posted July 27, 2022 05:25 PM            

Another woman who was more transparent about wanting to go slow was also equally frustrating in a different way. She just disappeared on me for awhile after about 3 weeks of talking every single day. So my first thought was (obviously) she ghosted me and I had that trauma response of feeling bad and going back to all those feelings of low self worth. When I got back in contact with her she acted nonchalant. It turned out her dad was sick and things had been bad. And she had completely left me in the dark. I had no idea. It made me so mad. I had invested so much time getting to know this woman and she wasn't treating me like I was worth being in the loop at all. If I was talking to a woman romantically when my mom died or when she first got sick, I would have communicated that. I would have been kind enough to not leave someone hanging. She just told me "That's just how I am." What BS! That's not good enough for me. Do better! Treat people with respect. I'm almost to the point where I don't even want to try because people are so emotionally selfish. Like wtf????? Seriously???? I just don't understand that level of self absorption.

posted July 27, 2022 05:28 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
you seem to just want to rant not talk, and you seem to want to believe ALL women are exactly the same and you seem to not want to believe you could just be wrong etc and so on

so... yeah you believe whatever works for you, and i'll continue having no issues with most men because most guys are perfectly capable of interacting with me in spite of me being a woman and you saying i apparently should have all kinds of problems 🤷‍♀️ i'll ask about 80% of my friends (all male) if i'm a hostile ***** meanwhile most of them tell me i'm too nice

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posted July 27, 2022 06:34 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Your tone towards me has always been very antagonistic and dismissive. I've never felt any empathy or anything like that from you.

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you mean the tone you give me, this is text there's no tone other than what you give me

and i get it i gave someone on ll a bad tone during conversations too, asked her to call me so i could hear her speak, realized i was getting annoyed by the tone i gave not the one she actually had and we were friendly after

posted July 27, 2022 06:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
no one called either of you monsters, as a matter of fact i think he's a much better person than you

not because either of you is a monster but because you're deliberately disingenuous, dishonest and speak like a narc and he just wants to be understood and connect with other humans

he's a far better person than you could hope to be from what i could see, based on all that's been displayed

the hateful messed up person here is you

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Hey aquaguy91 💙😎💖
See what I mean.😢🤬
Most women hate me and judge me without knowing me just as Ms Dumuzi has done
by insulting me calling to me names
and then saying nice nice all of a
sudden out of the blue to you saying
that you just want to be understood
as if now she is trying to
kiss your tukas to turn against me
Now she likes you and understands
you and cares👽👽👽👽
Take care and do not buy into her
sudden turn to complimenting you by
insulting me.
Yep that is how many women are towards
me whenever I stick up for a guy or
men who are being treated unfairly and misunderstood and judged.
Always the games and two faced dances👽👽👽
What kind of person calls a person all those nasty things without knowing them at all?👽
I do not know this Ms D person but so far I have not seen and kindness nor understaning coming from them.
They have been repeatedly unkind
towards you😢👽

Going to leave your thread at least for now aquaguy91 💙😢
I am fighting rare cancers and may or may not make it.
I wanted to get in here and post today even though sick from hospital and surgery 6 hours today.
I just wanted you to know some folks understand you and care whilst
I am still able to speak out against injustices towards men💖

I was hoping I would not encounter yet another woman ripping into me and being
cruel and judging and worse😢

Note to Randall

Randall
I do not need her crap just for sticking up for aquaguy91 and other men who are good guys.

Sorry aquaguy91 😢
But I must go or be shredded even more by
Ms D.👽

I had hoped to see more women sticking up for you and for good men.
But as expected I get raked over and insulted
by the very type that has always been cruel to me all my life to date🤬

I have had several good close women friends but all ere like 30 to 75 years older than me
but we're amazingly far more understanding and kind and caring then Ms D and her kind of ilk.
Sadly those gems of women are long dead😢

I sincerely wish you love and happiness aquaguy91 💙

Lol.....Ms D almost seems to be
flirting with you tongue in cheek
style in her insults towards me
Yeah have seen that before from
other women.
Stick up for a guy others treat
bad and then it gives them a new
focus for their hatred and they start flirting with and or complimenting
the guy and turn viciously on the
woman their new target to
bash. She has made a case for reasons
why I do not trust most women and
avoid the rest.
👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽
Not going to mention the ladies here at LindaLand who have been caring and kind by name💖
You fine understanding women know who you are.💖
I do not want Ms D
to rip into any of you 💙

Blessings and love and happiness to you aquaguy91
and contrary to MsD
I sincerely care and wish you well💖🌈
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posted July 27, 2022 07:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
no one called either of you monsters, as a matter of fact i think he's a much better person than you

not because either of you is a monster but because you're deliberately disingenuous, dishonest and speak like a narc and he just wants to be understood and connect with other humans

he's a far better person than you could hope to be from what i could see, based on all that's been displayed

the hateful messed up person here is

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
MsD👽👽👽👽👽
Now you pretend to like aquaguy91 and turn your hatred towards me👽
Jealous perhaps that I have been
sticking up for him⁉️👽

Hey aquaguy91 💙😎💖
See what I mean.😢🤬
Most women hate me and judge me without knowing me just as Ms Dumuzi has done
by insulting me calling to me names
and then saying nice nice all of a
sudden out of the blue to you saying
that you just want to be understood
as if now she is trying to
kiss your tukas to turn against me
Now she likes you and understands
you and cares👽👽👽👽
Take care and do not buy into her
sudden turn to complimenting you by
insulting me.
Yep that is how many women are towards
me whenever I stick up for a guy or
men who are being treated unfairly and misunderstood and judged.
Always the games and two faced dances👽👽👽
What kind of person calls a person all those nasty things without knowing them at all?👽
I do not know this Ms D person but so far I have not seen and kindness nor understaning coming from them.
They have been repeatedly unkind
towards you😢👽

Going to leave your thread at least for now aquaguy91 💙😢
I am fighting rare cancers and may or may not make it.
I wanted to get in here and post today even though sick from hospital and surgery 6 hours today.
I just wanted you to know some folks understand you and care whilst
I am still able to speak out against injustices towards men💖

I was hoping I would not encounter yet another woman ripping into me and being
cruel and judging and worse😢

Note to Randall
Randall
I do not need her crap just for sticking up for aquaguy91 and other men who are good guys.

Sorry aquaguy91 😢
But I must go or be shredded even more by
Ms D.👽

I had hoped to see more women sticking up for you and for good men.
But as expected I get raked over and insulted
by the very type that has always been cruel to me all my life to date🤬

I have had several good close women friends but all ere like 30 to 75 years older than me
but we're amazingly far more understanding and kind and caring then Ms D and her kind of ilk.
Sadly those gems of women are long dead😢

I sincerely wish you love and happiness aquaguy91 💙

Lol.....Ms D almost seems to be
flirting with you tongue in check
style in her insults towards me
Yeah have seen that before from
other women.
Stick up for a guy others treat
bad and then it gives them a new
focus for their hatred and they start flirting with and or complimenting
the guy and turn viciously on the
woman their new target to
bash. She has made a case for reasons
why I do not trust most women and
avoid the rest.
👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽👽
Not going to mention the ladies here at LindaLand who have been caring and kind by name💖
You fine understanding women know who you are.💖
I do not want Ms D
to rip into any of you 💙

Blessings and love and happiness to you aquaguy91
and contrary to MsD
I sincerely care and wish you well💖🌈

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Originally posted by Dumuzi [b]
you seem to have forgotten all the horrible things you said to me and are choosing to play victim

i don't need to know you to see the ways you're speaking are terrible and manipulative

i trust randall to be capable of seeing as much

and flirting? no not at all, i have zero romantic interest in aquaguy

i have feelings for someone else who has them back and we're working on moving things forward so why would i be trying to do anything with anyone else? particularly someone i clearly dont gel well with

in my eyes aquaguy has some karmic issue and is caught in a cycle, i'm just trying to help him move past it so he could find someone (not me) and move forward (btw aquaguy no offense or anything i'm well aware the lack of interest is mutual lol so i'm not implying you'd be interested, but she seems to need to know that)

that's so weird of you to even say, and the amount of projection you've put on me and the situation you've made up is just really bizarre i'm at a loss

but carry on playing victim while you start **** and make up a bunch of crazy bs in your head

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posted July 27, 2022 07:37 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Dumuzi,
It comes across as antagonistic when you disagree with me about how my experiences with women are. For example, you argued with me that women wouldn't be offended at getting a nice compliment like you look nice. I have gotten bad reactions from women just for existing. I'll remind you of the woman who basically shouted at me because I stepped into the elevator. My lived experience tells me that all communication with women is complex and risky to my self esteem and emotional health. Women have made me feel so bad in this life to the point where it is a big judgement call on do I give a compliment or not because there's a 99% chance she'll just be a b#### and make me feel bad about myself with her reaction.

I've already told you women have treated me so bad in my life to the point that I have contemplated suicide many times. And all the bad emotions women have made me feel have driven me to self destructive behaviors like drinking and smoking weed to cope and manage my pain. Seriously, that's all women. Women have caused me so much pain and misery in this life. So don't tell me how women would respond to me. I know and have the emotional scars to prove it.

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i didn't disagree about your experiences, i disagreed when you said all women are this way, your experiences with women are not representative of ALL women

you're taking what i'm saying about half the population like it negates your personal experiences which i've never done or said

i also told you that your personal experiences are not reflective of what all men encounter, when you were speaking about men in generalized terms

when you speak on general terms and i say "no" that's not me negating your personal experiences (which i haven't done)

never told you about how women would respond to you specifically, again general terms

posted July 27, 2022 07:51 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I don't want to hear about other men. Stop comparing my experience to other men's. #### the good looking and high status guys you are actually nice to. Women are not nice to me. Never have been. Never will be. So stop trying to gaslight and hurt someone who has already been through so much. Be a decent person.

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you don't know what the people i'm around look like or what the people i've been nice to look like the **** you talking about? don't tell me i'm gaslighting you just because you're making up what's going on in my life

i had sex with and dated a guy i thought was ugly before idk what you're on about

i'm not trying to hurt or gaslight you at all

posted July 27, 2022 07:54 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
But you're not a man, so you can't hope to understand how women treat us and the kind of emotional impact it has. I'm guessing the guys you're talking about are good looking and wealthy. By the way, you're extremely disingenuous. You claim to be nice but even now you are trying to make me feel even worse by implying I'm the only experiencing this. That is fu##ing mean when you're trying to make someone who has been suicidal feel even more alone and isolated. Seriously, go away you nasty heartless sociopath. I've been through enough trauma from mean-spirited women. Quit attacking my self esteem.

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i'm not a sociopath at all, and i was trying to tell you things could be better

you make **** up about me then complain about it

i won't say what i think of you at this point (because of what you've just said) because it's not good at all

posted July 27, 2022 07:55 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Dumuzi,
Maybe you just have bad people skills but everything you're saying is making me feel worse. Like no joke. Just stop.

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except i can talk to most people so no i don't

like no joke you just want to cry and you don't want to be better so wallow in it, enjoy

posted July 28, 2022 02:42 AM            

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posted July 28, 2022 12:14 PM            

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sa·pi·o·sex·u·al
/ˌsāpēōˈsekSH(o͞o)əl/
adjective
(of a person) finding intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.
"I met a PhD student from Germany who told me that he was sapiosexual"
noun

a person who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.
"I'm a sapiosexual and I like to talk"

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That means without a brain working in a person then there was no desire to have
Sex with them even casually.
Oh to be sure all had as myself
very very high sexual appetites
but usually only with people deemed
worthy of such intimacy who understood
sex is only a small part of the
communication package😎
The brain is the sexist organ
in the body😎
The shy nerdy guys, the guys who
were poor and could not afford
fancy clothes or cars of any kind,
the fellows who loved intelligent
honest conversation for hours
when we had the time as a very
stimulating prelude to actual
sexual intimacy💞😎
Note too that the conversations did
not have to be about sex😎
Stimulate my brain my mind and be
honest and and physical intimacy
would soon follow.
Unlike most women I did not need
any of the guys to be attractive
or rich.
Been with huge fellows, guys who are amputees,guys who were nearly blind
Or missing an eye.
Guys who were just terribly shy and
abused by their mothers and fathers.
Guys who had been raped could talk
to me as I too had endured many brutal
rapes and would have
great empathy for them.
One fellow had Marfan's syndrome and
was a giant a very tall thin giant.
He had to endure months of horrific
surgeries for some 17 years,
and was traction racked to stretch
his spine every time they inserted
and or replaced his entire rib cage💙
I would help take care of him and
we did indeed have sexual intimacy💞😎
His mother even begged me to marry him😳
because he was suicidal until I took a
lot of time helping him recover and giving him love and emotional and physical support.
Other fellows were a paraplegic and another
fellow had a non functional penis due to serious damage from the cancer surgery
I fixed his problem with much care and soon he got feeling back in his penis and could hold and have great erections😎
His doctor's were totally surprised that his
penis was totally functional😎
They had thought to put a stiffener implant in him because the problem was caused by severe deep scaring when he was 13
years old and they nearly amputated his
penis😳🤬
At age 20 I begin working on his confidence and worked on fixing his penis.
😎
The doctors ended up having a conference
with me by phone to explain to them my process for fixing that you g man's penis😎
So in some medical journal out there is my
treatment for such things which took almost a year to achieve the cure.
Not going to post the details but he was cured by my not giving up on him nor his emotional and physical problems😎
A guy could always expect to be treated as
and valuable worthy person by me.
As my favorite teacher and best friend
from 1969 to 2018 told me,

quote:

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You have help save the lives of
and sanity of more young (and even old)
men than you may realize my dear😎💞💞

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Anyhow aquaguy91
You are worthy of love and intimacy💖
Just wanted you to understand that
I am female and have not acted as the women who have hurt you💙

Okay that is enough for now.
Hopefully no one has a go at me
again👽

Take care aquaguy91
and p!ease do not give up okay?💙