posted October 26, 2020 08:01 PM            

However I just met this guy... It seems like we get each other well on a mental level and friendship would feel pretty natural here. Except, we have Venus Mars DW. My Venus right on his ASC square his Mars; my Mars right on top of his first house Venus, conjunct. And I don't wanna get spiraled in again. However he claims that he disagrees with my view on this and given that we are aware of the goings on and as long as we keep open communication, we can easily stay friends while being careful for it to not escalate into anything else. I was pretty open with him about everything. He knows a lot about Astrology too so I guess was aware of the goings on.

I'm honestly not sure how to approach this situation. I met his wife at the same time I met him, and I think her and I got on really well and we're similar in some ways. I feel that I'm being a hypocrite by befriending him behind her back while still being friendly to her.

I'm so confused, a certain part of me would appreciate this friendship over a lot of others. But on the other hand I really don't want to, scared that it'll just end up being a sour situation. Especially he's not going through the easiest time with his wife right now... I don't want to divert his attention from where it should be. He loves his wife but I don't want him to lose focus.

posted October 26, 2020 08:20 PM            

First things first, stay away unless you want to clean up the mess you're about to cause, which you'll absolutely deserve.

Second, you're already checking your synastry... Did you check your synastry with his wife? I'd definitely look at her chart to see what kind of moon she's going to come at you with.

Third, listen please to this one. MARRIED MEN DO NOT HAVE SINGLE WOMEN THEY'RE ATTRACTED TO AS FRIENDS.

posted October 26, 2020 08:28 PM            

And I figured the same, that he isn't interested in just friendship. I honestly have no clue if I'm even attracted to married guys. It was just an odd way the way it played out/came to life. Honestly the core of me feels like puking almost at the idea of befriending married guys lol. I don't know why I always fall into that trap.

posted October 26, 2020 09:16 PM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
Don’t befriend him behind her back. She should know if you’re in contact. If he’s hiding it from her, that’s a problem.

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posted October 26, 2020 10:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
And btw, an aries moon will not take lightly what's going on...

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If it's behind her back without consent, YEP, very much agree.

posted October 26, 2020 10:38 PM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
If it's behind her back without consent, YEP, very much agree.

On the flip side, my spouse/partner has Aries Moon and is not the super jealous and insecure type, but that is a mutually agreed upon thing and we tell each other pretty much everything openly and honestly.

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posted October 27, 2020 12:02 AM            

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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
Yes, if they have an open marriage and all are on board then there wouldn't be a problem. I don't think that's what's going on here though from her post, I could be wrong.

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this, my ex and i were open, both aries moons

honesty and agreed upon boundaries are important but that's all there is to it

posted October 27, 2020 12:10 AM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
Are these guys in an open relationship? If not, maybe best to avoid them?

If they are, and they are open and honest with their partner about you and your connection, I see no problem.

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posted October 27, 2020 12:21 AM            

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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
Where is your venus and what aspects does it make if you don't mind me asking? My venus is in the 12H opposite Saturn and I know exactly where you are right now. That's why I came on so strong. Your soul would never harm another to get what it wants, that's all ego. If you're attracting these types of situations, take a look at your venus, what's she doing? Who's she doing it with? Then try to understand yourself from that point of view. For example, venus in the 12H has a knack for attracting unavailable men and it's happened to me a lot, so much I should have had mistress just tattooed across my forehead! It was my job to deal with the situation by understanding what it was about me that attracted them in the first place. Honestly, I have a very difficult time with intimacy. What can't you get from a married man or an addict? Intimacy. That's where my situations were stemming from and it took a lot of years to finally admit that to myself and start working on it. You'll figure it out, the universe seems to be helping over and over considering you've been in this situation before. It really sucks finding yourself in the same situation again, especially after you thought you knew what to do about it next time, but, it just means you have some more deep diving into yourself to do. ❤️

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Thanks so much. It's something that unless I actively fight it, it keeps on resurfacing in my life. My Venus is in my first though. It opposes Uranus and Neptune, inconjuncts Saturn. I think what the trigger to this is my 12th house Sun and Moon. He claims I give off an innocent vibe which I'm guessing is the issue here. I just hate it, I really dunno why I attract it though it really almost grosses me out. But somehow they manage to convince me. 😏😏😏

posted October 27, 2020 12:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Dons2angelss:
And btw, an aries moon will not take lightly what's going on...

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posted October 27, 2020 12:28 AM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
If it's behind her back without consent, YEP, very much agree.

On the flip side, my spouse/partner has Aries Moon and is not the super jealous and insecure type, but that is a mutually agreed upon thing and we tell each other pretty much everything openly and honestly.

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posted October 27, 2020 12:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Sauerkraut:
i think its only safe if there is zero attraction and is more like a brother/sister bond. the wife also needs to be 100% okay with it otherwise youre just asking for bad things to happen. if its an open marriage, it might work i guess but that would probably evolve into more than a friendship.

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posted October 27, 2020 12:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
this, my ex and i were open, both aries moons

honesty and agreed upon boundaries are important but that's all there is to it

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posted October 27, 2020 12:45 AM            

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Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion:
nm.

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posted October 27, 2020 12:48 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
I think there must be something else suppressing the qualities of her Moon since she seems to be extremely passive and shy really. I'm thinking likely a strong Neptune aspect. She's adorable lol.

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honestly the in your face aggressive **** with aries can be easily overshadowed in a chart (still can be triggered though if it's there) but what tends to be more of a give away is a certain childishness and playfulness

posted October 27, 2020 12:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Yeah which wasn't the case here

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yeah no got you i just meant aries moon isn't necessarily possessive

i read the thread

posted October 27, 2020 12:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
honestly the in your face aggressive **** with aries can be easily overshadowed in a chart (still can be triggered though if it's there) but what tends to be more of a give away is a certain childishness and playfulness

i've met quote a few shy aries people before or ones who are fairly passive but that child like quality is always there

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posted October 27, 2020 12:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
yeah no got you i just meant aries moon isn't necessarily possessive

i read the thread

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