posted December 31, 2012 11:38 PM            

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Originally posted by peachbeigeblue:
I have when young but wouldn't anymore. So sand you cheat?

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venus in gemini opp uranus?

posted January 01, 2013 12:51 AM            

I've actually never cheated on anyone, mainly because I never commit myself to relationships with out intense passion.
Then again thats probably why I'm always single...

posted January 01, 2013 01:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:

Venus; Gemini
Aries Mars in-conjunct pluto
also

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I'm an Aries w/ Aries Venus, Mars in Gemini inconj. Pluto and Gemini ASC. I think I would have to be engaged or even married to take a relationship seriously. Then again I have moon trine neptune and Jupiter in the 12th, even though I could be easily tempted into cheating I would probably resist because I know how cheating can affect someone.

Astrological additions

posted January 01, 2013 10:43 AM            

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Originally posted by anno_lucis:
aries w/aries venus, cheating to me is sleeping, or sexual contact with another person, whilst in a committed relationship (married, or not). i don't get this whole 'emotional cheating' thing. can someone break that down for me? i'm guessing it's sharing an emotional connection with someone else, but i mean, this is life, we are social animals, surely ur not expected to cut yourself off emotionally from everyone else ever? that seems a bit extreme not to mention, unhealthy...

i have moon squares and excess fire. i can positively say i couldn't imagine 'life' with only one emotional connection...and that's it. that's not living.

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Emotional cheating is where you feel a stronger bond or connection with someone else than with your spouse or significant other. It's perfectly fine to have an emotional connection with others. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to give up your friends.

When you emotionally cheat, you share intimate thoughts (i.e. your dreams, your fears, secrets) with someone else besides your partner. You, in fact, hide these thoughts from your partner and confide in someone else. You may also meet up with this other person and keep them a secret from your partner. If you have to lie to your partner about your "friend" then there is a problem.

posted January 01, 2013 11:14 AM            

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Originally posted by anno_lucis:
aries w/aries venus, cheating to me is sleeping, or sexual contact with another person, whilst in a committed relationship (married, or not). i don't get this whole 'emotional cheating' thing. can someone break that down for me? i'm guessing it's sharing an emotional connection with someone else, but i mean, this is life, we are social animals, surely ur not expected to cut yourself off emotionally from everyone else ever? that seems a bit extreme not to mention, unhealthy...

i have moon squares and excess fire. i can positively say i couldn't imagine 'life' with only one emotional connection...and that's it. that's not living.

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idk i would kind of expect my partner not to be too close with other men.

posted January 01, 2013 12:22 PM            

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Originally posted by anno_lucis:
i don't get this whole 'emotional cheating' thing. can someone break that down for me? i'm guessing it's sharing an emotional connection with someone else, but i mean, this is life, we are social animals, surely ur not expected to cut yourself off emotionally from everyone else ever? that seems a bit extreme not to mention, unhealthy...

i have moon squares and excess fire. i can positively say i couldn't imagine 'life' with only one emotional connection...and that's it. that's not living.

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posted January 01, 2013 12:24 PM            

@sand well..i've got platonic friends male and female that know me better than my bf. i love them all dearly, i'm not sleeping with them, though. some people you have different dynamics with, share different emotional bonds with. the sexual one is exclusive, and it is that that creates the depth of bond that you don't have with anyone else.

for instance, the person i consider my best mate of 10 years is a guy. he knows more about my life and what i've been through than my bf (of less than one year). he (boyf) doesn't need or want to know, a lot of that stuff (his own words). am i cheating? i don't think so. i've never hidden any of my mates from him, they know each other, my bf actually adores him. i would never, and have never, sacrificed that friend, for any relationship i've been in. it has caused problems, previously, because of jealousy. my ex didn't want me to hang out with anyone else, male or female. it's cute, but immature imo. it broke the relationship because he obviously didn't trust me. you should both trust each other to engage with other people, knowing that sex isn't automatically going to ensue. without trust, there is no love. that's just sheer possession, imo.

posted January 01, 2013 12:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Astra:

When you emotionally cheat, you share intimate thoughts (i.e. your dreams, your fears, secrets) with someone else besides your partner. You, in fact, hide these thoughts from your partner and confide in someone else. You may also meet up with this other person and keep them a secret from your partner. If you have to lie to your partner about your "friend" then there is a problem.

Your partner should be your main confidant. They should be your best friend. If you feel closer to this friend than to your partner, then this is a major red flag.

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Well, my husband is pretty narrow-minded. He doesn't want to hear a lot of what I have to say.

I can't divorce him without causing a major upheaval in our children's lives. Plus, we usually get along okay.

But, because he won't be my confidante, I do tell other people a lot of stuff that I don't tell him...because he won't listen to me.

So am I emotionally cheating if I don't set the bar way down low, so that every communication I have with others is less consequential than what I have with my husband? If I tell you a secret I wouldn't tell him, that's me being unfaithful?

I'm very unfaithful then, despite my screen name.

If it matters, every single aspect SaturnineMoth listed applies to me. I have Sag Venus, I am Jupiter dominant, squares to the moon, moon opposed Juno.

posted January 01, 2013 12:48 PM            

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Originally posted by anno_lucis:
ok thanks astra. that is clear and i agree. i don't agree with lying under any circumstances, i'm always honest about things, my feelings, especially. and i expect the same in return.

@sand well..i've got platonic friends male and female that know me better than my bf. i love them all dearly, i'm not sleeping with them, though. some people you have different dynamics with, share different emotional bonds with. the sexual one is exclusive, and it is that that creates the depth of bond that you don't have with anyone else.

for instance, the person i consider my best mate of 10 years is a guy. he knows more about my life and what i've been through than my bf (of less than one year). he (boyf) doesn't need or want to know, a lot of that stuff (his own words). am i cheating? i don't think so. i've never hidden any of my mates from him, they know each other, my bf actually adores him. i would never, and have never, sacrificed that friend, for any relationship i've been in. it has caused problems, previously, because of jealousy. my ex didn't want me to hang out with anyone else, male or female. it's cute, but immature imo. it broke the relationship because he obviously didn't trust me. you should both trust each other to engage with other people, knowing that sex isn't automatically going to ensue. without trust, there is no love. that's just sheer possession, imo.

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I would not say that you are cheating at all. It's normal to feel closer to someone you've known for a decade as opposed to someone you've known for less than a year. You haven't hidden anything from your boyfriend. If there are things that your boyfriend doesn't want to know about, then that's fine. As long as you don't purposefully withhold info, then it's ok.

posted January 01, 2013 01:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Cheating is way more than sleeping with somebody else though, it's violation of trust...And a good indication is if you are uncomfortable doing or saying a certain thing in front of your partner, something you feel you need to hide- that's cheating. It's more than actions or verbal comments, it can be written too.

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But the word cheating sounds so negative.

Doesn't everyone hide SOMETHING from every single person they know?

I don't know anyone who has 100% transparency with their partner; I think that's unrealistic.

Plus, if you are going to put down the person keeping secrets, also look at the character of the person they are keeping secrets from...maybe the other person just isn't accepting or mature enough to hear the truth.

posted January 01, 2013 01:11 PM            

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Originally posted by anno_lucis:
ok thanks astra. that is clear and i agree. i don't agree with lying under any circumstances, i'm always honest about things, my feelings, especially. and i expect the same in return.

@sand well..i've got platonic friends male and female that know me better than my bf. i love them all dearly, i'm not sleeping with them, though. some people you have different dynamics with, share different emotional bonds with. the sexual one is exclusive, and it is that that creates the depth of bond that you don't have with anyone else.

for instance, the person i consider my best mate of 10 years is a guy. he knows more about my life and what i've been through than my bf (of less than one year). he (boyf) doesn't need or want to know, a lot of that stuff (his own words). am i cheating? i don't think so. i've never hidden any of my mates from him, they know each other, my bf actually adores him. i would never, and have never, sacrificed that friend, for any relationship i've been in. it has caused problems, previously, because of jealousy. my ex didn't want me to hang out with anyone else, male or female. it's cute, but immature imo. it broke the relationship because he obviously didn't trust me. you should both trust each other to engage with other people, knowing that sex isn't automatically going to ensue. without trust, there is no love. that's just sheer possession, imo.

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posted January 01, 2013 01:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Cheating is way more than sleeping with somebody else though, it's violation of trust...And a good indication is if you are uncomfortable doing or saying a certain thing in front of your partner, something you feel you need to hide- that's cheating. It's more than actions or verbal comments, it can be written too.Bc you wouldn't hide it if you didnt think you were doing something wrong right?

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