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posted February 10, 2012 05:19 AM            

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A girl to girl suggestion/advice/thought/my_2_cents, Hera, just beware of falling for him when he only wants a fling. It sounds like that's where it's going. (Hope I'm wrong. Didn't he say that he "isn't looking for a relationship"?)

Do enjoy your Sat date however (just don't let him play you)!

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posted February 12, 2012 12:35 AM            

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O...M...G...!

Sorry, that's my headache talking. Just got home from my date, it's sunday morning and I am hungover lol. I think back and I start to giggle.

Okay, so what happened? After so much flirting and heavy texting, I thought to myself, something's gotta give, one way or another. So, thanks to a couple of glasses of red wine, I opened the discussion. Okay, he doesn't want just a fling. The not having time for a relationship thing is true, but I took it the wrong way. I took it as rejection and not offending my feelings and was very p!ssed off because of that (I can manage my own feelings thank you very much), when in fact it was something else. So alright, we sorted it out. Anon wins, I guess I should have approached him differently, because he got defensive on me, thought I was accusing him of something he didn't do. Me on the other hand, well... you know what I thought. Thing is the truth had nothing to do with what either of us thought and him behaving like this had a lot to do with what the third party told him, but now everything is sorted out. And he told me he likes me... a lot . Like being on his mind the whole time he was in the hospital (me on vacation lol), even though he barely saw me (or so I thought) but said my eyes were all that he thought about... lol. That is so sweet and to be honest he had me at that, the rest was a bonus.
So he didn't act like that because he didn't like me that way, now I am sure he does, but I'm always the insecure one lol. From what he has told me, it was some sort of self-defense, because he thought I was coming too strongly and accusing him of something, so he said what he said.
Anyway, to make a long night short, we went to his place, I don't remember all the details lol, but it was very nice (no, he's a Virgo Mars and I have Virgo on my 8th, *THAT* didn't happen... yet ), but I can't stop giggling and I am happy. Not sure where this is going, but I am happy today. We're both busy people, I was actually joking he picked the wrong person to give the "not having time for a relationship" excuse to lol, so we're gonna see each other mostly on week-ends, as it seems. But hehe.. who knows, many things can change. For now let me giggle a little bit more and I'll worry about the rest later.

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posted February 12, 2012 12:41 AM            

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i knew a guy who was a double virgo,sun and ascendant,i dont remember his mars though,but he definitely took time to make a move on a woman,he would visit my friends mom for months and never make a move or admit he had feelings,but me and my friend knew he did,because he always did thoughtful things for her,he was just too shy to admit it,and by the time he did it was too late,she had already found another man

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posted February 12, 2012 12:48 AM            

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Awww... I'm sorry about your friend, Aquaguy! But maybe he should learn it is ok to let someone know you have feelings for them, it really is.
Yeah, I think a lot of his behaviour can be explained by his shyness and him being such an introvert, but also by something else.

Anon, you were also right about him holding me in high esteem. He said he still sort of saw himself as the patient and me the doctor, so he had to act a bit more distant, like he couldn't dare make a move on me, though he wanted to. So the dr-patient thing really was sort of a problem, but after I told him ethically we're free to do whatever, he got more relaxed. He did win a lot of points with me for that hehe.

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posted February 12, 2012 01:11 AM            

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Awww... I'm sorry about your friend, Aquaguy! But maybe he should learn it is ok to let someone know you have feelings for them, it really is.
Yeah, I think a lot of his behaviour can be explained by his shyness and him being such an introvert, but also by something else.

Anon, you were also right about him holding me in high esteem. He said he still sort of saw himself as the patient and me the doctor, so he had to act a bit more distant, like he couldn't dare make a move on me, though he wanted to. So the dr-patient thing really was sort of a problem, but after I told him ethically we're free to do whatever, he got more relaxed. He did win a lot of points with me for that hehe.

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i also agree with anon, it probably is the fact that you are a doctor and it intimidates him,i know it would bother,i dont know i guess its just a weird thing that can kinda bothers guys,i know its silly haha

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posted February 12, 2012 01:12 AM            

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Awww... I'm sorry about your friend, Aquaguy! But maybe he should learn it is ok to let someone know you have feelings for them, it really is.
Yeah, I think a lot of his behaviour can be explained by his shyness and him being such an introvert, but also by something else.

Anon, you were also right about him holding me in high esteem. He said he still sort of saw himself as the patient and me the doctor, so he had to act a bit more distant, like he couldn't dare make a move on me, though he wanted to. So the dr-patient thing really was sort of a problem, but after I told him ethically we're free to do whatever, he got more relaxed. He did win a lot of points with me for that hehe.

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posted February 12, 2012 01:15 AM            

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i also agree with anon, it probably is the fact that you are a doctor and it intimidates him,i know it would bother,i dont know i guess its just a weird thing that can kinda bothers guys,i know its silly haha

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It's not silly, but I didn't know to what extent it would bother him. He said he was raised to think it's a noble profession and I guess because of that he put me on an unreacheable pedestal. But I managed to get myself off it. :P

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posted February 12, 2012 01:18 AM            

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Oh... I remembered something. He said he likes how I smell . That's super big, isn't it? lol

Ohhhh my head hurts. All that wine lol. But totally worth it hahaha. Off to refresh myself. Hugs to everyone!

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posted February 12, 2012 01:21 AM            

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Oh... I remembered something. He said he likes how I smell . That's super big, isn't it? lol

Ohhhh my head hurts. All that wine lol. But totally worth it hahaha. Off to refresh myself. Hugs to everyone!

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haha im a taurus moon,and i have been attracted to a woman because of how she smelled,i guess its true,we are sensual XD

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posted February 12, 2012 01:22 AM            

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Oh... I remembered something. He said he likes how I smell . That's super big, isn't it? lol

Ohhhh my head hurts. All that wine lol. But totally worth it hahaha. Off to refresh myself. Hugs to everyone!

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haha im a taurus moon,and i have been attracted to a woman because of how she smelled,i guess its true,we are sensual XD

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posted February 12, 2012 06:08 AM            

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haha im a taurus moon,and i have been attracted to a woman because of how she smelled,i guess its true,we are sensual XD

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Hahaha, Taurus Venus here! Yup, anything Taurus is soooo sensual indeed. It is good that we have similar tastes, both with a preference for woody fragrances. I find the smell of wood extremely sensual and rich hehe.

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posted February 12, 2012 06:26 AM            

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Nice to hear you guys talked and resolved things. Enjoy it! You certainly deserve it.

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posted February 12, 2012 07:09 AM            

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Oh,new progress! Cool

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posted February 12, 2012 07:30 AM            

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Thank you!

Well, my headache is a bit better, but still hurts like a hammer on my skull. Normally I don't drink but I figured if anything was gonna happen between us, it can't happen while we're both sober lol. I can't remember what I've done with my earrings. I remember taking them off and putting them somewhere... but where?! Also, as time goes by, some details come back to me and looooooooooool I can't believe I said/done that lol. Alcohol really brings the devil in me out. And thank the Lord, once things got out of the bag, he wasn't so shy anymore either.

I think I may start to like Virgo Marses.

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posted February 12, 2012 07:38 AM            

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The third party told him he better not f*ck it up with me lol. She told me something similar about him too. I guess that added to the pressure he felt he was under, like not only did he have to answer to me, but to this other person as well. He felt intimidated and sort of overwhelmed. And that talk, even though in the end was productive, rubbed him the wrong way. He said he was really annoyed with me during that phone call, I think it was mostly in his head because I wasn't that aggressive. I can be, but I wasn't. Just wanted to set the matter clear. So his reaction was to get defensive. *sigh* This part about Virgos I don't like. Ain't it better to put the cards on the table and deal with them head on? But then again I'm an Aries so it comes naturally to me, I guess. Oh well...

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posted February 12, 2012 07:41 AM            

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The third party told him he better not f*ck it up with me lol. She told me something similar about him too. I guess that added to the pressure he felt he was under, like not only did he have to answer to me, but to this other person as well. He felt intimidated and sort of overwhelmed. And that talk, even though in the end was productive, rubbed him the wrong way. He said he was really annoyed with me during that phone call, I think it was mostly in his head because I wasn't that aggressive. I can be, but I wasn't. Just wanted to set the matter clear. So his reaction was to get defensive. *sigh* This part about Virgos I don't like. Ain't it better to put the cards on the table and deal with them head on? But then again I'm an Aries so it comes naturally to me, I guess. Oh well...

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What an idiot third party. Hope the Aries in you rips that third party a new one.

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posted February 12, 2012 07:49 AM            

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Sigh... No, not an idiot. Her heart was in the right place, but she used the wrong words I suppose. I am grateful to her that she facilitated this and now that everything is good, the bad is forgiven.

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posted February 12, 2012 09:38 AM            

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Ooh Taurus Venus are so warm, sensual and comfy. I like that. I think all you need to do at this point is smile smile smileee big. And listen to him talk intently and just be relaxed. Since he has libra and leo and virgo, he'll want sb who has eyes for him and actually pays attention. And virgo placements makes sb want 'a honest' type of connection.

Don't make the move, just smile and laugh and talk and give him little slaps and touch his arm. But don't like kiss him. Wait for him to come to you.

I can see this guy being really romantic thoughtful and loving.

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I've been rereading this thread from the beginning lol and reminded what you told me. Well, honestly, that is exactly how I acted last night. I was very relaxed even though I thought I was heading for another rejection, then boom, he tells me he fell for me on first sight lol. My eyes were locked on him and I listened to everything he said very carefully while I smiled. I could tell something was going to happen because he was leaning in his chair towards me and touching my knee (I was very relaxed back in my chair, legs crossed, sipping my wine, watching him curl looool). After a while and a few glasses later, I was also leaning towards him and he took my hand in his. Yes, very romantic. Kiss was nice, a little bit done in a hurry, I think, which made me wonder how carefully he planned it lol. Maybe its because of the alcohol, but honestly doubt this would have happened if either one of us was sober lol. Then he asked me to go to his place looool and it seemed like the most natural thing in the world, even though I am so not that kind of girl. So I hear myself saying yes lol... OMG... He behaved lol and so did I, though I do now kind of understand what the whole deal about Virgo Mars is all about and have to say I am pleased. Definitely don't think he's the boring type, quite agile (gotta be more careful coz he took me off-guard) and yup, inventive. Me likey.

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posted February 12, 2012 09:40 AM            

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I'm glad for you Hera. Good luck.

I am a Libra sun, Virgo moon, Capricon mars guy and I am attarcted to this Leo woman who has Mars in Virgo and probably Venus too.
We have a conjunction mars-moon. I think that's the reason I am so so so so attracted to her sexually.
I had this once before, it seems like women who conjunct my virgo moon in 7th house turn me on like no one else xD

I think she likes me or she feels flattered by my attention but nothing more. She's cool while I keep staring at her like an idiot.

One think I observed is that she likes me to be touchy feely with her and tace care of her.
She has asked me to cook for her, massage her, smell her.. lol what the hell? You think it's the virgo influence?
I wonder if she can feel the chemistry too, it's so intense. I just look at her and she reminds me of SEX. She 's also kinky. I know

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posted February 12, 2012 09:48 AM            

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Thank you Lunatic! Good luck to you too!

Moon-Mars connections are so hot! We have the trine and def feel it.

Don't know what to say, I'm not an expert on Virgo Marses lol, this guy confused the hell out of me for about 2 weeks too. But I think as women things are a bit different. Because Mars shows what she wants in a man and obviously how she behaves sexually, as does for everyone. My Mars is in Aries and that's def the typology I want (strong confident manly etc), so if I may say something here is that acting more earthy-like/Virgo like will probably turn her on your side. I think with a Moon-Mars conjunction it's quite unlikely that she doesn't feel it but I think, at least from the experience I had, Virgo Marses like to play the field a bit to get to know you and test you a little.

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posted February 12, 2012 09:58 AM            

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Thank you Lunatic! Good luck to you too!

Moon-Mars connections are so hot! We have the trine and def feel it.

Don't know what to say, I'm not an expert on Virgo Marses lol, this guy confused the hell out of me for about 2 weeks too. But I think as women things are a bit different. Because Mars shows what she wants in a man and obviously how she behaves sexually, as does for everyone. My Mars is in Aries and that's def the typology I want (strong confident manly etc), so if I may say something here is that acting more earthy-like/Virgo like will probably turn her on your side. I think with a Moon-Mars conjunction it's quite unlikely that she doesn't feel it but I think, at least from the experience I had, Virgo Marses like to play the field a bit to get to know you and test you a little.

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I think I know the truth deep inside, she is interested but not that excited like I am. I haven't expressed myself though yet, I am an introvert and it's difficult to fall with me. She's an attention seeker, true leo.

For your information, my girl with mars in virgo is into BDSM. Haha

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posted February 12, 2012 10:09 AM            

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So, Hera you are an Aries and he's a Libra.
That's like me and the Love of my life. Loooove Aries girls.

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posted February 12, 2012 10:10 AM            

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LOL! No worries, I have Mars opp Pluto exactly. I can take it hahahaha!

Well not sure what to say from what you wrote. I think the chemistry is def there and perhaps her wanting you to do stuff for her it's like a subtle hint she wants you to become more like her ideal (Virgo Mars). But yeah, being a Leo confuses things a bit, coz they're usually straightforward like us Aries.

Oh, Cap Mars, say no more! The men that gave me the biggest headaches (and pleasures) have had this. But honestly, you're also types who make women wait, I sooo not likey. Yes, teasing works for a while but don't push it lol. You'll eventually need to man up to her and show her how you feel, if you think this has potential.

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So... what happens now? I mean, I just came back from a date with him and had such a weird feeling. I mean, I don't know, conversations so far have been extremely fun, sharp and exciting, now there are moments of silence between us. There's this awkwardness between us that really bugs me. I know I am partially responsible for it because I was a bit aloof at the date, but I was thinking, you know, with the clarity the hangover brings, what the hell am I doing, is this even right for me, am I getting myself into yet another emotional mess that I am only going to regret later?

Because I got the feeling that last night he was hoping/expecting that we have sex. And whoa... that was... wtf?! He waited 2 years to ask me out, 5 dates to kiss me and expects to get laid the first time we make out lol. Seriously wtf? Is this where the Virgo Mars's kinkiness comes into play? Is this normal for a Virgo Mars? I swear to God this totally knocked me out! So I sort of told him it's not quite my style, sorry. He said alright, no problem. But I sort of remained distant for the rest of the evening and lost in my thoughts. He's very difficult for me to figure out..

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