posted February 27, 2014 09:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Sibyl:
Where I'm at it's all about status. Where I come from it's a little about looks and allot about athleticism. I think it really depends.

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posted February 27, 2014 09:44 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
And that's precisely why I prefer to holistic approach to social relationships. "Status" or "looks" by themselves are poor indicators of moral fibre and character.

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If only though YTA, ppl rarely look past the outward signs of moral fibre (see status and $$$) and at the person.

Personally I've found people who have ideas that the implement, not just talk about, tend to be the best company as neither side of the conversation "needs" anything from each other.

posted February 27, 2014 09:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Padre35:
If only though YTA, ppl rarely look past the outward signs of moral fibre (see status and $$$) and at the person.

Personally I've found people who have ideas that the implement, not just talk about, tend to be the best company as neither side of the conversation "needs" anything from each other.

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And that's why I always say I deliver Chinese food for a living, or wash dishes at the back of the restaurant.

posted February 27, 2014 10:06 AM            

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Originally posted by YoursTrulyAlways:
And that's why I always say I deliver Chinese food for a living, or wash dishes at the back of the restaurant.

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Smile..Szechaun, Szechaun

posted February 27, 2014 12:33 PM            

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Originally posted by aquaguy91:

I dont know..

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Here is one site that I found that offers a support group specifically for people with high functioning autism or AS to get together once a month. In Tennessee.

http://grasp.org/page/tennessee-spectrum-resources

It's in Nashville, so I'm not sure how close you are...but maybe you could make a day trip just to see if it's something that could work for you?
There seem to be other groups in different areas of the state as well.

They also seem to offer other resources as well, from what I can tell at a quick glance.

It's something that you could get involved in directly, if you wanted to, and improve the resources in your area (or at least give it a try).

http://grasp.org/page/grasp-support-group-nashville-tn

Also, an online support forum for people with AS (high functioning included).

posted February 27, 2014 12:57 PM            

1: Is looking for a guy with high social intelligence as she is such a social butterfly. She may settle for less (you may see her at the arm of an attractive guy), but that doesn't mean she'll stay. She has dumped numerous super attractive guys with a tendency to put their foot in their mouth.

2: Is a top athlete. Is looking for someone equally athletic. Must have a good personality (she has rejected lots of good looking athletic douches). BF is good looking, but most importantly athletic. And nice.

3: wants to settle down. Is looking for a family-kind guy. BF is normal-looking.

4: BF is equally adventurous. Is equally committed (wants to settle down). BF is normal-looking.

5: Absolutely does not want to settle down. BF has the same weird sense of style and humor, and is not particularly good looking.

6. Is really quirky and nerdy. BF has the same nerdy hobbies and weird philosophical ideas. BF is not very attractive.

7. Her boyfriend was her best friend, and they get along with each others' families really well.

posted February 27, 2014 02:00 PM            

GRASP is a good group. I personally know the head in New York City. Their support groups don't cover much of the dating scope. Surely you can't expect much when a group of Aspies at a meeting is practically all male. As it is, the ratio of females to males is 1 in 5. I know because I attended GRASP myself and I married another Aspie.

posted February 27, 2014 03:18 PM            

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Violet,

GRASP is a good group. I personally know the head in New York City. Their support groups don't cover much of the dating scope. Surely you can't expect much when a group of Aspies at a meeting is practically all male. As it is, the ratio of females to males is 1 in 5. I know because I attended GRASP myself and I married another Aspie.

Anyway, where Aquaguy is to Nashville is almost three hours away. It's not productive for him to attend their meetings. I know because my wife grew up in Aquaguy's hometown.

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Well, it's great to hear that at least it's a good group, and he might be able to find other people with AS to talk to, at least.

And there's always the online forum as well, if he wants to lurk there for a while.

Cool coincidence that your wife grew up there!

Thanks for your input, YTA. It is valuable.

But here is another link for support in other areas of the state. Not sure how good the groups would be, or how close...but worth looking into, at least (imo).

posted February 27, 2014 03:19 PM            

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Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
You can always try to start your own group if you can find some other Aspies, Aqua.

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posted February 27, 2014 03:23 PM            

I don't mean for it to come across that way.