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Topic: where are women open to meeting guys?
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Padre35
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posted March 25, 2013 11:50 PM
  
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Originally posted by T:
I was out recently with a girlfriend and they were served up with a sweet and spicy aioli dip. Was so delicious we had to ask for more. I agree, a good marinara is great too.I've not thought too much about learning alot about a person by their drink. If I saw a guy drinking a cosmo though....i might look twice.  I normally like a good draft beer. 
Yep, sure can, mixed drink is different from say a draft and a shot, one means you are passing through the other means you are probably there to raise a bit of hell so to speak Wine is a rather interesting beverage of choice for a bar. And calamari, and I like the bread type munchies to much so.
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aquaguy91
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posted March 25, 2013 11:51 PM
yes, of course ! a man being attracted to a woman and wanting to talk to her, who would have thought? he must be a sick individual! and people say america is a misogynistic country! its actually a misandric country, you know how i know? when you have tons of guys like padre agreeing with this nonsense. its sad, just sad.IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 25, 2013 11:53 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yes, of course ! a man being attracted to a woman and wanting to talk to her, who would have thought? he must be a sick individual! and people say america is a misogynistic country! its actually a misandric country, you know how i know? when you have tons of guys like padre agreeing with this nonsense. its sad, just sad.
If I may, you assume I agree with it. Who says I do? I've seen enough to know how the world works, to rail and complain and poor me just never accomplishes much of anything at all. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 25, 2013 11:56 PM
Cheers Padre!  and two for aquaguy:  IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 25, 2013 11:58 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
yes, of course ! a man being attracted to a woman and wanting to talk to her, who would have thought? he must be a sick individual! and people say america is a misogynistic country! its actually a misandric country, you know how i know? when you have tons of guys like padre agreeing with this nonsense. its sad, just sad.
We're older than you. We understand more. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 25, 2013 11:59 PM
Oh goodness no T, I stay away from liquor..bad things..just bad things...2 shot max, no more than that..mojitos..oh boy.. 1 beer per hour, no more. If I had a nickel for every cat I've seen "Drink up their courage" only to crash and burn I'd be quite wealthy. 1 beer, a gentle pipe tobacco cigar, enjoy the night, no worries. As for AG, suspect soon enough heading ones head against the wall never makes a door, it winds up giving you a headache. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 26, 2013 12:06 AM
Same here mostly. I only enjoy a mixed drink when I go out as a treat. Can't remember the last time I took a shot. I usually prefer a nice, slow happy buzz from decent beer....or two.... *sorry, didnt mean to derail the thread aquaguy. IP: Logged |
swampys
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posted March 26, 2013 12:09 AM
I try to meet guys on OkCupid but all they seem to want is sex! I used to have a super long profile but no one ever read it! Now I barely have one paragraph and people still don't read it!Really, there's so many people online and I'm sure you're bound to find someone you like and that could like you. I actually had no luck finding guys online in my area so I was searching in other states and even countries! I actually met this nice guy (so far) in an Asperger's support group!  But AS is more common in men so maybe that wouldn't be for you! ^__^ IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 26, 2013 12:09 AM
if you are actually a straight guy, you know what i'm saying is true. You know good and well single guys actively try to meet women and theres nothing wrong with it, its biology! I'm sure you've never approached women you were physically attracted to with the hopes that you might hit it off with them and things might go in a sexual or romantic direction have you? the problem is being a man has become politically incorrect and guys like you are ashamed you are actually a guy. and you join in with the feminazis to shame men who are unapologetically men. You know what the truth of the whole matter is ? if a guy isnt attractive to a woman everything he does is wrong... he tries too hard , he is angry, he is negative,he actually desires more than to
be just friends(heaven forbid,imagine that) and the list goes on and on... they are all bs most of the time and just means that the said girl doesnt find said guy attractive... most women will never admit that looks are all important to them because they call us men shalliw for that. so to avoid looking like hypocrites they come up with some bogus excuse to skirt around that issue.. they may judge a guy as creepy for approaching them but he could have approached her in the same
way the "hot guy" did a few days before, the guy she ended up going home with. #truthIP: Logged |
T
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posted March 26, 2013 12:11 AM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
1 beer, a gentle pipe tobacco cigar, enjoy the night, no worries..
You would have liked one of my favorite old spots up north. Great little old fashioned pub, with a cigar bar next door. They opened the cigar part later and connected the two. Great atmosphere for hanging out and meeting awesome, interesting people. Comfortable places to sit everywhere, leather couches and chairs, great convo with the best music (sometimes live) and art all over the walls. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 26, 2013 12:19 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
if you are actually a straight guy, you know what i'm saying is true. You know good and well single guys actively try to meet women and theres nothing wrong with it, its biology! I'm sure you've never approached women you were physically attracted to with the hopes that you might hit it off with them and things might go in a sexual or romantic direction have you? the problem is being a man has become politically incorrect and guys like you are ashamed you are actually a guy. and you join in with the feminazis to shame men who are unapologetically men. You know what the truth of the whole matter is ? if a guy isnt attractive to a woman everything he does is wrong... he tries too hard , he is angry, he is negative,he actually desires more than to
be just friends(heaven forbid,imagine that) and the list goes on and on... they are all bs most of the time and just means that the said girl doesnt find said guy attractive... most women will never admit that looks are all important to them because they call us men shalliw for that. so to avoid looking like hypocrites they come up with some bogus excuse to skirt around that issue.. they may judge a guy as creepy for approaching them but he could have approached her in the same
way the "hot guy" did a few days before, the guy she ended up going home with. #truth
AG, to me you just sound so bitter sometimes, yes that maybe is how the world in general works. It does not however, have to work that way for you. One claims "it's biology!" perhaps, but realize then looks then play a part in such a situation. To me, on one hand you claim it's biology, then on the other hand reject what that actually means in practice. To take such a path also means it comes with the downside of not being in the game so to speak, just complaining about it. Why? This is something I never understood about what you have to say. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 26, 2013 12:22 AM
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Originally posted by T:
You would have liked one of my favorite old spots up north. Great little old fashioned pub, with a cigar bar next door. They opened the cigar part later and connected the two. Great atmosphere for hanging out and meeting awesome, interesting people. Comfortable places to sit everywhere, leather couches and chairs, great convo with the best music (sometimes live) and art all over the walls.
That sounds so great, up in the Mtns you can have a local draft beer, and a cigar, and just take in the view. Sadly in NC though..no smoking indoors.
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Lazyscarecrow
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posted March 26, 2013 12:23 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
if you are actually a straight guy, you know what i'm saying is true. You know good and well single guys actively try to meet women and theres nothing wrong with it, its biology! I'm sure you've never approached women you were physically attracted to with the hopes that you might hit it off with them and things might go in a sexual or romantic direction have you? the problem is being a man has become politically incorrect and guys like you are ashamed you are actually a guy. and you join in with the feminazis to shame men who are unapologetically men. You know what the truth of the whole matter is ? if a guy isnt attractive to a woman everything he does is wrong... he tries too hard , he is angry, he is negative,he actually desires more than to
be just friends(heaven forbid,imagine that) and the list goes on and on... they are all bs most of the time and just means that the said girl doesnt find said guy attractive... most women will never admit that looks are all important to them because they call us men shalliw for that. so to avoid looking like hypocrites they come up with some bogus excuse to skirt around that issue.. they may judge a guy as creepy for approaching them but he could have approached her in the same
way the "hot guy" did a few days before, the guy she ended up going home with. #truth
Well, one should keep in mind that the point of the feminist movement isn't to hate men or support misandry... And I don't think it is such a bad thing for a woman to not want to be ogled like a piece of a meat, or be sized up by someone before she even gets to decide if she even likes him or not. I understand you are saying that a man should not be judged for approaching a woman for purely romantic/sexual interest or because she is pretty because that's "what men do", but even then I think a woman has every right also to be cautious and give the side eye... especially if he's a stranger. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 26, 2013 12:28 AM
I do have a bit of gripe about women in general here.Why will women wear a low cut shirt with their assets nearly hanging out of the thing..then be like "..hey..look me in the eyes!!!" Don't get me wrong...I know "Why" but think some could learn something..cough..cough..AG..cough..;D IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 26, 2013 12:28 AM
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Originally posted by Lazyscarecrow:
Well, one should keep in mind that the point of the feminist movement isn't to hate men or support misandry... And I don't think it is such a bad thing for a woman to not want to be ogled like a piece of a meat, or be sized up by someone before she even gets to decide if she even likes him or not. I understand you are saying that a man should not be judged for approaching a woman for purely romantic/sexual interest or because she is pretty because that's "what men do", but even then I think a woman has every right also to be cautious and give the side eye... especially if he's a stranger.
well i understand that, i just take issue with the attitude that men are bad for being men.
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Lexxigramer
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posted March 26, 2013 12:38 AM
I met guys in stores, at work, in libraries, while doing theatre, thrift shoppes, book stores, especially used book stores, even post offices and waiting in lines at banks or amusement parks.
So many places to meet guys.
I just strike up conversations with guys I found/find interesting.
Its that easy.
I guess I am unusual.
Where are the women at?
Where some guys do not look?
No way to bar hunting or clubs.
I preferred to meet guys in places I frequent that were not pick up places or party places,
or anywhere their minds and decisions could be affected by alcohol or drugs.
I hate the meat market settings.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 26, 2013 01:05 AM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
AG, to me you just sound so bitter sometimes, yes that maybe is how the world in general works.It does not however, have to work that way for you. One claims "it's biology!" perhaps, but realize then looks then play a part in such a situation. To me, on one hand you claim it's biology, then on the other hand reject what that actually means in practice. To take such a path also means it comes with the downside of not being in the game so to speak, just complaining about it. Why? This is something I never understood about what you have to say
Completely missed the
point again. I was taking issue with the
fact that T and mockingbird were
insuating that its wrong for guys to
approach women with intentions and
you seemed to be going along with it. as i
already stated thats what guys do, but I'm
not gonna argue that point anymore. you wanna know why i'm soo angry and frustrated? because everyone here blames my lack of success on my bad attitude and me being angry.. well let me tell you a story my dad was a very angry man because he was horribly abused by his dad. he became a raging alcoholic and was the king of womanizers. you know what my first memory was padre? being a toddler in my crib and seeing my dad drag my mom down the stairs by the hair and she was screaming in agony.i felt soo helpless and guilty for not being able to help. And my dad and tons of men like him are womanizers, but yet all my rhetoric about women being drawn to abusive men is completely denied. All my cousins are either emotionally unstable , on drugs, in and out of jail, but they all get women and im the one who supposedly has issues. i'm told my anger and frustration is the problem but the only reason im angry is because all these issues i talk about are completely ignored. the same thing is happening with the majority of my female peers , they are getting involved with these type of guys but nobody wants to adress it. and when somebody like me tries to shine light on the issue we are viciously attacked. lalalala none of these issues exist .aquaguy is just crazy. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 26, 2013 01:06 AM
Thinking back on how I met my most significant relationship others....was always through friends, work (usually work/friends), going out socializing with the same people (friends, or work friends, usually both together), or groups of friend's other friends. They were all friend of friends, or part of an extended group of friends or aquaintences and usually after a few gatherings in social or home/party settings. Then they took off from there. That might be one of your best bets - through friends, work friends. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 26, 2013 01:14 AM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
That sounds so great, up in the Mtns you can have a local draft beer, and a cigar, and just take in the view.Sadly in NC though..no smoking indoors.
That sounds nice too. I have my favorite place down here now and it has an ocean view with amazing sunsets every night. I do miss the mountains every so often though. IP: Logged |
Padre35
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posted March 26, 2013 01:16 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Padre35:
[b] AG, to me you just sound so bitter sometimes, yes that maybe is how the world in general works.It does not however, have to work that way for you. One claims "it's biology!" perhaps, but realize then looks then play a part in such a situation. To me, on one hand you claim it's biology, then on the other hand reject what that actually means in practice. To take such a path also means it comes with the downside of not being in the game so to speak, just complaining about it. Why? This is something I never understood about what you have to say
Completely missed the
point again. I was taking issue with the
fact that T and mockingbird were
insuating that its wrong for guys to
approach women with intentions and
you seemed to be going along with it. as i
already stated thats what guys do, but I'm
not gonna argue that point anymore. you wanna know why i'm soo angry and frustrated? because everyone here blames my lack of success on my bad attitude and me being angry.. well let me tell you a story my dad was a very angry man because he was horribly abused by his dad. he became a raging alcoholic and was the king of womanizers. you know what my first memory was padre? being a toddler in my crib and seeing my dad drag my mom down the stairs by the hair and she was screaming in agony.i felt soo helpless and guilty for not being able to help. And my dad and tons of men like him are womanizers, but yet all my rhetoric about women being drawn to abusive men is completely denied. All my cousins are either emotionally unstable , on drugs, in and out of jail, but they all get women and im the one who supposedly has issues. i'm told my anger and frustration is the problem but the only reason im angry is because all these issues i talk about are completely ignored. the same thing is happening with the majority of my female peers , they are getting involved with these type of guys but nobody wants to adress it. and when somebody like me tries to shine light on the issue we are viciously attacked. lalalala none of these issues exist .aquaguy is just crazy. [/B][/QUOTE]
Ah, I see, there is nothing wrong with approaching a woman with intentions of sleeping with her, just keep in mind women can see it from a mile away and usually give the stink eye over it unless one is just attractive or what have you.
BUT do keep in mind that sort of intention will also chase away a lot of good people from your life as they may just think you are after sex and not worth bothering with very much. To be a bit blunt about it, if you want sex, and they don't, and you make it all about sex via your intention..where does that leave things?
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Padre35
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posted March 26, 2013 01:18 AM
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Originally posted by T:
That sounds nice too. I have my favorite place down here now and it has an ocean view with amazing sunsets every night. I do miss the mountains every so often though.
I came up in SW Florida, it was okay, but now prefer the mtns a bit more. Red tides used to be common and you could smell them from 10 miles away. That I don't miss so much.
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aquaguy91
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posted March 26, 2013 01:19 AM
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Originally posted by Padre35:
Ah, I see, there is nothing wrong with approaching a woman with intentions of sleeping with her, just keep in mind women can see it from a mile away and usually give the stink eye over it unless one is just attractive or what have you.BUT do keep in mind that sort of intention will also chase away a lot of good people from your life as they may just think you are after sex and not worth bothering with very much. To be a bit blunt about it, if you want sex, and they don't, and you make it all about sex via your intention..where does that leave things?
i'm not all about sex though.
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T
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posted March 26, 2013 01:21 AM
There's nothing wrong with glancing at a woman's chest, but staring at them is a different story. Especially holding a conversation with them rather than her....is just uncomfortable. It's not attractive if you can't control yourself or where you allow your eyes to fall. I don't wear revealing low cut shirts, it's just not my style, but guys will still check out your chest anyway, it's expected. And I got over it and it didnt bother me as much after around 14 years old. I don't think most women mind if a man looks - it's normal...it's the ones that prolong it and are creepy about it. I think when you hear a woman complain about that, they are talking about those kinds of guys.IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 26, 2013 01:26 AM
Yeah, there are pros and cons to the north vs. south land and seascapes and the differing coasts. Each beautiful in their own way. IP: Logged |
T
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posted March 26, 2013 01:28 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[[/b]
Completely missed the
point again. I was taking issue with the
fact that T and mockingbird were
insuating that its wrong for guys to
approach women with intentions and
you seemed to be going along with it. as i
already stated thats what guys do, but I'm
not gonna argue that point anymore. you wanna know why i'm soo angry and frustrated? because everyone here blames my lack of success on my bad attitude and me being angry.. well let me tell you a story my dad was a very angry man because he was horribly abused by his dad. he became a raging alcoholic and was the king of womanizers. you know what my first memory was padre? being a toddler in my crib and seeing my dad drag my mom down the stairs by the hair and she was screaming in agony.i felt soo helpless and guilty for not being able to help. And my dad and tons of men like him are womanizers, but yet all my rhetoric about women being drawn to abusive men is completely denied. All my cousins are either emotionally unstable , on drugs, in and out of jail, but they all get women and im the one who supposedly has issues. i'm told my anger and frustration is the problem but the only reason im angry is because all these issues i talk about are completely ignored. the same thing is happening with the majority of my female peers , they are getting involved with these type of guys but nobody wants to adress it. and when somebody like me tries to shine light on the issue we are viciously attacked. lalalala none of these issues exist .aquaguy is just crazy. [/B][/QUOTE] I'm afraid, my points also went over your head and you read into my words wrong. I'm distracted by the tv now and don't think it's worth trying to explain more anyway. IP: Logged | |
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