posted May 31, 2014 03:02 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
I don't see how AqMoon is impartial, seeing as how he is so chummy with certain members here. Just saying. Violets seems to be the most impartial if impartiality is the criteria.

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I'll support who ever you choose, but thing is some mods in here are very chummy with certain members as well. So how would this be any different? Just curious.

I mean isn't everyone biased in some way? It's a part of human nature.

posted May 31, 2014 03:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
I nominate Randall.

Then maybe He'd be here ALL the time.

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Randall?

posted May 31, 2014 03:18 PM            

I think, first and foremost, people screw up because they have big egos. We all do, I think. It is part of human nature.

It is funny that when you become a Mod, you have a "da man" target on your back. This cracks me up cuz I am SO not "da man"

However, Mods get attacked, from what I have seen, and many cannot handle that.

If they do humble themselves, they have an opportunity to learn and to grow and most especially to humble themselves

Life can be beautiful if you are humble and WILL be awful if you are not.

Hence, I think being a Mod, especially in a busy Forum, but in any Forum, really, is a wonderful opportunity.

That is my 2 cents.

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posted May 31, 2014 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Lexxigramer:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Randall:
[b]I don't see how AqMoon is impartial, seeing as how he is so chummy with certain members here. Just saying. Violets seems to be the most impartial if impartiality is the criteria.

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which includes Charmaine by the way if you did not realize it.

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posted May 31, 2014 03:23 PM            

You are soo projecting on me that it is not even funny.

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posted May 31, 2014 03:24 PM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
I'll support who ever you choose, but thing is some mods in here are very chummy with certain members as well. So how would this be any different? Just curious.

Great suggestions so far!

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PS.
Randall
Did not see your reply when I posted the above.
Well, even Charmaine took it the same way as did others.
So wonder why you do not see that point.
Oh well;
your site, your forums;
Your decisions.
Staying out of this now.

posted May 31, 2014 04:31 PM            

I think it's important to be heard and to say what needs to be said, but where can we define the line that should keep those that disagree cordial.

posted May 31, 2014 05:13 PM            

Violets, Dancing Maenad, BellaFenice, Aries23degrees and Chiemi all carry their debates here really well, especially on Sweet Peas.

He probably won't even read this, but I think Mercurian Intellect would be a good mod, too. He's very level-headed and rational, which you need with heavy subjects like these and members affected by them.

And Douxie of course, but I think she doesn't want to.

posted May 31, 2014 06:32 PM            

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Originally posted by MetalAphrodite:
Is there any way we can just halt and step back a moment here?

I think it's important to be heard and to say what needs to be said, but where can we define the line that should keep those that disagree cordial.

Can we define that line together?

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ITA. I think part of this forum issues stem from the fact there are not clear boundaries on when that line is drawn. We have had some pretty awesome moments in this forum but some down right nasty ones as well. I haven't been on this site too long, so this is just my own perception.

I think it is very easy to get caught up too when things get challenging. I know I have.

Let's continue this debate without any mudslinging.

posted May 31, 2014 07:06 PM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
Been day drinking sorry!

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I'm jealous.

Neptune hovering over my Pisces Sun (for all eternity, apparently) is like "Yeeeahh!"

posted May 31, 2014 08:23 PM            

The line is drawn at tearing the flesh of another person. This has grey, in terms of when this threshold is met, but that is the boundary when the Mod has to intervene, as I understand it.

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posted May 31, 2014 09:27 PM            

I personally draw boundaries when people are attacked (again--directly or indirectly), rather than the ideas that they're expressing.

Because swearing isn't allowed here, that generally tends to manifest in other ways of ridiculing or insulting others when in the midst of a heated debate.

Sometimes, personalities have to be taken into consideration (in my opinion), as some people are way more blunt than others, and some people are way more passive-aggressive than others (I'm speaking generally, of course, not exclusively about LL members).

People come from different backgrounds, where different types of communication take place, and blah blah blah... So.

It can be hard in here sometimes. Mainly because this forum specifically is meant to be for people to talk about really personal stuff, and that can trigger other people's personal stuff. I'm sure that's obvious.

I simply think that people should try to be respectful if they're going to disagree with someone else. Getting mad for a minute is one thing, we all do it.

Saying things that are truly low blows, personal insults, and on and on and on is really just not okay, imo.

I realize (personally) that sometimes people have reactions (sometimes for many years) that are disproportionate to the subject at hand. Been there, done that. Still occasionally do it.

My guess is that they have stuff they need to work out for themselves in those areas (we all have those things, it just depends on the issue and the person).

posted May 31, 2014 09:43 PM            

Before I became a Mod, I emailed him about at least a couple of things that I saw in here and in one of the other forums that I just really did not think was okay.

I had no affiliation with the people who I felt were being seriously insulted, and as no one would guess in a million years who those people were, I'm certainly not going to mention names (which I wouldn't do anyway, for that matter). I rarely interact with them (more so now with one of them than at the time).

Randall was supportive with my concerns, and I trust his judgement when people come to him with level headed reasoning, or even with things that are personally painful.

What I did NOT do in those instances was to demonize one person while making the other look like a hapless victim. I simply expressed my concern for the way that the communication or topic was turning.