posted October 27, 2008 11:48 AM         

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But only ONE person is your "everything". So yes, i meant in the sense of a lover.

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posted October 27, 2008 11:50 AM         

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Meta,
personally I do not think that a lover can fulfill you, if you are feeling incomplete in your own. But that is just my point of view. And I know where you come from. I once thought like that, but something must have changed for me.

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It's not a feeling of being "incomplete". It's a feeling of being... being... one. It's like you're walking around as half a person, and you're looking for the other person who's puzzle piece connects to yours. Once you find that lover (a word used to mean more than someone you have sex with) who fits perfectly into you, you are done. You're finished. You don't need to search for anything anymore because you have that satisfaction. You're "complete".

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And I think you can love different people; but of course each love is unique, youc an`t ever feel exactly the same for another person. Because it is a different person. But I guess view things differently in that regard.

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Agreed. Agreed definitely. However, i would fall apart if my lover feel in love with someone else. And i don't think i would understand how someone else could not be torn asunder by that happening...

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"In all seriousness, it's ok if you like him. If you have feelings for him."
I don`t. Not really. I can feel a certain connection, but do not have positive feelings for him.
But as an actor I "admire" him (admire is too strong, but I do not know which word fits); he can portray that passion powerfully, and I feel in some of the scenes I saw I kinda "get" him, but of course i could be absolutely wrong.
But personally I do not feel drawn to him, as a person, as Ralph, if oyu know what I mean.

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Yes, i know what you mean. I just don't want you guys to think you have to walk on eggshells around me about him. I don't want you to have to hide what you're feeling. Like i stated, he is not mine. I may be very possessive and in a way feel like he is mine, but in all actuality, he is not.

posted October 27, 2008 11:51 AM         

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Yes, it makes you think: What exactly urges these actors to choose their roles?
And what does it mean if someone can portray the psycho so brilliantly (which would include Christian, too.

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I would say that they:

1. Need the money.

2. Signed up to do a different film than how it turned out.

3. Have a tremendous sense of humour.

Number 3 is in relation to Christian. If you're referring to American Psycho - that movie is hilarious. Only someone with that insight would have taken that role and played it like that.

posted October 27, 2008 11:53 AM         

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None of them are actually that fantastic looking. Throw a stone in the street, you will hit five men who look as reasonable. It's a charisma thing.

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I think everyone has to be perceived as good looking by someone. We can't all find the one type of person good looking. Or even just one person. So everyone is attractive to someone in some way. Beauty in the eye of the beholder, etc. Very true - I believe.

posted October 27, 2008 11:54 AM         

but if you have found that perfect love, what are you doing with the rest of your life?

posted October 27, 2008 11:54 AM         

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How do you feel when you're walking together and he looks at another woman? Or if you're at a party or somewhere social and he laughs at the jokes of another woman?

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The joke thing i could care less about. A man is entitled to have female friends.

To look, however, .. would send me into withdraw-mode. I think i told you about how, when i'm hurt, i'm basically in a state of mourning for a few days. I close down. So when i saw him look at someone, i spike of jealousy would flare up in me, and then i would sink into a somber state.

posted October 27, 2008 11:58 AM         

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Meta,
but if you have found that perfect love, what are you doing with the rest of your life?

And I promise I won`t be treading on eggshells around you. But I really don`t feel like I could ever ever fall for Ralph.NOt seriously. But then I haven`t seen his Heathcliff yet.

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Live it together. The two of you. I know everyone needs friends and family but to a certain extent i would want the two people to live in a world of their own. One in which people come and go and pass through, but it doesn't really affect either person because they are living off of each other.

This sounds very bad... and naive... and i'm becoming more and more aware of that, but this is what i want. And i cannot change that.

posted October 27, 2008 12:01 PM         

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Anyone else a drama student on Godzala?
No, it must mean you then.

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Oh.. right... ok then, here's a kiss: MUAH****

I don't know how to do lips, so you'll have to deal with that, MMK????!?!?!!?

posted October 27, 2008 12:03 PM         

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See you later!
Work calls.

~ will answer your question, I did spot it as the page flew by ~

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posted October 27, 2008 12:15 PM         

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Once you find that lover (a word used to mean more than someone you have sex with) who fits perfectly into you, you are done. You're finished. You don't need to search for anything anymore because you have that satisfaction. You're "complete".

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posted October 27, 2008 12:21 PM         

I don't know any of these people. Much as I love astrology, I tend to work on gut instincts first and foremost.

And they get to have a say. If they're not interested, I will just walk off. There's plenty of other people on the planet.

If I was forced to pick? I don't know, I'll tell you after our fantastic evening on the town. Doubt it will be Rafe though, don't worry.

posted October 27, 2008 12:35 PM         

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You're not allowing for movement or change. You're not accommodating for the growth. Nothing is static. Change is everything. It's inevitable. Who he is the second you meet him will not be the same person an hour later. Imagine some years later. People grow as individuals. We have to - are meant to. It's the purpose of our existence - to grow.

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I don't like change. I can't deal with it properly. So i don't know... what to say. If i'm not allowing for change then... well, i don't know how to allow it.

posted October 27, 2008 12:39 PM         

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O.K, gone, who do I really want?
I don't know any of these people. Much as I love astrology, I tend to work on gut instincts first and foremost.

And they get to have a say. If they're not interested, I will just walk off. There's plenty of other people on the planet.

If I was forced to pick? I don't know, I'll tell you after our fantastic evening on the town. Doubt it will be Rafe though, don't worry.

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You don't have an instinctual feeling about one of them?

I think Sean would be a warm relationship.

Christian would be an emotional attachment. Maybe dangerous. Too possessive. You'd never be able to leave the house!

posted October 27, 2008 12:58 PM         

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My instinctual feel tells me Christian is a Scorpio Rising.
It tells everyone else's instincts the same thing so maybe we are onto something.

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Would you two (maybe we three) have ASC conjunct?

How do you determine degrees when guessing?

posted October 27, 2008 03:59 PM         

I've never felt anything strong toward either. Admiration, but that's it.

DD,

I do find Julian Sands interesting though. How do you truly feel about him? Past love? Past hate? Past anything?

posted October 27, 2008 07:04 PM         

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Introducing John:

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posted October 27, 2008 07:09 PM         

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My instinctual feel tells me Christian is a Scorpio Rising.

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posted October 27, 2008 07:14 PM         

Change - is constant. It's important. You don't grow otherwise. I think, if you resist change, you resist your own life. It's inevitable. If you don't change - flow with life - it drags you along whether you like it or not. I know which path is easier. Change doesn't always have to be sudden. It can be gradual.