posted January 30, 2022 01:02 PM            

I added hot air balloon date to my date files in my phone notes.

I've done painting with a twist a few times!

posted January 30, 2022 03:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Loving the inspiration on here!

I added hot air balloon date to my date files in my phone notes.

I've done painting with a twist a few times!

Wine and painting sounds very 5th house in Taurus indeed! I am loving those midnight colors with the pops of neon!

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posted January 31, 2022 01:32 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Glad to hear it, it is a lovely date idea indeed or birthday idea, or anniversary idea.

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posted January 31, 2022 08:36 PM            

Also now that I have been staying at the condo more. I have been seeing stink bugs! One flew in the bathroom in quarantine.

And last night out of nowhere, I thought my condo smelled like sh1+! I was trying to figure out why! Did a neighbor take a dump so bad that I could smell it from my condo????

Well later today I see a dead one on my bathroom floor. That had to be it! I guess they can let it out before they die.

I was almost hit by a car 3 times today. The third time I honked. It was always a white car too for some reason. Cars thinking they can just turn at the intersection when I have the right away.

Oh I also got the day off work for having no heat in the building.

posted February 02, 2022 12:19 AM            

Today I have been in a good mood, its like new air is underneath my wings and has entered my lungs, all of a sudden out of nowhere I felt this unconditional love for my husband, all that pain, anger, doubt faded away and was replaced by love, faith, clarity and patience, renewal. Hope this lasts.

Love is Light.

You know come to think of it I don’t think Venus in capricorn has been good, since Venus entered Capricorn I have felt insecure and I have focused on the negative when it comes to my relationship, It has filled me with doubt, I could see how people with venus in capricorn struggle with commitment and feeling secure and prone to feeling jaded and distrustful of marriage, making them unable to move forward and take the plunge Because they see everything that is wrong or that can go wrong. I thought this was the result of uranus in the 5th square Saturn But that transit has been going on for a super long time on and off and its only in the last few months that I’ve noticed this internal shift happening which concide with venus in capricorn more.

Uranus in the 5th has made me more detached about romantic love but in a good and liberating way that is helpful, venus in capricorn on the other hand has felt negative throwing me into darkness and confusion and it took transit Jupiter conjunct my Amor to snap me out of that. I see now why venus is exalted in pisces, its hope/faith, love and patience that help you approach relationships in the right frame of mind, venus in cappy is doom and gloom and insecurities taking over which set up relationships for failure.

Nov 5th 2021 venus entered capricorn

Since November this shift happened, honestly I don’t want venus in cappy to ever go retro as it extends this experience.

posted February 02, 2022 03:42 AM            

I want to conduct an independent research study in collaboration with others focused on happy marriages, above average happy marriages. This might be my next adventure careerwise, and then after I can write a book on the findings. I am sure this has been researched many times but at the end of the day I think there’s so much research out there that has inherit biases in them, and I want to research it for myself and pick up on things maybe others have missed and just see for myself, Explore and come up with my own conclusions.

NATAL mercury in virgo RX ruling my north node and DC in the 9th house. Mercury in virgo RX squaring my nodes in the 12th and 6th and opposing my moon in Pisces. I want to separate reality from fantasy and get to the core and bottom of this with complete objectivity. Mercury novile and parallel pluto.

I know the ingredients that are needed, two people with a secure attachment style Who have worked through their trauma and have a growth mindset and care about personal growth, who have good communication skills and are able to emotionally regulate and handle stress and talk about anything without being reactive and who can be respectful and kind to each other consistently because they have a secure attachment style because they’re able to emotionally regulate because they have good communication skills, a couple that is responsive to each others needs and attuned to each other’s needs, accessible and present. A couple who are attracted to each other.

I completely understand all that but I want to meet 100 couples that fit this criteria And study their personalities, their backgrounds, their relationship and anything Else That may or may not seem relevant, Add a brain scan to the mix. An in-depth qualitative research study also exploratory nature.

I could see myself traveling abroad to different countries to interview these couples.

posted February 02, 2022 04:05 AM            

KEYNOTE: The capacity to utterly transform the character of one's consciousness by radically altering the structural patterns of everyday living and the types of relationships one enters upon.

This is the second time within a very short span of the cycle that the butterfly symbol appears (cf. Aquarius 25°). Here what is emphasized is the process of metamorphosis itself. It is the fourth symbol of a five-fold sequence and it stresses the essential character of the activity required at this stage of the cycle; i.e. nothing short of a complete renewal of all the implications of being alive as a human individual will do. A radical change is needed. At this stage, this change is individual and mental, and it should be seen against the background of humanity as a whole. What is revealed is the potential ability of every human being to participate in a higher realm of evolution AFTER his or her emergence from a critical state of transition.

At this fourth stage of the sixty-fifth subcycle the Keyword is METAMORPHOSIS. In spiritual terms, this implies "Initiation," i.e. entering a higher realm of conscious existence and there joining a sacred Company.

It’s interesting that during this degree this past hour or so what has been on my mind is the idea that we need to nourish our relationship with God and let him/her Nourish our spirit and our hearts, develop our intimacy with god, I thought to myself two individuals who have a spiritual side are more likely to be receptive to intimacy and attuned to other people’s needs, more responsive. And then I questioned the validity of that and then I thought I want to research happy marriages, curious about what I’m going to find out without preconceived notions.

posted February 02, 2022 08:41 AM            

The last guy I had a fling with was Venus Capricorn. He did not believe in labels. 🙄 I also read that you know a Venus Capricorn actually loves you if the let you come to their work.
Well this Cappy guy I was with he didn’t want to go to the marine core ball when we were together. Also when I visited him we ran into someone he worked with at Chipotle. He didn’t introduce me. Then later he said he didn’t introduce me because he didn’t want to hold up the line.
The signs were there that it wasn’t love.

Another one I know is a lady who would date older guys. A toxic father. 4 kids from 3 different dads. I’m excited for her summer wedding. (Second time getting married)

My sister in law. *Shudders*

I like having my Venus in Pisces, but it is in the 10th house. I have found older guys attractive since I knew boy bands existed. My husband is actually younger than me though. My husband is a very stable overall and has a talent for saving money. I never dated him for money. He was making 11 an hour when I met him. But I was impressed with his frugality. (He has Venus Virgo)

posted February 02, 2022 05:46 PM            

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Tr Moon in Aquarius at 28°18
Aquarius at 29° Sabian symbol
A butterfly emerging from a chrysalis

I want to conduct an independent research study in collaboration with others focused on happy marriages, above average happy marriages. This might be my next adventure careerwise, and then after I can write a book on the findings. I am sure this has been researched many times but at the end of the day I think there’s so much research out there that has inherit biases in them, and I want to research it for myself and pick up on things maybe others have missed and just see for myself, Explore and come up with my own conclusions.

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«All happy families are alike, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way» That’s how “Anna Karenina”
(Tolstoy's book) begins.
I just recalled that quote once I saw your post.

posted February 02, 2022 10:25 PM            

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It would be interesting to see if many people define the happy marriage in a similar way.

«All happy families are alike, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way» That’s how “Anna Karenina”
(Tolstoy's book) begins.
I just recalled that quote once I saw your post.

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For me a happy marriage is a marriage were both people feel seeing and heard by their partner, supported, were there is quality interpersonal experiences and real intimacy, were both parties are making an effort to be present and responsive to each other's needs and committed to growing individually and as a couple.

^^my parents overall have a happy marriage actually if I read my own definition but I feel they don't have the sexual intimacy part down, I think my mother when it comes to the sexual dimension of her life has a dismissive attachment style, something about intimacy scares her, feels too intense for her and in some level I feel she doesn't think is important; she has mars in aquarius opposite pluto, she rejects the pluto side of life, doesn't like to watch PG13 movies and up, she was sheltered and went to a nun school her whole life and after continued to shelter herself if that makes sense, she internalized it you can say. I think she throws herself at work and religion and has a preoccupied anxious attachment style with religion and work but with sex I feel she has a dismissive attachment style. Therefore I don't think they have the whole package of what a marriage should be, neither do I, maybe this is an ideal and not reality, I feel often people that do find someone they can do this with the relationship doesn't make it for over a year.

I just read it takes about 2 years to develop a secure attachment style with a new partner. Interesting enough I have also read the honeymoon phase of a relationship lasts anywhere between 6 months to 2 years so this means when the honeymoon phase ends you start to feel comfortable and "secure" with each other but also the excitement starts to fade. Then I have noticed from personal observation over and over again that around 4 years into the relationship the connection gets tested, people start to feel restless and bored and start to wonder if they want to stay in the relationship and so many couples break up around 4 to 5 years in (during this delicate time).

So we are receiving all these messages that this is what a healthy relationship is and should be like (what I described earlier) but it seems its hard to come across a connection were all this is met PERIOD, were each single thing is there and if you do find it then comes the next question: can you SUSTAIN it beyond 4 years?

I also acknowledge I am a counselor so everything that I am exposed to is relationship issues or people dealing with break ups or people frustrated with the dating culture etc...There is one male client I have currently in the 7-8 years I have been practicing that I can honestly say I think is legitimately in the kind of relationship I am describing and they have been together for about 8 years now, he is an Aries and she is a Virgo.

I have another male client who is engaged to a therapist and I can tell they have a very healthy relationship but I feel something is missing, I can sense it, similar to my parents who have a great marriage but yet there are cracks and those cracks do matter bc a need is being sacrificed and not met.

I just feel a lot of people get married but as time passes the quality of the relational experience of being together goes down more and more and its that bond that was already made and the structure of the marriage that keeps them together, the security that comes from the structure of the marriage (as opposed to the security that comes from quality relational experiences). TBF if you look at maslow's hierarchy of needs it makes sense that so many marriages last based on the security you feel from the structural aspect of a marital relationship and the whole "I am not alone" but if the quality of relational experience goes down low enough you will feel alone in the marriage and then the structure part of it will start to crumble perhaps.

I just want to see if once VENUS enters aquarius and saturn separates fully from uranus if I will come off a little less jaded LOL but I also recognize I am making a ton of valid points, its also all this attachment research I am doing taking my perspectives on relationships to another level.

posted February 02, 2022 10:54 PM            

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Good thoughts on Venus Capricorn Hypatia. I’m starting to see that I am glad I don’t have my Venus here.

The last guy I had a fling with was Venus Capricorn. He did not believe in labels. 🙄 I also read that you know a Venus Capricorn actually loves you if the let you come to their work.
Well this Cappy guy I was with he didn’t want to go to the marine core ball when we were together. Also when I visited him we ran into someone he worked with at Chipotle. He didn’t introduce me. Then later he said he didn’t introduce me because he didn’t want to hold up the line.
The signs were there that it wasn’t love.

Another one I know is a lady who would date older guys. A toxic father. 4 kids from 3 different dads. I’m excited for her summer wedding. (Second time getting married)

My sister in law. *Shudders*

I like having my Venus in Pisces, but it is in the 10th house. I have found older guys attractive since I knew boy bands existed. My husband is actually younger than me though. My husband is a very stable overall and has a talent for saving money. I never dated him for money. He was making 11 an hour when I met him. But I was impressed with his frugality. (He has Venus Virgo)

Yes I have been very brutal and blunt with my husband. But we have made so much progress during this time. Oh my gosh but when Venus conjuncts my natal Capricorn Saturn….I am so happy I do not have this nataly! I cannot stand my husband at all when I have this transit. Plus Pluto and Venus on my Saturn really packs a punch.

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Really great insights, thanks for sharing, super interesting your experience with a male with venus in capricorn.

posted February 02, 2022 10:56 PM            

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I am frighteningly out of shape. Oh my god. I’m going to cry in a corner now. But I did *something*.

Mars square Jupiter and Pluto.

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posted February 04, 2022 01:56 PM            

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I am on the cusp of painting my house. Its been long overdue . It is time for a change.

I have been thinking of doing this ever since Uranus started in Tau. And perhaps this goes hand in hand with Tau being associated with land and buildings?

So since it is a property /something very valuable to me(Tau),the change of the external anď the internal reflects the energy of Uranus ?❤

The issue is that I don't yet have the wherewithal I feel I should to just "get on with it" and get it done. And so I am waiting for Universal timing. I will feel it when I can go for it.

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I was involved in a car accident today. All is well. I came out with minor wounds.❤❤❤❤❤❤

I think its what i needed to shake me out of this funk i have been in. I wanted the universe to reinvigorate me to do stuff and get going.It has. Well. ..in its own way.

Trans Mars is parallel the Sun.Moon has just entered Ari for the weekend. Always a good time to start something new or be inspired to something new.

posted February 04, 2022 02:35 PM            

It’s a complicated question. I don’t really believe their is a straight answer to it. Last years, I’ve been often forced to review my relationship approach and needs

I’m thinking it consists of things at different levels like material, psychological, physical and something on chemical/ energy level.
It should be mental and energy match together.
During Neptune transits. I started to see feelings and energy chemistry don’t work if you don’t have mental, psychological connection.

Like you said, feelings are changing. I think that energy level connection cannot be worked out most likely. If it’s changed, we can just wait and see what it could become.

Also, I believe if you’re unhappy with yourself. You might not be able to be happy with somebody else.
My parents are pretty intense. It might look toxic at times, but I think not many other people would be able to handle them. I don’t believe they could be in calm happy relationships because of who they are.
Long time ago, my friend said that your parents were so in love, you mom looked at your dad like she wanted to kill him. She wasn’t kidding. She was impressed with their intensity. Well, her perception of relationships were not healthy and toxic also. But I started to think, maybe, they do love each other. And their love is just like that.
I think their focus on the goals saved their marriage from becoming dysfunctional.

I couldn’t wait for 2 years to get comfortable. I needed to be able to feel comfortable, secure (maybe, not completely). I used to be easily excited. Not all the time. Love could be like a drug for me with bad side effects. So I was looking for the comfort in relationships. But I didn’t think I needed that security for the reasons as other people needed. I think It is more because my own imbalance. Like I needed him to be ok with me when I was sick, and tired, and done with this world. And I might be not the same as I was yesterday.
I need a space also.

Nowadays, I don’t know anymore. Like one blogger said there’re firework and fireplace relationships. The first one gives you all that excitement, but usually lasts as long as firework. It burns out rather quickly. When you’re too long by fireplace, you start to get bored. 🤷‍♀️
I also think my Neptune transit make me just want something I cannot have.

There’s that book I wanted to read. “Love lasts 3 years”
http://www.seductionbykamal.com/en/love-lasts-three-years/
Here is an article about it.
“So, 3 years of love and then, the secret is to let go of dependency in order to give room to happiness in a relationship. This is the most important thing: that a man and a woman feel good together. This feeling can grow and be sustained in different ways: sharing things and doing activities together, talking to each other, laughing like kids, etc. You have to focus on the essential and have common values that will allow you to remain solid and on the same wavelength.”

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I was involved in a car accident today. All is well. I came out with minor wounds.❤❤❤❤❤❤

I think its what i needed to shake me out of this funk i have been in. I wanted the universe to reinvigorate me to do stuff and get going.It has. Well. ..in its own way.

Trans Mars is parallel the Sun.Moon has just entered Ari for the weekend. Always a good time to start something new or be inspired to something new.

Trans Venus & Mars are also conj in Cap. I am curious of what energy this will add.🤔

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Glad you are okay!

posted February 04, 2022 11:17 PM            

Tr PLUTO conjunct 2nd House cusp.
Tr Jupiter in the 3rd house.
Tr MOON in aries
Long transit involving Venus in Cappy?

I think tr pluto in the 2nd is indeed going to be quite transformational for me as a woman.

I feel very feminist lately. Like I am starting to really understand the left and their message about certain aspects of feminism. Also my perspective on polyamory and monogamy is changing, like I realize I am not interested in polyamory, I think I used to be into it bc my needs were not being met fully in my relationship and bc I was a love addict and bc I had a preoccupied anxious attachment style. I now feel that I have a secured attachment style and am no longer a love addict so the interest for that lifestyle is gone. I understand this lifestyle is the right lifestyle for some but I feel for most it will be more like a phase than a permanent lifestyle change and I respect people that are exploring this and trying to do it ethically and with an attachment theory lenses like what is suggested in the book polysecure but I no longer find it appealing.

Values clarification?

Tr Jupiter in the 3rd.
Tr Pluto in the 2nd
Tr PLUTO in the 2nd sextile 3rd house Ruler.
Is Northnode in Taurus feminist?

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Nowadays, I don’t know anymore. Like one blogger said there’re firework and fireplace relationships. The first one gives you all that excitement, but usually lasts as long as firework. It burns out rather quickly. When you’re too long by fireplace, you start to get bored. 🤷‍♀️
I also think my Neptune transit make me just want something I cannot have.

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Love this metaphor!
My husband is the fireplace and my ex was like the fireworks.

I did feel secure with him from the start, definitely felt very comfortable with him but I think it does take about two years to feel fully secure in the relationship bc you need time to pass and to see the person is sticking it out with you so even if you feel secure/comfortable I can see why it takes about two years to feel fully secure in a new relationship and to build up that secure attachment with each other.

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There’s that book I wanted to read. “Love lasts 3 years”
http://www.seductionbykamal.com/en/love-lasts-three-years/
Here is an article about it.
“So, 3 years of love and then, the secret is to let go of dependency in order to give room to happiness in a relationship. This is the most important thing: that a man and a woman feel good together. This feeling can grow and be sustained in different ways: sharing things and doing activities together, talking to each other, laughing like kids, etc. You have to focus on the essential and have common values that will allow you to remain solid and on the same wavelength.”

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posted February 05, 2022 01:55 AM            

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Glad you are okay!

Yes the universe sometimes has a way of pushing you to get going. Blessings, may this be a productive weekend for you.

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Thank you. They began the work when Moon in Ari 8 deg was squaring Ven in Cap 8 deg.

Mars in cardinal signs seems to consistently be an active transit for me.

posted February 05, 2022 11:21 AM            

But what really caused trouble is tr. Mars on MC. That’s what killed my favorite car and made more troubles. But It didn't look that serious so it didn’t expect it all that serious consequences.
However, it might be the first time when I saw my bosses lack of understanding, and collaboration, and how the things are. I had bunch of MC transits last summer and I got one shaking out after another. Especially, that Mars Venus transiting. I just recall it now for myself.

Moon going from Pisces to Aries made me emotionally reminiscing about last Summer. I went from positive emotions in the beginning of the week to negative in the last day about what happened.

posted February 05, 2022 11:43 AM            

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I agree with all that, its a combo of quality time with common values/interests. I think he means 3 years of "being in love."

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