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posted August 13, 2013 07:43 PM            

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Are you a jealous person and wants your sun and venus?
Me personally I absolutely despise jealously. I feel like life is way too grand and short to waste the energy and time on such a ridiculousness. I'm Libra sun and scorpio venus which I'm sure is quite odd for either of those but hey it's me

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posted August 13, 2013 08:04 PM            

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I'm laid back and not jealous. But I wouldn't be with someone unless I trusted them, so I guess that's why I don't feel jealous.
If they seemed emotionally 'shifty' to me - I wouldn't be with them in the first place. It's one thing to be sexually attracted to other people.. and it's another thing to not know where you are at *emotionally* and not be able to commit to someone on an emotional level.

Also - I'm very detached from sexual things curtesy of my Mars conj Neptune - so I would be happy with an FWB type relationship.

I'm Aries - Taurus Venus (opp Pluto)

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posted August 13, 2013 08:09 PM            

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It's kind of hard for me to trust people. I'm very secretive or protective however way a person wants to take it and like to hold everything in. I know that's not good or the best thing to do but in a way it's me protecting myself. So even though I may not trust alot of people I could still care less about getting jealous over them. I feel maybe that's why I'm not. I just don't like to waste the time or energy on negative feeling or people and once you get me going its really hard to get me out of there in one piece lol that in which I blame on my Neptune and Uranus capricorn

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posted August 13, 2013 08:11 PM            

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@Oddette and can I just say that I <3 Aries! Lol Aries are so unique and awesome to me

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posted August 13, 2013 08:15 PM            

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I am a very jealous person. I am an aquarius sun,aquarius ascendant and venus,and taurus moon. I have sun/pluto,moon/pluto,and venus pluto. Quiet frankly I will not date a girl who has guy friends, It's either them or me. People will say "bu bu bu bu but you have to trust your partner" and those people have a point. However a girl abuses my trust when she starts hanging out with other guys, I just wont tolerate it.

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posted August 13, 2013 08:17 PM            

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Nope it so long as things are open and clear IDGAF I got my own life to live.

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posted August 13, 2013 08:18 PM            

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@Aquaguy Awe well that's sad. It sounds like someone already has done that to you. I hope not that's one of the worst feeling.

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posted August 13, 2013 08:20 PM            

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@Ail me either I just have never ever been that kind of girl never plan on being one. Jealous comes with a lot of baggage and drama that I just don't and wouldn't waste the energy fighting about

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posted August 13, 2013 08:23 PM            

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I agree, jealously is just energy that should be redirected elsewhere. Besides if the relationship is already secure and your open & honest with your problems there shouldn't be any major problems.

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posted August 13, 2013 08:25 PM            

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@Ail Exactly if the guy or girl is already yours and you know that they are why even go there. But there some people out there who are into that. I think it's umm possessiveness that they're calling it lol

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posted August 13, 2013 08:32 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
@Aquaguy Awe well that's sad. It sounds like someone already has done that to you. I hope not that's one of the worst feeling.

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What happened to me? Nothing happened lol. I just have very
old school when it comes to this
sort of thing. Imo Men and
women who are commited to
each other have no business
having friends of the opposite sex. I know people are going to get butthurt at me for saying that but that is just the way I see it.

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posted August 13, 2013 08:34 PM            

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Originally posted by Barbiegirl19:
@Ail Exactly if the guy or girl is already yours and you know that they are why even go there. But there some people out there who are into that. I think it's umm possessiveness that they're calling it lol

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It's more than possessiveness if they're hiding in bushes stalking their boyfriend/ girlfriend or using phone apps to track them.

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posted August 13, 2013 08:37 PM            

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@Aquaguy Well I feel if they were my friend first there would be no way I'd just give them up for anyone. The guys that I befriend are very genuine and just like me yet not like me lol. What if your girlfriend were friends with them first would you just expect her to just forget them?

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posted August 13, 2013 08:39 PM            

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posted August 13, 2013 08:39 PM            

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@Ail or even just sitting and worrying about what the other person is doing or where they are even when they already asked a gazillion times. That is the stuff that really drives me crazy and that I don't put up with. I wouldn't do it to my bf and wouldn't want him doing it to me

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posted August 13, 2013 09:15 PM            

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@Aquaguy Well I feel if they were my friend first there would be no way I'd just give them up for anyone. The guys that I befriend are very genuine and just like me yet not like me lol. What if your girlfriend were friends with them first would you just expect her to just forget them?

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Imo most of the time there is more going on than "just friends". Its almost never as innocent or platonic as people want you to believe. 99% of the time atleast one of the people involved wants more than friends, most of the times its the guy.

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posted August 13, 2013 09:21 PM            

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Well in that case I would tell them that we couldn't be and that I wouldn't wanna go there with them especially with them being a friend. I understand where your coming from completely. It always seems to be the guys wanting more even when they're the ones always denying it

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posted August 13, 2013 09:22 PM            

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i dont get jealous of what people have. the only time i get jealous is if i a girl that i like and am talking to is hanging out with another guy. if im dating the girl, i dont really get too jealous because i trust her, but i DEFINITELY DO NOT LIKE when she hangs out with other guys. its not like its HER, its just i am a guy and i know what happens when they see a beautiful female...
ive been cheated on before, and it didnt feel good. i have been in the position to be "that guy" as well, but since i know how it feels i could never do that to another guy, even if i dont know them.
i kind of agree with aqua guy here, if a pretty girl hangs out with a guy and they get really close friends, more than likely someone will develop feelings. its happening to one of my best friends right now.

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posted August 13, 2013 09:25 PM            

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I feel if you known the person long enough then those feeling just shouldn't be there especially when your friends. One of my best friends has had a crush on me since we were in 5th grade and just doesn't seem to understand that I see him as a brother than anything else. So I understand where the worries would come from but it's like there some faith in the person your with

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posted August 13, 2013 09:28 PM            

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But it's okay for guys to have female friends? That's such a horrible double standard. I would never ever get upset if my boyfriend who's extremely attractive had an extremely attractive female friend. He's with me not her so obviously I'm the one doing right ya know

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posted August 13, 2013 09:40 PM            

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Well in that case I would tell them that we couldn't be and that I wouldn't wanna go there with them especially with them being a friend. I understand where your coming from completely. It always seems to be the guys wanting more even when they're the ones always denying it

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When I was a freshman in high school I met a girl through a mutual friend and we became "friends". From the very beginning I was extremely attracted to this girl and it didnt take me long to reveal this to her. Things were very complicated though because she was already in an unhappy relationship with a guy but didnt want to leave him. She was committed to him but maintained the friendship with me anyways. It didnt take long for her boyfriend to catch on to this and he wasnt very happy. She began to call me and text me behind her boyfriends back, this went on for over a year beforeshe finally broke up with her boyfriend . The whole time they were dating I encouraged her to break up with him and date me and she always declined but continued talking to me anyways. When she finally broke up with him we both admitted that we had feelings for each other but she said she wasnt ready for a relationship yet and I respected that.We continued talking and seemed to be building towards a relationship but something bad happened. You see I had also become friends with one of her female friends and she was attracted to me. She was jealous that I had feelings for the other girl and started telling her lies about me to get her to hate me and she was successful. The moral of the story is dont mix male/female friendships with relationships because it will almost always end in disaster. I only had to go through one experience to figure that out.

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posted August 13, 2013 09:40 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
What happened to me? Nothing happened lol. I just have very
old school when it comes to this
sort of thing. Imo Men and
women who are commited to
each other have no business
having friends of the opposite sex. I know people are going to get butthurt at me for saying that but that is just the way I see it.

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Just do your best to find a matching perspective.
There are girls out there with similar points of view

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Re: me: I can be, but only if I feel insecure in a relationship. I was with my ex-husband, but (as it turns out) with reason.
I'm not at all with my current husband, but I completely trust him.
Well, "at all" might be too strong. There were a few things (mostly very early on) that tied a knot or two in my chest, but I told him about them and we talked through them.

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posted August 13, 2013 09:43 PM            

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Oh, and: 5h Pisces Sun, 3h Aqua Moon, Scorpio Asc, 7h Taurus Venus, 10h Leo Mars

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posted August 13, 2013 09:47 PM            

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@Aquaguy Well that's not fun and if any guy friends of mine that have feelings for me which none of them do because I'm pretty much the female version of all of them I would tell them flat out that I don't want a relationship with them. Most of them have been friends of mine since preschool so I just don't see letting them go for anyone especially when they've been there for so long and know more than a boyfriend would. I get where you're coming from but I still don't think it's fair to judge and assume without knowing the person or people first. Who knows you may grow to even like them as well. That's all I'm saying

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posted August 13, 2013 10:01 PM            

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I can't read the blog (for very long) of a woman my age, because of how successful she is. She did what I wanted to do, and I don't begrudge her, but her blog makes me cry.

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