posted September 20, 2015 02:58 PM            

I like when you like a person and are attracted to them and actually want to do it
But for me that's rare

What's your attitudes?
Also include your chart or at least placements that you think indicate this.

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posted September 20, 2015 04:10 PM            

- committed/married/partnered up
- one night flings
- FWB
- poly relationships with sex

And I've had one relationship that was mostly massage, cuddling and touching but no sex.

I blame Uranus, it makes a lot of contacts in my natal, I think (need to look again).

Oh and my Sag Moon.

Also I have Mars & Venus conjunct, but it's kind of a loose conjunction so ???

I am not a textbook "Virgo" but none of my Virgo relatives or friends are either.

posted September 20, 2015 04:11 PM            

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posted September 20, 2015 04:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
To me, sex , although it feels great , I feel like people are just using each other for it. And it's really unspecial.

I like when you like a person and are attracted to them and actually want to do it
But for me that's rare

What's your attitudes?
Also include your chart or at least placements that you think indicate this.

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posted September 20, 2015 04:31 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
I like sex. I have all kinds of sex.

- committed/married/partnered up
- one night flings
- FWB
- poly relationships with sex

And I've had one relationship that was mostly massage, cuddling and touching but no sex.

I blame Uranus, it makes a lot of contacts in my natal, I think (need to look again).

Oh and my Sag Moon.

Also I have Mars & Venus conjunct, but it's kind of a loose conjunction so ???

I am not a textbook "Virgo" but none of my Virgo relatives or friends are either.

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posted September 20, 2015 05:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:

Lol sounds more like you LOVE sex!! Care posting your chart? I find you sex life interesting lol.

Could be Uranus but i know plenty of people who have lots of Uranus contacts but are not into casual sex. Like they will experiment with the right person but wont go the casual sex route.

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I might add, I was always like this, but never had the courage/strength to admit it and act on it until I was about 31 (I am 37 now).

Here ya go!

posted September 20, 2015 05:54 PM            

People with a high concentration of Scorpio energy are masters of celibacy because they loathe sex without intimacy and emotional bonding. @Desiring Shadows, I see your Mars is in Scorpio and trine Saturn, which could make what I just described possible for you. I've met several Plutonian people who were the same as you. They liked sex, of course, but were disappointed by how mundane the experience was - the love and spirituality behind it were far more important to them than the physical sensations themselves.

I'll come back and elaborate on myself and my chart later. I think you'll find it interesting. For now this is just some food for thought.

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posted September 20, 2015 05:55 PM            

I've been involved with those who had girlfriends. I didn't know they had someone when first starting out, but even when I found out, I still kept messing around with them. Ive had offers from married men but could never bring myself to do it. I've had sex all over town but I will only experience that with someone I like and has some passion in their bones. I like novelty and newness. I have an Aquarius descendant. Not sure where else in my chart would cause that kind of roaming around with one person type of deal

posted September 20, 2015 05:56 PM            

that being in scorpio is very dignified and I'm not surprised that you love sex as scorpio is a pleasurable and sensual sign and you may enjoy sexual variety in a partner. they must keep up with you, you may also at other times not want sex in your relationship since uranus is unexpected and changes quite frequently in terms of wha you want when it comes to relationships. you may just want to have something very unconvential in your love life something that spells to society that is called "different" towards your attiudes towards your sex and or love life. you do enjoy freedom but i also think you wouldn't mind a commitment either but it has to be different. i'll have to read the rest of your chart

i could be so wrong with my little interpretation i gave you lol. thought i would share since we both have our 7 rulers in the 3rd house. to be honest with mars there as my 7 ruler i get stifled in relationships and i often leave relationships frequently and i love debating and argumentation and drama lol but maybe that just my mars there conjunct my mercury.

posted September 20, 2015 06:00 PM            

I love that you are honest about who you are. It is inspiring. Too often, women who like sex are shamed or made to feel like they aren't feminine and it's very sad.

posted September 20, 2015 06:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
Geeky, love how honest you are.

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Thank you. I should probably add they were in open relationships and we were in a polyamorous arrangement. Nothing secretive.

posted September 20, 2015 06:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
Thank you. I should probably add they were in open relationships and we were in a polyamorous arrangement. Nothing secretive.

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posted September 20, 2015 06:08 PM            

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Originally posted by ikja:
@Geeky
Too often, women who like sex are shamed or made to feel like they aren't feminine and it's very sad.

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Oh yes. There is still a very big double standard. I don't like it one bit.

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posted September 20, 2015 06:09 PM            

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Originally posted by athenegoddess:
That might explain being okay with things that are morally wrong.

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How is it morally wrong if there is no lie and everyone knows?

posted September 20, 2015 06:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
That's super interesting! Unfortunately, I've never come across people who are in open relationships where everything was put out on the table.

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Ahhh well I live in a liberal community.

posted September 20, 2015 06:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
Ahhh well I live in a liberal community.

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posted September 20, 2015 06:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
Ahhh well I live in a liberal community.

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that explains it since your 7 ruler uranus is conjunct your IC. the home is said to be liberal,unconventional, free, flexible of you. was your childhood a bit hidden or psychologically holding you back in some way?

posted September 20, 2015 06:30 PM            

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Originally posted by angel4845:
that explains it since your 7 ruler uranus is conjunct your IC. the home is said to be liberal,unconventional, free, flexible of you. was your childhood a bit hidden or psychologically holding you back in some way?

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My childhood was super abusive and I was very much stifled (and isolated). Yes.

posted September 20, 2015 06:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
How is it morally wrong if there is no lie and everyone knows?

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posted September 20, 2015 06:46 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
I beleive she meant that what you do is morally wrong in the minds of others. Actually many people find it morally wrong, not me though, my mars in Gemini loves hearing about these kind of "morally wrong relatinoships!"

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posted September 20, 2015 06:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
I beleive she meant that what you do is morally wrong in the minds of others. Actually many people find it morally wrong, not me though, my mars in Gemini loves hearing about these kind of "morally wrong relatinoships!"

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Well, without getting into a big debate, I am not entirely sure we are all cut out for monogamy. I think some are, but far more are not. Websites like Ashley Madison prove this - with what? 37 million or so users?

For those that aren't monogamous, it would be WAY WAY better if we could all just be honest and not sneaking around. Cheating is FAR more hurtful. Living a life you think you should because you care what others think of you is unfair to everyone involved.

Just my .02.

Here's a good read - http://junkee.com/ashley-madison-hack-cheating-spouses-2/62113

"We realised that we cannot, and should not, be expected to provide 100% of each other’s sexual or emotional needs. James, nor Martyn, can give me everything I want in a partner, and it is completely okay to say that out loud.

I think we all understand this in some way or another. Even when we pair up monogamously, we stay close with friends, family and colleagues. We keep our hobbies and work friends and sometimes even travel separately. This proves we need more than just the companionship of our chosen mate.

Yet when it comes to romantic love, and sex in particular, we throw that understanding out the window. Pair up with someone, and that is the one and only person you will have sex with, or date, for the rest of your life. That is where you are stuck — and if by any chance there are areas where you are not satisfied, or even if there’s just something you want to explore more, tough luck. That is the price of love."

posted September 20, 2015 06:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
I don't have Mars in Gemini but I love hearing about "morally wrong relationships" as well

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LMAO!! This forum is so awesome!