posted January 20, 2011 08:43 PM            

Can I crank call him and tell em.. lol
Joking..

Ok so how do I tell him,
I have feelings, but need space to work through it, bc I know he doesnt feel the
same. I know it doesnt make sense..
So dont look deep into my eyes anymore, cuz
it drives me crazy.
Dont wait for me anymore...
No more pet names

posted January 20, 2011 08:49 PM            

I dont know about you...but any man looking deep into my eyes, and waiting for me to walk out with im, and calling me pet names....well that man is gonna find out exactly how those actions make me feel and unless he is willing to buy the puppy then he doesnt need to visit the pet store...LOL

posted January 20, 2011 09:00 PM            

but I can think of a million ways around it,
but Im assuming writing an anonymous letter
to him telling him.. When he asks if I wrote it.. I say..
What!!! no why would I write you...
I assume that wont work huh... lol

Mannnn.... I swear I will NEVER again hook up
with someone I work with!!!
at least not before I check moon/pluto...lol

I actually have a rule, about hooking up with
people I work with, but broke that rule for him...
damnnn it!! I know better than that..

posted January 20, 2011 09:08 PM            

Its just with a letter eventually he is gonna wanna come talk to you, but if you talk in person its a once shot deal...

posted January 20, 2011 09:48 PM            

He replied back..

OUt with it.. tell me now!

I said no.. to many misunderstandings via text.. you will just get mad and not reply..

posted January 20, 2011 10:21 PM            

Men!... I tell you what.....lol

posted January 20, 2011 11:25 PM            

F$^cKing A
SEE..... he wont let me severe the tie...

I told him I need to, because i dont understand our friendship,and it doesnt make sense.. He said thats BS. WE ARE FRIENDS.. how can being friends not make sense...

He did say I threw him for a loop though (lol orbm, you sure did call that one)

IDK what happen.... Im still going to pull away.. I have too... Idk if I can keep doing this...

posted January 20, 2011 11:46 PM            

I don't believe he felt it. I guess if he did a year later after breaking up he would accept my facebook friend request (which he didn't, he just let it stay there...not deny or accept). So I don't think he did. I still take those actions personal, like I was a bad girlfriend or person to deal with so much to the point that they don't even want to be facebook friends.

posted January 21, 2011 12:00 AM            

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Originally posted by GrlyGirl20:
Thanks Lioness for the kind words.

I don't believe he felt it. I guess if he did a year later after breaking up he would accept my facebook friend request (which he didn't, he just let it stay there...not deny or accept). So I don't think he did. I still take those actions personal, like I was a bad girlfriend or person to deal with so much to the point that they don't even want to be facebook friends.

I think the nature of Pluto is that things are deep and they feel intense. However someone is always hurt. I have heard Pluto makes you never forget someone, nor be indifferent to them...either you still care deeply or you REALLY hate them. But either way the emotions are intense. What do you think about this.

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Yes I agree, what ever you feel in feel it intensely... I finally opened up to pisces, and told him, how I was feeling.. only I dont feel i got anything accomplished.. He is so set on being friends with me.. ITS A MUST.. He feels that intensely.. He keeps telling me that over and over...
IDK what to do now... How can I be his friend, AND let go of the feelings.. IT seems impossible..

posted January 21, 2011 10:24 AM            

quote:

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Originally posted by oneruledbymars:
Lol...there that starts the ball rolling at least he knows and cant play on those feelings.
You can tell me he doesnt know what he is doing with the little pet names.

Men!... I tell you what.....lol

At least he knows now though...now you can stop living in chaos at work. lol

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Thank you ORBM... You came to me, with just what I was thinking, when I was thinking.. I believe everything happens for a reason.. I believe you told me that right, when you did for a reason.. It gave me the courage and will power to do it.... With out you I probably woudnt have done it...

Only I dont think he got it... He texted me again after I had went to bed...
I dont see him, letting this go, unless I really **** him off BAD... Where he wants nothing to do with me... I really dont want to go to that level.. I dont want him to hate me.. I do value and respect him..

He told me I dont understand, why you cant just be my friend, and take it as it is.. Why are you making it so complicated.

posted January 21, 2011 11:18 AM            

And you need to get some **** straight with him. First of all you dont owe him anything. The only thing you owe anything to is yourself. I just got a good read on his Energy. He WANTS you to owe him something...does that make sense.

You are not complicating things...dont let men tell you you are complicating things because you are dealing with emotions and they are not. You are the one empowered here...remember that we ALL are made of 80% water and so is he...no matter how stoic or how much they down play it men feel the EXACT same thing. And if they say they dont the are lying to you and if they act like they dont they are lying to themselves.

posted January 21, 2011 12:07 PM            

To say the least I agree with you 100% He loves you Lioness and sometimes men are just too stupid or stubborn to actually admit it. (Women too, at times) He's insisting the two of you stay friends because he can't let you go.

posted January 21, 2011 12:43 PM            

Ok here's the jest of what he said..

posted January 21, 2011 12:47 PM            

Mir...I cant buy that. Someone saying they want to be friends and then crossing the line over and over is not a sign "that he fully accepted just-a-FRIENDSHIP at a much earlier stage and this must have prospered very well in his eyes"
He wouldnt cross lines if it had "prospered" and if he hadnt Lioness wouldnt be feeling pressured to still have these feelings. You must not absolve his responsiblity in how she feels.

posted January 21, 2011 12:54 PM            

"He said, no good would come from us being togehter, that he's no good... He doesnt want to ruin what we have.... "

We agree with that. So what you must figure out is how to realize he is a douche bag so that you can understand why you still find him attractive...and why he is making you unhappy.

"He said You know, if you ever need anything, I will be there for you.. I know the same thing from you... We just cant ruin that.. We owe each other a friendship at the least.. "

You can have that same knowledge and not have to be associates. Again you owe him NOTHING. What you do owe is happiness to yourself and thats where he is an issue.

"He said, I dont understand why thats confusing for you... What can I do to help you clear it up.. Ask me anything.. What do you need?"

I would have then asked him why he waits for you, why he looks at you like he does and why he calls you pet names...why in general is he still flirting. Why cant he treat you like the friend he wants you to be?

"I said I just need to distance my self, and for you to understand that..
I said I dont really understand, if you distance your self, then that will make things akward.. I dont want it to be akward around you... "

Distance does not make anything awkward unless he makes it awkward. I just means we are not buddy buddy..."quit staring at me!" lol

"At some point he got really mad and said, why are you doubting my friendship.. I told him I dont doubt his friendship, I just need some space from it..
He was getting frustraded with me.
He insisted "I dont ignore you" I said I know that..I dont feel you do... I just need some space, since I feel so connected with you, and I am having a hard time with it.. ITs best if we just put some distance between us. This went back and fourth for 40 mins... At the end he still said.. I still consider you my friend, I have to go.. I said bye he hung up on me."

posted January 21, 2011 01:18 PM            

His 1 Sag Moon sextile my 0Libra Pluto
My 14 Leo Moon sextile his 18 Libra Pluto..

Also his 1Sag moon conjunct my 2Sag Neptune

In the composite we have
Libra Moon conjunct Libra Pluto (both opps venus)

His Natal Pluto conjuncts my DR moon
My DR Pluto conjuncts his Natal Moon.

posted January 21, 2011 03:54 PM            

I really dont believe he wants to be in
a romantic relationship with me..

But he's also not just making friends
so it wont be akward..

He's not saying, he wants to be friends to
keep the peace.. Even though he uses that
as in excuse.
If that was the case, we would just be like
Hi/Bye in passing..
We really do have a friendship, we talk
all the time.. We both go to each other
for advice, He has told me he cant tell
me anything.. He's comfortable doing that.

So he wants to be "real friends" not dont trip on me and cause drama, so I will say Hi when I need to...

We do have a bond, which is why I do feel
so close to him...
I just guess we feel the bond differently.
HE really really does not want the friendship to end..
I feel that, if I dont step away I will never get over, this..
So its best in the long run for me to walk away, before it gets even worse..
He doesnt want me to walk away.. HE wants
the friendship to remain in tact, but
for me not to have feelings..

This is been goin on, like this for over a year, I cant do it his way anymore..
I know when he realizes Im still pulling
away, hes goin to get upset.. Bc after I converstation last night.. I just dont
think, he believes me.. He "feels" he's convinced me to stay friends.. But I feel more than ever, the need to pull away..

posted January 22, 2011 10:41 PM            

Question hon.. now that I have faced him, and told him what I needed to do...

Im wondering is he going to start to feel the pluto now, that I told him Im pulling away..