posted June 05, 2013 03:05 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I've always been super secretive around my mother because she is just so judgmental and close minded.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:05 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I've always been super secretive around my mother because she is just so judgmental and close minded.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:06 PM            

It's not like you're coming out of the closet..

posted June 05, 2013 03:18 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
Ugh I hate this.

I just hate lying to my mother just to make her feel good. What about me?

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posted June 05, 2013 03:20 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
You sound really selfish and self-centered. Just tell her if you want to tell her but don't expect her to approve.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
Okay the drugs thing, I feel like she'll eventually find out once I move out and she comes over to find a bong on the kitchen table that I forgot to put away.

But how can I let my mom know that I'm a half naked party animal? Maybe she doesn't wanna know. She knows I like to club, but she doesn't know how wild I really am. Maybe it'll come with time.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:30 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:

Not sure if your mom is the type who gets really insulting about stuff like that. My mom is, so, telling her runs the risk of being called terrible names. Does your mom get really upset about this? If she has high moral standards she could react really badly if you tell her.
I sewed my wild oats as a teen, my mom knew somewhat even though I didn't say much, I did have a bf so she called me names whenever she got mad. Was not fun, so there's that to consider. Just how would yours react to such knowledge?

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posted June 05, 2013 03:31 PM            

There ARE some things you just don't tell your parents.

Like Kerosene said, You don't need to tell her the deets.

I think the thought of her daughter running around half naked might bring thoughts of you being groped, raped, or taken advantage of otherwise...and then you'll be in permanent lockdown until you reach the point of moving out.

posted June 05, 2013 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by LionFish:

Do you mind if I ask how old you are?

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posted June 05, 2013 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
Well since my mother is a Sagittarius with some high morals, she would be mean as **** about it.
I wanna make and perform music. I just don't want my mom to be surprised when my music is full of cursing and drug use and we're smoking weed in the videos and I'm in the back gyrating half-naked in a bodysuit.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:33 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I just hate lying to my mother just to make her feel good. What about me?

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Originally posted by goatcat:
How do I sound selfish and self-centered? Honest question because I don't wanna come off that way.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:34 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
Re-read the first two sentences. Look, nobody like lying to the people they care about but the fact of the matter is by not telling her, the only person affected is you. From what you've said it this thread it seems like your mom would be very upset to know you are going out and having a good time this way. By admitting this to her you would not only be hurting her but it would probably create a rift in the relationship you have with her. You are making this all about you when really its more about your mom. Sometimes we have to suck it up and deal with things like guilt in order to avoid hurting the people we love.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:34 PM            

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Originally posted by LionFish:
Honestly, that might be the best way for her to find out. That way you've already proven that you can be successful and lead the life you want to.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:35 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
I was thinking that.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:51 PM            

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Originally posted by goatcat:
Oh gosh.

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Your other option is to move out. It's your only other option as far as I'm concerned. She's your mother, you live under her roof, and therefore need to show her respect and recognize the things that she may not want/need to know about you. Some parents are harder on drugs, some on sex, but you are flaunting all of it WHILE you're doing drugs and despite the fact that you're an adult, you're still her baby and that's how she will always see you. My 87 year old grandmother still calls my 53 year old mother her "baby girl," just to give you an idea.

posted June 05, 2013 03:55 PM            

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Originally posted by LionFish:
Your other option is to move out. It's your only other option as far as I'm concerned. She's your mother, you live under her roof, and therefore need to show her respect and recognize the things that she may not want/need to know about you. Some parents are harder on drugs, some on sex, but you are flaunting all of it WHILE you're doing drugs and despite the fact that you're an adult, you're still her baby and that's how she will always see you. My 87 year old grandmother still calls my 53 year old mother her "baby girl," just to give you an idea.

Be who you are, be successful in the things you want out of life and then I'm willing to bet your mother will have a lot less negative things to say about what you do and who you do it with, or how you do it (half-naked ).

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posted June 05, 2013 04:01 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Chances are Pisces Venus will always have a hard time with the blunt judgments and self righteousness of the Sag planets, or sun. Not sure if her mother's Mercury is in Sag as well. Venus has tender feelings in Pisces and can be hurt by Sag.

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