posted December 17, 2018 05:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
It's interesting he mentioned too that he never looked at the age difference as something out of the ordinary although others mentioned it here too but dunno. (probably Uranus at play here too I feel - I think you two have a lot of chart similarities/aspects which is good I get to ask someone from the inside lol)

Yeah that is pretty obvious your confidence. I guess it's a good thing. Or can be. So long that you're not trying to override anyone else's lol.

This guy is a party boy too. I guess the reason I like it (although I'm not really one) is due to my seventh house ruler being in Leo. Probably also the reason I'm attracted to his Leo moon (my 7th ruler conjunct it). Although it's more than that that I'm attracted to. But whatever.

You mentioned that you're attracted to Plutonian relationships. Although Pluto doesn't seem to hold much weight in your chart besides it being in the first and in soft aspect to sun. Just wondering why you're attracted to them. Right 1st house is a strong placement. But it's not a placement of things you're attracted to really so was just wondering. Maybe it's something you're naturally comfortable with so you automatically flow into your own energy? That must be it.

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i just have a tendency to see people as people which seems like it comes with uranus contacts where the details aren't what's ultimately important they just seem pointless

i imagine if he says it he means it, other people being weird about frivolous things tends to be their problem only yours if you decide to hold onto to it along with them you know?

i never care about things i don't agree with no matter how many people feel disagree though, so there's no discomfort there for me or concern

i don't tend to overpower people, but if i do it's unintentional

i don't tend to think before i speak or do things, but i'm also capable of being quiet and giving people room

i think my attraction to pluto types is partially their attraction to me (not sure what it is for them, but i've always pulled them) and honestly i think it's all the ups and downs and intense ****

the drastic changes etc that kind of thing keeps me going and i like a chase that **** 's almost an eternal one on some level

posted December 17, 2018 05:56 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Yeah Pisces can be fickle which annoys a lot of people. I'm a Pisces Sun, Mars and Venus and I've driven some past interests insane with my behaviour. Funnily enough mostly the Earth signs (I'm mostly attracted to them anyway). I got told by a Cap that I seem to be from another planet and Taureans called me weird a couple of times (oh and Virgos, too).

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Lol oddly I'm least attracted to earth signs and of all the water signs I like Pisces only. (Cancer although my Venus and Mars is there I don't like their attachment style and Scorpio is too aggressively possessive for me - especially Mars in Scorpio. I think mostly because it squares my Saturn in Aquarius sometimes and I just need the space to breathe. Like they control my life I feel)

posted December 17, 2018 06:05 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:

the drastic changes etc that kind of thing keeps me going and i like a chase that **** 's almost an eternal one on some level

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posted December 17, 2018 06:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Yeah this is probably your Aries Moon and your fifth house cusp Uranus. The drastic stuff and the chase.

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posted December 17, 2018 06:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Lol oddly I'm least attracted to earth signs and of all the water signs I like Pisces only. (Cancer although my Venus and Mars is there I don't like their attachment style and Scorpio is too aggressively possessive for me - especially Mars in Scorpio. I think mostly because it squares my Saturn in Aquarius sometimes and I just need the space to breathe. Like they control my life I feel)

I think although the sign Pisces is intercepted in my chart I understand it best, since my Taurus has a use for one lol and my Sun and Moon are in my twelfth so it feels as if it's a natural connection I guess.

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We usually find attractive what we lack in our chart and I totally lack Earth. My only planet in an Earth sign is Chiron (Taurus). I have a Cancer moon and asc but I don't relate to that sign at all. I'm everything but clingy and also completeley not interested in children. Out of the Earth signs Taurus is also my fave but
I like the other 2 as well. Although Cap can come across as too formal sometimes

posted December 17, 2018 06:32 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
We usually find attractive what we lack in our chart and I totally lack Earth. My only planet in an Earth sign is Chiron (Taurus). I have a Cancer moon and asc but I don't relate to that sign at all. I'm everything but clingy and also completeley not interested in children. Out of the Earth signs Taurus is also my fave but
I like the other 2 as well. Although Cap can come across as too formal sometimes

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Lol sorry should've made sure in advance.

Besides, Cancer rising people I love. (actually signs in general what I'm attracted to depends where it is in their chart. Like I'm completely turned off by Pisces risings but the other Pisces placements is just cool in all ways)

Actually not attempting to make you feel good, but I genuinely like Cancer rising individuals and thought about it many times before.

posted December 17, 2018 06:41 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Lol sorry should've made sure in advance.

Besides, Cancer rising people I love. (actually signs in general what I'm attracted to depends where it is in their chart. Like I'm completely turned off by Pisces risings but the other Pisces placements is just cool in all ways)

Actually not attempting to make you feel good, but I genuinely like Cancer rising individuals and thought about it many times before.

But you're right that we're attracted to what's missing in our chart.

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Why do you like them so much ?

What's your rising ?

I have many Virgo risings in my life for some reason and most of them are cool. But I wouldn't know which rising sign I'd like the most...

posted December 17, 2018 06:47 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
We usually find attractive what we lack in our chart and I totally lack Earth. My only planet in an Earth sign is Chiron (Taurus). I have a Cancer moon and asc but I don't relate to that sign at all. I'm everything but clingy and also completeley not interested in children. Out of the Earth signs Taurus is also my fave but
I like the other 2 as well. Although Cap can come across as too formal sometimes

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that's an interesting way of putting it, being attracted to what we lack

my personal planets are void of water, that must be part of why i go for scorpios

my fiancee has scorpio mercury, and scorpio venus conjunct pluto and a pisces mars conjunct jupiter (she has an earth void, and she tends to really like virgo and cap in particular not taurus)

i tend to go for scorpio or pisces, don't usually find myself particularly drawn to cancer energy though but it's happened a few times

my fwbs is a water void though, only one i've ever hooked up with or been around that i wasnt related to

posted December 17, 2018 07:10 PM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Why do you like them so much ?

What's your rising ?

I have many Virgo risings in my life for some reason and most of them are cool. But I wouldn't know which rising sign I'd like the most...

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Lol I think it's their moodiness mostly that I'm attracted to but not sure why. It tends to vibe with me well.

posted December 17, 2018 07:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
that's an interesting way of putting it, being attracted to what we lack

my personal planets are void of water, that must be part of why i go for scorpios

my fiancee has scorpio mercury, and scorpio venus conjunct pluto and a pisces mars conjunct jupiter (she has an earth void, and she tends to really like virgo and cap in particular not taurus)

i tend to go for scorpio or pisces, don't usually find myself particularly drawn to cancer energy though but it's happened a few times

my fwbs is a water void though, only one i've ever hooked up with or been around that i wasnt related to

edit: that last sentence sounds like some weird incest **** , never have personally that'd be a little much for me unless they were exceptionally hot or something maybe

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posted December 17, 2018 07:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Lol I think it's their moodiness mostly that I'm attracted to but not sure why. It tends to vibe with me well.

My rising is Gemini (in addition to my moon). Taurus is my only Earth personal planet.

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I'm a Gemini rising currently in love with a Cancer rising. Coincidence?

posted December 17, 2018 07:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
Lol I think it's their moodiness mostly that I'm attracted to but not sure why. It tends to vibe with me well.

My rising is Gemini (in addition to my moon). Taurus is my only Earth personal planet.

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Yeah my bf has only sun in Taurus and moon in the 2nd but he ticks all the stereotypical Taurus boxes haha.

I never saw myself as moody but I guess Im quite fluid emotionally although rarely in a bad emotional state anymore. My dark night of the soul definitely made me more balanced but that sh*t lasted over a decade ffs so I damn deserve at least that lol

posted December 17, 2018 07:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
that's an interesting way of putting it, being attracted to what we lack

my personal planets are void of water, that must be part of why i go for scorpios

my fiancee has scorpio mercury, and scorpio venus conjunct pluto and a pisces mars conjunct jupiter (she has an earth void, and she tends to really like virgo and cap in particular not taurus)

i tend to go for scorpio or pisces, don't usually find myself particularly drawn to cancer energy though but it's happened a few times

my fwbs is a water void though, only one i've ever hooked up with or been around that i wasnt related to

edit: that last sentence sounds like some weird incest **** , never have personally that'd be a little much for me unless they were exceptionally hot or something maybe

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posted December 17, 2018 07:39 PM            

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I'm a Gemini rising currently in love with a Cancer rising. Coincidence?

I never thought particularly about Cancer rising but I'm surrounded by Cancerians (esp Cancer Mars!) and I like them but they're so moody and indirect it's infuriating at times. I like simple honesty.

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Lol interesting, although I'm not involved with one there's this guy that I would totally be into if circumstances allowed it. Just too many stuff between us, but he's also a Cancer rising. (He's family so...)

This friend of mine is a Cancer rising. She has Uranus on her DC. You have no idea how manipulative she is towards her boyfriend.

Says she loves him to death, but she has to tease him. They both have Pluto aspecting their Moon so I guess they both like it. It's very on/off, she blocks him all the time only cuz she needs to feel like there's some action and missing each other going on. It's super unstable.

posted December 17, 2018 07:56 PM            

I wonder, what about you guys? I think this is an interesting sub-topic that was brought up, do we really attract what we lack most in ourselves?. Should we start another thread to discuss or maybe leave it at this? Lol.

posted December 17, 2018 07:57 PM            

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Yeah my bf has only sun in Taurus and moon in the 2nd but he ticks all the stereotypical Taurus boxes haha.

I never saw myself as moody but I guess Im quite fluid emotionally although rarely in a bad emotional state anymore. My dark night of the soul definitely made me more balanced but that sh*t lasted over a decade ffs so I damn deserve at least that lol

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posted December 17, 2018 09:43 PM            

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I don't know it's true we are attracted to what we lack in our chart. I feel like that completely detracts from the point of the DSC and its ruler and aspects. The DSC is used for all interpersonal relationships, not just romantic. I have lack of water but I don't think I am attracted to water people more than anyone else. I guess you could also say I am lacking some fire? But I have four planets in fire so I can't be sure. Frankly, I am most attracted to earth signs that have personalities and lifeestyles that match up with my DSC ruler Jupiter in Aries in 11th. Older, Jupiterian, more take charge, well-off in life. But it's odd because I actually don't like Aries men nor am attracted to them. I think they're very good-looking but not attracted in a romantic or even friendship sense. They're too rowdy. And I've met lots of watery guys and I think they're a downright mess...The only watery guys I've felt grow into relationships of both romance and friendship were the ones with earth placements.

I wonder, what about you guys? I think this is an interesting sub-topic that was brought up, do we really attract what we lack most in ourselves?. Should we start another thread to discuss or maybe leave it at this? Lol.

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my descendant is aries moon/north node conjunct opposite venus on my libra ascendant

mars is in capricorn (3rd house in placidus 4th whole sign)

my fiancee does have an aries moon, but she also has a lot of water in her chart and no earth

i typically get along well with aries placements but don't usually get very close to aries suns for whatever reason

we can have great times but then go our separate ways

i think my current friend with benefits might be the only person i've been with who hasn't had a prominent water placement but he does have prominent pluto (moon/pluto conjunction) which is another thing i seem to go for and also that just sort of happened i didn't make the first move at all there

when someone isnt watery they'll usually have something in capricorn or aquarius or some heavy pluto **** going on generally

posted December 18, 2018 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
I feel sorry for you. But despite what everyone says, based on the information you provided all along I feel that he does love you. My personal opinion. But I understand that one needs proof regardless of how many people chime in to give their input. But I'm tellin ya lol I'm pretty certain you can take my word for it. And of course there will always be different stuff coming up that will make you question it again. Like 'he shouldn't be doing or saying this if that were to hold true for him'. But I think it's the overall energy you're supposed to look at vs nitpicking one specific situation which I tend to do too so not blaming you lol.

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posted December 18, 2018 12:15 AM            

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Originally posted by capricorncheriscty:
I don't know it's true we are attracted to what we lack in our chart. I feel like that completely detracts from the point of the DSC and its ruler and aspects. The DSC is used for all interpersonal relationships, not just romantic. I have lack of water but I don't think I am attracted to water people more than anyone else. I guess you could also say I am lacking some fire? But I have four planets in fire so I can't be sure. Frankly, I am most attracted to earth signs that have personalities and lifeestyles that match up with my DSC ruler Jupiter in Aries in 11th. Older, Jupiterian, more take charge, well-off in life. But it's odd because I actually don't like Aries men nor am attracted to them. I think they're very good-looking but not attracted in a romantic or even friendship sense. They're too rowdy. And I've met lots of watery guys and I think they're a downright mess...The only watery guys I've felt grow into relationships of both romance and friendship were the ones with earth placements.

I wonder, what about you guys? I think this is an interesting sub-topic that was brought up, do we really attract what we lack most in ourselves?. Should we start another thread to discuss or maybe leave it at this? Lol.

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It's true we may be attracted to what we lack but whether there's compatibility is a different matter. I've quite a balanced chart and my ex is Leo heavy. I often find him too impractical and unrealistic. He gets too passionate over things I feel doubtful. On the other hand, he finds me cold, blunt and unsupportive.

My friend's chart has almost no water and her bf is water heavy + he has Moon in 1st. She finds him too emotional and not easy to rationalise with.

posted December 18, 2018 04:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Thanks for saying that. But you know... I always seek affirmation from the other party because I easily get insecure in relationships. And if I keep getting mixed signals, I run. Haha.. Pisces Mars can be quite cowardice. :P

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posted December 18, 2018 04:45 AM            

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It's true we may be attracted to what we lack but whether there's compatibility is a different matter. I've quite a balanced chart and my ex is Leo heavy. I often find him too impractical and unrealistic. He gets too passionate over things I feel doubtful. On the other hand, he finds me cold, blunt and unsupportive.

My friend's chart has almost no water and her bf is water heavy + he has Moon in 1st. She finds him too emotional and not easy to rationalise with.

It's good to find someone with elements you lack but it shouldn't be too one sided (e.g. you have 0 water and they have too much water) or there will be friction instead because there's no affinity, IMO.

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posted December 18, 2018 05:30 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
You need to take planets in houses and aspects between the natal planets into consideration as well. I think it was Brad Pitt and Angelina who had elements in their natal chart the other one was lacking and they stayed together for quite a long time. Their synastry wasn't that great in general if I remember correctly from what I've read.

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posted December 18, 2018 05:44 AM            

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What made them click for so long then? Did they have a good composite?

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posted December 18, 2018 06:19 AM            

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Originally posted by kani:
Something that astrologers call "hidden synastry". I really don't know the details though. So basically if a synastry looks bad or very challening at first this hidden signs can explain why 2 people do stay togeher. No idea bout the composite

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Now I'm curious about the hidden signs. Angles and Midpoints? An astrologer said they have a YOD in composite which is one reason they stuck together.

posted December 18, 2018 07:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
It's true we may be attracted to what we lack but whether there's compatibility is a different matter. I've quite a balanced chart and my ex is Leo heavy. I often find him too impractical and unrealistic. He gets too passionate over things I feel doubtful. On the other hand, he finds me cold, blunt and unsupportive.

My friend's chart has almost no water and her bf is water heavy + he has Moon in 1st. She finds him too emotional and not easy to rationalise with.

It's good to find someone with elements you lack but it shouldn't be too one sided (e.g. you have 0 water and they have too much water) or there will be friction instead because there's no affinity, IMO.

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friction can be worthwhile, sometimes it's part of someone having things we lack and vice versa

but it isn't very interesting when things are too smooth and there's no balance because you're both similar

it can be frustrating but that's part of the experience

i would hate dating someone too much like me, and i would be my own friend with benefits if i could so it's not a matter of self loathing