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posted February 16, 2009 07:32 AM         

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It seemed that you were quite fond of him. In case you didn't know - Fisty has been banned from LL.
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/000851.html

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posted February 16, 2009 07:34 AM         

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generally one doesn't sweat too much in England in February. But I'm sure I can build some up in the South Sea islands for a good cause.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:35 AM         

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You mean like running a marathon or.... something like that.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:37 AM         

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It is why divorce rates are so high these days.

Seems to me that we should be talking to our grandparents more & really listening to what they tell us.

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My grandmother told me when I asked about marrying ex#2, if I should.
She said, "he may not be perfect, but does he feel like Mr.Right for right now?"
He did, so I married him.
It did not work out, and after 7 years with him, the woman I knew he had pined for, became free (her husband was leaving her).....
so I wanted to leave him, brought them together and they have been quite happily married for 11 years to date.
I personally do not see divorce as a problem in all cases. When it's time to let go or time to move on, it just is, at least for me it was, with ex#1 and ex#2. I did not expect them to change and grow just because I did.
I continued on my path and let them both be as they wanted to be at the times. Both are happily remarried. I had an ex sister-in-law find ex#1 a woman. They have been together some 19 years to date.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:40 AM         

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That's a hard one Lexx, knowing inside your heart that someone you love and are with pines for someone else. That would make my light dim inside, I think. It's beautiful that you brought them together.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:41 AM         

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Oh I won't be running anywhere, but I am up for a marathon.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:45 AM         

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ROFL bm. Now, where's AG?

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posted February 16, 2009 07:46 AM         

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Asleep?

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posted February 16, 2009 07:47 AM         

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I edited to add more to my previous post...so please re-read it.

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That's a hard one Lexx, knowing inside your heart that someone you love and are with pines for someone else. That would make my light dim inside, I think.

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I did not feel that way. His pining for her in my mind was a totally separate issue from how he felt about me. He would not have taken the leap to her if I had not freed him, albeit in his mind, I was leaving him and he mourned terribly, but with her to catch him as he felt his world falling apart, and knowing she had pined for him too.....well it accelerated the bonding between the two of them. Timing is often everything in such situations.

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It's beautiful that you brought them together.

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Thank you!

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posted February 16, 2009 07:48 AM         

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I'm going to have a rant.

I know my posts are riddled with grammatical and spelling errors, but I really hate the TXT talk in the Astro forums.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:48 AM         

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bm

Come on! Chances are that AG is working.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:52 AM         

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Your posts are fine, readable, and anyway you are too old for text speak.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:56 AM         

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ROFL about FoL - bloody hilarious that is.

And the idiot didn't even bother to hide his IP address....Loser.

He will be back, he seems to return like the undead.....Hey I just got zinged with inspiration, lol.

Fisty should now use Vlad the impaler as his new name

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posted February 16, 2009 07:56 AM         

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I personally do not see divorce as a problem in all cases.

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I can see and understand that. And maybe people just shouldn't marry. If they're marrying from the wrong reasons - like simply because they want a wedding (as does happen) then that's more about the ideal than the person or the relationship.

I understand that relationships serve a growth purpose and at times people can't grow together any further or that one has learnt what they needed from the other, etc, and that's a risk that we all run in any relationship. The reasons for divorce are endless, but the amount staggers me. I can't get past the fact that when people marry they love (or think they love) one another and that those vows are made with pure intention and yet so many fall apart. It's the amount of marriages rather than the reasons that get me.

I think it just touches home because it can be anyone - and it could be me just as easily. It makes you think that there's the possibility that what you've got is no different to anyone else and you're just as vulnerable.

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posted February 16, 2009 07:59 AM         

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I may be too old for txt speak, but I'm never too old for baby talk. How much difference is there?

Goo goo ga ga, bm. ***PA pouts - lip protrudes about 3 inches from rest of face*** Ur so cutesy-ootsy and me wanna play wif u.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:01 AM         

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spunky

I wonder if he'll be back? Yeah, funny about the IP. Just strange that is. I don't get why someone would keep re-registering like that though. That said, I do understand the addictiveness of this place.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:04 AM         

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Just clicked midnight. Time for bed (about 2 hours ago). Feeling really tired now that my brain is getting a constant daily workout. Tomorrow (or as it really is, today) is hands on. Going to be pulling machines apart, etc. We'll see how that goes.

Good day/night everyone. Thanks for the chat - as always.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:05 AM         

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Good one PA.

I, personally believe that if I am going to marry well I'm only doing it once!!!

Those vows mean something to me & I don't break my promises.....perhaps I could just change my vows to something a little more "me"

I "spanky" take you Gerry to be my awful wedded husband to have as many times I like but not when you want it.

I promise to love, honour & obey myself while you raise the kids wash the clothes & provide me with any trinket that takes my fancy.

Till death do us part......ie; Your death at anytime of the premenstrual month that I decide to stab you in the jugular because I cannot take one more second of listening to you breathe when you eat cereal.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:07 AM         

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I want to come to the Motor Registry with you when you tell them that you're new name is Spanky Butler (and see their faces as you tell them) and also when you take your photo for your new drivers licence.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:08 AM         

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So I take it that will be your new username? SpankyButler.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:08 AM         

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Good night, girls.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:09 AM         

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Cool Beans PA

I am going to wear my catwoman suit too!!!

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posted February 16, 2009 08:11 AM         

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Goodnight PA

I hope you aren't like me when it comes to machines....I can pull them apart no probs but there always seems to be leftovers when it goes back together.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:13 AM         

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And maybe people just shouldn't marry. If they're marrying from the wrong reasons - like simply because they want a wedding (as does happen) then that's more about the ideal than the person or the relationship.

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I have never been one for the paper proving a relationship, ie; a marriage certificate, being required to have a relationship.
However, it is a logical move because it affects insurance, and rights of visitation/notification in serious things....
like if not married, and you end up in a hospital, under certain laws, your partner will not be able to get any information on your condition, nor many other things.
And in my case with ex#2, I having a son by ex#1, had to have the marriage certificate for the relationship with ex#2, or automatically lose custody of my son at that time.
So reasons for marriage can beyond the love, be subject to logic calls that involve legalities.

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posted February 16, 2009 08:27 AM         

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spunknini
Love your tailored to suit you vows!
I do hope the following does happen for you!

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I, personally believe that if I am going to marry well I'm only doing it once!!!

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Vows mean something to me too. And I did change them from standard for ex#1.
And when the mayor refused to sign the certificate without the standard "to death do you part" ceremony, well, I simply set it in my mind (and ex#2 agreed with me on it) that the death bit did not mean physical death but "death of the relationship".
Similar ideas were inserted in/or replaced that standard when I married ex#1 also.
So yeah, I can relate to what you wrote.

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Those vows mean something to me & I don't break my promises.....perhaps I could just change my vows to something a little more "me"

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My current husband and I did not do the standard vows in any way, shape, or form. Not even close to standard.

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