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posted December 20, 2010 11:06 AM            

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Man, it seems so hard to not hear from him at all. So I text him. But I will try not to do it.Is it ok if I wish him speedy recovery from his surgery?

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posted December 21, 2010 08:40 AM            

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Have NOT forgotten you, Sweetheart.

PS Sure,Speedy Recovery is OK. You don't want to look heartless

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posted December 21, 2010 11:18 AM            

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He goes in for surgery early tomorrow morning. He wrote to me to tell me not to feel bad if he is unable to write to me for the enxt few days. Promised to let me know ASAP when he is out of surgery and out of anasthesia.
Progress in small steps I guess.

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posted December 22, 2010 11:57 AM            

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Hey Ami,
He is in surgery right now. My prayers and best wishes are with him.

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posted December 22, 2010 12:10 PM            

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I will pray too, Rajin.I am starting,now
I feel he will need it, somehow.Not to alarm you but I feel there may be some problems with the surgery like loss of blood or something BUT he will be OK.
Hmmmm--let me know.I am reluctant to say this here but he will be OK.
Write on here if you want to discuss it more.
You can e mail me ,too.

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posted December 22, 2010 12:47 PM            

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Thanks Ami for your wishes. Hope nothing goes wrong, he is too precious for me to even think that.

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posted December 22, 2010 09:28 PM            

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Hey Ami,
Just a quick update. He wrote to let me know that his surgery went off ok, he is in a lot of pain right now and his pain meds are still not working.
Said he would try to call up tomorrow.
But it went off well and I can sleep easy today.

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posted December 24, 2010 01:29 PM            

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Dear Ami,
Wishing you and everybody at home a very merry Christmas and a happy, peaceful new year.

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posted December 25, 2010 10:01 AM            

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Dear Ami,
Thanks for the wishes. Take your time, enjoy the holiday. He is doing better now, still in pain from his surgery but on the mend. I did not write to him yesterday to ask how he was doing so he wrote back in the afternoon to let me know how he was feeling.
Hope the next year is a good one for my heart.LOL

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posted December 25, 2010 10:07 AM            

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That is COOL that HE took the initiative to write to you.
You must be doing something write as he is pursuing you,more.
My sense of him is that he must for you to have true and lasting love which is the only kind you want.
Good things take time. They are worth it.
Write to me WHENEVER you want/need to talk

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posted December 25, 2010 10:38 AM            

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Hey Ami,
I had written to ask him how he was doing the day after his operation. He had informed me abt his surgery when he woke from his anasthesia without me prodding him.
He said I shld stop worrying for him since his family is with him right now. But it is easier said than done. I asked him if he could put up with me being the worrier and he said sure.
Let's see what happens.

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posted December 25, 2010 10:50 AM            

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Let him write now,I think.
He knows you are there.He,prolly, feels terrible after the surgery and is does not want to talk
I know how funky I felt after a C section lol

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posted December 25, 2010 11:30 AM            

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I just write once a day to ask how he is feeling. He is still in pain, but is mobile now. Said he wants to talk sometime. Hope he gets better soon.

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posted December 25, 2010 11:36 AM            

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Dear Rajin
Just my opinion, but I don't think you should write every day to see how he is feeling but that is just my opinion and I could be wrong,of course.
I wanted to ask you THIS. Did he have any complications with the surgery at all?
I had a sense of it and wanted to know if I was right?
Thank you ,Sweetie

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posted December 25, 2010 12:20 PM            

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No, no complications in his surgery, it took an hour to be done and he was in recovery for an hour. They sent him home after that and he slept all afternoon but still has pain.
If I dont write he writes to say something and I reply back.
I will try to not write daily, but I am a gregarious person by nature, love to talk and genuinely care about people. I remember details about their family, their likes and I call people all over the world. I never understood why people make communication some kind of premium. Isn't that what separates us from animals, the ability to express our feelings or thoughts? So people who use communication as a weapon are a mystery to me.

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posted December 25, 2010 01:06 PM            

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Well, not to beat a dead horse,lol,but YOUR guy needs to learn to pursue .It is part of his developing "maleness".His Libra Sun is not a natural pursuer. His Mars(can't remember it,right now) but it was not a natural pursuer ,either.
He needs to pursue for the ultimate good of your relationship.
It will make him a man, not just a male.
You are MAKING me give all my Venus in Gemini love secrets out on the open Board

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posted December 25, 2010 01:08 PM            

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sorry sorry, did not mean to make you give up your secrets.LOL. I am kinda dumb I guess. I am new to this love game, I always think people should be honest about their feelings and not let someone hope and then let me down. Guess the world does not think that way.

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posted December 25, 2010 01:28 PM            

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Well,a man needs to be a hunter.

It is the biology of the human race. I have seen relationships where the woman chased.
She may have gotten the man but the man was never satisfied.

Disclaimer----This is MY experience only grrr

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posted December 26, 2010 08:07 AM            

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What is going on ,today, Rajin?

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posted December 26, 2010 12:35 PM            

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Hey Ami,
He is still under the weather. But wrote yesterday to ask me to come visit him. His family is with him for the next 2 months so if I go within the next 2 months I meet his parents. He said he would call and discuss the details.
Let's see how that plays out.

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posted December 26, 2010 12:37 PM            

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OK----Keep being true to the Venus in Gemini School of Higher Man Chasing

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posted December 26, 2010 12:52 PM            

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Dear Rajin
I just want to add something.Being a Libra Sun with a weak Mars, he is prolly gonna vacillate quite a bit in his "pursuit" of you.
Don't panic. You NEED to pass these "tests" in order to win him i.e you need to seem strong and independent within yourself not an excessively clingy woman
It is part of his maturation process to manhood .
Come back and talk to me rather than get clingy on him lol
The Libra guy must not feel as if he is boxed in.
He needs to pursue at his own pace,knowing that you will not push him faster than he can handle.
It seems to be working so the proof is in the pudding

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posted December 26, 2010 01:09 PM            

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Thanks Ami hon. I will cling to you instead of him. He is too far away anyways to physically cling to him. But now he is getting an idea of what I am and I am getting a handle on him too.When I start worrying too much he tells me to go away and worry abt something else:-). That is nice since it tells me he is getting past the being polite stage and letting things be more personal.
And I am realizing that I can poke fun of him and he will not mind it. He has a sense of humor which is slow to be seen.But I am gaining the confidence that he won't shut me out if I overstep a boundary with him.He will let me know the limit but not push me away. So it is a growth pattern for both of us. 2010 has been a year of learning for us.

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posted December 27, 2010 06:43 PM            

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Hi Rajin
Any update? You are doing GREAT ,by the way.
You are on your way to earning your diploma

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posted December 27, 2010 08:50 PM            

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Hey Ami,
I had written today to ask him about his health. He was busy with the insurance people,he explained that he had to deal with 2 different companies to get his deductible and asked if it was ok with me if he could not reply back immediately.
I said sure. He wrote back to say that we should not be very formal and ask permission to text or call. He said if he could not write back immediately or till the next day it was only because he was dealing with crazy things.
No idea if I overstepped my boundary and made him retreat, but I am going to wait and see how long before he writes.

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