posted March 08, 2010 12:53 AM         

:edit: ok S - so it was something she was aware off and ok with. Then it is a mutual thing.. It is her choice what she does with her body.. and it is your choice what you do with yours.
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But I would not appreciate this thread going in a direction that has no connection to SwirlKit - whatsoever.

posted March 08, 2010 12:56 AM         

I was talking about the fine line between justice and revenge and how it was reflected by how tropical Scorpio is mostly in Libra Constellation which was originally the Scorpion's Claws.

also...I don't believe that what happened to her had nothing to do with law of attraction, and that it had to do with the guy that sexually violated her.

Raymond

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"Nothing matters absolutely;
the truth is it only matters relatively"

posted March 08, 2010 12:58 AM         

It sounds like your ex could've been drugged since she couldn't move.

Ultimately it's up to her, but they say rape victims who don't face their rapist in court have a harder time getting over it. She should talk to a WOAR hotline person or a counselor skilled in sexual assault counseling or she'll have problems down the road.

posted March 08, 2010 01:07 AM         

Thats not a fair analogy Diana. There are some girls who dress to entice men, then they play with men sexually, mostly to the brink, then they get completely upset and put full blame on the men when they get raped.

This is the dilemma and the games that are played out on earth. They are very tricky. Who is the culprit?

posted March 08, 2010 01:09 AM         

Hell No!

If he forces sex on her, it's rape. Rape is when a person has sexual intercourse with another without his/her consent.

It's not the woman's fault. So what if the woman shows a sexual interest in the guy, it doesn't give him a license to do anything with her that he wants.

When she says "No" to sex,she is setting a boundary which needs to respected which means no sex with her.

Raymond

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"Nothing matters absolutely;
the truth is it only matters relatively"

posted March 08, 2010 01:17 AM         

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things aren't so black and white. good and evil. There is a VERY thin line

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posted March 08, 2010 01:22 AM         

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Thats not a fair analogy Diana. There are some girls who dress to entice men, then they play with men sexually, mostly to the brink, then they get completely upset and put full blame on the men when they get raped.

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It's an absolutely fair analogy, except being robbed isn't nearly as traumatic as rape. You just can't wrap your brain around it because your d_ck is involved in your view of your analogy.

I knew when you wrote about your dream that you blamed your GF. It was classic. She turned into a werewolf when she was climaxing. Textbook. Didn't want to say anything.

Her being drunk and staying there don't give him license to assault her.

posted March 08, 2010 01:29 AM         

THIS is Sanchenuss' thread:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/203506-2.html

If you are posting about his relationship, could you please post further *on* his thread.

posted March 08, 2010 01:38 AM         

I am very sorry for my part in this mess,swirl-kitt.

Raymond

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"Nothing matters absolutely;
the truth is it only matters relatively"

posted March 08, 2010 11:04 AM         

In the past week, I thought a lot about this.

He was probably afraid of rejection-the greatest fear of human kind. He could also be in denial- that Hep.B is not that infectitious, or that he doesn't HAVE TO tell girls about it. But eventually he did, so I think he can still be cured ! For his future relationships at least !

As a scorpio with libra placements , I will hide my anger and I won't break up with him right away. If he jokes about it I will though !

I will meet him at least for one more time. I won't treat him like he has some disease, or as if he is dangerous or different.

I will tell him I'm glad he told me about it so that I got vaccinated, and that I wish he told me from the beginning, so we could have used a condom and I could get vacc.ed, that it wouldn't have been a big deal, and I wouldn't be in fear now whether I have it or not. He could have just asked if I had been vacc.ed for Hep.B because most people actually have nowadays !

Then I will suggest that we use condoms.. If he refuses this, he is the biggest jerk of all time. I will give up on him. I will ask him how would he feel if I got Hep.B and got really sick and was in a lot of pain.. and if, eventually, I died..

He is in fact really kind to girls 'out of bed', I know that's why he told me he had it when he finally did. He must have felt sorry for me, I'm a girl, I'm weak and delicate and I probably would die if I had a serious disease.

I will break up with him, but I feel like someone has to prove him that IT'S OK to tell a girl he has Hep.B so that she can get vaccinated. He always keeps telling me how he doesn't like short-term relationships, so how about he uses a condom and if he likes having sex with a new girl, he can ask her whether she is vacc.ed.

I know it will always be challenging for him to tell someone about it, I would feel awful if I had it- I still could !- and had to do that. But there are many girls who wouldn't mind and would just go and get vacc.ed if they really like the guy.. If it was HIV it could have been a bit harder.

I could tell all his friends about it, I could harm him pretty badly. So I hope he appreciates what I do and changes his behaviour. Not everyone in the world is as heartless as him

Anyways, I was kind of talking to myself so I hope noone was bored to death after reading it all

I hope I don't break into tears and start punching him half way through my plan, that would ruin everything !

posted March 08, 2010 11:16 AM         

I already told him that. When he first told me, I didn't kick him out of the house, I wasn't even mad at him !

I just felt awful. And he saw that. I really really hope he learns a lesson from all this, he is not a kid who does something bad and deserves to be yelled at, and who then runs away and never comes back. He needs to learn to take responsibility for his own actions.