posted June 13, 2021 10:24 AM            

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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
I have fallen into a mindset of, for me it is a struggle with anyone "outside" myself. I think my Libra 11th Uranus makes is sooooo arguous with aligning well with "another". My issue - obviously.
Why am I blabbering about that?
I think any sign or aspect in my case can be a real deal breaker. I have a mad scientist in the basement personality. lol
I am social-able. Yet it is random and I can't put my finger on each one to single out. A couple I believe might be more difficult in my case -

Neptune in other's Third house. It can make communication confusing. The two I know with this, were less straight shooters in their communication with me.

Jupiter in the fifth house. My present relationship and a few past, addiction. In almost any way. Super difficult to be around this for me.

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I know that we disagree on a couple of things, but that doesn’t mean that I dislike you.

posted June 13, 2021 10:26 AM            

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Originally posted by GemJams:
@Dumuzi

I’ve been reading some older threads and you seem cool.I was surprised when you mentioned you had an Aries moon in one of them.I’m an Aries rising so I’m ok with Aries energy.I guess I’ve met some who haven’t learned how to deal with their emotions.I get it cause I have Moon sq Mars,I was temperamental when I was younger.Now I just want peace.

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Were you here years ago? I’m wondering if you were someone I was wondering about recently.

posted June 14, 2021 08:59 AM            

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Originally posted by ESSSSSC:
I would say your Moon-7/DSC counteracts/overpowers your Libra Venus disloyalty and insistence on promise-keeping. Moon-7/DSC means one-on-one/committed relationships are an emotional need, so given you have a brain you can rationalize that being unreliable might bite you in the ass. Then you have Venus-1/ASC, which has a similar affect (wanting/valuing/holding critical relations). (My point is you aren't typical for Libra Venus, so for now I stand by my original characterization.)

Attractive thing: I could see one complimenting you here not making a person stand out, but your desire for other/'deeper' points of compatibility I chalk up to Moon-7. Complimenting physicality is the utmost amorous affection, and Libra Venus because it prizes 'beauty' will get carried away by those compliments - without a serious desire for something 'more' (Moon-7) and a realistic practicality toward goals (Cap Mars).

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i have a brain? 🤔

fair enough 🤷‍♀️

i mean i won't lie and say the compliments can't be fun, i flirt and play around etc but none of it is serious or matters like you said it's not relationship equivalents

a relationship is something else entirely to me and i'll take it seriously

my uranus stuff i can relate a bit to charlie where i'll have moments where i'll just suddenly feel like being with and caring about someone is suffocating, but i know that it's like a momentary thing and i'll settle back down after a bit so i don't go anywhere

i will be honest and say i've never been in a strictly monogamous relationship though i have been monogamous for years at a time in an open one and think i could manage it with the right person

though i'd hope they didn't take offense to playful **** that doesn't mean anything (if they do i can tone myself down and have in the past it just takes a lot of conscious effort)

i guess i find it a bit unfair though to think that options equate with disloyalty because being able to get other people doesn't mean someone actually wants anyone else especially if they love someone or whatever (being disloyal being something defined by individual situation not just monogamy i mean)

relationships are hard and have rough patches etc so it's just par for the course to hold steady through them if you're serious about anything rather than going off elsewhere so it's not like there's really a lot of reasons to stray or just leave if there's commitment involved unless it's unworkable or seeking **** elsewhere is accepted of course

idk seems a lot like blaming someone for **** that can't be helped, it's not really my fault if people like me and are attracted etc it doesn't make me value someone i value less i don't think it does that in general otherwise you don't really care 🤷‍♀️

posted June 14, 2021 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
[B] in placidus i have neptune 3rd and jupiter 5th lol the addiction thing is true though, that's no secret here 🤷‍♀️

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posted June 14, 2021 10:03 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonMystic:

lol Probably not a secret but I hadn't recalled that. I can say it's something I obviously can work through. As my longest non blood relation carries that energy. I suppose for me it's the rough edges that toughen/strengthen the link.
If he understood astrology, I'm more than certain he'd pick out "no can do" aspects I carry.

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oh i've been pretty open about it here

i had issues with substance abuse for most of my life, started dabbling in my teens and then it got progressively worse

i was a heroin addict at one point along with using many other drugs

i'm mostly clean now i'd use psychedelics and i smoke/eat weed from time to time, barely ever drink

in the past couple years i've been sober more often than in the 10 before it combined, i've been totally sober since mid april right now could pass a drug test and that's new-ish for me

hadn't heard of those placements being connected to stuff like that, interesting

posted June 14, 2021 10:09 PM            

I tend to avoid most Virgo placements because my 12th house starts at 1* Virgo and my ASC is at 28* Virgo so all of those placements 99% of the time fall into my 12 house and I'm really uncomfortable with that energy

I also try to avoid Libra placements in the range of 10*-20* degrees because it forms a cardinal cross with my Venus, Neptune, and Chiron and historically things get very very ugly with people that have luminaries there

There are some exceptions to this rule but I really do not like how aggressive and domineering Aries Mars people are - it's my least favorite Mars placement, and it usually falls into my 8th house which has never been sexy, more like it feels like being psychologically terrorized

In the future I want to try and avoid dating Venus in Aqua people just because I've dated 4 (ended up in a long term relationship with 2) and it never works out despite the fact it falls into my 5th house and is conjunct my Moon and North Node

I also try to avoid Scorpio Suns and Moons because I find them annoying 9 times out of 10 (don't even know the astrological reason behind this one)

posted June 14, 2021 10:56 PM            

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Originally posted by ESSSSSC:
Does the person have significant Uranus? I see the Neptune in your post, but it stinks of Uranus too. The mix of Neptune/Uranus is the worst.

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posted June 14, 2021 11:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
oh i've been pretty open about it here

i had issues with substance abuse for most of my life, started dabbling in my teens and then it got progressively worse

i was a heroin addict at one point along with using many other drugs

i'm mostly clean now i'd use psychedelics and i smoke/eat weed from time to time, barely ever drink

in the past couple years i've been sober more often than in the 10 before it combined, i've been totally sober since mid april right now could pass a drug test and that's new-ish for me

hadn't heard of those placements being connected to stuff like that, interesting

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posted June 15, 2021 12:55 PM            

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Originally posted by MoonMystic:
The Jupiter placement is a general addiction one, I encountered in a couple different people that I do perceive - with them. Not a particular addiction though. Jupiter expands all he touches and in the house of fun, pleasure - it can become over indulgence if in extreme. All depends upon the chart owner.

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I have it in the 5th, too, or the 6th with Koch and equal. I stopped taking pain medication when I was nineteen, because I was having to take it for terrible cramps (and it didn’t help at the time - I’d be in agony anyway), and bad knee pain that extended up into my thigh, and down into my ankles - mainly my right one. The doctor told me that I should grow out of it, but I didn’t. I started taking it again, a decade later, when I’d been exercising a lot, and I managed to kill my calves. I was walking around saying, “ow, ow, ow” as I tried to find my mum a birthday present. There were times when it finally started to help with cramps, too.