posted January 03, 2022 09:33 PM            

I quit my job today. Boss was super supportive. Agreed that I should be with my husband more. She told me how she traveled the country before having kids and how she's never regretted it to this day.

posted January 04, 2022 04:29 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
whooop whoooop Romance in the air.

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Oh yes. Lol

I have never collided with a Sco❤.He is a bit of a handful.We do have a lot of arguments as he moves at lightning speed & though I appreciate the candour.He can be super intense.

He wants things to happen NOW NOW NOW. And if I say "slow down", he retreats, gets defensive & threatens to end things

Daily I have to watch my tongue i.e. that I don't say something that will offend him or be misconstrued in a manner that I didn't intend. Because he has to agree with everything i say.

We met on the 20th of Dec(just before my B-day) and things moved quickly(as stated on the previous post). He keeps on saying "Love of my life"(referring to me) and I am like "lets take time".😶

When he said "I love you". I said "I love you" back(the real meaning of that being "I really like you"). Honestly, I felt obliged and I do like him. But i felt it too early for "Love".🤷🏿‍♂️

But now he is talking of marriage and kids. Saying stuff like "I dont want to waste more time with some1 whom doesn't know where their life is going". Its barely been 2 weeks of us swinging 🙆🏿‍♂️

He has a conj from Plu to his Sun/Merc, Plu square to his Moon in Aqua & Ari Jup/ Mars Lib opp with Aries North node. Such strong Mars/Pluto energy does mean a very "all or nothing " approach to things. So i guess I should have expected that.

He just "dumped" me again today. This is for the 3rd time since we met. When we disagree, he decides to do the extreme and break ties.

I see that this time(today) trans Moon is square his natal Sun.And trans Sun in Cap is square his Mars in Lib.

Trans Sun is opp my Moon/square Mars and conj Merc today. Trans Ven retro is squaring my natal Mars/opp Moon and conj Mer. Trans Mars is opp my North node.

There were many things said on his part. I felt like the guy on the "Irreplaceable" Beyonce video. He kept telling me that he can find someone else as early as this afternoon. That I was "dispensable" etc.😝

I told him "I like you a lot. Good luck with that. Meanwhile, I will thaw from those icy words of yours and life will go on.He is a little melodramatic. And i have learned not to take him seriously (Leo is Ascending in his case).

But honestly speaking, I dont think we will last as a relationship. He is too emotionally unstable.And I can't always play the "calm, rational" one.

I also want to just relax and enjoy the coupling instead of always dealing with someone whom thinks they have to keep making small fires all the time to keep us warm.Just because they fear revealing how scared ans vulnerable they feel when they choose to just let go and let things happen(without controlling the outcome)

posted January 04, 2022 02:29 PM            

I see now that yesterday Tr MOON in aquarius was sextile my chart ruler JUPITER conjunct URANUS in the 12th exact (5 degrees) while transit JUPITER was entering my 3rd house and starting to square my chart ruler widely. Tr MOON was also Trine my CHIRON and then it sextiled tr chiron in aries.

Mmmmmmmm...perhaps tr moon trine my chiron and then sextile tr chiron on my IC were the culprits.

I was having a case of the fuc* its but today I feel great, calm and grounded. I need to make sure I don't work too much and I need to slow down, glad the holidays are over.

posted January 04, 2022 02:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Oh yes. Lol

I have never collided with a Sco❤.He is a bit of a handful.We do have a lot of arguments as he moves at lightning speed & though I appreciate the candour.He can be super intense.

He wants things to happen NOW NOW NOW. And if I say "slow down", he retreats, gets defensive & threatens to end things

Daily I have to watch my tongue i.e. that I don't say something that will offend him or be misconstrued in a manner that I didn't intend. Because he has to agree with everything i say.

We met on the 20th of Dec(just before my B-day) and things moved quickly(as stated on the previous post). He keeps on saying "Love of my life"(referring to me) and I am like "lets take time".😶

When he said "I love you". I said "I love you" back(the real meaning of that being "I really like you"). Honestly, I felt obliged and I do like him. But i felt it too early for "Love".🤷🏿‍♂️

But now he is talking of marriage and kids. Saying stuff like "I dont want to waste more time with some1 whom doesn't know where their life is going". Its barely been 2 weeks of us swinging 🙆🏿‍♂️

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Thanks for sharing, I am laughing my ass off reading this hahahahaha.

I also thought of your venus in scorpio conjunct saturn, you really are the type to take things slow and he is to be fair going super fast LOL and yes typical scorpio style wanting to plunge in and go all in, they can be very fast and the furious when it comes to love, it becomes a matter of life or death for them, is like "I found you and don't want to lose you so lets lock this in now before you slip out of my fingers."

posted January 04, 2022 04:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

He just "dumped" me again today. This is for the 3rd time since we met. When we disagree, he decides to do the extreme and break ties.

I see that this time(today) trans Moon is square his natal Sun.And trans Sun in Cap is square his Mars in Lib.

Trans Sun is opp my Moon/square Mars and conj Merc today. Trans Ven retro is squaring my natal Mars/opp Moon and conj Mer. Trans Mars is opp my North node.

There were many things said on his part. I felt like the guy on the "Irreplaceable" Beyonce video. He kept telling me that he can find someone else as early as this afternoon. That I was "dispensable" etc.😝

I told him "I like you a lot. Good luck with that. Meanwhile, I will thaw from those icy words of yours and life will go on.He is a little melodramatic. And i have learned not to take him seriously (Leo is Ascending in his case).

But honestly speaking, I dont think we will last as a relationship. He is too emotionally unstable.And I can't always play the "calm, rational" one.

I also want to just relax and enjoy the coupling instead of always dealing with someone whom thinks they have to keep making small fires all the time to keep us warm.Just because they fear revealing how scared ans vulnerable they feel when they choose to just let go and let things happen(without controlling the outcome)

I will wait for his move. 🙏🏿

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Love how you are handling all this and coping with it, I love your wisdom here and calm and collected nature dealing with this. I agree is not fair for you to always be the calm and collected one, it does get old after a while and I respect were you are coming from with that, it seems you are a lot more mature than him and he has more maturing to do before he is truly ready to be in a committed relationship.

Also he may have a pre-occupied anxious attachment style and I have no clue but he may potentially have boderline personality disorder.

posted January 04, 2022 07:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
Tr. stellium 3rd. Many things try to stir up my anxiety, but I don’t care much. I got a link to death predictions in astrology from somebody’s sitting in my 12th. She tried to stir up my issues before so I developed some immunity. I knew some icky predictions were coming. That person practices very questionable astrology and predictions for my taste. “You know somebody with your rising sign died. And his Venus at fall also…”
I answered till K. is alive I don’t worry. Because K. has similar placements. The self-proclaimed psychic has bunch of Neptune, hard Saturn and Pluto. I want ask Lord Pluto to ban her from practice astrology and considering herself someone who can see future. I kept silence when she gave predictions based on 2 placements before claiming herself professional. When I start to get death wishes and other crappy predictions for myself, that’s where I draw the line.
I already try not to discuss too personal stuff, and they still find ways to get me into more negativity.

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posted January 04, 2022 08:26 PM            

I'm psychic to an extent, and I can tell you that if she needed two placements, that so many people have ofcourse, of another person to validate a prediction of your death, then that is pure 💩.
So she was predicting two deaths...unbeleavable.

Never heard such crap before.
And Hypathia is right about the way it should not be presented anyway...

Also if I just look at you very vaguely, to your direction
(which is all I do without asking somebody, then I cannot see you but just if the area around you is light or dark),
I can tell you there is only light.
That would be different if there were some serious dangers.

posted January 05, 2022 12:12 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Ummmmmmmmmm WTF, block that astrologer out of your life, nobody can predict death. At the very least you should not predict that for people unless they specifically request it and even then the way you present that information has to be super mindful, using language like there are multiple windows in one's life were the potential is there but it just means that the chances are higher and ultimately we do don't know when it will happen type of wording.

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posted January 05, 2022 12:34 AM            

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Originally posted by HeavenlyLove:
I was looking for a certain post, but I clicked on the wrong thread, but maybe it was meant to be...

I'm psychic to an extent, and I can tell you that if she needed two placements, that so many people have ofcourse, of another person to validate a prediction of your death, then that is pure 💩.
So she was predicting two deaths...unbeleavable.

Never heard such crap before.
And Hypathia is right about the way it should not be presented anyway...

Also if I just look at you very vaguely, to your direction
(which is all I do without asking somebody, then I cannot see you but just if the area around you is light or dark),
I can tell you there is only light.
That would be different if there were some serious dangers.

I saw this without trying, just happend that my inner eyes turned to that direction, so I thought it might be meant to be that I saw it and tell you...
Hope I didn't cross your borders (my English is not perfect).

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posted January 05, 2022 12:52 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Thanks for sharing, I am laughing my ass off reading this hahahahaha.

I also thought of your venus in scorpio conjunct saturn, you really are the type to take things slow and he is to be fair going super fast LOL and yes typical scorpio style wanting to plunge in and go all in, they can be very fast and the furious when it comes to love, it becomes a matter of life or death for them, is like "I found you and don't want to lose you so lets lock this in now before you slip out of my fingers."

By contrast your venus conjunct saturn is like "no lets take our time and make sure we truly are a good fit and this is the right choice."

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Yes. My Moon square Mars craves intense emotional stimulation. A little bit of drama turns me on. But my Ven-Sat conj wasn't about to be whisked off to the sunset just yet. It needed a certain level of sobriety to the pairing. It could not be constant bickering all the time.

posted January 05, 2022 01:13 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Love how you are handling all this and coping with it, I love your wisdom here and calm and collected nature dealing with this. I agree is not fair for you to always be the calm and collected one, it does get old after a while and I respect were you are coming from with that, it seems you are a lot more mature than him and he has more maturing to do before he is truly ready to be in a committed relationship.

Also he may have a pre-occupied anxious attachment style and I have no clue but he may potentially have boderline personality disorder.

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There are a few things about his past that inform the man that he is today. I think its mostly unconscious for him. But it does lend to his style of relating.

He grew up in a very violent household. His Father used to beat up on his Mom in front on him. And on occasion,he was also involved in the altercations(trying to defend his mother).

This built a sort of self-protective rage(I think).He is so easily triggered, always looking to be upset about something or read the negative connotations of what is being said etc.

posted January 05, 2022 01:35 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Yes. My Moon square Mars craves intense emotional stimulation. A little bit of drama turns me on. But my Ven-Sat conj wasn't about to be whisked off to the sunset just yet. It needed a certain level of sobriety to the pairing. It could not be constant bickering all the time.

Sorry for the long rant. I think.I may have just needed to vent.😉

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posted January 05, 2022 01:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
He grew up

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I totally get it if you stay with him too, either way I understand really.

I get why people walk away and I get why people stick around even when a part of them doesn't want to. I don't judge, am in no position to.

posted January 05, 2022 09:26 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
There are a few things about his past that inform the man that he is today. I think its mostly unconscious for him. But it does lend to his style of relating.

He grew up in a very violent household. His Father used to beat up on his Mom in front on him. And on occasion,he was also involved in the altercations(trying to defend his mother).

This built a sort of self-protective rage(I think).He is so easily triggered, always looking to be upset about something or read the negative connotations of what is being said etc.

So the defenses are really a self-protective measure. He is a person who has been alone for such a long time, that he doesn't know how to incorporate others into his life without being pedantic about the process of integration.

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For some reason this response did not show up last night but I am seeing it tonight.

You clearly care about him, it moved me to read this response. I understand of-course.

I have this theory that even if you start with a secure attachment style it gets disrupted at some point and then turns into an insecure attachment style and then you have to do the work to get back to a secure attachment style which is quite a journey of working through your trauma and triggers.

I think everyone has trauma and triggers, is just some people have more resources than others and this makes a difference on the healing journey, allowing for healing to happen faster but regardless healing is like an onion, a multi-layered process that happens in phases.

For example, if you have a lot of creative talent and high intelligence with a few solid relational resources this will help you work through the trauma or function despite of it pretty well even if you still have healing left to do. If you don't have a strong support system, high intelligence or creative talent the trauma may affect you more and it will be harder for you to work through it, you may turn to drugs to cope. I mean this is not a super sophisticated example and I came up with it out of thin air but my point is that internal and external resources make a big difference in coping and working through trauma.

posted January 06, 2022 03:24 AM            

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Originally posted by teasel:
The Taurus could be the same way. I haven’t spoken to him for months. Too many extremes.

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posted January 06, 2022 03:44 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
For some reason this response did not show up last night but I am seeing it tonight.

You clearly care about him, it moved me to read this response. I understand of-course.

I have this theory that even if you start with a secure attachment style it gets disrupted at some point and then turns into an insecure attachment style and then you have to do the work to get back to a secure attachment style which is quite a journey of working through your trauma and triggers.

I think everyone has trauma and triggers, is just some people have more resources than others and this makes a difference on the healing journey, allowing for healing to happen faster but regardless healing is like an onion, a multi-layered process that happens in phases.

For example, if you have a lot of creative talent and high intelligence with a few solid relational resources this will help you work through the trauma or function despite of it pretty well even if you still have healing left to do. If you don't have a strong support system, high intelligence or creative talent the trauma may affect you more and it will be harder for you to work through it, you may turn to drugs to cope. I mean this is not a super sophisticated example and I came up with it out of thin air but my point is that internal and external resources make a big difference in coping and working through trauma.

You have VENUS in scorpio conjunct Saturn, with that combo I would not be surprised if you have a fearful avoidant attachment style, you crave intimacy and connection but also fear it so you have walls up but the walls are not at the very front, they are a little further down bc you do want to connect and let people in but NOT all the way, that is how I see fearful avoidant attachment style.

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Absolutely, that is so true. This especially your insight of the Venus conj Sat interplay.

I hope to let go of the need to "control". This over time. I realize that I did this with my long term friend(16 years).

It was a gradual process. But it felt inevitable. There is no fear in that connection anymore. Even if there is "hurt".

So I sense that I can do this in closer intimate relationships. But I just need time to unfold. Maybe not 16 years . But I don't think 1 week will do the trick either.

We had a breakdown and thereafter a breakthrough yesterday on the phone. We revealed shared fears and I suspect this is why I attracted him.

I needed to have someone mirror me so that I can see how challeging I am to love(in as far as others are concerned whom have been trying to break into me)

So the process of our reunion was to soothe ourselves into a new understanding that this pairing may/may not work out. But it isn't superfical. So its lack of longevity is not a reflection of its inherent relevance contextually in this moment RIGHT NOW on our lives.

Composite chart shows Moon/Pluto opp tight. So there is emotional high-lows to be felt on both ends.

I think that we both like a little crisis and "emotional drama". Soon after we had our "reunion", I recall being aroused(sexually) by the prospect of us consumating those feelings phsyically. And he was too.

There is somethimg aabout Sco energy and crisis; either summoning a situtation (unconsciously or not) where the end result will afford them the adrenaline rush that is similar to that of them being in a crisis.

Or being attracted to a situation that is blood pumping and has "crisis" at its centre. Kinda like a firefighter running into a brurning building to rescue a family etc.

I am not a Sco. But I sometimes wonder if Mars/Pluto being in my angular house(7th) with Sat/Ura and Ven in the 8th house, encourages similar spirit?

A part of me wants to love myself through him. I dont'know if I can "rescue" him per se. Nor do I want to tbh. I think he should do that for himself and I recommended he goes to therapy

But there is something about him that sheds a light on my own issues.Something that I thought that I had forgotten but suddenly now viscerally remember each time I talk to him. And that is; time does not heal pain. It only conditions one to think that pain is part & parcel of whom they are.

posted January 06, 2022 06:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Composite chart shows Moon/Pluto opp tight. So there is emotional high-lows to be felt on both ends.

I think that we both like a little crisis and "emotional drama". Soon after we had our "reunion", I recall being aroused(sexually) by the prospect of us consumating those feelings phsyically. And he was too.

There is somethimg aabout Sco energy and crisis; either summoning a situtation (unconsciously or not) where the end result will afford them the adrenaline rush that is similar to that of them being in a crisis.

Or being attracted to a situation that is blood pumping and has "crisis" at its centre. Kinda like a firefighter running into a burning building to rescue a family etc.

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Great insight and description of Scorpio/pluto fueled connections/attractions!
Thanks for sharing, enjoyed reading it and I agree whole heatedly.

"I am not a Sco. But I sometimes wonder if Mars/Pluto being in my angular house(7th) with Sat/Ura and Ven in the 8th house, encourages similar spirit?"

For sure! with mars conjunct pluto in an angular and venus in scorpio in the 8th despite it being conjunct saturn I can see that yes.

Glad you guys are working through it! and taking things day by day too, while enjoying the drama hahahah.

MOON/PLUTO in composite is intense, addicting and obsessive but also yes you like each other so much but it will bring to the surface everything you both need to work on individually and all your triggers.

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

And that is not true. We are love: receptive,vulnerable,innocent and gentle.I know this each time I see a newborn.This is from a basic fundamental perspective. The rest is just defenses that are learned through the years due to cirumstances or environments that we took too "personally" up to the point where we started to believe that those experiences "made" us who we now ARE.🙏🏿

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posted January 07, 2022 01:00 AM            

Tr.Mercury sq. I got an answer for a message from a week ago. It had an apology for not answering, but still no answer for my question. I didn’t get what was the point of it at all.
I cannot do laundry because all the machines to fill Laundry cart are broken for several days, and we cannot get anybody to fix it. I need to wash my coat ASAP.
Aqua Mercury couldn’t make deal with gadgets for a week. Today, it turned out his phone contacts disappeared.
Also, I acknowledged I was buying too much stuff recently. I need to slow down.
Even the cat got affected. He decided to run outside when it was10F. It seemed like his paws got cold in couple feet and he wanted to climb a tree. Thanks, his brain started to work and he turned back. I wouldn’t be able to climb tree after him in that weather. And from the experience, he knows how to climb only in one direction, up.