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Topic: CONSENTING ADULTS AND AGE GAPS
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted February 11, 2011 02:52 PM
  
For me,my Neptune trines are easy,like gifts.I take them for granted.
My Pluto sextiles are struggles but I DO manage to get them to emerge if I struggle.
I think my Pluto is usable,now lol ------------------
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GypseeWind
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From: Love Street, she lingers long on Love Street..
Registered: May 2009
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posted February 11, 2011 03:17 PM
AG, never once have you offended me personally, so no worries there. We are friends and I do respect your opinion.As far as the age gap and manipulation..
I think manipulation has more to do with the person than the age.
Before any of this stuff even happened to me.. my husband left our home for a woman that was 21 years younger than him. so, at the time, she was either 19 or 20.
She had it all over him in manipulative games.
She constantly played the "I may be pregnant game," even though she told him she was on birth control. And later we found out that she had a total hysterectomy after her child was born. She also played the "my son and I will be put out on the street if I don't get X amount of dollars game."
Turned out in the end that she was still married to a guy serving overseas, and getting money from him for herself and the child. So, bad people come in all ages, on that we should all be able to agree.  IP: Logged |
EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 11, 2011 03:39 PM
In the case of "sugar daddy" whom is really using who.Like Gypsy said, it depends on the person. Manipulative people come in all ages. There are children in the world who can be manipulative toward their parents. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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From: Pleasanton, CA
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 11, 2011 04:10 PM
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LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 11, 2011 05:41 PM
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EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
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posted February 11, 2011 05:58 PM
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PlutoSquared
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posted February 11, 2011 06:07 PM
There was a time I worked at a Retirement home as waitstaff, and there was this old retired FBI agent who was super hot; who I would've totally gone out on a date with, had he been able to ask... the Alzheimer's Disease was much too advanced, and of course, that would've gone against company policy, anyhow.Point is: I thought he was attractive, and it was sort of a shocker, because my "attraction switch" is hard to pin down; I don't have a "type", and never really pictured myself having a crush on an old, old guy. Just thought I'd share. IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 11, 2011 06:47 PM
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Originally posted by PlutoSquared:
There was a time I worked at a Retirement home as waitstaff, and there was this old retired FBI agent who was super hot; who I would've totally gone out on a date with, had he been able to ask... the Alzheimer's Disease was much too advanced, and of course, that would've gone against company policy, anyhow.Point is: I thought he was attractive, and it was sort of a shocker, because my "attraction switch" is hard to pin down; I don't have a "type", and never really pictured myself having a crush on an old, old guy. Just thought I'd share.
I guess I never even gave any thought to the ages of the old fellows I thought were hot when I was 40 to 70+ years younger than they were.
It was/is only in retrospect that I can see how weird that would seem to most folks.
Some people just seem to keep that "something" no matter how old!  ------------------
First ask yourself: What is the worst that can happen? Then prepare to accept it. Then proceed to improve on the worst. Dale Carnegie
An intellectual is a person who has discovered something more interesting than sex.~Aldous Huxley
"Heaven doesn't want me and Hell is afraid I'll take over and start a rehab for the damned!" ~LEXX IP: Logged |
EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 11, 2011 06:56 PM
 Anthony Bourdain is 54 and HOT  IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted February 11, 2011 07:05 PM
Like Harrison Ford, who will be 69 in July.
And Donald Sutherland who will be 74 in July.
And let us not forget Sean Connery, who is now
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EverEvolvingSpirit
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From: A Place of Pure Love <3
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted February 11, 2011 11:54 PM
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peace
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From: Las Vegas,NV
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posted August 27, 2011 12:28 AM
Coconutcancermoon*Bump* <3 IP: Logged |
RegardesPlatero
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posted September 24, 2011 05:43 AM
I think that if both people are consenting adults, it's THEIR business if they are together. As long as both people are being honest and genuine, and as long as their motives are pure, there's nothing immoral about it: unusual, yes, but not evil. Now, I personally would be a little put off if one person was, say, 80 and the other 18, but, even if I personally found that extreme difference to be uncomfortable, it is still their lives and their choice. I could be honest about how I felt, but, at the same time, I would still owe those people dignity and basic human respect. I'd probably be a little concerned at first, but if I got to know the couple and they truly loved one another, I'd probably come around at some point. If the difference was less extreme (like 10-20 years), there would be no issue for me. Also, I really profoundly disagree with the statement about marriage being about kids. Marriage isn't about kids. Sometimes kids happen, but when you get married, you marry ONE person. Your marriage is about the relationship that you have with THAT person. Marriage is about two people, be they two women, two men, or a man and a woman, who come together in a romantic way and choose to honor each other in that context for the rest of their lives. I also feel that, unless a partner is abusive or someone who mistreats a person, or unless the kids came first, the partner should ALWAYS come before the kids. The partner should be the love of your life, your soulmate. The kids, while they should be loved, should come after the partner. You're building your life with your partner, not your kids. Kids will go on to build their own lives separate from you, whereas you and your beloved are a team that, if all works out, will be together for life. (Also, please note that I'm referring to a relationship in which there isn't abuse or mistreatment; obviously you should leave an abuser/cheater/bad person immediately or as soon as possible and I'm NOT saying that anyone should stay in a toxic relationship). I also think that people *can* (and if all possible *should*) keep up with their appearance (though not go to extremes--I simply mean make the most of what they've got and care about themselves) and should keep their spark alive. There are plenty of older people who are attractive and still magnetic. So, I don't think that "old" means "dead" by any means! I am in my 20s but I PLAN on being super-hot when I'm older. :-) IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 24, 2011 06:15 AM
Well going on 57, and my preference is betwixt
27 and 42 for guy friends or a lover.
So some 15 to 30 years gap works for me best.
Men my age seem to be soooooooooo boring, stuck in their ways. And if single most are very screwed up and or downright creepy.  ------------------
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
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Saraintheski
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posted September 24, 2011 04:33 PM
my partner is 39 years older he's so beautiful , I love his stories , he makes me feel cherished but we are constantly under stress . I feel like i'm with a man not a bonyboy and he brings out this nurturing woman in me . everything we do feels sexually excelerating <3 even tho we come from totally differant generations it's timeless he's not middleaged and i'm not a child i'm just his girl . we feel like we have been married 40yrs.IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 24, 2011 06:47 PM
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Originally posted by Saraintheski:
my partner is 39 years older he's so beautiful , I love his stories , he makes me feel cherished but we are constantly under stress . I feel like i'm with a man not a bonyboy and he brings out this nurturing woman in me . everything we do feels sexually excelerating <3 even tho we come from totally differant generations it's timeless he's not middleaged and i'm not a child i'm just his girl . we feel like we have been married 40yrs.
Lovely!
When I was younger I liked men 30 to 50 or so years older.
Now that I am older now prefer much younger, 15 to 30 years younger.
Well, my older loves of my youth would be in their late 80s now or over 100,
if they were still alive.
One would be 145 years old LOL!
So my choices have changed.
The old ones from the generations I liked are all dead, and the men from my age range are looking for very much younger women or are acting like old codgers and boring as all heck, and or so macho creepy, and oddly more in my age range are hunting for a "mommy" because they do not know how to take care of themselves, or want eye candy, trophy girlfriends/wives.
It is nice you found one of the good older fellows! A rare find! 
An old boyfriend of mine from decades ago reconnected with me several months ago and I have since pretty much told him no way dude, goodbye to you! He was on my case about acting my age and it was time I settle down and act like a grandmother.
I was like huh? Why do I need to act old?
What does that mean?
He is only two years older than me but looks and acts 30 years older. I am like OK, accept one's age but geeezzzz.....
I am not done living and loving and even though I am disabled, frake lying back and letting myself feel, act, and be an old fossil waiting to die.And omg, his fraking stereotyping attitude of what is a man, what is a woman.....
A total gross out ewwwww!
So anyhow,
I enjoy the company of younger men. who are still learning, with intelligence and open minds who see women as equals not their "old lady" or "mommy".
OK rant over.  ------------------
~I remember, therefore I am immortal~LEXX
~The present time is theirs, but the future is mine.~Никола Тесла
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Saraintheski
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posted September 24, 2011 07:12 PM
wow lexx that's interesting ! hes around your age and has life altering disibility which if he didn't have I wouldn't of met him and he was never into working middle class and normal , he's an artist /musician he gets distracted easily . He needs a mix of stereotypical woman and a insane person hes into taboo stuff , he kind of looks like an older heavier alexander the great lol . IP: Logged |
LEXX
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From: Still out looking for Schrodinger's cat.......& LEXIGRAMMING.♥.. is my Passion!
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 24, 2011 07:33 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Saraintheski:
wow lexx that's interesting ! hes around your age and has life altering disibility which if he didn't have I wouldn't of met him and he was never into working middle class and normal , he's an artist /musician he gets distracted easily . He needs a mix of stereotypical woman and a insane person hes into taboo stuff , he kind of looks like an older heavier alexander the great lol .
He sounds like a good man for you!
I too have life altering physical disabilities from an accident when I was only 33 years old.
LOL!
Yes, I need much the same in a younger man!
Creative, intelligent, just the right blend of manly yet sensitive, and not a prude sexually. Yay to love! IP: Logged | |
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