posted September 20, 2015 11:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Wanna trade?

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posted September 20, 2015 11:30 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Why would you want to trade? I don't know if you ever saw my post in one of your recent threads where I told you one of my friends told me he was demisexual. I told him he was lucky as hell and I wished that I was in his shoes.

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Oh wow you have another demisexual buddy! Is this a new Uni friend, or an older friend who shocked you with the news?

posted September 20, 2015 11:31 PM            

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My friend is a Capricorn sun. I think you might be misunderstanding me, I'm not even remotely demisexual. But I wish I was!

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We got mixed up. I was replying to athenian.

posted September 20, 2015 11:34 PM            

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Originally posted by athenian200:
I'm a 27-year old man that's been abstinent his entire life, and never even felt the need to "spill his seed," if you know what I mean. Never dated anyone, never kissed anyone.

I have Mars in Capricorn in the 8th house, Saturn in Capricorn in the 7th house, and Venus in Taurus in the 12th house. Gemini rising, Aries sun in the 11th and Libra moon in the 5th.

If I do become aroused, I feel strangely nauseous, start sneezing, and the feeling passes quickly.

Sometimes during a thunderstorm, I end up wishing I had someone to hold me or cuddle me. I've occasionally fantasized about being massaged or just having a person in my life that I felt safe being naked around. I want to be loved and have intimacy, but something about being sexual just rubs me the wrong way. It's never felt right.

I know it's strange, but there it is.

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There goes that Mars in the 8th house theme! I have high sex drive and think about it all the time but i lost my virginity at 20.

Came close a few times when i was 12 and 14 but never did it!

I hear Mars in the 8th can delay sex for the person. However, my mars is in Gemini so my thoughts and desires were just too much for me to stay abstinent. My other aspects are Moon trine mars, Moon conj Pluto, mars opp uranus and neptune, moon opp venus, Sun, Merc, Mars in the 8th, Pluto in the 1st.

posted September 20, 2015 11:34 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
The WORST catfish ever:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mPOEmHczkCw

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posted September 20, 2015 11:36 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
We got mixed up. I was replying to artherian.

I do understand you!!

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posted September 20, 2015 11:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Oh wow you have another demisexual buddy! Is this a new Uni friend, or an older friend who shocked you with the news?

I don't really see this as a blessing... It is what it is...
I am kind of curious what it would be like to have more sexual desires.

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posted September 20, 2015 11:45 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
Yeah I don't deal well with being led on or deceived. That is a big turn off for me. I can easily turn cold and I would have no problems dropping him for being shady.

I've been on the opposite end (the cheated on partner) and it really, really sucks. I don't wish it on anyone. And besides that, I am worth more than being someone's dirty secret. If I can't go out in public with you and enjoy your company, I am not interested.

But one time, I went home with a coworker who I had worked with for more than a year, not knowing he was married. Until his wife came home! OHHH EMMM GEEEE. I was so uncomfortable. Worst feeling ever, but I had no idea she existed. NO CLUE.

Lucky for me, the deed was done and I was already back in my work uniform (what I wore to his place) so I could head home. Crisis averted!! She seriously could have kicked my butt.

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Wow that's ridiculous, can't believe that happened to you!!

for him and I it's not private his gf lives three and a half hours away
And I also believe that if your entering a relationship there's always the chance someone is going to do this to you so if I were her I wouldn't feel bad. Because this is a little something I call life.. And it happens and it sucks and we get over it. No one is honest no one is trust worthy everyone is an ******* IN DISGUISE lmao

posted September 20, 2015 11:48 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I have a high sex drive but see sexual desire as a curse. I'd rather live without those desires. Moon conjunct vesta and mars trine saturn.

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posted September 20, 2015 11:54 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
Me, too!

I don't hold many grudges, but one that I do is how many girls and women lied about their sexuality when I was growing up which was confusing as hell to me and gave me many wrong ideas.

A lot of people would be better off if the lying were to stop and people were more concerned with telling the truth rather than promoting a lie about themselves so that they're socially acceptable to the majority of society also living a lie.

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posted September 20, 2015 11:55 PM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
Also a Moon in Taurus and Taurus is the most sexual sign!!

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posted September 20, 2015 11:56 PM            

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Originally posted by athenian200:
I'm a 27-year old man that's been abstinent his entire life, and never even felt the need to "spill his seed," if you know what I mean. Never dated anyone, never kissed anyone.

I have Mars in Capricorn in the 8th house, Saturn in Capricorn in the 7th house, and Venus in Taurus in the 12th house. Gemini rising, Aries sun in the 11th and Libra moon in the 5th.

If I do become aroused, I feel strangely nauseous, start sneezing, and the feeling passes quickly.

Sometimes during a thunderstorm, I end up wishing I had someone to hold me or cuddle me. I've occasionally fantasized about being massaged or just having a person in my life that I felt safe being naked around. I want to be loved and have intimacy, but something about being sexual just rubs me the wrong way. It's never felt right.

I know it's strange, but there it is.

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posted September 20, 2015 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Oh wow you have another demisexual buddy! Is this a new Uni friend, or an older friend who shocked you with the news?

I don't really see this as a blessing... It is what it is...
I am kind of curious what it would be like to have more sexual desires.

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posted September 21, 2015 01:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:

So, I did. And after a few conversations, I realized what feelings I had buried in me aligned with this lifestyle. The idea that yes, I can eat macaroni and cheese every night for dinner and live... but what about the other things I like? Ice cream, doughnuts, cake, spaghetti, burritos, curry... so many flavors! Why choose?

Sometimes I need something spicy like curry. Sometimes I need something comfortable like macaroni and cheese. We had 5-6 hour conversations for a week straight & that told me I was more to him than just sex right there. He wanted me to know me. He wanted me to be comfortable. He wanted me to know it was okay for me to feel how I feel and it is okay to express it. It was nice.

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posted September 21, 2015 01:34 AM            

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Originally posted by athenian200:
I'm a 27-year old man that's been abstinent his entire life, and never even felt the need to "spill his seed," if you know what I mean. Never dated anyone, never kissed anyone.

I have Mars in Capricorn in the 8th house, Saturn in Capricorn in the 7th house, and Venus in Taurus in the 12th house. Gemini rising, Aries sun in the 11th and Libra moon in the 5th.

If I do become aroused, I feel strangely nauseous, start sneezing, and the feeling passes quickly.

Sometimes during a thunderstorm, I end up wishing I had someone to hold me or cuddle me. I've occasionally fantasized about being massaged or just having a person in my life that I felt safe being naked around. I want to be loved and have intimacy, but something about being sexual just rubs me the wrong way. It's never felt right.

I know it's strange, but there it is.

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I think you just need to let the sexual side develop out of a loving situation rather than separating the two ideas in your head.

posted September 21, 2015 02:30 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
That's interesting.
All the Capricorn Mars people I know are similar to me in this regard... both the men and the women.

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I did suspect that Mars in Capricorn might have this impact. It certainly make sense to me.

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I have a close friend who is a Pisces girl, born in '88 with her Taurus Venus conjunct Jupiter, and conjunct my own Taurus Venus (on my NN). She is born March 10... You might have a similar chart! She is also demi.

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I was born close to that time. 8:40am, April 1st, 1988. In Chicago.

I don't know how I work, really. That does make more sense to me than just liking someone because they meet certain aesthetic standards and belong to the opposite gender. I'm sure it would take something a lot deeper than that for me to like someone, if it's possible. It's just that this is so different from what people tell me it's supposed to be like.

I mean, normally you're supposed to want sex so badly that you'll push a girl into it. Just from looking at her, at that! I thought that was a joke at first, but apparently they were serious when they said they know what girl they want just from looking at her.

But I'm so slow to warm up to people, so cautious, and so lacking in physical needs that I would have to be pushed into it myself.

The way I seem to work is so backwards, LOL.

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But I've heard of other Cap-Martians on LL, who are apparently very sexually energetic and proactive.
This really surprises me ^ but I guess they must exist, since others have encountered them LOL

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I'm sure it also depends on house placement and aspects with other planets. I have Saturn in the 7th house which delays marriage, Mars in the 8th, and Venus in the 12th. Things in the 8th or the 12th are more in the background or hidden somehow, and I'm sure that has an impact.

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
So basically you are the term AROMANTIC!!
It's okay to kiss people to just try it. What do u have to lose??

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Well, when you kiss people, it might stir up feelings in them that will be hard to push back down. The danger in kissing some people is that if they end up liking you, they could push you into something you're not ready for, or seek revenge if you reject them. But with other people, if they end up liking you, you could end up hurting their feelings if things don't work out.

To give you an idea of how much I worry about hurting people, I happen to know that women often feel uncomfortable with guys following them. Because of that, when I see a girl walking in front of me for more than a minute or so (especially if there's a fork in the road and she takes the path I wanted to take), I'll often walk a different way so that I won't have to walk behind her and potentially make her uncomfortable. I carefully avoid actions that might hurt people.

I guess I don't feel comfortable experimenting in that area of my life. There are too many advantages that come from doing nothing. For instance, I never have to worry about getting an STD. No one is likely to have any remote reason to set me up to be sued for sexual harassment. I don't have to worry about any kind of emotional roller coaster of a relationship distracting me from work or studies.

I don't know, maybe I'm just rationalizing because I want to stick to what I'm comfortable with rather than take risks. Especially for something I'm not sure I want in my life.

I've never been a big risk taker... my Dad always hated that about me, said I was like an old man investing retirement money in bonds because of the risk involved with stocks, but that I was too young to be thinking like that, etc.

posted September 21, 2015 12:14 PM            

Sex (when done right) is a natural stress reliever (because of the Hormone oxytocin,) keeps your immune system in tip-top shape, is a great form of physical activity and (the obvious bottom line) is a great way to boost up intimacy, communication and understanding; Afterall, its during sex that a person can truly put their guard down and let them just be themselves .

I don't plan on losing interest in sex till I am atleast 90 . Luckily, my wife shares the same opinion on the matter Lol!

posted September 21, 2015 02:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
My childhood was super abusive and I was very much stifled (and isolated). Yes.

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i see i had thought so because you have your 5 ruler in the 12th house (jupiter) there since 5th house to me represents a part of our childhood.i see good things though with this placement as well, such as you may have fascination and/or attracted to those romantically that are mysterious, weird, or had a rough childhood, or went through similar situations as you, or possibily suffered from addictions or illness's or are spiritually aware of our existence and believe in the spirit world and after death etc. so much more that i can list but i assume that these things are very interesting and attractive for you but i could be wrong. anyways ill stop analyzing your chart just wanting to practice giving astro readings to people lol

posted September 21, 2015 08:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
@angel4845

You could analyze my chart if you want lol just throwin it out there

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posted September 21, 2015 08:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Where is your chart?

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