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Topic: When Aquas have a "Problem" With You...
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hippichick Moderator Posts: 737 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted July 31, 2008 10:54 AM
pjeffI think if you want something from the relationship you are not getting, ask for it. If you scare him off, then you scare him off. Then he is not the one for you. With Aquas, tho, handle yourself with tact and diplomacy, be detached, matter of fact, NON EMOTIONAL, and you will have less a chance of scaring him off. But, do state your needs and find out if this man will be willing. Life is too darn short to be waiting around for something that may never manifest anyway, been there done that........with an Aqua. IP: Logged |
bunnies Knowflake Posts: 451 From: u.k Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 01, 2008 04:29 AM
oh poor pjeff! You've landed yourself one of the dopey ones like me! Can't read signals. How long will it take for this Aqua to come around if you don't push? Forever! Too late for plan A....a calm mildly friendly approach. Now he'll think your just being plain creepy or weird. Battle stations lovey! Plan B. Full frontal assault."I have to tell you BLANK it's you. No! Don't raise that eyebrow at me you know full well what I'm talking about (he won't) I've tried to hold back but I can't (flattery) I want you and that's all there is to it (don't elaborate, we'll start to analyse) I can't stop thinking about us together so I'm afraid unless this is going somewhere, I am going to have to go somewhere and.....(AND HERE IS THE DEAL CLINCHER) not see you again. Do leave with a flourish. Do not text...ever. We can SO read between the lines of texts...and wait for three days. He will call you. Insecure see? When it comes to romance think pre school....spell..it...out. But always make lessons exciting! IP: Logged |
bunnies Knowflake Posts: 451 From: u.k Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 01, 2008 04:34 AM
And I know it might sound contradictory to say we can't read signals but we can read text signals. I meant, once you have made your intentions clear do not revert to game playing. We invented that one!!IP: Logged |
ghanima81 Moderator Posts: 685 From: Maine Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 01, 2008 08:10 AM
bunnies, Tooooo funny! We did invent games... just to watch everyone else try to play them and pull one over on us. It never ceases to crack me up... you CANNOT pull anything over an Aqua's head... we may act like we don't know what you're up to, but that's just because we're afraid of the real stuff... Make no sense. Isn't Uranus the planet of contradiction? LOL IP: Logged |
bunnies Knowflake Posts: 451 From: u.k Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 01, 2008 01:41 PM
Isn't Uranus the planet of contradiction? Oh ghani yes! We have a charming (!) expression in Liverpool. "It does me 'ead in" (it does my head in) Meaning it makes one's head ache. One can also turn it on oneself. For example."I'm doing me 'ead in" (I am doing my own head in) And as a fellow Aqua I am sure you will often "Do your 'ead in!! I constantly have little conversations with myself which start with "What in the name of God possessed you to....(fill in blanks) IP: Logged |
Mama Mia Knowflake Posts: 137 From: Registered: Feb 2010
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posted August 01, 2008 02:16 PM
"What in the name of God possessed you to....(fill in blanks)act like that when you know dang on well that you love this girl/guy so much, why did I just push him/her away..Go off to process now..LOL!!! LOL!!! IP: Logged |
augentier unregistered
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posted August 13, 2008 01:29 PM
Do you think this also fits someone who is not an Aquarius sun but has Venus and Mars conjunct in Aquarius? In a relationship would these people also "retreat" when they are attached? IP: Logged |
stillatlarge Knowflake Posts: 169 From: TX Registered: Nov 2010
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posted August 13, 2008 01:39 PM
Whoa!!!!!! I thought the retreat came from my placements in Cancer. I guess I got a double dose of that from my aqua moon. I must be a real piece of work to deal with.IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 737 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 13, 2008 06:09 PM
Aug, O, yes, O, yes...But not with the inherant, unending lack of personal connetion that the Aqua sun has. Apply these dynamics onto the energy of the sun...and see what you will see! IP: Logged |
augentier unregistered
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posted August 13, 2008 07:21 PM
Im having a prob. w/ the Venus-Mars conjunction in Aquarius right now w/ someone I thought cared about me dearly..he's detached himself from me and our situation almost completely..yet he's still there, still lingers. He's got a Pisces sun, so basically he's confusing the @#$% out of me IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 737 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 14, 2008 10:29 AM
AugI am quite fond of water/air mixes, with the sun found in water. Guess I am partial cause I am one. Pisces sun with a HUGE Aqua influence. We Pisces often need time to detach anyway, naturally, tho it is not seen as detachment but more swimming away, just to get away from the energy of things we pick up here and there. And someone with a Pisces sun and a strong Aqua influence will throw in the detachment aspect as well. Not to worry, if the guy really cares for you, his sweet, caring Pisces nature will prevail. My bfriend is a Pisce sun with a big Aries influence and while he is young at heart, full of energy, an incredibly fast metablolism, etc. his inherant nature is very Piscean, very sweet, kind giving. Something else to consider, has tUranus hit his sun yet? That was a very challenging time for me, well the months approaching the conjunction were and the actual conjunction was stunning. And us Pisces/Aqua mixes feel it more strongly cause we are attuned to the Uranus energy natively. blessings IP: Logged |
augentier unregistered
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posted August 14, 2008 01:55 PM
tUranus is 4 deg. from his Sun .. moving closer. I really wish I could hang on to this guy..but he's confusing me so bad right now.IP: Logged |
hippichick Moderator Posts: 737 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted August 15, 2008 10:16 AM
AugDepending on his age, this transit will have a big impact on him. I think the older we are, the more Uranus has an effect on us, well an effect that one is willing to stand up and notice anyway! He is probably feeling the need to really, well, kind of re-invent himself now. I would not take it personally that he has drifted away, just a time in his life he needs re-orient himself to himself. If he will come back to you, he will, if it is not to be, he will not. I felt the energy of tUranus within the same degrees, but the exact conjunction was kind of the climax of it all. Tho, "events" did take place for many months prior to the exact conjunction. This will take some time for him, but Pisces is mutable and as he becomes more attuned to the energy of tUranus upon his sun, he will mellow a bit. You really have to consider the placement of the sun in the house as well, and of course any aspects to his nSun in trying to figure out his behavior now. My sun is in my 4th and I had all kinds of appliances break, one after another. House repairs needed. I knew this was an external expression of internal things, but still, the energy of the 4th house was heavily impacted! ALso, Neptune, his ruling planet is in Aqua, is this affecting him too? All I can say is let him go to be and find who he will be. In the end, the Aquarian-colored Pisces will love you more for letting him swim and be free. If you do have the opportunity, tho, IF he comes to you, then let him know you care, we like that too! These things I know! blessings t IP: Logged |
mysticgirl unregistered
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posted September 22, 2008 05:26 PM
i found this about aqua.Friendship is so important to him that you may feel his pals are more important to him than you are. This isn`t the case, but can be hard to cope with at times. Loving an Aquarius is often frustrating because they often act aloof and hard to catch. But as the French say, the one who suffers greatest loves the most. You`ll need to position yourself inside his circle, and not be on the outside looking in.
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Lara unregistered
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posted September 22, 2008 06:35 PM
hmmm such an interesting thread! So if a man has capricorn sun aquarius moon scorpio rising sagittarius venus gemini mars am l doomed in the romantic, close and loving department or will be be able to detach himself from his detachedness IP: Logged |
broken dream unregistered
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posted September 23, 2008 12:48 AM
Wow its strange how your world can become so small when you discover someone is going through the same thing as you. I am a libra woman that lost her balance while trying to maintain a relationship with an aquarius man. I tried my very best to be what i thought he wanted me to be without losing myself inside of him. I felt like i had become a game to him and when things got too complicated he quit. Now im trying to understand where i went wrong. I got tired of him pushing me away so i finally had to let go.------------------ I am a thousand shooting stars going to waste in his arms i will always be his wish but never his truth! IP: Logged |
bunnies Knowflake Posts: 451 From: u.k Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 24, 2008 09:33 AM
Oh dear. An Aquarian mathematical formula.Libra = Pleasant = People Pleaser = Clingy =Trapped =RUNNNNNNNnnnnn Aqua Run!!! IP: Logged |
broken dream unregistered
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posted September 24, 2008 10:53 AM
Im not very clingy. I have too many friend and a large family i dont have the time or energy to be clingy. I like my space! I just dont like feeling like an after thought. I didnt need to be his whole world i just wanted to be apart of. I get the whole i need room to breath.------------------ I am a thousand shooting stars going to waste in his arms i will always be his wish but never his truth! IP: Logged |
Lavlee Newflake Posts: 2 From: Yes Registered: Jun 2009
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posted September 24, 2008 10:54 PM
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broken dream unregistered
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posted October 01, 2008 11:20 AM
Lavlee thank you for the beautiful advice.I cant tell you how offten i become trapped in my own mind trying to weigh a thousand different thoughts until they all make senes. Me trying to understand what went wrong wont make him care about me the way that i want him to. I had to let go of who i thought he was and i had to face who he really is. Just wanted to thank you for reminding me not to get caught up in the why of things. ------------------ I am a thousand shooting stars going to waste in his arms i will always be his wish but never his truth! IP: Logged |
Lavlee Newflake Posts: 2 From: Yes Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 01, 2008 08:15 PM
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broken dream unregistered
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posted October 02, 2008 12:38 AM
I told him that i deserved more than he was willing to offerand that i hoped we could find a way to remain friends. He agreed. We still talk on the phone and mostly through text messages. I have found that since we have taken the physical intimacy out of our relationship he has more time for me. I feel like less of an after thought and more of a friend. I dont know if we will grow back into eachother but im glad we discovered this friendship.------------------ I am a thousand shooting stars going to waste in his arms i will always be his wish but never his truth! IP: Logged |
Lana29865 unregistered
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posted October 02, 2008 06:24 AM
That is a very common theme with many Aquas (males at least)... IP: Logged |
broken dream unregistered
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posted October 06, 2008 11:49 AM
I have always been able to maintain a friendships with past lovers and boyfriends but with this auquarius things are different. There always seems to be this romantic energy between us like we cant help but be pulled to each other. Im a libra that likes her creative space i write alot so sometimes i need room to throw my thought against the walls of my mind. I need my space as much as he does. What i hate is living on his timeline. As much as i want to be with him i cant unless we can share our time.------------------ I am a thousand shooting stars going to waste in his arms i will always be his wish but never his truth! IP: Logged |
Lana29865 unregistered
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posted October 07, 2008 01:57 AM
I understand you very well, having been with an Aqua myself for a long time (I'm a Virgo with a Libra Moon&Venus conjunction).This is a never-ending theme with Aqua males, always repeating itself regardless of how much they care for the woman in question... IP: Logged |