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Topic: Feminine sexuality makes no sense to me
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 01:25 PM
Lexx, Just to be clear. I'm talking about young women. I've met older women who said they were sapiosexual who didn't seem like that. Unfortunately, it seems that the term sapiosexual has been hijacked by young women who don't like sex. It's now the trendy and hip way for them to say they are basically asexual. I do appreciate all your kindness. Hugs to you! IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 01:48 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I'll be honest. The whole concept of being sapiosexual triggers me because that is a label some judgemental women use. They love to tell you they are saiposexual and how it makes them superior to you. You see.... They only #### smart people. They're too good for normal cretins who get turned on and just want to #### someone they're attracted to. That's how sapiosexual people usually try to come across.
I see what you mean. Well those idiot women are definitely not sapeosexual 👽 Too bad a perfectly good term has been being used and abused by women who are not sapeosexual women. Definitely not😡 Disgusting🤬IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 01:54 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: And also,the thing is I'm a real intellectual. Not a fake one. The type of man who actually tries to seek the truth and isn't afraid to be controversial. Most young women - when they say they are sapiosexual - really mean they want the type of guy who looks at the thesaurus before he tweets to sound smart. That's the kind of intellect that most women find attractive and a guy like me has no value or worth in their fake Instagram world.
That is disgusting👽 Now what label should use since sapeosexual has been degraded by their being fakes etcetera.IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 02:01 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Lexx, Just to be clear. I'm talking about young women. I've met older women who said they were sapiosexual who didn't seem like that. Unfortunately, it seems that the term sapiosexual has been hijacked by young women who don't like sex. It's now the trendy and hip way for them to say they are basically asexual. I do appreciate all your kindness. Hugs to you!
Thank you 🌈 💙 Okay😳 I must make this very clear😎 I have never been like those women even in my youth. My attitude since puberty has been just the same all my life to date whether 10, 20, ,30, years old all the way up to my current 67😎So please do not lump me into the nice woman box just because I am elderly 😳 My attitude has absolutely nothing to do with my age ever😎 I have never met a female like myself Maybe we are more rare than thought and maybe just gave up and decided to go out alone. Many do😎
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 02:15 PM
Lexx, I know you aren't like the others. You're very nice and open. I hope you are doing well today and feeling better. I can't believe how fast July went by. IP: Logged |
Cancermoon83 Knowflake Posts: 92 From: Registered: Mar 2022
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posted July 28, 2022 02:28 PM
That's probably because men look down on women with the same or higher amount of sexuality than them.That's why we feel the need to know the guy better first. Personally,I've been criticized in the past by boyfriends for initiating sex too soon.So i stopped doing it.Speaking of that,almost all my long term relationships started with sex on the 1st date,and they all respected me.I always plan to control my self and not jump right into it in the beginning,but most of the times it doesn't work like that.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 02:30 PM
I've just accepted that I'll never be satisfied in this life. IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 03:25 PM
💖How has life been treating you these days Cancermoon83?🌈 quote: Originally posted by Cancermoon83: That's probably because men look down on women with the same or higher amount of sexuality than them.That's why we feel the need to know the guy better first. Personally,I've been criticized in the past by boyfriends for initiating sex too soon.So i stopped doing it.Speaking of that,almost all my long term relationships started with sex on the 1st date,and they all respected me.I always plan to control my self and not jump right into it in the beginning,but most of the times it doesn't work like that.
oh yeah I can relate😢💙 I have been called a wwhore and worse by both men and women.🤬 That is why I always wanted long conversations first even when I took them back to my apartment. Unless stoned or drunk, I never just hopped in to a sexual situation without thinking. Hence I gave up partying eventually and made a point before that to tell the other person or person's to please have respect for me and my inebriated lack of good judgement moments. Too often that was not respected and that kind of situation is what I think has happened to some women, the date rapes and party rapes.😢 So my thing is never ever have sex when drunk or high for the first time with anyone😎 It does not sound like aquaguy91 approves of men who do that to women😎 I totally understand where he is coming from but hope he understands that yes there are men who will take what they want and ruin a girl or woman emotionally, socially and even physically🤬 I have experienced all that too often. And women called people like me wwhores or worse🤬 You asked for it they would say and kick and spit on me and spread lies. Apparently they had never been date raped or whatever against their will absolutely no compassion from them or men who take what and when they desire. And yes indeed the men who treated me like a wwhore just because I initiated sex🤬 Cannot have it both ways guys🤬 I do not feel aquaguy91 is that kind of man💙 He is however being judged as being an out of control sex fiend when anyone reading would see that he is not like that💙 ------------------
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posted July 28, 2022 03:41 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Lexx, I know you aren't like the others. You're very nice and open. I hope you are doing well today and feeling better. I can't believe how fast July went by.
Thank you for caring and asking aquaguy91 💖😎 Been bed bound since Tuesday prepping for surgery one of many to come then the surgery Wednesday and bed bound today waiting for the incisions in my chest and juglar vein to heal and not bleed more and the implant for chemo to heal . Must take care because it must not come loose😳👽 Feels creepy though and very uncomfortable😢👽 Dizzy all day from the multiple types of anesthesia they had to give to me. Weak and Losing like a pound a day or up to 30 pounds a month👽😳 I am too sick to eat though🤮👽Anyhow feeling a little better psychologically because all in all that simple but dangerous surgery could have killed me or cause a stroke or heart attack or blood clot or lung collapses 👽😳 I feel I got luck😎 The next surgeries will be much more dangerous but since I made it through this one I am hoping I will get through the next several surgeries a-okay 😎 Someday if and when I survive this cancers cancers business I would like to meet you in person. That is an offer I do not make lightly. But that is a long shot and no idea yet if I will be around to ever do such a thing👽 One day at a time😎🌈 Take care aquaguy91 🌈💖💙😎 ------------------
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SleepyDiary Knowflake Posts: 392 From: Registered: Apr 2017
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posted July 28, 2022 04:47 PM
Find yourself an older or more mature woman then, and stop engaging with immature unavaible women. There is always someone for someone you just gotta look in the right places. Have a more positive attitude too. You intellectuals can also come off very debative and argumentive which can put some people off. I’m not saying you are unattractive but i have seen many not so good looking people in relationships too. And if a woman isn’t interested in getting intimate with you just move on or give her the time she needs if she is worth it. If you want sex and purely that then find yourself a **** buddy lots of people on tinder interested in that IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 04:50 PM
Women can be very foolish when they are drunk. I've mentioned a certain woman who goes on about how good I smell and so on when she is around me here before. I never see this woman not drunk and the way she acts makes me very uncomfortable, mainly because I am very attracted to her and there's nothing I can ethically or morally do with her. Other guys would definitely take advantage of that situation. That's my reward for being a decent guy and having morals; loneliness and blue balls. I wish a woman who was single and sober would warmly flirt with me. Hell, even just give me a genuine smile that reaches the eyes. Just give me something, some kind of positive energy. LolIP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 07:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by Dumuzi: maybe women just don't like you specifically and it has nothing to do with other men like you claim it does 🤷♀️
I just want to highlight posts like this where Dumuzi tried to alienate me and make feel even worse while simultaneously claiming to be for me lol. So disingenuous. IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 07:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Women can be very foolish when they are drunk. I've mentioned a certain woman who goes on about how good I smell and so on when she is around me here before. I never see this woman not drunk and the way she acts makes me very uncomfortable, mainly because I am very attracted to her and there's nothing I can ethically or morally do with her. Other guys would definitely take advantage of that situation. That's my reward for being a decent guy and having morals; loneliness and blue balls. I wish a woman who was single and sober would warmly flirt with me. Hell, even just give me a genuine smile that reaches the eyes. Just give me something, some kind of positive energy. Lol
Why no one has fallen love with you yet is just so unfair💙😢What you just illustrated is the mindset of a perfect gentleman💖😎 I will wish I had not been a naive fool in my youth and done stupid things under the influence or worse when passed out😢👽 I wanted long ve any touch so badly and felt like kif I flirted it was only right to have sex because being a tease was a bad thing in my opinion. I wish all men had your moral compass and respect for drunken or stoned women and do not believe in using them when they aren't in their best form to consent😢 I knew guys who believed the lies and rumours about me and thought I was there to rape as they desired🤬🤬🤬 Example here: A knock on my apartment door after school let out, still daytime and when I opened the door a crack at the door there stood a guy I didn't think was interested in me because I was not a pretty cheerleader and he was the football captain 😳 He was nicely dressed and smelled of very strong aftershave. Without warning he broke the door chain and pushed me to the floor and put his foot on my belly and locked the door and dragged me by my long hair to the bed and said he would kill me if I screamed😳🧪😡 He believed the lies of the cheerleaders and other guys who I would not have sex with because they were bad news But they made up things when they did not get sex from me. So here the captain was treating me like a wwhore😳🤬 I suddenly went totally berserk and to my surprise beat the crap out of him😎🤬🤬🤬 I was so terrified😳😢 The next day school Looked down from an upper deck of the stairs because I heard someone say holy Toledo what the hell happened to yo, being said to the football captain👽😳 He looked up at me and said quote: She happened😳👽
I had hurt him pretty bad all bruised and black eyes and deep bites you name it, He was bandaged too and using a crutch😳👽 I fought for my life because he said in the attempted rape he would kill me and I I thought he was going to kill me😳🤬 Then an amazing thing happened😎 Suddenly the guys begin treating me with respect😎 The cheerleaders however we're more nasty than ever. Especially the football captains girlfriend👽 People sure are strange at times👽 Well point is thank you for not being that kind of guy aquaguy91 💖😎 These bad boys are oddly back then and now days the types the girls and women are attracted to👽 Makes no sense to me👽 She wasn't mad at her almost rapist boyfriend but mad at me the girl she considered a man chasing wwhore😳👽 Okay rant over not a good memory but I survived that time😎
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 07:27 PM
And yes, Dumuzi. Women hate me. Always have. That's what I've always said. They hate me and don't even try to hide it. Even after my mom died women still treated me bad and were unloving and mean and rude. I've never been as rude to women in my day to day life as they are to me. I can sit in a room with a woman all day and she will never say hi to me or ask me how I'm doing. You can count on that. I have to do all the heavy lifting and women never meet me halfway or anything like that. They just treat me like I'm not worth knowing or investing any effort in. I never feel a woman making an effort to maintain contact with me. Ever. It should be a two-way street. IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 07:28 PM
aquaguy91 😢💙Did you read my post above about the almost rape and all⁉️ You're a decent man aquaguy91 💖😎 Why women hate you makes no sense to me👽😢🥵 Which leads to a serious question😳 Do you avoid the least attractive women. or fat ones or poor looking ones or the quite ones or women who do not dress provacatively ⁉️ Do appearances matter to you or the real person inside⁉️ If you only look at the glitz you will miss finding the real but hidden gems💙
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SleepyDiary Knowflake Posts: 392 From: Registered: Apr 2017
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posted July 28, 2022 07:58 PM
Haha it seems like you want a reaction from dumuzi after she stopped talking to you. You like to provoke with your threads and you like to argue. Something tells me you are similar in person too. Work on yourself before you try to get the best for yourself. It’s not always ‘’other’’ people you just keep getting attracted to the wrong people it seems. I bet you the type if a woman shows you any interest you would soon find her too ‘’clingy’’ or ‘’easy’’ and would long for someone more ‘’hard to get’’ I have seen men like you before that are constantly attracted to unavailable women you don’t appreciate when love is there and would much rather chase a woman instead and then complain about how hard your love lives is. Appreciate a good woman when you see one and stop wanting those that have bad written all over them. IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 08:35 PM
You do seem to seriously suffer from such strong misogyny 😢👽have you ever considered that you unconsciously send out that hatred of women vibe? I watch faces carefully and body language. If you do not seem approachable or seem to be looking at women with a stare that tells them you are a misogynist they will stay clear of you as soon as you show that you do not seem to want to know them. Please look at yourself seriously and ask yourself if you send out misogynistic messages unconsciously👽 Have any of them heard you saying the things you say here about how you do not trust women and all your complaints about them⁉️ I do not know what your social contacts are like but aquaguy91 news travels fast and if you spilled beans on how you feel about virtually all women, sadly to say they will avoid you like the plague. News of a misogynistic man is not a thing a woman would ignore. Some aspect of all of this is not clear and so cannot help you. You must let go of the mysongynistic attitude even though women have done that to you all your life to date👽😢 Would you please clarify the way you act towards any woman you come across⁉️ Do you unconsciously let your mysongynistic mindset flood out and end a connection before it even begins⁉️ I hope that I have not angered you aquaguy91 but something about all of this seems to be missing some facts. I still do sincerely wish you well and hope you can purge yourself of the mysongynistic mindset. Of course you must still be careful and be aware of any person who sends put ted flags. Just drop them and walk away. You do not need nor want such people. Better to be alone than lonely with someone. You do not need to hold onto their cruelty. Just let it go and never go near them ever again and seriously aquaguy91 that also means your family😢 Being family gives them no right to abuse you. Leave them. Leave them ASAP for your own sanity and peace of mind💙 Avoid toxic people and do not !keep letting them infect you with such meaness and cruelty. Respect yourself aquaguy91 and get the hells away from such poison relationships, family or otherwise. As long as you hold so tight to the mysogyny you will not be able to heal and come out as the mentally and emotionally stable person I am sure that deep inside you want to be💙😎 You seem to be suffering so very very much and deeply and I am getting sadder and sadder for you and have absolutely no idea how to help you cope with life other than what I have said so far😢👽 Okay. Must go not doing well at the moment. Physical agony is a nightmare but your emotional ago y can be just as painful as any physical agonies. aquaguy91 😢💙 Did you read my post above about the almost rape and all⁉️ You're a decent man aquaguy91 💖😎 Why women hate you makes no sense to me👽😢🥵 Which leads to a serious question😳 Do you avoid the least attractive women. or fat ones or poor looking ones or older ones or the quite ones or women who do not dress provacatively ⁉️ Do appearances matter to you or the real person inside⁉️ If you only look at the glitz you will miss finding the real but hidden gems💙 I do not know what else to say.😢 ------------------
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 08:39 PM
What are you talking about? There aren't any women in my life who show me interest. You're literally making stuff up and crazy stuff at that. Where are these women?? The idea of a woman loving me intensely and actually wanting to be with me is extremely appealing to me. That's all I've ever wanted.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 08:44 PM
Lexx, I have been rejected by skinny women, fat women, old women, young women, and every category of woman. They all treat me bad. I'm just not enough. And now you are turning on me too. I see how it is.IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 08:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: What are you talking about? There aren't any women in my life who show me interest. You're literally making stuff up and crazy stuff at that. Where are these women?? The idea of a woman loving me intensely and actually wanting to be with me is extremely appealing to me. That's all I've ever wanted.
Are you talking to me⁉️👽 If so then it seems I trying to figure you out and find a way to help that I have offended you👽😢Well aquaguy91 I tried. Do not know what else to say. This is all so unnecessarily sad and it hurts to not know what to say to help you. On that note going again cannot deal with other people's dramas at this time. Fighting multiple cancers take priority and I must rest. I feel that I have done my best to support you and show that I sincerely care but now I must back off because this is too much stress for me to deal with. Sorry that I cannot help👽😢 IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 08:50 PM
If I could describe my typical demeanor with women in most situations, I would say I keep my distance. I'm not rude or standoffish but I don't try to engage women in most situations for obvious reasons. They are difficult and fussy and everything is a problem with them so I leave them alone like they want. They never try to talk to me either. So I don't see how it's problematic for me to keep my distance when they treat me badly and never make any effort to make me feel comfortable or welcome either.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12752 From: Uranus Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 28, 2022 08:54 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: What are you talking about? There aren't any women in my life who show me interest. You're literally making stuff up and crazy stuff at that. Where are these women?? The idea of a woman loving me intensely and actually wanting to be with me is extremely appealing to me. That's all I've ever wanted.
Are you talking to me⁉️👽 If so then it seems I trying to figure you out and find a way to help that I have offended you👽😢Well aquaguy91 I tried. Do not know what else to say. This is all so unnecessarily sad and it hurts to not know what to say to help you. On that note going again cannot deal with other people's dramas at this time. Fighting multiple cancers take priority and I must rest. I feel that I have done my best to support you and show that I sincerely care but now I must back off because this is too much stress for me to deal with. Sorry that I cannot help👽😢 quote: originaly posted by aquaguy91 Lexx, That post you replied to was addressed to the other poster. It wasn't you.
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posted July 28, 2022 08:56 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: Lexx, I have been rejected by skinny women, fat women, old women, young women, and every category of woman. They all treat me bad. I'm just not enough. And now you are turning on me too. I see how it is.
Seriously aquaguy91 you accuse me of turning against you too🤬👽😢 I have shown you nothing but caring and and have been trying to help you somehow. Now You have dumped me in the enemy women category saying that I have turned against you👽⁉️👽⁉️👽⁉️ I cannot take this anymore. I care but this accusation just killed it for me. Go ahead and believe that I have turned against you👽 That is not the way to treat me when all i have done is seriously tried to help and understand👽 I never expected you to accuse me of turning against you👽😢👽😢👽😢👽😢👽😢👽 I have been caring and honest with you and now our of the blue without warning you go all Jekyll and Hyde and accuse me of turning against you. I am sad and shocked to say the least. I should not have tried to help. Wow just freaking wow👽🤬😢 IP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 08:59 PM
I just loathe that stupid word "misogyny." Of course I feel bad about women. They have treated me badly my whole life. All it would take is one loving intimate relationship to change that. That's all it would take. Just one woman being loving, trustworthy, and consistent with me. I just want to be treated like I matter. I have never had that. Women have always given me nothing but reasons to feel bad about myselfIP: Logged |
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posted July 28, 2022 09:08 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I just loathe that stupid word "misogyny." Of course I feel bad about women. They have treated me badly my whole life. All it would take is one loving intimate relationship to change that. That's all it would take. Just one woman being loving, trustworthy, and consistent with me. I just want to be treated like I matter. I have never had that. Women have always given me nothing but reasons to feel bad about myself
And you have added me to that list now of women who treat you badly and insist that I have turned against you😢🤬👽 You do not like being hurt by the actions or words of others and dammit nor do I appreciate being accused of doing something I did not do.👽 It hurts and I am done here for now.😢 I feel I deserve an apology for that unwarranted and uncalled for false accusations you have dumped on me.Enjoy your life. I cannot help you. IP: Logged |