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goatcat
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posted June 05, 2013 02:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How do you feel when you can't be yourself around your family?

I would love for my mother to know that her only daughter loves to party, smoke weed, and be half naked. I was talking to a friend of mine about this and she says my mother doesn't need to know but I disagree with that. I would hate for my mother to find my Instagram and be shocked at what she sees. I would much rather her know who I am and what to expect.

Is this because of my Uranus and Neptune in the IV house?

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Jessica2407
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posted June 05, 2013 02:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I suppose your mum only knows your more goody part? Or do you make yourself look good for her sake?

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posted June 05, 2013 02:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well for example, she doesn't know I smoke weed because I haven't told her but she indicates to me that she wouldn't want me to.

She's a very religious mother that is strongly opinionated (Sagittarius sun, Aries Moon).

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Kerosene
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posted June 05, 2013 02:23 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Me too.
I have to do that thou.

My sisters are pretty wild.
I just do that for their own sake.
I pretend to be perfect baby of the family.

Don't feel bad about it lol!

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Jessica2407
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posted June 05, 2013 02:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My mum doesn't have a clue to who I am really. It's not a question of if I smoke weeds or if I like to drink tequila,it's more like she doesn't even know what kind of person I truly am, it has ceased bothering me a long time back tbh. She is also a very opinionated woman.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If I was a parent I would like to know that my kid can be the same person 24/7.
My mom can disagree with my lifestyle but as long as she accepts who I am...

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Jessica2407
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posted June 05, 2013 02:27 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am the devil of the family.

I don't care much anyways. That's where I feel my Capricorn Ascendant the most in my life.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a Virgo ascendant with one foot in Virgo, the other in Libra, feels like.

I feel like if I had a full Libra ascendant, my mom would have SOME idea of who I am.

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Kerosene
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posted June 05, 2013 02:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you two have other siblings?

I have to be the care taker for my parents lmaoo.
I would never put them in a home either...

I don't mind we get along but my dad would be horrified by my lifestyle...

I'm going to dread that day, I see my mom having her independence until she's quite old..not my dad..
I like staying up all night having parties and people sleeping over and watching movies... I'm going to miss that.

Don't worry Jessica..
my siblings and I are what our aunts and uncles use as an example of what NOT to be hahahaa

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posted June 05, 2013 02:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by goatcat:
If I was a parent I would like to know that my kid can be the same person 24/7.
My mom can disagree with my lifestyle but as long as she accepts who I am...

she is a parent. I don't think she will accept her daughter as someone who smoke weeds. If I was a mother, I know I wouldn't.

If my child is quiet and barely talk at home, I would want to know if she/he is the same with friends.If yes,then I will try to know what gives, if not I will try to know what's bothering her/him at home,but I will not accept a child of mine to smoke weeds as a way of living/recreation or whatever.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My lifestyle is soooooo not how my mom raised me yo be...

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posted June 05, 2013 02:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for somethingexcellent     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My friend comments on my "secret life" all the time! Honestly, leading a double life sounds intriguing and stuff. Why not start off slow? Say mumma! I like to drink! And then that'll be the first step.

My mumsy never knew about my wilder years like 2 or 3 years ago until recently. She was shocked but she resigned herself to saying she can't control what me or my sister does. I try to be more open and telling, because I know it must feel terrible for her to think that I'm deliberately sneaking around on her.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
she is a parent. I don't think she will accept her daughter as someone who smoke weeds. If I was a mother, I know I wouldn't.

If my child is quiet and barely talk at home, I would want to know if she/he is the same with friends.If yes,then I will try to know what gives, if not I will try to know what's bothering her/him at home,but I will not accept a child of mine to smoke weeds as a way of living/recreation or whatever.


Will not accept it? You can "not accept" it, but that doesn't mean your child will stop smoking.
Will you accept them for who they are and just disagree with their lifestyle?

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posted June 05, 2013 02:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Jessica2407:
she is a parent. I don't think she will accept her daughter as someone who smoke weeds. If I was a mother, I know I wouldn't.

If my child is quiet and barely talk at home, I would want to know if she/he is the same with friends.If yes,then I will try to know what gives, if not I will try to know what's bothering her/him at home,but I will not accept a child of mine to smoke weeds as a way of living/recreation or whatever.


Yeah same here, I dont want my child to be a stoner...
Most of them end up useless wastoids unless they get their act together and go to college/ in college.
No offense to anyone who is a stoner, but it's kinda true..

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posted June 05, 2013 02:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by goatcat:
My lifestyle is soooooo not how my mom raised me yo be...

Are you happy with it?

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posted June 05, 2013 02:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Are you happy with it?

Yes! I'm enjoying my youth and my time on Earth because I cannot get it back!

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posted June 05, 2013 02:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Yeah same here, I dont want my child to be a stoner...
Most of them end up useless wastoids unless they get their act together and go to college/ in college.
No offense to anyone who is a stoner, but it's kinda true..

I'm offended.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LionFish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Jessica2407:
she is a parent. I don't think she will accept her daughter as someone who smoke weeds. If I was a mother, I know I wouldn't.

If my child is quiet and barely talk at home, I would want to know if she/he is the same with friends.If yes,then I will try to know what gives, if not I will try to know what's bothering her/him at home,but I will not accept a child of mine to smoke weeds as a way of living/recreation or whatever.


No matter how old that "kid" is? I'm not sure of goatcat's age..but there does come a point when a parent has to realize that there are decisions that they just can't make for their children, and the older they get, the more often this is the case.

On the other hand, I'm 27 years old. My mother knows that I drink and knows that I smoke weed and cigarettes. She doesn't like any of it, but funnily enough, the only thing she says I "shouldn't do" is smoke cigarettes and in a way I agree with her..Considering I only really started smoking cigarettes to mask the smell of the weed I was smoking

Anyway, if it's something that you want her to know about you, tell her. That doesn't mean throw it in her face every chance you get, but she can be aware of who you are. For instance: I smoke a little less when I'm around my mother and when she comes to my house I put all of my smoking utensils/product away because even though she knows, out of respect I don't rub her nose in it.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LionFish:

Anyway, if it's something that you want her to know about you, tell her. That doesn't mean throw it in her face every chance you get, but she can be aware of who you are. For instance: I smoke a little less when I'm around my mother and when she comes to my house I put all of my smoking utensils/product away because even though she knows, out of respect I don't rub her nose in it.

Hmmmm. Maybe she might find out more about me when I move out. It's just I don't wanna hear her Sagittarian mouth!!!

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posted June 05, 2013 02:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LionFish     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Hmmmm. Maybe she might find out more about me when I move out. It's just I don't wanna hear her Sagittarian mouth!!!

My mom is an Aries Sun with a Gemini Moon... Believe me, I understand lol

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posted June 05, 2013 02:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Will not accept it? You can "not accept" it, but that doesn't mean your child will stop smoking.
Will you accept them for who they are and just disagree with their lifestyle?

Smoking weed is not a lifestyle. It's an addiction.It's not-a-lifestyle.

I will not accept it as a parent,no. How will I go about making my child understand that it's not a good thing for him/her? well I don't know that yet. I will probably use reverse psychology to make him/her understand that it's not a good thing.Prohibiting someone to do something or using parental authority will not ensure the child to stop doing what he or she been doing only to make them do it even more. But I will use all my energy to make them stop. I think that's a parent responsibity,but if the child is beyond saving,then I would know that I have done everything that I can.

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posted June 05, 2013 02:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goatcat     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Smoking weed is not a lifestyle. It's an addiction.It's not-a-lifestyle.


I don't even wanna read the rest of your post.

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Jessica2407
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posted June 05, 2013 02:48 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by goatcat:
I don't even wanna read the rest of your post.

well feel free. That's what the internet is all about.

It's weird and comical how people react when they don't get what they would love to hear.

Next I will hear drug dealers are having a lifestyle that needs to be respected!

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Jessica2407
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posted June 05, 2013 03:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Jessica2407     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Lionfish

''No matter how old that "kid" is? I'm not sure of goatcat's age..but there does come a point when a parent has to realize that there are decisions that they just can't make for their children, and the older they get, the more often this is the case.''

Totally agree.

But as a parent who have taken the responsibity of giving birth to a child,you should ensure that your child is going on the right track. Booze,drugs,smoking weeds have a sort of magnet that draws people,making you feel as if you are having the time of your life.Making this your lifestyle? Of course that would be the person's choice.

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posted June 05, 2013 03:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for happyaskings     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lol smoking weed is a choice not a life style. Thats like saying smoking ciggarettes is a lifestyle...its a choice. some people choose to smoke regularly, some chose to do it on occasion, and some dont do it at all. But they could all lead similar lifestyles (where they work, living in the suburbs, hanging out at the beach etc etc).

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