure if you are into numerology, but I do practice Chaldean numerology. I had noticed in my life how I was always starting over and not seeming to get ahead, lots of betrayals and setbacks and noticed that my name equal a certain unfortunate number. My mother had arbitrarily changed my name when I was young (complicated--refugee camp, war). When I felt it was the right time, I changed my name to something that was closest to my original name in meaning and vibration...a more fortunate influence. Life seems to be more on the uptake...like I'm making progress instead of having to start over every time. Another thing I also look at is Feng Shui or Vastu. How is the energy of the place you are living? Is it clean and organized? Is there blockage such as trash or mess in the love area? An inside water fountain in the area you want to improve may help with the stagnant energy in regard to love or whatever it is you are wanting improvement on.

I'm also utilizing something I read from Jan Spiller "New Moon Astrology" whereby you make 10 wishes of what you want during the new moon. The book is quite insightful. Sometimes things work instantaneously after the wish and sometimes it needs momentum and time for certain wishes to come true. It is all about alignment and whether the wish is in the best interest of all.

posted January 01, 2012 04:03 PM            

tried to edit out all the pisces-aries 5th-6th coz we're different risings so i hope it somehwat makes sense still.

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okay, so the 5th house covers the ages of 24 to 30 and it spans what Huber calls the Experience and Testing Phase. The low point is in between 27 and 28 and is where people experience (again Huber’s words) Existential Upsets and Love Crisis. It doesn’t have to be that fatal, but at the same time it can be.

The good news is, after the low point, there is an up swing towards the cusp.

instead of questioning existence, you’ll be fighting for it (in a good way) and being self assertive. on your way to this point, you’ll also reach maximum physical performance (28-30) and have (in general) a more positive flow of energy.

while the 5th house was much about learning, playing and experience, the 6th house can be more challenging as we must learn to accept the facts we have learned about selves over the course of our lives. we can no longer ignore things or be in denial. we must find our form and ASSERT ourselves or fall victim to our own limitations.

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posted January 01, 2012 04:38 PM            

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I am stubborn.

In what ways would this aspect dictate I surrender (without NOT having a backbone, know what I mean).

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posted January 01, 2012 05:38 PM            

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I've tried to say the same thing to others ( i dont believe in past lives or karma anymore either) , and they wanted none of it.

anyway...thank you.

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posted January 01, 2012 06:19 PM            

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Now I know how you got your wife to marry you! .

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Amelia,

Thank you, but it all boils down to common sense. Just think of how you like to be treated, and just treat others the same way.

Of course, the rare minority of guys would call me effeminate for being in tune with female emotions, etc. or a traitor etc. whatever.

posted January 01, 2012 10:28 PM            

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Well Lucifer is about surrendering to God, only, not being more humble with men. So, it is about realizing your place as a man and God's place as the Supreme Being. It is a pride of man trying to make it without God, to put it in a word

Thanks, putting it that way, it makes perfect sense.

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posted January 01, 2012 11:11 PM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:

you've got to project expansiveness, optimism and general hope and the promise of happiness. I know it sounds kind of fake when you feel down, but you've really got to try.

When a girl says its tough to meet good people and it's hard to find good dates, your answer has got to be "you're on a date with me, I'm a great guy and I'll show you the happiness you deserve.". It cannot be "yeah I know. All these substandard ladies I've gone out with suck. I feel really down.". These girls would take to you so much more if you project joy and hope.

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My dear Carl, I totally agree with Ian here.. He's really good at this. Never complain on a date. First impression counts. Treat it like an interview that gives you the opportunity to see the other person another time and another time until it is safe to let your guard down for something deeper and more meaningful. Meanwhile, first impression counts before anything. First dates doesn't mean marriage nor long term relationship.

I will know... cos I always remember how lousy some guys make me feel on the first date.. If they complain, I'll be thinking, "Do you want me to save you from your life?" - not exactly the "Prince Charming" ambience. If they complain about ex-gf or girls in general (especially girls being materialistic, I'll be thinking, "Damn, will you complain about me in the future? Am I suppose to be the different one to prove you wrong?" - I have dates with guys who just passed me their name cards with fanciful titles thinking that is the entry pass to dating me. I dumped them after 1st date. Always believe that there is someone out there that is different, special, unique. I found that someone special too, not giving up looking.

If they complain about work...." Sigh. Stick with something positive, engaging, and always talk about THEIR lives/family rather than yours so that you are excused from talking about yourself and appears seemingly more concern and appear interested in theirs. Take pressure off you too and gives you the control on the date. My mentality when I go on dates: "I choose; not the other way round. " In order to choose, one must have the belief I am good enough to choose.

posted January 01, 2012 11:47 PM            

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Perhaps lilithpluto can run some Ba Zi for you! Check out your peach blossom stars.

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Ohmigod!! I'm mentioned here. Thankx Ian!

*Clearing throat* I believe in Bazi, there is a time for everything. The thing is, to utilize the time when you are most attractive to the opposite sex. Otherwise, buried yourself in whatever activities that will reap you the most results if love is not in the cards.

Wait, let me go look through the posts to see if you have posted your DOB and time.

posted January 02, 2012 01:03 AM            

You have two peach blossom but no peach blossom stars (Not everyone can have all the luck... I only have one peach blossom and no peach blossom star). But no worries, come aged 30 to 40 luck pillar should be better for relationship, may get married. However, you have a clash between your spouse palace and your month pillar.. internal debates and questioning by you may in fact be a self fulfilling phophecy which is not gonna help in relationships and marriage. I see the same clash in a friend who married but was pepetually unhappy with his marriage - he choose that path. Not everyone has a good marriage/relationship chart where relationship comes easily to them; ppl like me, for example, with not so fantastic relationship charts have to make greater efforts than the average and not to take things for granted... acknowledge that good loves are not a guarantee.

You have 3 "Friend Star" in your HS - you will appear to be one who feels inferior, lack self-worth and has poor EQ skills but this is not rooted - so this is only a "surface" - you need to stop protraying that 1st impression to others, to wanna receive sympathy fr girls is not the best route to their hearts - You appear to treat friends better, than to treat a girlfriend well... which itself is not good. Avoid being penny wise pound foolish. Focus on the good attributes of "Friend Star" which is positive self worth and self assurance which should come naturally to you come 30-39 luck pillar.
By then your career luck should improve too. You have the potential for good negotiation skills and business acumen. You do have an eye for opportunities.

You are a person who does not protray what you are deep within. A person who is mere acquitance will know not what you are about.

Between the age of 20-29, there is a destruction Chou-Chen in your spouse palace. 2009 (harm + destruction), you feel betrayed and emotionally tormenting.. 2011 (destruction) is probably not a good year for you... Trust that at the end of the turnnel, there is a dark cloud with silver lining.

Just curious, have you had your gf "stolen away" before by a friend?

posted January 02, 2012 03:08 AM            

You complain about work or be sad on a date? Don't worry about it. If you pay attention to these 'rules' that people tell you, you will pass the first date. Well maybe. But you will get dumped after a few more dates when the REAL you comes shining through. If you treat it like an interview, you will get nervous and not (cough) perform for the lady in question.

So, some (more) advice. Forget about impressing the woman and concentrate on how she can impress you. Act your normal self. If she doesn't like your normal self, find someone who does.

These people are telling you to hide your personality. They may tell you that they are trying to bring the best qualities of your personality. They are telling you not to be you, as you are. Instead of impressing the woman, make her impress you!

posted January 02, 2012 03:33 AM            

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You complain about work or be sad on a date? Don't worry about it. If you pay attention to these 'rules' that people tell you, you will pass the first date. Well maybe. But you will get dumped after a few more dates when the REAL you comes shining through. If you treat it like an interview, you will get nervous and not (cough) perform for the lady in question.

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Dear Coffee.. I wasn't trying to mold Carl. In fact, I am emphasising that not to take first dates too seriously. It is not a step to long term relationship/marriage. One can be positively sincere without burning the bridge to better relationships. It is taking first few dates too seriously that spoils the potential of relationship. They are not rules to dating. Its just sharing from my experience. I apologize if you feel that there are better ways fr your personal experience. I treat friends the same - business and personal. If you have met girls who willingly hear you whine about life, work and girls and how life is dragging you down, boss killing me, Armageddon coming dec2012 w/o the technical aspects of mayan calandar, who because of such view, did fall hopelessly in love with you, do share your stories.

Nope, it ain't sacarism. I am open to theories and stories. I fell hopelessly in love with that guy who prove me wrong in something I believe in, supporting with valid reasonings.

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So, some (more) advice. Forget about impressing the woman and concentrate on how she can impress you. Act your normal self. If she doesn't like your normal self, find someone who does.

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