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posted January 10, 2013 07:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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@Aqua - I can feel myself getting sucked into trying to coach you out of the way you think, and I refuse. I don't really care if you have weight standards for women (as in I'm not offended by it) but generally when guys honestly don't have a problem with a girl's weight, they don't refer to her as "fat chick." Just sayin'.

no , that was the anger speaking lol.

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posted January 10, 2013 08:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
no, i wish you and the other women here would quit dictacting to me that i need to have a "good/positive" attitude. granted, having a good attitude is great but its not soo easy. and the fact that ya'll act like its soo easy shows that ya'll dont have an understanding of what men go through in the dating game. as men we are the ones who have to put ourselves out there and face rejection, most of the time atleast. i understand that women get dissapointed in dating too and i sympathize with that, but its not the same... as a man, i have to invest time,money,and energy trying to find a woman and when that doesnt happen it can be very frustrating. women , on the other hand get to sit back ,take a passive roll,let men come to them and evaluate their available options. again i understand women get frustrated and dissappointed too, but its not the same. imo being a man in the dating game today is like being a seal balancing a ball on your nose and clapping your flippers ,hoping a woman will be entertained and throw you a fish. again i fully realize women dont understand mens challenges in dating and i dont expect them to. i just wish they would try to be more understanding of guys like me and why we arent'positive".

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posted January 10, 2013 08:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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no, i wish you and the other women here would quit dictacting to me that i need to have a "good/positive" attitude. granted, having a good attitude is great but its not soo easy. and the fact that ya'll act like its soo easy shows that ya'll dont have an understanding of what men go through in the dating game. Except having a positive attitude isn't about your gender. as men we are the ones who have to put ourselves out there and face rejection, most of the time at least. times have changed. women are asking men out and proposing more now than ever. In general. i understand that women get disappointed in dating too and i sympathize with that, but its not the same... as a man, i have to invest time,money,and energy trying to find a woman and when that doesnt happen you tend to get very frustrated. Uh, hello! What was this thread spawned out of? Me, a woman, trying to find a man. It works both ways. I have to invest time into a relationship too. If I want it to be a good one, at least. women , on the other hand get to sit back and let men come to them and evaluate their options,maybe the type of women you tend to gravitate towards and like again i understand women get frustrated and dissappointed too, but its not the same. ...Except it is. We just have better outlets for our humiliation. imo being a man in the dating game today is like being a seal balancing a ball on your nose and clapping your flippers ,hoping a woman will be entertained and throw you a fish. again i fully realize women dont understand mens challenges in dating and i dont expect them to. i just wish they would try to be more understanding of guys like me and why we arent'positive".

I'm understanding of your frustration, but not of your unwillingness to try anything different. There's always a different option but not if you stay stuck in a certain mental place.

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posted January 10, 2013 08:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I wonder if Fire moons are in love with romance and the feeling of being swept up, and they grow dependent on that exhilaration?

Yes especially Leo. V v amorous.

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posted January 10, 2013 08:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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[QUOTE]Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[b]no, i wish you and the other women here would quit dictacting to me that i need to have a "good/positive" attitude. granted, having a good attitude is great but its not soo easy. and the fact that ya'll act like its soo easy shows that ya'll dont have an understanding of what men go through in the dating game. Except having a positive attitude isn't about your gender. as men we are the ones who have to put ourselves out there and face rejection, most of the time at least. times have changed. women are asking men out and proposing more now than ever. In general. i understand that women get disappointed in dating too and i sympathize with that, but its not the same... as a man, i have to invest time,money,and energy trying to find a woman and when that doesnt happen you tend to get very frustrated. Uh, hello! What was this thread spawned out of? Me, a woman, trying to find a man. It works both ways. women , on the other hand get to sit back and let men come to them and evaluate their options,maybe the type of women you tend to gravitate towards and like again i understand women get frustrated and dissappointed too, but its not the same. Except it is. We just have better outlets for our humiliation. imo being a man in the dating game today is like being a seal balancing a ball on your nose and clapping your flippers ,hoping a woman will be entertained and throw you a fish. again i fully realize women dont understand mens challenges in dating and i dont expect them to. i just wish they would try to be more understanding of guys like me and why we arent'positive".

I'm understanding of your frustration, but not of your unwillingness to try anything different. There's always a different option but not if you stay stuck in a certain mental place.

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i'm very open to advice... if.. its given with understanding and with a non condescending attitude, but most importantly it has to make sense. like my friends girlfriend, she told me i should lose a little bit of weight and i would look great. thats good solid advice and i plan to get in the gym and make that happen. however telling me i have a sucky attitude and it needs to change doesnt help.

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posted January 10, 2013 08:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for aquaguy91     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@hanna, i fully realize some women take the initiative these days, i'm actually all for it and its great! however i think taking the initiative is mainly a mans issues.

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posted January 10, 2013 08:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Yes especially Leo. V v amorous.

I do love Leo moons!

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The Right Game For Your Body Type: The Mesomorph
August 15, 2012 by heartiste
Continuing our series about identifying the most responsive (or most accessible) game for your body type, today’s post will focus on the mesomorph.

For readers late to the discussion, the purpose of this series of posts isn’t to suggest that if your frame is built a certain way, you must run a certain kind of game, or you will fail miserably with women. The purpose is to point out that, if constitutional psychology is valid and somatotype is associated with personality, certain game techniques and strategies will be easier for you to learn and master than other game techniques. You will naturally excel at applying some game concepts, and naturally struggle applying other game concepts. While the founding principles of game are universal (because female sexual nature is universal), the details of game will vary in accordance with the context within which you find yourself, which can include elements such as race, culture, foreignness, obesity, sex ratio and your own inborn temperament.

Ultimately, this information is meant to be a useful adjunct to well-known game principles. If you know beforehand your innate personality strengths and weaknesses, you can take preemptive steps to shore up problem areas.

The mesomorph is one extreme of Sheldon’s three somatotypes, the two others being endomorph and ectomorph. Mesomorphs tend toward the ideal male physique, and prefer action and risk-taking over thinking and calculation.

The Extreme [Mesomorph] — Action

In endotonia the stomach was the focus of attention, but in mesotonia it is the muscles. The mesotonic is well-endowed with them, or to put it another way, the mesotonic’s muscles seem to have a mind of their own. They are always ready for action, and good posture is natural to them. They get up with plenty of energy and seem tireless. They can work for long periods of time and both need and like to exercise. They like to be out doing things. If they are forced into inactivity they become restless and dejected.

The mesotonic has no hesitation in approaching people and making known his wants and desires. The tendency to think with his muscles and find exhilaration in their use leads him to enjoy taking chances and risks, even when the actual gain is well-known to be minimal. They can become fond of gambling and fast driving and are generally physically fearless. They can be either difficult and argumentative, or slow to anger, but always with the capacity to act out physically and usually with some sort of history of having done so on special occasions.

This physical drive manifests itself on the psychological level in a sense of competition. The mesotonic wants to win and pushes himself forward. He is unhesitant about the all-out pursuit of the goal he seeks. Associated with this trait is a certain psychological callousness.

This outward energetic flow makes mesotonics generally noisy. They bustle about doing things and since their inhibitions are low, the attendant noise does not bother them. Their voices carry and sometimes boom out as if speech were another form of exercise. When alcohol reduces their inhibitions, they become more assertive and aggressive. When trouble strikes they revert to their most fundamental form of behavior and seek action of some sort. Mesotonics tend to glorify that period of youthful activities where physical powers reach their peak, or perhaps more accurately the period of youth that best symbolizes a sense of endless vitality and activity. This glorification of youth goes hand-in-hand with the early maturing of the mesotonic organism, both facially and muscularly. They look older than their chronological age. The extraversion of action that is so strong here goes together with a lack of awareness of what is happening on the subjective level. The quickness with which the mesotonic can make decisions is compensated for by a relative unawareness of the other parts of his personality.

The mesomorph is your classic aloof, ******* alpha male. He’s not trying to be an inconsiderate jerk (well, not always), he just is. Many naturals are mesomorphs, though they may not fit the ideal male body type. (For instance, the best natural I knew was a fairly short mesomorph.) The mesomorph has an innate temperament and psychology that is suited to approach-heavy pickup, and so he will have the shallowest learning curve if he is new to game. On paper, he seems like an unstoppable PUA machine, but in fact his type comes with many flaws, so don’t try to convince yourself that game is useless for you if you don’t have a mesomorphic physique.

First, as should be obvious, the muscular, broad-shouldered, mesomorph body is the most widely appealing to women. Given a roomful of one hundred women, the mesomorph will capture more approach invitations (come-hither eye play) than either the endomorph or ectomorph. But this appeal is shallow. A significant minority of women prefer leaner men than the typical mesomorph, and a smaller minority prefer “huggable bear” endomorphs. Furthermore, women’s initial attraction to men based on physical appeal is not nearly as unshakably hardened as men’s initial attraction to women with sexy figures and pretty faces. A woman will instantly lose her attraction for a mesomorph if he opens his mouth and lameness tumbles out. And women don’t feel near the same urgent, wall-climbing horniness for physically impressive men that men feel for physically impressive women.

Nevertheless, the relative ease with which mesomorphs get approach invitations means that, coupled with their natural extroversion and action jackson mentality, they will have the easiest route to meeting women and inducing an initial attraction, however potentially short-lived. This is an advantage that gradually accrues to a mesomorph’s store of self-confidence, resulting in a feedback loop that makes the meso more confident than his already elevated inborn confidence. Since overconfidence is the Moloko Plus of pickup, the mesomorph goes into each set with his guns blazing.

Because the mesomorph is a man of (occasionally thoughtless) action, direct game will be his bread and butter. He will feel most at ease, and most energized, running direct game rather than indirect game that involves a lot of push-pull, palm reading, or meandering chit chat. Mesomorphs will therefore excel at speed seduction — moving a seduction quickly to its sexual denouement — and they will be adept at venue bouncing, kino, escalation, deal closing, and out-AMOGing competition.

But the meso’s greatest strength is also his most vulnerable weakness. Mesomorphs’ love for action and escalation means that they are often bad at calibrating women’s receptiveness. The classic meso is the gung-ho military man who misreads a woman’s interest and bungles the pickup by being too aggressive and obstinate. The meso predilection to act first, think later, tends to make them impatient with women and their particular emotional needs, leaving the door open for a sly ecto or endo to swoop in and rescue the girl from “the meathead”.

The game stages where mesomorphs shine, then, would be the attraction stage and, to a lesser degree, the seduction stage. Their infectious physical confidence, “psychological callousness”, and bravado lure women, and their selfishness and strong will help seal the deal in the bedroom. But in between, mesomorphs risk losing it all. The meso is weakest during the comfort stage of a pickup. This is not the type of man who likes to sit on a couch in a dimly lit lounge, gabbing for hours with a girl about her hopes and dreams, running sequences of qualifications and disqualifications and playing games with his cellphone to increase the perception of his preselection by other women.

A mesomorph has to train himself to be better at reading women’s signals, and to be more refined at the art of manipulative pullbacks. He’s got the body language and the physical escalation nailed down; now he needs to work on his empathy and developing an attitude of scarcity to complement his transparent, take-charge approach mentality.

Mesomorphs in relationships need to be careful about letting their jealously control them, rather than controlling their jealousy to be released in manageable doses that maximally arouse their women. “Bemused mastery” is not an attitude that comes easily to action-oriented, quick-to-anger mesomorphs, and neither is self-possessed state control in the face of female drama. Many women, in fact, find it rather easy to manipulate mesomorphic men to do their bidding, which often leads to boredom for those women.

Mesomoprhs’ low empathy and high self-aggrandizement impulse makes them natural neggers (whoa!) and teasers, and women will eat that up. But the meso has to be aware of the moment when it is time to switch from aloof teasing to intimate rapport, and this means a practiced ability to tame his need for action and results. A mesomorph who can effortlessly segue to showing a soft side is one of the most fearsome seducers known to exist.

Mesomorphs must avoid, at all costs, their tendency to grabass. Every guy I’ve witnessed grinding on some fat bootied **** in a club has been a mesomorph. And rarely do I see these undomesticated mesos going home with their tormentors, unless she’s really ugly and desperate for a jackhammering.

You’d think that a mesomorph would do best in clubs and bars, where the noisy atmosphere and revved-up girls feed his already high energy level. But, ironically, mesos can do very well in, for instance, coffee shops, because there are so few action-oriented, bold men in those environments that the meso will shine in comparison. I rarely — and I mean like one out of one hundred visits — see a man cold approach or cold open a woman in a coffee shop (present company excluded). Most men are pussies. Curled-up, fetal, manboobed, hipster doofuses who can’t bring themselves to do more than flutter their eyelashes at girls they like the look of. The mesomorph with ambition in his heart and results on his mind will not think twice about swooping some babe pretending to type something vitally important to the continuance of civilization on her Macbook Air.

And it is this “living in the moment” — perhaps the gretest natural pickup advantage the mesomorph possesses — which is beloved by women. The underthinking meso never second guesses, never doubts himself and never suffers paralysis by analysis. He’s a doer. He can pass **** tests with ease because his head is locked into the action occurring in front of him. But he has to beware the pitfall of blowing himself out. That same proclivity to spontaneous action can lead him to misgauge women’s interest and overlook emotionally connecting with women. The mesomorph is the worst listener of the three male body archetypes, and it’s no coincidence that many of them are left at the end of the night shaking their heads about the “girl that got away”.

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posted January 10, 2013 09:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i used to be a fatty. i have pics from 3rd grade or so lol. i was trying to make a point how i was actually lonelier when i was super ripped even if there were many that showed interest. found the article above. /shrug

it actually makes a lot of sense..

i'm a h1 mars with no air.

living in the moment.. yes!

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posted January 10, 2013 09:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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i used to be a fatty. i have pics from 3rd grade or so lol. i was trying to make a point how i was actually lonelier when i was super ripped even if there were many that showed interest. found the article above. /shrug

it actually makes a lot of sense..

i'm a h1 mars with no air.

living in the moment.. yes!


I want to read the other articles on the other body types!

3rd grade doesn't count.

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posted January 10, 2013 09:42 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for sand     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I want to read the other articles on the other body types!

posted them in a new thread.

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oh hannah you will fall in love but maybe is this venus square with your partner than this is very difficult as squares usually are. maybe you are in love with him or want to be in love but this is very difficult in a composite chart. like a stagg with a capricorn is a 3-1 pattern. if it is a composite chart venus square then maybe there are other aspects that can soften a hard saturn. but whatever is going on there needs to be no violence in any type of relationship whether they are in love or you are in love or want to be in love. there is no room for violence when you want to fall in love or be in a love relationship. violence is not part of love and is unacceptable behaviour as it changes who you are and what you think and feel about yourself at your core of who you are - your sense of self worth and nobody deserves to be hit. if they are they have no business being togethier like in my last bad relationship. we had no buisness being togethier even though he was in recovery. and like in a 3-1 patteren like stagg and capricorn this is not an easy relationship but kindess and understanding and acceptance of each other just as they are can mean living apart. as a capricorn in 3-1 pattern is organised and loves to live in a organised home and one that is sparkling clean like a virgo attention to detail and cleaniness. and a stagg with cancer moon or a tarus moon is stubborn and strong willed and when they get mad they will stragitise a way of winning that is to be on top. so all these things are to be taken into consideration when you fall in love what pattern you have like from linda goodman love signs book and linda goodman relationships signs book. it is better to be prepared before you fall in love with knowledge of thier sun patterns and composite charts as this is points to the possibilities in the relationship and is a good guide before you consider having children or a family. but where the chart shows tendicies and possiblities the strongest of these are will - your will like in will power.

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posted January 11, 2013 03:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The Venus square Saturn is natal, in my own chart. And violence??? Who said anything about violence?! Regardless, I would never stay in a violent relationship so good thing I can check that off my list.

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posted January 11, 2013 03:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for saronna     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
nobody said anything about violence hannah it was in reference to ones own experience and sharing of this experience in light of difficult aspects saturn square venus.

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posted January 11, 2013 09:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Swift Freeze     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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but generally when guys honestly don't have a problem with a girl's weight, they don't refer to her as "fat chick." Just sayin'.

This, is true.

@Aquaguy91

Everyone has a "vibe", and everyone has a "vibe" sense. Whatever vibe you are giving off, is making Women feel insecure, not safe around you. Whether they pick up on all your inherent frustration with dating, or anything else.

The thing that is most apparent to me, is that it is very difficult for people to pick up on the "vibes" they are giving off, without intense scrutiny and time devoted to investigating their own... psyche, and emotional nature. It is extremely difficult to lie, with your whole body. There are tons of tiny little pointers that people are being disingenuous, and when people pick up on this, they keep away.

The best way to find out exactly what "vibes" you are giving off, is to ask other people, how they perceive you, and how you act. It is very apparent, and you have said yourself, that women on these forums, all seem to have a similar opinion of certain qualities they think you have. I don't tend to read the same threads you do, because I honestly haven't read many of your posts. However, the few that I have, I will admit that I am following a similar opinion as to the women. I wouldn't so readily dismiss the opinions, and thoughts of a group of many women, and focus solely on the advice of one. Whose advice was as simple as, "drop 30lbs". Although weight may play a role in some attraction, it is often a much less significant factor than many others when it comes to attraction. Ultimately the choice is yours, you can listen to, think about, and take seriously the advice and thoughts of those women here. Or you can continue to ignore them, and ride the same train you seem to have been.

I completely understand that your past experiences, and not just in your own relationships, watching other peoples, have given you a not so great outlook. I understand that it makes it tough. However, your resentment at "fat girls" turning you down, at girls picking "******* " guys over you, picking "guys who can't commit" over you, making "wrong decisions" when it comes to picking guys", over you. Maybe this leads to your frustration, and conflict between knowing who you are, what makes you attractive. Yet struggling with looking at other guys, who you deem yourself superior to, having relationships whilst you do not. Maybe, just maybe, the issue is not with the girls and women, or anything external.

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posted January 11, 2013 10:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ Well said, Chris.

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nobody said anything about violence hannah it was in reference to ones own experience and sharing of this experience in light of difficult aspects saturn square venus.

Oh. I'm sorry. Nobody should have to go through that. I also didn't know Saturn/Venus contacts could bring violence but since violence is a form of restriction in a way, it makes sense.

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posted January 11, 2013 01:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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^ Well said, Chris.

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Your other reply was better! Not to mention the sense of entitlement he has to that girl's time just because he thinks he's better looking than her (which no, you didn't flat out say but you implied it by making it a big deal she was really overweight.)

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posted January 11, 2013 01:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I should have popcorn ready but its far too early for that.

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posted January 11, 2013 01:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaturnineMoth     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^ no it's not!!! *passes ail the tub of popcorn*

(doc wanted some... lmao)

gotta be ready... Depp always is.

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I should have popcorn ready but its far too early for that.

ROFL. You and Moth crack me up!

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posted January 11, 2013 01:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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^ no it's not!!! *passes ail the tub of popcorn*

(doc wanted some... lmao)

gotta be ready... Depp always is.


Poor Johnny I imagine him rocking back and forth saying "I am captain jack sparrow"

I'm down if he has some kettle corn and chocolate dipped strawberries.

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posted January 11, 2013 02:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mercuranian     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I should have popcorn ready but its far too early for that.

i've been chomping away but i'm afraid all of this popcorn is gonna turn me into a fat chick

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posted January 11, 2013 02:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ail221     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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ROFL. You and Moth crack me up!

That's what happens when you mix a Venus in Gemini and Sagittarius.

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Beta Males Settle For Fat Chicks

Beta males are more anxious, fidgety, alert and quicker to react to local disturbances than are alpha males. We know this from observing it in the field, and now from various scientific studies examining the phenomenon. The short of it is, if you’re an alpha male, you don’t need as wide a margin of safety as beta males do, for you are less likely than they are to get cold-cocked, challenged or to lose a fight or dominance contest should one erupt. This lower need for safety precautions allows the alpha male to relax in his environment and to assume open, welcoming postures that are alluring to women. It follows that beta males, by practicing and adopting the cool, aloof mannerisms of the alpha male, can attract more and better women. Body language improvement is a fundamental tenet of game, and it works so effectively at heating up interest from women that some men might be tempted to call it magic.

Beta males, then, are in a constant state of heightened anxiety; also known as being stressed out. The world is a dangerous place, especially for beta males. If you feel stressed out all the time, like you’re losing control of your life or your surroundings, odds are good you are a beta male.

Now science comes along, trotting in like a merry prankster, to prove, albeit for those with a keen eye for reading between the lines, that beta males — i.e., stressed males — are more likely than relaxed, confident, self-satisfied alpha males to settle for the losers of womanhood.

Increased stress in men is associated with a preference for heavier women, according to research published Aug. 8 in the open access journal PLOS ONE.

The researchers, led by Viren Swami of the University of Westminster in London, compared how stressed versus non-stressed men responded to pictures of female bodies varying from emaciated to obese.

They found that the stressed group gave significantly higher ratings to the normal weight and overweight figures than the non-stressed group did, and that the stressed group generally had a broader range of figures they found attractive than the non-stressed group did.

These results, the authors write, are consistent with the idea that people idealize mature morphological traits like heavier body size when they experience an environmental threat such as stress.

The researchers go on to speculate that stressed men gravitate (heh) to fat chicks because those women are perceived as being better able to survive periodic famines, and to have higher social status that allows them to afford more food.

Tidy speculation that toes the feminist line, but I’ll tell you the powerhouse knockout punch this study really delivers:

Stressed men are beta males with limited mating market options who learn to increase their chances of getting laid by widening their field of view (double-wide heh) to include fatter chicks who themselves have limited options and are thus easier to bed.

Why are stressed men gimped in the sexual market? Women don’t want to be around anxious, stressed men. Women prefer the company of relaxed, self-assured men; these men are signaling that they have the resources, and the ability to get more resources should the need arise, that women value in potential mates. Thin, beautiful women have the highest value, and the most options, of all women, so they are the ones most likely to adhere to very tough standards and to act on their preference for large and in-charge alpha males.

Are beta males *constitutionally* more attracted to fat chicks when they’re stressed? Probably not. What men find attractive in women — which doesn’t deviate much from the universal preference for a 17-23 BMI and a 0.7 waist-hip ratio — is pretty much set by conception, and then later by that first thermonuclear blast of hindbrain hormones that floods our systems at puberty. Recall back to that time you got a surprise “what the hell is this?” boner from staring at the teenage red-headed girl’s tight tush and narrow waist. Was that boner preprogrammed by cultural cues to rise on command? Or did it just happen on its own, intrinsic to your being, immune to external suasion, summoned from the depths of your primordial subconscious to lurch your body into spasms of delight?

Stressed out betas don’t prefer fat chicks to thinner chicks; (as the study showed but the researchers… ahem… chose to paper over in their conclusion, stressed betas actually gave the same high scores as relaxed alphas gave to the thin chicks. The difference is that alpha males did not over-inflate (triple bank shot heh) the attractiveness of the fatter chicks). What stressed beta males prefer is the inclusion of a larger (fourth heh?) pool of lower value women rightly perceived by these betas as being easier for them to get than hotter, thinner chicks.

Once you remove the stressor from the lives of these beta males, they go right back to preferring slender babes. You could say that a happy man is a man who hates the sight of fat chicks. I’m sure fat chicks will be pleased to learn that they can clean up with unhappy, neurotic men.

So that is the brutal truth this study confirms for those of us who have lived a day in our lives and witnessed happening over and over among real human beings instead of the opposite that is claimed to happen by internet shut-ins and cocooned, deluded feminists:

Maxim # 23: Limited options = looser standards.

When life is going well for a man, he demands the best for himself. The best will always be slim, pretty, young women. When life is ******** on a man, he reaches out to fellow losers with whom he can share his lonely love. The losers will always be fat, ugly, and/or older women. His ego then does the job of convincing his higher order brain functions that the fat chick he’s plowing kinda has a cute face in the right light: total darkness.

^i can't believe someone actually thinks about this. (It was the next article after endomorphs)

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