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Topic: What Do You Get A Cancer Female For Her Birthday?
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Desiring Shadows
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From: UNITED STATES, BABY
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 17, 2018 09:02 PM
  
Next time say “HEY” and when she says “Hey” and smiles, wink at her then raise your eyebrows. Lady’s love that. Jk lolll
My way of flirting is kind of in your face “hey baby where you been all my life???” Type flirting.(depending on how comfortable around her you feel) And it’s really creepy the way I flirt. But atleast she will get the idea you are into her. LolOr you could just say “can I have your number?” Which is pretty direct as well and shows interest. Or come up with an excuse to see her more often like find a shared interest and spend oodles ofctime with her so that way you grow on her. People can love you just by association. I mean the more she sees you and interacts with you the more she will feel more interested. Cancers love the past and sentimental things and are emotional and sensitive and loving and loyal. You could find out her chart, find out her descendant sign and then try and focus on those qualities yourself. Reading up on descendant in __ or mars in ___ and see what she’s into.
But being yourself is probably the best answer but at the same time what you focus on expands and creates your reality so positive thinking is good as well. Reality has many possible filters what you believe you will achieve so if you are convinced of something you can be invincible. If you are convinced you know each other well and that she is sort of into you then you will realize that it is OK to talk to her comfortably. And then you will realize that she may be more understanding and respectful than you’ve ever thought. IP: Logged |
arcturiann
Knowflake Posts: 671
From: Titan
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted June 17, 2018 11:26 PM
Cancers like home related things, like home goods. If you know what their taste is in items visually, or like the previous suggestion of something cozy is also a good one. Cozy, soft, fluffy things. I imagine if you know their venus sign that helps too. IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 10031
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 17, 2018 11:32 PM
Randall..… It's okay not to do it 'perfectly'. 
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Randall
Webmaster Posts: 98059
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posted June 18, 2018 11:52 AM
I saw her today, and she was cold as ice. I can't really blame her. So, I'm not going to give her anything and just pretend like I don't know when her birthday is. Thanks for all the help.IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 10031
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 18, 2018 06:34 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
I saw her today, and she was cold as ice. I can't really blame her. So, I'm not going to give her anything and just pretend like I don't know when her birthday is. Thanks for all the help.
Transiting Mars is on your Venus right now, Randall. I remember dating, then marrying, a Capricorn before. I recall my ex's energy-dynamics when he first tried to catch my interest. You build yourselves up, then let your own self down?? ?? Don't "pretend" you don't know when her birthday is! That's dishonest, because You Do. What Would Linda's Spirit Say? You could surprise her with an (appropriate) humorous birthday card... Find a specialty shop that does zodiac birthday cards. even a very small bouquet of flowers or a small cup-size plant is nice. OR! *grin* A Chia Pet, or Pet Rock???  Give it UP, Cappy! If you like her... use that transiting Mars. She must be special, as a contact to your own Venus is involved right now. (music) Tell Her About It  (Billy Joel) [4:19] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p0pM5dm--yQ IP: Logged |
arcturus90
Knowflake Posts: 441
From: Arcturus
Registered: Nov 2017
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posted June 18, 2018 06:54 PM
my Cancer mother likes :
things you create yourself, a drawing, a card you make yourself, a photo album with photos in it (plus it's memories : Cancer and the past.. ), simple things, not too much things... maybe Cancer like also : things to eat..
also old movies maybe.. If you knew her better and if she was someone closer, you could do this for her birthday : buy a photo album and put real old postal cards in it you find in markets..
editing : Oh okay so you won't buy her anything. So these are ideas for the next birthday of a Cancer person you will celebrate
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llewsacm
Knowflake Posts: 985
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Registered: Mar 2015
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posted June 18, 2018 09:35 PM
Sigh...Randall, just give her a birthday card and write a note inside of it that she gets you tongue tied...lol. be truthful. You would be a good catch I think...so act like it! Lol. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
Knowflake Posts: 4247
From: UNITED STATES, BABY
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 18, 2018 10:26 PM
Maybe she was just having a bad day and didn’t feel like talking. IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 10031
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 19, 2018 10:11 AM
^ Yes. And with it, she could have taken a slight offense that he 'snubbed' her after getting her attention... From the woman's subjective view--
Maybe she momentarily was caught off-guard and didn't know how to personally interpret that vague (but loaded?) comment (when he said, 'never mind')? With a strange momentary mood, subconsciously in her emotions, she could have mistaken that as "rejective-behavior" from him, and responded to 'never mind' with "okay" (as in, okay-then, I'll agree to ignore you-- confused and maybe even subtly miffed by this out of the ordinary behavior displayed UP until this moment?). Friction … tMars Venus Aquarius... and in the sky there is Venus in Leo (opposition). Venus is out-there and available... Say never mind, and she'll never mind? (Take care of your heart, Randall. *hug*) (music) Listen To Your Heart  (D.H.T., slow vocal version) [4:29] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C4HJ0zfZ-EM IP: Logged |
Rheanna
Knowflake Posts: 438
From: The Orient
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 19, 2018 10:56 AM
Randall,Your cancer friend most likely be disappointed if she acted coldly afterwards. She had had her hopes high now she needed to show her 'tough outer shell' to hide her soft self. I've been with a couple of cancer bfs and I'd say cappy would never felt loved the way cancer does. Total bliss. Like water nourishing the earth that cappies are. It applies for both love and friendship, both males and females. Wish you the best with your cancer friend! Carpe diem! IP: Logged |
Rheanna
Knowflake Posts: 438
From: The Orient
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 19, 2018 06:18 PM
Randall,Your cancer friend most likely be disappointed if she acted coldly afterwards. She had had her hopes high now she needed to show her 'tough outer shell' to hide her soft self. I've been with a couple of cancer bfs and I'd say cappy would never felt loved the way cancer does. Total bliss. Like water nourishing the earth that cappies are. Wish you the best with your cancer friend! Carpe diem! IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 9472
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted June 19, 2018 06:28 PM
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Originally posted by llewsacm:
Sigh...Randall, just give her a birthday card and write a note inside of it that she gets you tongue tied...lol. be truthful. You would be a good catch I think...so act like it! Lol.
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hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 9472
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted June 19, 2018 06:29 PM
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Originally posted by llewsacm:
I'm Cancer rising and my baby sister made me a valentine long ago, with calligraphy writing and a wax seal on the letter. She wrote about how instrumental I have been in her life. I read it the other day, but forgot who gave it to me. When I saw the wax stamp I thought"whoever made this really loves me!" It was like 20 years since I read it...and I felt so freaking good to feel that feeling again.
awwwwwwwwwwwwwww IP: Logged |
hypatia238
Moderator Posts: 9472
From: Mercury novile and parallel Pluto, Pluto septile Southnode
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted June 19, 2018 06:31 PM
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Originally posted by Randall:
Ok, so I decided to just go ahead and ask her what she wants for her birthday. I walked up to her today and said, "Hey." She said "Hey" back. We have engaged in playful banter a lot in the past few weeks, but this seemed so forced that I froze up, and I just said, "Never mind." She replied with, "Ok." She seemed disappointed. I think she may have thought I was going to ask her out and didn't.
OMG I am sorry but that made me crack up, I think you are right she probably did think you were going to ask her out! If she is into you, you will totally be able to recover from this. IP: Logged |
Randall
Webmaster Posts: 98059
From: From a galaxy, far, far away...
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 22, 2018 04:13 PM
This is a real mess. She works at a place I frequent every day, and I stayed away for a few days hoping it would help. Today I went in to order something, and she had this very sad look on her face when she noticed me there. She didn't look my way again, but she couldn't hide her feelings. I hate seeing her in pain. She ignored me, so I ignored her. I know my face didn't express my sadness. Cold Cappy placements serve me well. The thing is, I'm not cold at all. I feel deeply. But I am an expert at hiding it. I feel like this has gone on too long now to save it. We are crashing and burning. The longer it goes on, the less chance it can be fixed. And maybe I should't want it fixed. I can't stand that her pain is my fault. In the short term, I know absolutely no one can make her happy like I can. But in the long run, I can't stand to ever see her in pain. I guess that's as strong as it gets--when you care more about someone else's happiness than you do your own. The best thing I can do is stay out of her life and let her get over me. I'd be doing her a favor. She'll never know it though.IP: Logged |
llewsacm
Knowflake Posts: 985
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Registered: Mar 2015
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posted June 22, 2018 04:23 PM
Randall, do you think maybe, by not saying anything, you are compounding the sadness? I'm telling you, write her a card saying how you feel about her and see what happens. Tell her you were a dud for not telling he sooner. Just try it for crying out loud. My aries placements are getting impatient with you!!! Lol! IP: Logged |
Randall
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From: From a galaxy, far, far away...
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 22, 2018 04:31 PM
Yes, I'm definitely compounding the sadness. But that may only mean that she misses the banter. And if that's the case, then expressing feelings for her would only serve to create a greater divide, albeit for different reasons.IP: Logged |
llewsacm
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posted June 22, 2018 04:44 PM
Well, do what you want but I think you are missing the boat. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 22, 2018 04:46 PM
I concur that I probably am. But although I may have a great poker face, I'm not a gambler.IP: Logged |
ariesdragon
Knowflake Posts: 4650
From: Jupiter
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted June 22, 2018 05:26 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Randall:
This is a real mess. She works at a place I frequent every day, and I stayed away for a few days hoping it would help. Today I went in to order something, and she had this very sad look on her face when she noticed me there. She didn't look my way again, but she couldn't hide her feelings. I hate seeing her in pain. She ignored me, so I ignored her. I know my face didn't express my sadness. Cold Cappy placements serve me well. The thing is, I'm not cold at all. I feel deeply. But I am an expert at hiding it. I feel like this has gone on too long now to save it. We are crashing and burning. The longer it goes on, the less chance it can be fixed. And maybe I should't want it fixed. I can't stand that her pain is my fault. In the short term, I know absolutely no one can make her happy like I can. But in the long run, I can't stand to ever see her in pain. I guess that's as strong as it gets--when you care more about someone else's happiness than you do your own. The best thing I can do is stay out of her life and let her get over me. I'd be doing her a favor. She'll never know it though.
This is really sweet of you and I would wait for her to talk to me too. IP: Logged |
mirage29
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From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 22, 2018 05:58 PM
Okay. Enough of NICE!!!  I'm here to just kick your Cappy-butt.
I KNOW you guys ALLL too well. IF you don't get your rear-in-gear, and start thinking more about HER, and have an "honest" convo with that girl... ??? ESPECIALLY with her BIRTHDAY coming up??? *tsk* *shakes head* The Universe can't be spelling it out MORE to you! Her Birthday. A Full Moon in Capricorn. The Venus opp Mars right now, making this Prime for securing a GREAT Relationship that will last a LONG time??? What a more Elegant Excuse to tell her you Care. ??? (Linda is Kicking your Butt!!!! hahahahah)  Invite her to join you at a 4th of July Celebration. EVEN if you're spending it with your family. Fireworks are so mystical, pretty, and conducive to opening the Heart. It will become a memorable part of the beginning of your relationship together? C'mon Man! You Can Do This.  We're cheering for you.
Don't disappoint "US" dude!!! -- Never mind your own self. You've got us Invested here. LOL. You've been Outed!!! You can do this!!!!!
Cherche la femme?
Don't let this opportunity pass you by. You'll Graduate Law School, with possibility of your Girl on your Arm. (music) You'll Never Know (Renee Fleming, song from The Shape Of Water) [4:38] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3Rn6TX6wAc IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 22, 2018 07:03 PM
I'd just be happy if we could go back to the way it was. But I feel like I'm being cruel going in there, because I know it hurts her. It's as if she's my ex, and I am going in there to her place of work to make her uncomfortable. In fact, I do not want to cause her pain. She probably wishes she didn't have to see me.IP: Logged |
mirage29
Knowflake Posts: 10031
From: us
Registered: May 2012
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posted June 22, 2018 07:44 PM
Ohhhh. That's really sad.
So, you've made the mental decision to split from her, and not follow your heart to pursue a relationship-- otherwise, you wouldn't be referring to her with ref of 'ex' energy.Does she work at a coffee shop, restaurant? Yeh… So.... Maybe you're right.....  ?
You could just 'do both of you a favor' by finding another place to go... You know-- until the Cancer energy is finished near end of next month, or, until Mars finishes its influence to your Venus... November 1. *eek* By then, let's see....
you'll be all into your studies--
nose to grindstone,
into that last year of Law School.
Too Busy... won't be having Memories of a Summer of Love come up to disturb your concentration... *sigh*. Then, ...
Be spending your Thanksgiving and Christmas alone with your family, your Mom?
*Wink* .. So.
Is that what you want?  By Christmas, Saturn will return to its point of retrograde, then move on to newer ground and territories. If you fell in love now, there might be some good Venus transits coming for your future? But then -- it could apply to your love of Law too.
Really up to you.... Adventure?? Memories??  Roasting Chestnuts on the Open Fire 
(music) Just Waiting on a Friend (Rolling Stones) [4:42] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w4J7pnfDJxo
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Randall
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posted June 22, 2018 08:27 PM
Long story, but our word is "elegant." Yes, we have a word. I decided to do something when you used that word, mirage. That's a sign if I've ever seen one. I didn't know what to do exactly. But I came up with a great idea. I decided to find her on Facebook and send her a message. Writing is my super power. As I came up with the idea, I was driving by the movies, and there was a poster with her name on it. Her name is not rare, but it isn't common. Wish me luck!IP: Logged |
llewsacm
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posted June 22, 2018 08:47 PM
Yay! ❤️ It will be great go Randall! IP: Logged |
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