|
Author
|
Topic: Female friends in the bar scene
|
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 9248
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 12:57 AM
  
Idk if I was you having such bad luck- I would just sort of focus on other things and let romance approach me..Maybe when you're older you'll be able to get in sync with the opposite gender. Some people are late bloomers, I guess.
but you incredible ego won't even admit to and blame the entire gender  IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:04 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Violets:
 It's simplistic to assume that women never have a part in a problem or breakdown in communication within a relationship. The only women I know who actually think like that are complete morons. It takes two to tango, dude. Intelligent women are aware of that. Men and women are equally capable of acting like total d0uchebags. I don't know where you're getting your information from, but I suggest finding a different source.
Of course its simplistic to always assume its always the man's fault... But that is exactly what most people do.
IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 9248
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:04 AM
I have an ego too which makes me do certain things...
Like I'm not nice to people I'm reaaaally attracted to...which is weird because most people are incredibly nice to people they are sexually attracted to..In my mind they have power over me, and my attraction to them is unacceptable. Unless of course they are also attracted to me.. I sound incredibly full of myself..
But hey that's who I am, sometimes it works out for me and other times its a disaster especially if they are the type that wants me to chase them or something.
IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:05 AM
And on my last note, it's equally simplistic to assume that women are always the cause of problems or a breakdown in communication.If you're having that many problems with women, I agree with Kero. Focus on something else, and stop blaming women for your dating problems. Or start dating different types of women, and look for them in different places. More to the point:
If you're attracting undesirable partners in your life, you may have to change yourself in order to attract the types of people you WANT in your life. It took me a very long time to figure that one out. And by "changing yourself" I don't mean "becoming increasingly embittered and calloused towards all women". There's a huge difference there. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 7806
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:06 AM
I just don't understand who these mysterious ones are who are all chanting it's the man's fault it's the man's fault it's the man's fault. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:08 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Of course its simplistic to always assume its always the man's fault... But that is exactly what most people do.
Once again. That is what the women YOU have encountered allegedly do. That is not what most people do. Generally, people possess the objectivity to realize that it's either both people equally contributing to a negative situation, or one person is creating a lot of unnecessary discord (whether it's a man or woman). IP: Logged |
Padre35
Knowflake Posts: 3231
From: Asheville, NC, US
Registered: Jul 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:09 AM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Aquaguy, you are not at war with women.
I'll be honest here, what does worry me about AG is it's as if he expects Women to be robots Like home routers to intimacy "three lights blinking..mildly interested..1 light blinking..but she is smiling! Liar!" It is one of the things in life, one can TRY to explain, and no matter the metaphor, no matter the insight, it will never be gotten. Eh, fine with me, just enjoy the chats with the background noise of AG's constant self flagellation as the sort of theme music IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:11 AM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
I just don't understand who these mysterious ones are who are all chanting it's the man's fault it's the man's fault it's the man's fault.
Do you live on the moon? IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:13 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Do you live on the moon?
Nope. I'm wondering the same thing she is. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 7806
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:14 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Padre35:
I'll be honest here, what does worry me about AG is it's as if he expects Women to be robotsLike home routers to intimacy "three lights blinking..mildly interested..1 light blinking..but she is smiling! Liar!" It is one of the things in life, one can TRY to explain, and no matter the metaphor, no matter the insight, it will never be gotten. Eh, fine with me, just enjoy the chats with the background noise of AG's constant self flagellation as the sort of theme music
Hahaha, I enjoyed reading this, Padre! It does seem like Aqua tries too much to read women. Aqua, maybe you are overcompensating for AS by going too far the other way? You have to be more forgiving and merciful of expressions and idiosyncrasies. Nobody is perfect. It's like you are a wannabe Virgo archetype, geez. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 7806
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:17 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
Do you live on the moon?
I think you are projecting insecurities onto mysterious beings that may or may not exist  IP: Logged |
Kerosene
Knowflake Posts: 9248
From: Mercury
Registered: Dec 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:23 AM
It's really weird to me you say stuff like this.. I mean there are a lot of guys with your issues most of us can sympathize with because they actually know they are doing something wrong...and that dating can be harsh because people can be stingy..The thing is you don't even have female friends LOL..
You don't want to get to know a woman as an equal.
So I don't sympathize with you and your faults.
I'm sorry women are more than just objects of YOUR affection.
I think you don't deserve a girl at all.. so It's really funny to me now. If you actually befriended a girl maybe she could develop feelings for you because she see's you as you... maybe you are a nice guy as you claim to be. That's how a lot of the male population who are not experts at picking up girls find a partnership, through friendship. I think most of us had enough of these threads because it's the same record... it's getting old, really.. You just come here to vent at the expensive of us...
Go complain to your guy friends or something in real life.. No actually post more of failures maybe one day you'll learn and actually be successful. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:26 AM
quote:
Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
Hahaha, I enjoyed reading this, Padre! It does seem like Aqua tries too much to read women. Aqua, maybe you are overcompensating for AS by going too far the other way? You have to be more forgiving and merciful of expressions and idiosyncrasies. Nobody is perfect. It's like you are a wannabe Virgo archetype, geez.
I am an aspie, I don't try to read people because I cant. Why should I be forgiving of peoples nonsense if they don't respect the way I communicate, which is speak things in plain english?
IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:34 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Kerosene:
It's really weird to me you say stuff like this.. I mean there are a lot of guys with your issues most of us can sympathize with because they actually know they are doing something wrong...and that dating can be harsh because people can be stingy..The thing is you don't even have female friends LOL..
You don't want to get to know a woman as an equal.
So I don't sympathize with you and your faults.
I'm sorry women are more than just objects of YOUR affection.
I think you don't deserve a girl at all.. so It's really funny to me now. If you actually befriended a girl maybe she could develop feelings for you because she see's you as you... maybe you are a nice guy as you claim to be. That's how a lot of the male population who are not experts at picking up girls find a partnership, through friendship. I think most of us had enough of these threads because it's the same record... it's getting old, really.. You just come here to vent at the expensive of us...
Go complain to your guy friends or something in real life.. No actually post more of failures maybe one day you'll learn and actually be successful.
I don't have female friends because most women my age wont give a guy the time of day unless she thinks he is hot or thinks she can use him as a doormat... And im neither of those things.. So i'm up a creek without a paddle... Your post proves what i'm talking about because you assume im a scumbag who only wants sex. Of course your thinking is flawed because alot of guys with that mindset are actually successful and popular with women,provided they pass the looks test.. You assume I haven't tried to meet girls with mutual interests to be friends with, which is something i have actually tried to do. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:39 AM
Kero didn't say one word about thinking that you're a scumbag who is only interested in sex. Who is speaking plain English here? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:42 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Violets:
Kero didn't say one word about thinking that you're a scumbag who is only interested in sex. Who is speaking plain English here?
He accused me of seeing women as objects of affection and not wanting to see them as equals which translates to "you just wanna get laid" . This is the number 1 shaming tactic used against men. IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:43 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I am an aspie, I don't try to read people because I cant. Why should I be forgiving of peoples nonsense if they don't respect the way I communicate, which is speak things in plain english?
Why should other people be forgiving of your nonsense because you don't respect the way THEY communicate? I realize that you can't help the way that you communicate, but you cannot expect every person you encounter to be able to understand your communication needs unless you spell it out to them very clearly. Are you doing that with the women you meet? I think that you might be doing yourself a service by doing so.
 IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 7806
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:45 AM
I sense you have a Man's Manifesto written somewhere, Aqua!IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:46 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
He accused me of seeing women as objects of affection and not wanting to see them as equals which translates to "you just wanna get laid" . This is the number 1 shaming tactic used against men.
How does that translate into "you just wanna get laid"? He said "affection", not "sexual desire". Is that what he said, verbatim?
No. So...again, who is speaking plain English here? IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
Knowflake Posts: 1077
From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19
Registered: Nov 2013
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:47 AM
So is it you because you have aspies or all of the female gender? Pick one. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:50 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Violets:
How does that translate into "you just wanna get laid"? Is that what he said, verbatim?
No. So...again, who is speaking plain English here?
See this is what drives me crazy about people.. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme
Knowflake Posts: 7806
From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:51 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by StarlightSmileSupreme:
[b] Hahaha, I enjoyed reading this, Padre! It does seem like Aqua tries too much to read women. Aqua, maybe you are overcompensating for AS by going too far the other way? You have to be more forgiving and merciful of expressions and idiosyncrasies. Nobody is perfect. It's like you are a wannabe Virgo archetype, geez.
I am an aspie, I don't try to read people because I cant. Why should I be forgiving of peoples nonsense if they don't respect the way I communicate, which is speak things in plain english? [/B][/QUOTE]
Sometimes, people don't want like to say what is on their minds because they are nervous. I know I feel weird about talking about stuff when I think the other person will judge me in some way or get annoyed at what I am about to say because they don't agree with it for whatever reason.
IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:52 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
See this is what drives me crazy about people..
Well, are you actually seeking help with your AS, or just relying on crappy "dating" sites to glean your information from? Do they have support groups in your area? IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 8624
From: tennessee
Registered: Jan 2012
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:55 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Violets:
Well, are you actually seeking help with your AS, or just relying on crappy "dating" sites to glean your information from?Do they have support groups in your area?
But you are trying to toy with me.. Im not naive lol IP: Logged |
Violets
Moderator Posts: 2609
From: Twin Peaks
Registered: Apr 2011
|
posted February 27, 2014 01:57 AM
quote:
Originally posted by aquaguy91:
But you are trying to toy with me.. Im not naive lol
Um, no. I'm asking you a very straightforward question. Point blank. IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
