posted September 07, 2012 02:48 PM            

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Originally posted by CosmicKarma360:
Ummm..... I don't know how much more tolerant I can be of your particular lifestyle choice when I have said over and over, "Go. Enjoy yourself. If it works for you, then fine." Obviously, with the way you keep baiting and badgering me, you care plenty a "you-know-what" it is that I think. Otherwise, you would not be pestering me like this. Really, if you're happy, then once again, fine. Go be happy. Also, you don't have to keep harping that you're so very happy. We all got that already. I'm not trying to change your mind in the least. One more time: Go. It works for you. Fine.

Now, can you please leave me alone?

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posted September 07, 2012 03:07 PM            

Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon
10 year gap, together for 5 years

Beyonce and Jay-Z
12 year gap, together for 12 years

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt
12 year gap, together for 8 years

Megan Fox and Brian Austin Green
13 year gap, together for 7 years

Georgia Moffett and David Tennant
13 year gap, over 2 years

Hugh Jackman and Deborra Lee-Furness
13 year gap, together for 15 years

Jim Belushi and Jennifer Sloan
13 year gap, together for 18 years

Matthew McConaughey & Camila Alves
14 year gap, together for 6 years

Michael Caine and Shakira Caine
14 year gap, together 40 years

David Brenner and Tai Babilonia
15 year gap, together over 20 years

Kevin Kline and Pheobe Cates
16 year gap, together for 23 years

Ric Ocasek and Paulina Porizkova
16 year gap, together for 25 years

Jean Todt and Michelle Yeoh
17 year gap, together for 7 years (not married)

David Schwimmer & Zoe Buckman
19 year gap, together for 5 years

Nicolas Cage & Alice Kim
20 year gap, together for 11 years

Warren Beatty & Annette Bening
21 year gap, together for 22 years

Harrison Ford & Calista Flockhart
22 year gap, together for 10 years

Kathie Lee Gifford and Frank Gifford
23 year gap, together for 26 years

Sylvester Stallone & Jennifer Flavin
23 year gap, together for 14 years

Sam Taylor-Wood & Aaron Johnson
24 year gap, together for 4 years

Malcolm McDowell and Kelley Kuhr
24 year gap, together over 20 years

Catherine Zeta-Jones & Michael Douglas
25 year gap, together for 12 years

Celine Dion and Renee
26 year gap, together for 17 years

Rod Stewart and Penny Lancaster
26 year gap, together for 8 years

Woody Allen and Soon yi
34 year gap, together for 15 years

Clint Eastwood And Dina Ruiz
36 year gap, together for 15 years

posted September 07, 2012 05:08 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Am I allowed to post on LL without being bad mouthed by someone with bad grammar? Is it so hard to abstain and ignore? Ego issues? Are you entitled to look down upon me and label me in front of the whole community?

Do you bloody realise your comments about my humble person are idiotic? Derogatory and making me sound like an object of study.

You are truly sickening. You sound like a guy with 4 inches, whatever the real state of affairs is

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"projection bias" again, since - that's exactly what you're doing in some of your posts,...by labeling some people/behaviors as "losers (among other things)" - just cause they don't fit your perspective and then, you except the rest - to simply "accept such insults - without saying a word"... sorry my dear... but - nobody likes "Mean Girls" - not even other mean girls... at least not publicly.

So, in answer to your question:

1 - maybe my grammar isn't perfect - but so far, you seem to be the only one complaining about it

2 - I'm not the kind that ignores "such acts" and i see this as a big problem in our world - I'm against bullying and i treat bullies with same coin: what goes around comes around...

3 - as said above "projection bias" - cause the ego issue seems to be your biggest problem - and not cause you have this issues - since "everybody has ego issues (me included - and not ashamed to admit it)" - but because you ignore this about yourself... and you self-project this issues on others...

4 - already answered this at point 2 - some say that it's related to: "Sun conjunct Mars/House 12"

Have a nice day!

posted September 07, 2012 05:31 PM            

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Originally posted by 7thGuardian:

"projection bias" again, since - that's exactly what you're doing in some of your posts,...by labeling some people/behaviors as "losers (among other things)" - just cause they don't fit your perspective and then, you except the rest - to simply "accept such insults - without saying a word"... sorry my dear... but - nobody likes "Mean Girls" - not even other mean girls... at least not publicly.

So, in answer to your question:

1 - maybe my grammar isn't perfect - but so far, you seem to be the only one complaining about it

2 - I'm not the kind that ignores "such acts" and i see this as a big problem in our world - I'm against bullying and i treat bullies with same coin: what goes around comes around...

3 - as said above "projection bias" - cause the ego issue seems to be your biggest problem - and not cause you have this issues - since "everybody has ego issues (me included - and not ashamed to admit it)" - but because you ignore this about yourself... and you self-project this issues on others...

4 - already answered this at point 2 - some say that it's related to: "Sun conjunct Mars/House 12"

Have a nice day!

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so you're entitled to do justice around here? perhaps you should make your own forum then and lay down any ridiculous rules you please.

if you quote me, do so without distorting my words. i said i am afraid of coming across as a loser, that's all. i didn't call anybody a loser. and i didn't say anyone was a loser for doing what they do.

answer this question: who are you to call me "she" and to talk about me as if i were an animal?

and give up your amateur psychoanalysis already, because you are miles away from reality. you are not to know what i am and what my substance is. there is no self-projection or whatever you call it.

you are a nobody to do any finger-pointing and pretending you are superior to others. and if you read the thread you would notice that my opinions are not exclusively mine and are expressed with recourse to a similar lexical field.

and your behaviour is seriously only fit for 4inches. anyone who has more would ignore stupid girls or girls they find stupid.

don't you realise how silly it is? bad-mouthing a person who never said anything bad about yourself? don't you realise how silly it is to deliver tons of WRONG ASSUMPTIONS NO ONE CARES ABOUT? what do you want? do you want me out of here? i have lived with a flatmate who never cared to neutralise the smell of her feces in the loo. surely putting up with you will not be such a massive problem

and oh i saw your photo in some thread and i do not believe you to be a person capable of hurting my ego [or a person whose view on me can make me care two hoots]. it would take julian casablancas perhaps but not you. reconcile yourself. whatever you're trying to do cannot do me any harm or teach me any lesson. i am so out of your league. and i am not a typical capricorn and i can do self-work and i loathe saturn and YOU have no evidence of the contrary.

posted September 07, 2012 05:36 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
and oh i saw your photo in some thread and i do not believe you to be a person capable of hurting my ego [or a person whose view on me can make me care two hoots]. it would take julian casablancas perhaps but not you. reconcile yourself.

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That's Not cool.

posted September 07, 2012 05:51 PM            

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Originally posted by CosmicKarma360:
Is dating someone outside your age group a Venus sq. Saturn thing? I have it, but after dating *one* older guy, I never, EVER went back again. Quite frankly, after that experience, I found much older men to be icky. I got a kick out of it when I was much younger to snub those old farts when they would come on to me.

Personally, I don't think it's really fair to dump on older women like that. I'll tell you right now, I'm 48, and yes, men my own age are NOT attracted to me in the least. They look past me *all* the time, even though I am in great shape, and get told I look younger than my age all the time. Once they find out my age, they want nothing to do with me. I'm not the least bit upset, though. Because I don't want a 30 year old guy trapped in a 50 year old body. To be honest, I find that guys who tend to go for much younger women to simply be very immature. It's pathetic to be in your 50's, trying to chase 30 year olds. The guy looks silly. That really has nothing to do with a bitter attitude. Although yes, there are definitely older women who have way, WAY bad attitudes. They do let themselves go, too.

Everyone likes to blame the older woman, but truly, I see an older guy with a much younger girl, and I do get physically grossed out. I'm not jealous at all, it just looks so pervy to me. Now, this is *only* my own personal theory, and holds NO scientific weight of any kind, but I do wonder if it isn't some deep evolutionary thing at work. I mean, who wants to see old, dirty sperm with young, fertile eggs? It's a threat to the species for an old man to be with a young girl. You want to see a young, virile guy with a healthy, young girl. Heck, even in porn, sex with older people is considered "fetish porn". Sorry if I'm losing most of you, and grossing everyone out. Hey, it's only an *idea* I've wondered about, and could very well not know what it is I'm saying.

Anyway, you're probably right, and so much of it depends on the individuals involved. It's just that for awhile now, I've seen so many young girls get their hearts absolutely crushed by being with much older men. It's just sad to see that pattern over and over again.

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Hi CosmicKarma, they say ALLEGEDLY it is a venus sq saturn thing, but apparently this sh*t doesn't hold true.

And thank you so much for voicing this ethical conflict re: older man - younger woman couples. I am talking from my own perspective. I once nearly got involved with someone who was 55 when i was what.... 26? one year ago it was. i felt pretty disgusted with myself. my feelings were exactly as you described.

posted September 07, 2012 05:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
That's Not cool.

edit: Ok, you both have different opinions on the matter. fine. Now can we move on?

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Moonfish, i genuinely apologise and promise not to clutter this thread anymore. but this man [or not man enough who knows] just turned up out of the blue to humiliate me in front of everyone else, i just tried to stand up for myself, because it's pretty disgusting. i have been lectured by him (well doing my best to understand what he was trying to say) for a billion years on different issues and in different threads, he's been lecturing me on the way i live, the way i think and whatnot. honestly i was just trying to protect myself.

posted September 07, 2012 06:11 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Moonfish, i genuinely apologise and promise not to clutter this thread anymore. but this man [or not man enough who knows] just turned up out of the blue to humiliate me in front of everyone else, i just tried to stand up for myself, because it's pretty disgusting. i have been lectured by him (well doing my best to understand what he was trying to say) for a billion years on different issues and in different threads, he's been lecturing me on the way i live, the way i think and whatnot. honestly i was just trying to protect myself.

also - i haven't seen him commenting on anything but my person in this thread, which is off topic in the first place but out of respect for everyone else i promise not to clutter this thread anymore. but if he keeps stalking me around with his derogatory sh*t elsewhere - i sort of know no one will protect me.....

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posted September 07, 2012 06:22 PM            

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Originally posted by CosmicKarma360:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by ShadowLeo:
[b] I treated you with nothing but respect, while you were being condescending in each and every one of your messages. And I am the one who's baiting/badgering/pestering you? I thought I was having a conversation and all I did was to offer my own example, it's the one I know most about. Meanwhile, you've been treating me from the start like I'm an annoying child or something... Whatever... Sorry to have been bothering you so much, consider yourself left alone. xoxoxo

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Again, I'm glad you're so very happy. More power to you. Now, Peace Out. Go have a fabulous life. Okay? [/B][/QUOTE]

posted September 07, 2012 06:23 PM            

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Hi CosmicKarma, they say ALLEGEDLY it is a venus sq saturn thing, but apparently this sh*t doesn't hold true.

And thank you so much for voicing this ethical conflict re: older man - younger woman couples. I am talking from my own perspective. I once nearly got involved with someone who was 55 when i was what.... 26? one year ago it was. i felt pretty disgusted with myself. my feelings were exactly as you described.

whatever exceptions exist may well exist - only to prove the general rule.

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Thanks so much, I do appreciate that. Glad you didn't get together with that 55 year old. *Ick!* Heck, I'm 48, and 55 is too much for me A few years either direction is fine, and I certainly wouldn't rule anything out that was large, but overall, it's not for me. It's so much easier to be with someone who is in the same place in their lives as you are in yours. Not to mention, you share same cultural touchstones. It's a fact that couples who have the most in common are the ones that last the longest.

posted September 07, 2012 06:32 PM            

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Originally posted by ShadowLeo:
I'm truly sorry! The "LOL" was for my "hmmm" (I could just imagine scratching my head and stuff... I have a bit of a silly personality, must be all that Leo, hehehe), not for anything in your post, I absolutely hate rude people, I am never intentionally rude right off the bat. I do understand that, the more differences exist between two people (age, religion, personality etc), the more likely they'll end up breaking up, I never questioned, in my mind, the validity of what you posted. What made me answer it was just to share my experience, just to give it a happy spin, show ppl it can happen, it doesn't have to be all gloom and doom, I guess. Sorry again!

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Ok, I *hope* this comes across all right.

posted September 07, 2012 08:07 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
I understand where your coming from Believe me, I'm a Scorpio sun-mars-pluto 8H, and sometimes people assume that I'm a sex addict or into drugs when in fact I'm a virgin that's never even smoked a cig . Overall, what other people say Does [b]Not define you. Sure you can let them know that you have this placement, but the description doesn't hold true for you. However, if they choose to disagree then just let them live in lala land. I will be the first to say that hey, if you have venus-saturn but your not into older guys then I believe you :]
I thought that most people came to the conclusion that it was venus-uranus anyway, being that I have the square it's true for me lol.

and I appreciate your apology. @7thGuardian I think it's best if you two ignore eachother from now on [/B]

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It's also said that Scorpions have good intuition and can see through lies... but maybe - you shouldn't count on that saying either... I know - you can't moderate this section of the forum but as a Moderator - you should count more on evidence than on "what she said - what he said"...

- so I'll let you judge for yourself of "who's living in lalala land (if you put it like that):"

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Originally posted by andstuff:
i have seen cap girls. i don't want to be like them. zero femininity, rubbish social skills, social awkwardness, heavy on the uptake. please do not tell me i am supposed to want to be like this and be proud of this.

capricorns are the most horrible people in the world. toil toil toil. i have been watching the world. lovely, light, charismatic people with social skills get all the good things in life. all of this anti-capricorn. the cap way does not lead anywhere.

charming, lovely, desirable partners, lots of friends, graceful movements, tons of useful contacts.... - this cannot be obtained by capricornian means. horrible aloof rubbish only gets to go to bed with horrible aloof rubbish. is this what i am supposed to admit about myself? that i can only go to bed with horrible aloof rubbish everyone keeps at an arm's length? i don't want to. should i?

you have nothing to object to this. anyone will choose an easy going, charming individual over a cap. this is why i chose to be the former. please believe me i have enough placements to be that and not my sun sign.

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...and this was my answer to that:

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Originally posted by 7thGuardian:
...sorry - i thought you to be a man - you send a masculine vibe.

You misunderstood... i can see that you're hurt by this image of a Capricorn, which indeed is not that appropriate for a woman (being the most masculine sign) - yet, you are a Capricorn at hearth and that's not something you can deny - you're fighting against yourself by doing so... but as you put it - maybe you don't have strong placements along with your Sun, which helps you be "less of a Capricorn" - since [b]the Sun sign alone doesn't represent you as a person... (kinda ironical that - i'm on a astrology forum and i have to repeat this so often) -

- those Capricorn woman, the ones from whom you borrowed the image of a Capricorn - have a strong Sun placement or they're helped by other placements and i can't agree that they're hard to deal with - "but", with your planetary placements you can prove that a Capricorn can be more than that... you don't have be ashamed of it, find some strength in your Sun - and give it "the place it deserves" - even if it's a smaller place - based on how much you relate with it... if you deny it - you'll just sabotage yourself by fighting against your nature - your Sun won't change if you deny it "you just won't be aware of your Capricorn drives" and might hurt some than act surprise if they tell you in what way you hurt them cause "you don't do that".[/B]

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...it's not me who was judging her harshly based on her sign - "she did that herself" - being insulting to all woman with Capricorn Sun - and that on an astrology forum... i tried to help her from that point of view - "exactly cause of that (i don't like stereotypes)"... it's one thing to behave like that in private and another to behave in such way "on a public forum"... and continues to behave like that and that's a problem - and it shouldn't be since this is a moderated forum:

- here are the topics in question:

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/215310-3.html

http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/215332-2.html

...i can deal with sarcasm but not with insults fueled with hate:

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Originally posted by andstuff:
Very interesting. "confessions of a late bloomer"

Be careful, seriously. Perhaps what you need is another late bloomer, lol. You must realise cool charismatic people were meant for each other, and someone has to get laid with late bloomers as well. I'm pretty sure late blooming women will be delighted to find someone. Like their last chance to have sex. Brilliant opportunity! No effort required !

Do not despair! There is a consumer for every product! And keep faith! Good things are worth waiting for! And do not forget that late bloomers become attractive by the time they get 35-40! You have so much to look forward to!!

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...what she does is trolling and she likes it:

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Originally posted by andstuff:
as for my comment - so what? are you so special no one is allowed an ironic comment addressed to you? is irony prohibited? since when? as they say, this is the internet. if you came here to have your ego tickled, perhaps not the best of places.

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...but as soon as you question her behavior she goes in complete denial:

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Originally posted by andstuff:
i didn't say a single derogatory thing about you. i didn't say anything that would characterize you as a person. nothing negative. your words i did. your UNGROUNDED UNFOUNDED UNSUBSTANTIATED PREACHING - yes. but this was not about you, just things you were saying. i didn't attack you either.

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...maybe there was a better approach from my behalf - but at one point i did asked for "lalalinda's" attention... cause this kinda behavior is unacceptable - but "there's no report Button..." and normally (as one who's been active on all kinds of forums since 2002) that's how i would deal with users that behave in such way - simply "report them" and let a Moderator/Administrator handle them.

I can ignore her in terms of responses - just tell me "how do you report users here"?

posted September 07, 2012 09:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
That being said, at the bottom of the page click "Contact Us" to report any problems you may be having with another member.

As for my comment about you ignoring eachother, again, it was not to take sides but a simple logical suggestion that would defuse the tension in this thread.

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Ok, that will do... thank you

...and sorry for the grammar from my last post - I'm used to options like "preview" and editing the post seems to lag (loads for few minutes before disconnecting) - my bad for posting at 4 am in the morning.

posted September 07, 2012 09:11 PM            

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Originally posted by 7thGuardian:
Ok, that will do... thank you

...and sorry for the grammar from my last post - I'm used to options like "preview" and editing the post seems to lag (loads for few minutes before disconnecting) - my bad for posting at 4 am in the morning.

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posted September 07, 2012 09:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Moonfish:
@andstuff
If you feel like 7thGuardian has made any personal attacks against you feel free to quote them, but in all honesty I've only noticed name calling from you. Maybe I need to read through them again? Because if I'm wrong I do apologize. However, for now it will just be a warning, but if this continues then eventually you could be banned. Just know that debating is fine, but calling someone out of there name is not tolerated. So please keep that in mind if you end up having another disagreement with a member here.

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posted September 07, 2012 09:38 PM            

For what it's worth I've been the odd and gross one for a couple of years now.

I dated outside my race and was labeled a race traitor, oddball, or I was dating him for money anything other than what is really was, which we dated for compatibility.

I remember holding his hand in the mall and a group of black men heckled us the entire time, grabbing their dicks and saying profanities.

Mm, if that's not bad enough I remember dating a girl and people harassing her through facebook, calling her dyke and going to hell.

Unfortunately it drove us to break up.

Now I know I really am going to be outcasted for dating someone 17 years my age and white with a biracial child and I'm thinking about placing that child into adoption for "personal reasons" I will not discuss here.

Yes, all hell is going to break loose indeed..

Though fortunately I've come to a point in my life where I don't live it to please others and I have a very "**** 'em" and kiss my arse mentality.

posted September 07, 2012 09:57 PM            

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You are truly sickening. You sound like a guy with 4 inches, whatever the real state of affairs is

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^ You called him sickening and made a personal attack, not just once but three times.

posted September 08, 2012 05:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
What aspects or planetary configurations would make someone completely turned off by large differences in age?

I know for myself I can't seem to bring myself to date anyone more than a couple years older, there's just no attraction to that sort of age difference whatsoever. And I also don't see myself ever going the cougar route/for a younger man.

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posted September 08, 2012 06:18 AM            

I linked both topics above post - it started with a sarcasm based on RAS description of a Gemini (since I am a Gemini) and her description of a Capricorn - where i tried to explain latter - how that shyness is not what it seems - but i didn't do that "in a personal way" - i did it "objectively" as if i was in a open field preaching at a crowd - as if i was/am on a "public forum" - and here we're all anonymous... i didn't use her nick name and made only 4 personal comments in that topic (the one about the masculine vibe - the one where i was supportive, the one where i showed an example of a "lucky Sagittarius" and the one about the so called "professional" astrologists that interpreted her chart) - wasn't meant to be insulting (quite the opposite)- it got more personal in the other topic where she pushed the limits way way beyond common sense - as one who has Capricorn friends and even my grandma is a Capricorn was being defensive towards Capricorns... since they don't fit most of that degrading/insulting image... and since this an Astrology forum - other Capricorns can be in a similar position.

As every sign Capricorn has both ups and downs... they don't need more negative stereotypes - or being insulted (labeled as losers and so on) "even" by one of their own...i already affirmed myself as being against stereotypes - especially here where Gemini seems to be the most hated sign of the zodiac... cause apparently - a lot of my kind are "heartbreakers..." and can't say that i relate with that... but that's because I'm not my Sun Sign - there's more to me than that... and same goes for all - one of the things i tried to explain her in those posts - wile i tried to help her understand that "you can live with your Sun Sign" without feeling like it's representative for every stereotype out-there related to it".

- on the other hand: you can't deny your Sun Sign - and that was an objective opinion - as in "nobody can"... and in my opinion - every Astrologist that states otherwise - is unprofessional and doesn't really believe/understand astrology - "if it just tells the client what he/she wants to hear"...and all that based on "negative stereotypes". If you have a weak Sun placement - your Sun won't standout but it still needs the space he earned - ignore/deny it - as if it's not part of you and it will burn like the most prominent Sun - even tho it can be positive in some ways "the negative ones will standout" - it's same as with anything "we chose" to ignore about ourselves - less obvious to us but those around can say the same...

...again - above comment was objective in those topic and it's objective right now - cause "we all have a Sun Sign" - and here... this detail can be of some importance...

posted September 08, 2012 06:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
What aspects or planetary configurations would make someone completely turned off by large differences in age?

I know for myself I can't seem to bring myself to date anyone more than a couple years older, there's just no attraction to that sort of age difference whatsoever. And I also don't see myself ever going the cougar route/for a younger man.

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Those with Venus in Libra... seem to have an affinity for "younger" mates - and "Pablo Picasso" might be the best example for that... wile those with Neptune in Leo/Libra - seem to have an obsession with that (starting from a fantasy level) - take Hustler/Playboy daddy-o's for example.